How can you plan on settling with someone with a low sex drive? You cannot manage to hold yourself now.... how will you manage if the relationship is reignited?.... and when you settle down?... would she develop a sex drive to your liking?...or will you cope with her low sex drive and not cheat? Does she really have a low sex drive? FYI... women avoid being raped. Reread your write up.... aren't you saying that to have sex with her you have to rape her? ... it has to be by force? In her mind... you are a rapist... thanks to your approach.... she will continue to resist you.... but should a ehmmm.... smooth guy like me approach her.... I would soon be here on NL asking advice on how to deignite a relationship with a over high sex drive gf.

Try to placate her the more.

If she still won't be pacified, the best bet is to bounce.

Reasons is, unless she let go completely,she will someday in the future hinge on this flaw to straf a guy just to get even.cuz as it stands you owe her one.

Las last na you dey at fault.

ericsmith:



lol !! you are talkin from women point of view, that you av dated lots of guys doesnt mean you'll understand men.
Most times we men seek r/ship just to av sex buh when it comes to marriage we men consider a whole lot of things ahead of sex ... that why OP said she has everything forgettin she has low sex drive imagine!
These era of scarcity its fvckin so easy to find a porn star buh a gurl that as every other thing is so rare ... OP needs to study & understand her body,understandin a woman's body is d perfect way to unleash her, women are naturally whores. do it right n you must certainly get a reponse

That's all good & dandy, but actions have repercussions. That's all.

ornicus:


Yes na.
Give us just the tip and we go balls deep.

Lol, you know yourselves na

ornicus:


You have been busted. It was not a random chick, but her best friend. U sef think am. Who wants a bf who will potentially be sticking it to everyone in her circle?

As per the low libido, either she has a low libido or you have poor dick game. A lifetime of unsatisfactory sex no dey there ooo. If you are doing this in a small boyfriend girlfriend relationship, what will you do in a marriage proper?

Take your L and move on.

I think it was his own "bestie". Whichever one it is, he has always had the option of leaving.

XhosaNostra:


That's all good & dandy, but actions have repercussions. That's all.

You shall want OP to leave his finance...coincidentally you're single ..mmm!

XhosaNostra:


Some guys can be surprising with their fish brains sometimes Always giving more thinking power to the little head between their legs & then act dumbfounded when their stupid actions come back to bite them in the ass.

There are guys on this thread be guided abegi.

What's fish brain thingy about.

Se Ori re pe sa!

What do you wanna ignite? From what you wrote, you both aren't compatible sexually. She would be dumb in my opinion to settle down with you. You'll clearly look for it outside when you both are married under the excuse of "she doesn't match my sexual appetite". Let her go, find someone who has "everything" including a ravenous sexual appetite and you go dey alright.

ericsmith:




You shall want OP to leave his finance...coincidentally you're single ..mmm!

I'm not single & OP is not my type. Men like him make me feel this urge to be...what's the word I'm looking for...erm...
HOMICIDAL.

Useku:


There are guys on this thread be guided abegi.

What's fish brain thingy about.

Se Ori re pe sa!

Tsek!

XhosaNostra:


Tsek!

Hmm that sa word for second checking right?

Well , just don't want you to derail from your path of being objective to becoming a feminist.

Have always followed your submissions in passing.

Please don't make such derogative comments in da Future

XhosaNostra:


I'm not single & OP is not my type. Men like him make me feel this urge to be...what's the word I'm looking for...erm...
HOMICIDAL.

Is it also a coincident that both homicidal & Hot starts with letters "HO" ... women &scarsm.
sallah is ova n sum1 is still holdin an axe

edu442:
Hi Everyone,

I had to create another account for this,

I'll be as brief as possible.

Sometime this year, I cheated on my girlfriend with a former "bestie" and somehow she found out sometime this month.


I apologized and was remorseful (I still am) she said she has forgiven me but somehow I still see that vengeful look in her eyes and the relationship has grown pretty cold, she talks to me with so much spite in her voice.

The truth is, I don't want to lose her; I still love her very much and if all goes well, I plan on settling down with her;

We've been together for almost 2 years now and this is the only time I've ever cheated on her despite the fact that she has a very very low sexual drive, before we have s*x, I'll have to talk as if I'm trying to compel a virgin to lose her virginity and we'll still drag her undies like it's world war 3.

I don't know how to revamp this relationship, I direly want to; she's got everything I need in a woman

cc lalasticlala
myndd44

First of all we are not there when you are cheating, and besides you are man enough to cheat, so the same sense you used to cheat, use it to think your way out

cooooooks:
You should never BEG your partner for sex. You guys are clearly sexually incompatible and should break up.

My thoughts though