I think you can still be friends with him if you really want to.

Z4M4eva:

I think you can still be friends with him if you really want to.

i wish its dat easy, i hate his guts

Well I wish you goodluck

If you hate his guts, then why be friends with him? Just because he wants it? What about what you want? Do you know why he walked out on the relationship? If it's because he's a dog, he's probably trying to find some way back into your life. If you want to get over it, confront him and find out why he did it. When you've found your peace of mind, move on and forget him. I don't think you should be friendly with him only because in most situations like that, people end up messing around again and they're probably not even in a relationship this time. Feelings get involved and someone ends up getting hurt.

naijadiva WORD!

Truthhurts... just like ur name said.. the truth hurts.

Normally, i think it's cool when you are still friends with your ex's... that's a good thing to do. No strings attached.. just be friends. But then again, you have to think about the cause of the break-up. If your dude broke up with you for no reason at all.. and you actually hate his guts like you said. It wouldn't be a good reason to do what your mind tells you not to do.

On the other side, you can be nice to him.. but being nice does not mean being TOO nice. Just talk to him, pick up the phone when he calls.. don't give too much attention. Just let him know.. "i ain't mad at you, but that don't mean im gon be your dog". that kinda thing.

If U hate hsi guts that much......walk away or get ready to be sucked back in....and of course.....left again!

Dark_Night:

If U hate hsi guts that much.walk away or get ready to be sucked back in.and of course.left again!

atta boy!!!

I think he has a hidden agenda......since u hate his guts, i think you should walk it girl! of course you are allowed to b civil...erm only when it suits you.

and errm truthhurts, remember hate is the cousin of love, be sure which youre feeling

@TRUTHHURTS,

Why would u want to be friends with the guy who jilted you?

beats me!!!

@truthhurts you can be nice. we have all done one bad thing or the other before. imagine u were the one who jilted someone, would u like the person to be nasty to u later when u r kind of sorry for what u did?

Well they say "a vacation is what u take when u can no longer take when u've been takin"....Well he took the vacation and maybe now he's tired of it...But i'll adviceyou to be matured about this whole thing but then dont go too close for a whyle...

u guys can be friends trust me its cool.never be in enemity with one u sometime love.try and be good to him,it will hurt him for a long time and he will end up being a good guy someday if he gets into a relationship. he will realised wot he has missed in the long run.i am good at this so if u need an expertise advise,consult me and i will be willing to render at FOC!!!!

u guys can be friends trust me its cool.never be in enemity with one u sometime love.try and be good to him,it will hurt him for a long time and he will end up being a good guy someday if he gets into a relationship. he will realised wot he has missed in the long run.i am good at this so if u need an expertise advise,consult me and i will be willing to render at FOC!!!!

...man scratch all of that you should be as mean as possible!!!

It depends. Have you gotten over the bad feelings yet?

I would rather take it from this perspective. If you become friends with this guy, be ready to be won back to him. This is someone whom you once shared something with and for you to have shared something with him and feel the pain this much, then being his friend means you could be vulnerable to his talks.
Ask yourself if you really want to be his friend now.
Secondly, define the level of the friendship.

Whether you believe it or not, if you hate someone so much and think about him often, he rules a great portion of your life.

Think!!!

DE-KING:

Whether you believe it or not, if you hate someone so much and think about him often, he rules a great portion of your life.

True...

Your heart is saying something to you now, may be you want to listen to your heart but if it is being nice to someone who dumped you, it all depends on what you mean by being nice... Just keep your eyes Open . if the person have true repentance, yeah u can give him one last chance. Always be ready to move on if he wants to make it a habit. You deserve a better life... abi?

NICEto someone who jilted you...DAMN...if i had my way..i would hang the muthaf&*^%r upside down by his balls and tweeze his pubes off one by one.....u know no torture is too mild for that kind of person...
NOBODY walking the surface of the earth has any right to jilt another....infact I WILL shepe for the guy till his last generation on this earth.....kai kai kai....JILT....has anyone been to yaba psychiatric hospital?when i was living in naija..i had to go there to see someone very close...and guess what?majority of the chicks there(and im talking correct babes)are there over MAN PALAVER.....and it wasnt my assumption...the doctor told me....once he did...i just said to myself..on top wetin?man?quick quick i broke up with the oloriburuku i was with then.who wanted me to have psycho because of him..and moved on...BELEIVE me..reading about jilting etc is easy..but experiencing it is a nightmare...and for the records I WASNT THE ONE WHO WAS IN YABA O...I SWEAR I JUST GO FISIT ONE DISTANT RELATION LIKE THAT....and why was she there?HER HUSBAND to be ran away just ONE day to the wedding.he told her he was going to pick his suit up from america...and till today we are still looking for him...he is about 6 feet 3 inches...skin colour like coffee beans..(shio..like cocoa beans)...yoruba..has a thick british accent..with a tattoo of a dagger on his left arm..so LADIES when you come across this SPUNKBAG......RUN RUN RUN..he is a jilter....(erm...jilter..is there a word like that)AND jilter if you are reading this...kai.....i suggest you go and wash your head in RIVER oshun...because the type of curses on your head.......pastor adeboye himsefl will think twice before agreeing to deliver your weak ass.....

Lol...thats what i'm talking about.

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Ohhh my goooodnesss! thatz what i mean!! Papermoon i luvv u gurl! whoa! i just can't stop laughing!! 4real tho! thatz "fact" right there! hahahahahaahh lol lol lol lol u go gurl. damn! u good!....Papermoon we need to talk.... see that guy u looking 4! when hez found, hez gon get hung just like you said!

Old friend is like yam's head(isi ji) which can easily bounce back when planted in the farm. But this is not ment for a cheater when he comes back,may be you are now richer or he sees a promising future in you,he is coming back for something.
Don't listen to his sweet words.That his bad character will still be there unless by the Grace of God.

thanks guys for your response been indisposed thats why i havent been able to reply and answer your questions but i try as much as possible to do just that since i'll be online all day today

CHOCHORI:

u guys can be friends trust me its cool.never be in enemity with one u sometime love.try and be good to him,it will hurt him for a long time and he will end up being a good guy someday if he gets into a relationship. he will realised wot he has missed in the long run.i am good at this so if u need an expertise advise,consult me and i will be willing to render at FOC!!!!

@ CHOCHORI wow i wud like to know wat exactly you mean when u said yu are good @ it cos am seriously considering your offer of consultation thanks though for the post

MatureMe:

Hello truthhurts, since he is being so friendly, now would be a good time to ask him why he did what he did to you that's if you can hold off long enough from hating him so much, you might be able to get that settled and eventually stop hating him so much and move on or be his friend, you control all of that not him no matter what he has done to you in the past. Don't give him that much power over you, it isn't worth it.

thanks mature me truthfully i have been trying to delay confronting him reasons unknown to me cos i really want to be sure i have gotten over him before i see him yeah i know my case is pathetic but this is where i can sincerely rant and say all dats on my mind

DE-KING:

I would rather take it from this perspective. If you become friends with this guy, be ready to be won back to him. This is someone whom you once shared something with and for you to have shared something with him and feel the pain this much, then being his friend means you could be vulnerable to his talks.
Ask yourself if you really want to be his friend now.
Secondly, define the level of the friendship.

Whether you believe it or not, if you hate someone so much and think about him often, he rules a great portion of your life.

Think!!!

i wont be so daft to be won back to him cos now i know better, but you do have a point i think about him so often but its really not wat you think all i think about is revenge i need to get back @ him somehow

@ shock reaction i try to act like i have gotten over it but sincerely i doubt it

papermoon:

NICEto someone who jilted you...DAMN...if i had my way..i would hang the muthaf&*^%r upside down by his balls and tweeze his pubes off one by one.u know no torture is too mild for that kind of person...
NOBODY walking the surface of the earth has any right to jilt another.infact I WILL shepe for the guy till his last generation on this earth.kai kai kai.JILT.has anyone been to yaba psychiatric hospital?when i was living in naija..i had to go there to see someone very close...and guess what?majority of the chicks there(and im talking correct babes)are there over MAN PALAVER.and it wasnt my assumption...the doctor told me.once he did...i just said to myself..on top wetin?man?quick quick i broke up with the oloriburuku i was with then.who wanted me to have psycho because of him..and moved on...BELEIVE me..reading about jilting etc is easy..but experiencing it is a nightmare...and for the records I WASNT THE ONE WHO WAS IN YABA O...I SWEAR I JUST GO FISIT ONE DISTANT RELATION LIKE THAT.and why was she there?HER HUSBAND to be ran away just ONE day to the wedding.he told her he was going to pick his suit up from america...and till today we are still looking for him...he is about 6 feet 3 inches...skin colour like coffee beans..(shio..like cocoa beans)...yoruba..has a thick british accent..with a tattoo of a dagger on his left arm..so LADIES when you come across this SPUNKBAG.RUN RUN RUN..he is a jilter....(erm...jilter..is there a word like that)AND jilter if you are reading this...kai.i suggest you go and wash your head in RIVER oshun...because the type of curses on your head.pastor adeboye himsefl will think twice before agreeing to deliver your weak ass.....

wow! been trying to stop laughing sice i read this post this morning believe me papermoon i wish i am as storn as u are i wish it is actually this simple and i wish i could make him feel my rage!