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Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by devbojj: 6:29am On Aug 20, 2019
Friends with benefits (FWB) sound like a simple “no strings attached” agreement. You can talk openly, laugh, hang out and have sex without the drama that comes with being in a relationship. It is never as easy as it sounds because things often lead towards complications. In this situation, feelings are likely to erupt and, when these feelings come from only one person, it becomes much more complicated than you ever signed for.

You both know what you got yourselves into, knowing that it may not last forever. So how do you a friends with benefits situation on good and still keep your friend when things go south? Why is it ending? Did they catch feelings and is it mutual? How do you open the conversation without hurting their feelings?

Hopefully, these tips will help you know how to end a friends with benefits situation and remain friends. It may not be easy, but it doesn’t have to be as hard as you think.

1. Appreciate them

Make sure they know you appreciate them as a friend and care about your friendship, but you think the benefits have run their course. It was fun while it lasted, but it is time to move on.

2. Ask if they are upset

After all, they are your friend. Talk to them and ask if they saw it coming. Try to communicate as effectively as you can. Let them know why you want to end things and make sure they know you are still there for them as a friend.

3. Prepare them

They are a friend of yours and may be following you on social media and seeing you around. If you are entering into a relationship or the dating scene, let them know ahead about it. Let them not be taken off guard when they see you making out with someone, even if they didn’t develop feelings for you.

4. Take a break

If they did develop feelings, or you did and want to get out before the feelings get more intense, take a break and get some space before going back to being just friends. Let them know that you think things are getting more complicated than you planned. Just make sure you are on the same page about maintaining your friendship.

5. Don’t avoid them

Developing a friends with benefits situation with someone meant that you both agreed to be honest. If you plan on being friends after ending the benefits, ghosting is not an option. Refusing to answer them afterwards and leaving them high and dry is both rude, disrespectful and cowardly. No good friend should act like that. Just let them know how you’re feeling. They will understand if they are a good friend.

6. Let them grieve

Since this is sort of a breakup, give them time to be upset. As I said, it is a sort of break up. This news might be shocking and upsetting to them, so give them a chance to come to terms. You can reach out to hang out but give them the space they need. Eventually, they will understand and your friendship should survive.

7. Stick to your decision

If you are ending your friends with benefits situation to start dating again, but then have a bad date, don’t expect them to wait around with open arms. Picking up a friends with benefits relationship after ending it is confusing and will make your friendship even more complicated.

8. Talk to someone

If a trusted mutual friend knows about your friends with benefits situation, talk to them. Ask for suggestions or if your friend is also thinking about ending things. It’s good to prepare yourself with information but do it respectfully. Also be careful not to share anything too private.

9. Do normal things

Ending your friends with benefits relationship doesn’t have to feel like a break-up. Keep hanging out with your friend and doing things you did together and things can drift back to normal. If you have a strong foundation, with truth and routine, you can swing back really quickly.

10. Don’t push it

As much as you may want to stay friends, not all FWBs can survive as friends without the added benefits, whether it was due to feelings, betrayal or lies. If this is the case, let it be. It will be if you are meant to stay friends. But do not drag their name in the mud because they couldn’t get past it or vent to people. Entering into an FWB situation is a risk you took.


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Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by davidcurtis(m): 6:57am On Aug 20, 2019
You don't really have to go that far, so far to end such a relationship. There are special places where you can enjoy just this. Last time I and my friend with benefits went to Blue Paradise website together for a vacation. Experience heights of freedom, fun, and sensual fulfilment in the intimate company of the world’s most beautiful women there. We stayed for a week and it was like a dream.
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by cutierashy(f): 7:41am On Aug 20, 2019
I don't like getting involved in one cos of the emotional part of me...
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by Nobody: 7:57am On Aug 20, 2019
What does friends with benefit in relationship mean
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by SirMichael1: 8:43am On Aug 20, 2019
I'll forever keep on saying this...

Friends with benefits, A.K.A, Fuçk buddies aren't as devoid of dramas as one would think. There's bound to be emotions that will emanate from having sex with each other.

Call it a No string relationship if you want. The truth remains though that friends with benefit causes pain after benefit.

Wow!! Did you feel my punch line?? cheesy

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Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by SirMichael1: 8:45am On Aug 20, 2019
Blackivy27:
What does friends with benefit in relationship mean


Just fuçk buddies. Either party calls the other just for sex and they'll have to oblige.
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by Nobody: 8:47am On Aug 20, 2019
SirMichael1:



Just fuçk buddies. Either party calls the other just for sex and they'll have to oblige.
okay. Thanks. The concepts quack though.
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by cooooooks(m): 8:48am On Aug 20, 2019
Freinds that have sex.

Blackivy27:
What does friends with benefit in relationship mean
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by anthonyuncle(m): 8:48am On Aug 20, 2019
u don't need to go dz far, friends with benefits ain't da same with a real (dating) relationship,
so ending it ain't as difficult as u make it look.
da people involved in it are adults and know what they're into,
so when one feels that they've had enough,
da other party is informed of da decision to terminate da parol
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by Nobody: 8:48am On Aug 20, 2019
SirMichael1:
I'll forever keep on saying this...

Friends with benefits, A.K.A, Fuçk buddies aren't as devoid of dramas as one would think. There's bound to be emotions that will emanate from having sex with each other.

Call it a No string relationship if you want. The truth remains though that friends with benefit causes pain after benefit.

Wow!! Did you feel my punch line?? cheesy
grin I felt it.

as if you know. Feeling get involved.
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by Nobody: 8:50am On Aug 20, 2019
cooooooks:
Freinds that have sex.

Thanks alos. I thought it had to do with financial gratifications. Not sexual.
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by IamPlato(m): 8:50am On Aug 20, 2019
Whats The Need Of This Rubbish Long Story?

Just Tell Her Your Prick Is Paining you...
Re: Ending A Friends With Benefit Relationship by AstroG: 8:54am On Aug 20, 2019
Friends with benefits is the best thing to have happened to me since ah became a man,
Just Bleep buddies,
No strings attached
No unnecessary billing from the opposite sex
No disturbance from the opposite sex
No worries

FWB IS HAKUNA MATATA IN A RELATIONSHIP

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