Abuja women have been olosho n prostitutes since 1800BC...
Deal with it...
U r married to an olosho...
Tell yourself this Every morning...: aiye mi temi ba mi, so I married an olosho..with ur hand on ur head

hurthubby:


I don't have any disability. Am just down financially, which i know will be sorted out very soon

Your financial situation will never change until your wife does and if she doesn’t, your financial situation will get worse and I hope you don’t end up having to be begging her for food.


I’m not an advocate of breaking marriages but this is just too much and cheating(either from man or the woman) has a spiritual way of affecting a man financially.

At 45 forget she’s ever going to change. Never. Not in a million years. Maybe when she’s old and can’t move any longer just maybe but as long has she’s still have that mobility. Forget the change part. She’s a lost cause.

pocohantas:
Forgive her.

Women are polygamous in nature.

Don't allow those men win, she is your wife...they are the intruders.

Just focus on your children, she'll definitely get tired and come back to you. They always do...

Always remember, God hates divorce.
I wish you strength.

I like this. hahaha. Typical advice from men to women. How witty!
But women give one another this sort of advice too.

Na u go use Ur hand kill yourself Mr...


Let me reiterate it here once more, women cheat out of loss of love and interest in a relationship and you would be doing urself more harm if u fall for their plea when ever caught.


It is obvious Ur said wife is taking u for granted and she has seen u as a walk over!


Mr... Better save Ur life now when u still have one.

Best advice so far

Kingosytex:


If after all these things happened you still can't take a tangible decision, it means that you are even more gullible than Timi Dakolo and your wife will always capitalise on that fact to manipulate you till thy kingdom come, can't you see she is using your brain to play bet9ja? ...Sorry for the harsh words but i just had to pour out my mind.


In your wife is the deadly combo of cheating, lying, deceit, nudist and promiscuity. Oga, you have a very big problem. Your wife has cheated and lied to you on many occasions yet you forgave her, i must commend you for that because it is only few men that can tolerate such excesses to the level you tolerated. I dislike liars with passion and i absolutely have no second chance to offer them.


Your wife is a perfect example that Okafor's law works. I will suggest you meet your in laws and table the matter before them though i don't believe anything positive will come out of such meeting, but you have to do that for the sake of formality. I advice you to break free from her bondage, send her away, divorce her. She is a cheat and she can't change. A leopard can't change its spots, Buhari is a perfect example about that. Your wife is prepared to ruin your life, she is willing to steal your joy and happiness and she might send you to your early grave.


Remember she has nothing to lose. If you die, she will move on with her lovers. Lastly, make sure you run a DNA test on those children to determine their paternity. Don't even think of selling your house, i advise you sell the undeveloped plots instead and grow your business. I believe you will overcome, i wish you good luck!

hurthubby:


I am 48 while she is 45

So what do you want?

Stupidity personified.....

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MachadoPreto:
Run Run run

Divorce divorce divorce

That's all I have to say.


You won't have a long life if you continue with in that marriage. Can gamble it with you yourself. Max! 10 years from now

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You don't have a wife.. Drop her like a bad habit and move on for your own good and that of your kids.

If you can take all these shame, what about your kids? Think about the Impact it'll have on them when they get to realise who their mother is.

Let her go and hoe around if she wants, don't let her make a fool of you and your kids.

Just gather all the envidences, document them and u can send her away.

M so damn sure one of yr kids ain't urs

After 20 years ??

Just relocate to another state and leave her behind permanently.

That's if you're not too young to die.

hurthubby:


Thanks. Her parents are dead, and capitalises on it all the time, telling me to remember that she's an orphan.

You're weak just like me bro. iam in thesame shoes, I know the best option is parting our ways but I just can't

Na OKAFOR LAW catch your wife so, those guys will always have her anytime anyday, there is nothing u can do about it.

hurthubby:


I am 48 while she is 45

Leave this place you this old man. You're suppose to be advising we the young men not the other way round. At 40 you can't take decision on your own?

Please note..a woman that keeps cumcubines if shendint kill herself ,she will kill u. Run for yourndear life or lace her with Magun. Kongi na Bastard

I dont believe this story, may God never tempt me with this kind of experience, I wud shoot the woman and walk to the electric chair beaming with smiles

cococandy:
Compare the comments here and the comments here

https://www.nairaland.com/5360979/husband-boldly-cheating-me

I don’t feel sorry for any man who gets cheated on. Most of you are hypocrites and deserve cheating wives.
In fact not just that. A lot of you deserve to raise kids that are not yours.

Lol well it's a free world, do whatever you desire as long as you are smart enough and strong enough to get away with it,
there is nothing like you deserve to be treated these way or that way cause you did that or these,
I don't believe in karma, I believe you can get away with anything as long as you plan it well

Please guy...leave her immediately she is a bad luck to you and your business. If u didn't leave her u will suffer die...forget about luv and forgiveness. She doesn't luv u Anymore that's while she is fornication. The best is to leave her and marry another woman. Act fast my guy.

Born2Breed:
She is planning your death...

If I were op's pastor,I would break the marriage right in the pulpit in the full view of everybody and gibe the lady open shame.She cannot change.Send her parking.That's too much except if you're living the same lifestyle. She will corrupt your children and infest you

Kingosytex:


If after all these things happened you still can't take a tangible decision, it means that you are even more gullible than Timi Dakolo and your wife will always capitalise on that fact to manipulate you till thy kingdom come, can't you see she is using your brain to play bet9ja? ...Sorry for the harsh words but i just had to pour out my mind.


In your wife is the deadly combo of cheating, lying, deceit, nudist and promiscuity. Oga, you have a very big problem. Your wife has cheated and lied to you on many occasions yet you forgave her, i must commend you for that because it is only few men that can tolerate such excesses to the level you tolerated. I dislike liars with passion and i absolutely have no second chance to offer them.


Your wife is a perfect example that Okafor's law works. I will suggest you meet your in laws and table the matter before them though i don't believe anything positive will come out of such meeting, but you have to do that for the sake of formality. I advice you to break free from her bondage, send her away, divorce her. She is a cheat and she can't change. A leopard can't change its spots, Buhari is a perfect example about that. Your wife is prepared to ruin your life, she is willing to steal your joy and happiness and she might send you to your early grave.


Remember she has nothing to lose. If you die, she will move on with her lovers. Lastly, make sure you run a DNA test on those children to determine their paternity. Don't even think of selling your house, i advise you sell the undeveloped plots instead and grow your business. I believe you will overcome, i wish you good luck!

Gbam

JudgeOGBUNABALI:
Errrm ... Who ever wrote this is under a spell. Can we meet? I mean, I need to have like five able bodied men descend on you for no reason till you pass out.
You are not human pls. Just go mark your grave site with your relatives cause you are a living dead.
What a shame to men!!

I volunteer to be one of the beaters, this elder bro hurthubby
needs some pounding to regain his thinking facilities before his wife shoots him with AIDs or outright kaput d nigga

Mr man the main problem is that u love this woman so much that u see a wife and not a serial cheat killer..... Please, if you are going tru all these pain then you are time bomb waiting to blow up....... One, are you a Christian? If you are then hope you know ADULTERY is not acceptable by GOD. Two, u are endangered by ur wife wit
1.CHARMS(she might hav charmed u not to see
anything wrong with her cheating on u)
2.HEART ATTACK(medically ur heart is at risk u may
collapse any moment )
3.S.T.D(ur wife dey sleep wit series of guys in
abundance & com home to sleep with you &
infect you wit disease of all kinds)
4.POVERTY(she is d reason u r poor becos her bad
ways, cause u too much thinking that do not
help ur business grow up becos u think less
of ur business and more of her evil ways)
5.MAY HAVE WASTED YOUR YEARS (don't be surprised
dat u don't hav a child of ur own cos she is
sleeping around. So go do a real test on
those kids so u be safe)
6.PHYSICAL DEATH (she might be planning ur death
physical cos you mean nothing to her more
than a barrier now becos it's like u are
stalking her not enjoy life. She feels she
may be better without you now cos u don't
have money)
So, go down on ur knees call on GOD, pray for GOD reveal alot to u tru dreams.If u have good family members or pastor speak with them & let them know that you are hurting ,they will also advice u but finally the decision is yours to make so THINK HARD cos without prayers no Man can live a peaceful life...... May Heaven save u from ur wife

Bro. Oyo is your case . keep forgiving her as usual. If my wife cheater on me. Thats the end of the marriage .

Watch out for those bleeping ladies who cannot do without drilling

Smiles
U dey use death play

obekediamondfuto:


I totally concur, but it was not like this before....

where did we go wrong?

Oga, it has always been like this. There have always been virtuous women and cheap woman. Those men of old just kept quiet about their suffering. It is one of the reasons many of them married several wives. Just pray and open your eyes if you are yet to marry. I laugh at people who forgive cheating boyfriends and girlfriends.

My brother you are a real man not boys. Please stay away from advises of your children here on nairaland they have no view of life. They are still babies.

It is difficult to cut of a stinging bee you have managed for 20years which you have know her problem. You have carried your cross till this point you can't say it's over at this junction though it is very painful. To the bane of the issues, there a a massive problem with your sex life. She is sex addict married to a humble man. From what I can deduce she's more than 40 which baffles me on her libido and this show of immaturity despite her age. You don't have to bother yourself about her I felt she's sending nude pictures to the ex boyfriend because she see herself not wanted again and she's ready to do anything to get her Grove on. Keep talking to he and plead with her for your daughter which is 17 so she will not join this band wagon.

You are the answer to many women prayers but God have the way he does this which is different from a man. Focus on you business because she may injure herself and home issues may become difficult. Keep trying till you breakthrough. No need of monitoring or quarrelling with a pro that it past retiring age. I have seen many of them they always turn out bad at the end.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

mixta140:
Smiles U dey use death play

The way you talk am dey funny.

Kingosytex:




Your wife is a perfect example that Okafor's law works.

Please educate those of us that didn´t finish school.... what does this law state?

She is the bread winner so he has to endure