I got the shock of my life today when I found out that my wife thinks I am having an affair with her 20yrs old cozn that has been staying with us for 3yrs now! We have been married for 8yrs and we have never had any issue of mistrust from both sides(sincerely, none!)! I just noticed my wife's sudden aggression towards her cozn and I decided to find out what was happening! I was surprised at what I found out! For some times now, my wife has been nursing a parochial feeling that I am having an affair with her cozn! Ryt now I am very angry, disappointed, untrusted, , ! Angry becos they both know dis btw them without my knowledge, I just had d feeling things were alrite at home, not know that the worse is the case!!! Pls what shld I do now!

Thanks ma'am! I'll do just dat! cos I love her so much! We have three lovely kids! I was just wondering for how long this has been going on!

omg i feel pain. anyway inked nerd is very correct

Speak to your wife directly and tell her [your wife] what you just told us. Be very direct and honest with her.[/font][/size]
[quote][/quote]yes i go with this

@wealt and pete: Thanks!! That pain is what I feel so much ryt now! I was just reminiscencing on some past events that I did not pay attention to! I think this has been going on for some time now!! But y are 'some women' like this

such is life

Could be insecurity. Ask her when you discuss it with her.[/font][/size]
But why? How? I dint do anyfin!! We talk all the time, I have time for her and the kids! I take all of them out! We even play monopoly and scrabble together as a family!!! So what's the insecurity about? Honestly Ink-Nerd, I feel so bitter!!!!

rosamosqy:

Could be insecurity. Ask her when you discuss it with her.[/font][/size]
But why? How? I dint do anyfin!! We talk all the time, I have time for her and the kids! I take all of them out! We even play monopoly and scrabble together as a family!!! So what's the insecurity about? Honestly Ink-Nerd, I feel so bitter!!!!

Since this is mere allegation please be careful how u handle it, don't break ur marriage cos of it, your wife maybe insecured as somebody pointed out.

This is ur opportunity to re-assure her again how much u love her. Keep ur cool and don't do anything silly.

@Just wise: thanks bro, I wont do dat! But this is the second time she is slapping this cozn of hers in 2 months! My fear now is this: this lady feels bitter about it! In a bid to find out what was happening btw them, I called her to speak wit her and told her how sorry I am, she started crying saying: '' my cozn has always have the feeling that there is something btw us that's y she's doing this!'' Can u beat that?? But this gurl has been so sweet wit my kids, she is virtually their nurse!! I am thinking she has to leave!! cos I fink she's lost d respect she has for my wife, and this saddens me so very much!! I still love my wife, and I am not planning to do anyfin silly in light years, but this lady has been violated! What if one day, somefin happens btw them, and my wife repeats such an act and she decide to respond with such an act too!!! I'll speak wit my wife wen we both get back home from work today!

rosamosqy:

@Just wise: thanks bro, I wont do dat! But this is the second time she is slapping this cozn of hers in 2 months! My fear now is this: this lady feels bitter about it! In a bid to find out what was happening btw them, I called her to speak wit her and told her how sorry I am, she started crying saying: '' my cozn has always have the feeling that there is something btw us that's y she's doing this!'' Can u beat that?? But this gurl has been so sweet wit my kids, she is virtually their nurse!! I am thinking she has to leave!! cos I fink she's lost d respect she has for my wife, and this saddens me so very much!! I still love my wife, and I am not planning to do anyfin silly in light years, but this lady has been violated! What if one day, somefin happens btw them, and my wife repeats such an act and she decide to respond with such an act too!!! I'll speak wit my wife wen we both get back home from work today!

You need to do that, try to find out where the rumour come from, could it be that a close family member told her something which she wrongly acted upon? She can't suddenly start acting irrationaly, something triggered it and you need to find out.

@Justwise: Thanks a zillion bro! @Inked-Nerd: Respect and thanks ma'am! @ wealth & pete: God bless u!! I'll feed u'all back!

Go with all what have been said on the thread, God remains your guide.

@Honeric: thanks!

Please do not confused us. The girl said what she is thinking, your wife is not afraid of you to the extent of keeping such from you. So, what the girl told you is what she thinks. Ask your wife why she is angry with the girl.
That girl only wants you to be angry with your wife. be very, very careful

Just do a party

really bros do not feel bad about this she is human. try to let her know that such a tin a not happening and can't happen

There must have been a communication breakdown somewhere which is a common cause of insecurity in marriage. Try and reestablish that link especially when you come back from work

yap

Kemi Adeyeye:

Please do not confused us. The girl said what she is thinking(not true, she z my wife thinks we are, ), your wife is not afraid of you(no she is not afraid) to the extent of keeping such from you. So, what the girl told you is what she thinks. Ask your wife why she is angry with the girl.
That girl only wants you to be angry with your wife. be very, very careful

@Kemi: Thanks sis! I dont think I have z anyfin confusing here!It's not what she thinks, it was what my wife z to her! And no she does not want me to be angry with my wife as u think!

My Guy,

I can understand how you feel. It is quite disheartening when you are faithful to someone only to be seen as be unfaithful. But then, I guess there was some kind of communication breakdown some where for this to have accumulated to this height.

My advice is that you talk more with her and give her more reasons not to think you are seeing the 20 year. If you used to be more at leisure with the Cozn then reduce it for now.

I wish you the best Bros

Inked_Nerd:


Eh ya, its understandable. Just try and work things out.

baby, where have u been, i am "hotting" oo

Inked_Nerd:

Eh ya, ndo .

So your here kissing some,

Op are you sure you didn't tap current maybe just once? Kidding. Talk to your wife tell her how disappointed you are @ her if possible talk to her together with her cozn.

Inked_Nerd:

Eh ya, ndo .

ndo wetin?

hehehehe, hotting, you know the hotting i am talking bout right?