This thread is dedicated to fighting sexual in an ever increasing sex-craze perverted generation.


Flee sexual immorality now!


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Sex is more than just a physical act. There is also a deep spiritual aspect to sex. But you probably knew that already, didn't you? Or at least you may have had an inkling of it in your soul.
Whenever two bodies engage in sex, their souls are also united. Why would that be? Well....simply put, God made sex. You and I didn't create it. If you were only a body and not also a soul, then sex would only be physical. Memo to you: "Your soul is immortal and will never cease to exist, no matter what you do with your body." So....we don't get to dictate to God where the boundaries for sex are to be set. That's His call, and His alone.


You have probably heard the saying, "He who has the gold makes the rules." That may often be the way it plays out on earth, but I have another one for you. "He who created man's body and soul gets to establish the sexual boundaries of right and wrong." I am talking about a universal code of conduct that is not based on your strongest sexual desires, but rather, upon God's authoritative Word.


What makes one sexual relationship right and the other wrong has nothing to do with personal preferences. It has everything to do with how the Creator defines it and where He set the bar when He made sex. When man in essence attempts to lower God's bar and ignore God's commands, his soul suffers even more than his body. That is a fact, not because I say it or you say it....but because God has clearly addressed the issue of sexual conduct in the Scriptures.


Sex is occurring right now among many people all over the world. When two people engage in sex, their physical bodies are obviously in one specific geographic location. It is a location which is visible to the human eye. On the other hand, their two souls are in a "place" that is invisible to the human eye.

So where is that place that souls go during sex? Actually, there are three places souls can go....and only three. While their bodies are united in a visible geographic location, their souls are united in an invisible place....but a place that is, nevertheless, just as real.

The first place two souls can go also happens to be the one place God designed for souls to go during sex. The Bible calls this place "the marriage bed." This is the place where a man and woman who are married go when they have sex. Whether they are in their actual bedroom or not....or perhaps even away on a trip...."the marriage bed" is the place where their souls connect with one another during sex. It is a spiritual union and it is one of the many blessings of marriage.
God's Word says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." (Hebrews 13:4) This is the only way your soul can enjoy "safe sex." It is the only place God has sanctioned and chosen to bless. The other two places where many souls connect during sex will bring a curse and not a blessing.
The second place, or spiritual location, where many souls engage in sex is in "church." That's right....the temple of the Lord. I am not talking about a church building. The New Testament never uses the word "church" to describe a building. For the past 2000 years, the "church" has been the physical bodies and souls of Christians. "Don't you know that you yourselves are God's temple and that God's Spirit lives in you?" (1 Cor. 3:16)


Here is the image I encourage you to lock into your mind. Picture yourself having sex right up in the front of your church sanctuary....right where the pastor delivers God's Word to the people. Hold that image in your mind....because in God's eyes, when a born again person has sex outside of marriage....the two souls are united in "church" right there in God's presence.
Every believer in Jesus Christ is "in church" 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You never leave church. Your body never stops being a temple of the Holy Spirit. Everything you do as a believer is being done "in church." Would you as a Christian ever engage in sexual immorality in your church building? I am guessing you would never be that brazen. Well....when a believer engages in this behavior anywhere, his body is in one location and his soul is "in church" right in front of God.
The Bible says, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." (1 Cor. 6:18-20) There is nothing honorable about committing sexual sin in church.
We've now seen two of the three spiritual places people can have sex....the marriage bed, and the church. It's time to consider the third and only other place where two souls can meet when engaging in sex.


Jesus made it clear that there are only two roads leading into eternity....a narrow road to heaven....and a wide road to hell. (see Matthew 7:13,14) Hell is described by our Lord as a place where "the fire never goes out." (Mark 9:48) Perhaps it is just like fire on earth....or perhaps it is far worse. Either way, imagine a person who does not know Jesus and is therefore on the road to hell. Picture that person living everyday on the rim of a volcano....walking around it....hanging out.....only a breath away from entering it forever.
Now imagine that unbeliever having a bed sitting right on the rim of the volcano. Whenever that unbeliever has sex, he or she is as close to falling into the volcano as you can get. This is the third place that two souls can meet to have sex. When two people who do not know Christ engage in sex, this is their "bed" and it is dangling on the rim of the volcano. If they only knew that their sexual act could be their final act before dying and entering hell for eternity.



"Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another man's wife; no one who touches her will go unpunished." (Proverbs 6:27-29)
By the way, even married couples who are unbelievers are on the rim of the volcano during sex. You may say, "But they are married. I thought that is what God wanted. They are not sinning by having sex in marriage, right?" Well....in their case, there is a bigger sin being committed. It trumps their sexual relationship in marriage. It is the sin of unbelief. It is the one sin that keeps a person's soul living on the rim of a volcano, so to speak. Without Christ in your life, even sex in marriage cannot save your soul or the soul of your spouse. Jesus is the only One who can rescue us from our sin and bring us to heaven.
So there are the three places that souls can have sex. The first one is good, holy, and God-pleasing....it is the marriage bed....and it is God's plan. The second one is scandalous....where a believer engages in sex outside of marriage, and therefore, is committing sexual sin in God's church. And thirdly, many souls engage in sex on the rim of a volcano due to their unbelief in Christ as their Savior.
There is no fourth option. Every human being has a soul, and everyone who has sex does so in one of these three places. When this life is over, sex may be over. There is nothing in the Bible that says we will have sex in heaven. Actually, our experiences in paradise will far exceed anything we have experienced on earth. Just because God made sex doesn't mean that He hasn't made something even better for His children to enjoy together.


The joy...the fellowship....the ecstasy....and the praise of heaven will far exceed any sexual experience on earth. I suggest that you choose to trust your Creator on this one....and on everything else He has said in His Word....unless of course you think that you are smarter than God on things like sex, marriage, and eternity.
If and when you have sex in the future, you would be wise to imagine where your soul will go during the sexual experience. Picture yourself in "the marriage bed" if you are a Christian couple; or in church, if you are a believer who is planning to sin sexually; or on the rim of a volcano, if you don't yet trust Christ as your Savior. People often spend much time planning the physical surroundings for their intimate interludes. But how many people are aware of their spiritual surroundings during sex? God provides "spiritual protection" for anyone who truly wants to engage in "safe sex."

In other words, don't just jump into bed with someone until you are aware of where your soul will be at during your sexual experience. You don't have to sacrifice your soul for eternity upon the altar of sexual satisfaction. Surrender your sexual desires to Christ....as well as your entire heart....and believe that He died for all of your sins on the cross....and you will escape the fire of hell and be saved to live in the paradise of heaven.


"Safe sex" in "the marriage bed" keeps you from swerving off the narrow road....and that is the only safe road into eternity. The Lord takes this sex stuff so seriously because He takes our bodies so seriously. That is why St. Paul urged believers "to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God - this is your spiritual act of worship." (Romans 12:1)


That brings everything full circle. Even many unbelievers, if they were honest, would admit that they are trying to find a spiritual high through sex and not only physical pleasure. Do you know why they feel that way? Because God designed our bodies to be used to His glory as a spiritual act of worship. The body and soul are not really two separate entities, but are intertwined with one another into this one person God calls "you."
Hey you....one final thought. You never again need to fall for the lie that sex is only physical. You may have always known in your heart that sex has a deep spiritual reality to it, but you might have been afraid to admit it. Hey....you're human....we are often afraid of things we don't understand.


It's easier to bury our head (and our soul) in the sand and just do what feels good. Unfortunately, plenty of things in life which feel good happen to have horrible consequences. At the end of the day, you can bow to your feelings, or you can make your feelings bow to the Lord. Either way, your soul hangs in the balance. I bet you would never sell your body for sex....but would you sell your soul for sex?

Flee sexual immorality!

The most powerful weapon against sexual impurity is humility. Patterns of sinful thought and behavior are fruits of a deeper root. If we want to stop bearing bad fruit, we must aim our primary attack against the root. And the root of sexual sin is not our sex drive; it’s pride.
We live in an age dominated by Darwinian explanations of biology and psychology. So we easily absorb certain naturalistic assumptions. One such assumption is that our sexual drives and impulses are remnants of our primordial, bestial ancestors, and therefore we deal with them with cages of external personal and social restraints.
This is a very conflicted perspective. It views us as both victims and monsters. On one hand, we’re victims of our ancient past, and on the other hand, we’re sexual monsters if we express our primal impulses in ways not sanctioned by the prevailing level of social tolerance.
It’s also a wholly inadequate explanation in view of our consuming sexual problem. The degrees of human sexual depravity, distortion, and destruction are of such a nature that nearly everyone thinks things and many do things that we have no other word for than evil.
Sex Is Not the Problem
It’s shocking how little our inner evil bestial impulses have to do with our primal genetic intent: procreation. No other human instinct has so many deviations in its expressions. Our culture can’t keep up with the expanding sexual definitions. LGBTQ is now just shorthand for LGBTTQQIAAPPK (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, ally, pansexual, polygamous, kinkiness). And this is likely obsolete already. It’s getting tragically ridiculous.
But since Darwinism denies any basis for assigning moral value to anything, we can’t term something a “perversion,” because this word has moral connotations. So we’re trying to solve the problem of human sexual perversion by eliminating the concept of sexual perversion. But this can’t scale to embrace all sexual expressions without destroying people and society.
And it won’t work, because the root problem isn’t actually a sexual one.
Root of All Sin
What does the Bible diagnose as the root of human sexual perversion — what we often and rightly call sexual brokenness? We can see it clearly in Romans 1:21–26,
For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions.
“Dishonorable passions,” which refers to sexual sin in all its deviant heterosexual, homosexual, and other expressions, is a manifestation of humanity unhinged from its Creator. The real root of perversion, of which the dishonorable passions of sexual perversions is just one fruit, is human pride.
Pride is a black hole of consuming selfishness at the core of fallen human nature. Pride’s nature is to consume, to bring into the self. It sees other people, all of creation, and God himself as things to use in service to the self’s desires.
We all know this by experience. We know the more we feed any expression of pride, whether through sex or anger or covetousness or whatever, pride’s appetite grows and urges us to consume more and more.
So just as gluttony or anorexia is pride infecting and manipulating the self’s orientation toward food, or greed is pride infecting and manipulating the self’s orientation toward money, sexual immorality and perversions are pride infecting and manipulating the self’s orientation toward sex. Sexual sin is unhinged human pride rejecting the Creator in order to sexually consume others for the benefit of the self.
Personal Pride, Corporate Judgment
This does not mean, however, that there’s an exact correlation between the nature of our particular sexual brokenness and our personal rebellion against God. We are all born with natures in rebellion against God. But our individual sexuality is shaped by a host of biological, personal, family, and social/cultural influences. Some factors we’re born with, some may have been abusively forced upon us, and some we sinfully embrace and nourish. The Bible acknowledges all these factors.
But when Paul says God gives up a people “in the lusts of their hearts to impurity,” he’s mainly (though not exclusively) referring to a corporate judgment. The more a people unhinge themselves from God’s ordained limits, the more God removes the restraints on the sexual expressions of pride, resulting in a societal slide into consuming sexual destruction.
So we must keep in mind that, no matter what sexual orientation or dysfunction or distortion we’re dealing with, our biggest personal and corporate problem is not sexual; it’s pride.
You Are Not Your Own
Our most powerful weapon in the fight against sexual impurity is not a cage to hem in our depraved impulses, nor is it increased tolerance of sexual deviancy, but a profound humility. And humility is a deep realization and embrace of the truth that we are not our own. This is why Paul gave the Corinthians this counsel regarding sexual sin:
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18–20)
Yes, fleeing from an enticing sexual temptation — taking behavioral action — is necessary. But notice that Paul’s primary emphasis is not behavior modification, nor is it deliverance from demonic oppression, both of which are realities of our complex human experience and so have some place in our fight for sexual purity. Paul sees the primary issue in our sexual struggle as the remaining pride within us.
That’s why the key to our freedom, the great killer of our sexual sin, is in our embracing this reality:
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)
This is what it means that we are not our own. This is what sin-killing humility looks like. This is the death of pride and all its perverting power over us.
Freedom is not the freedom to express our pride-fueled sexual desires. Freedom is the humble belief that we are not our own, and therefore not enslaved to our all-consuming pride, but free to be what God created us to be.

To be frank, the major problem on the road to victory over lustful thoughts is that we don’t really want them to go away. There is still that thing in us—that desire for sin—that welcomes a lustful thought now and then. We want to re-live the excitement and pleasure of past trysts—even if only for a few minutes in our minds. But yielding to such temporal pleasure has far more devastating consequences than we realize.
I’ve also learned that success doesn’t come in the form of some secret formula that stifles lustful thoughts, or an end-around play guaranteed to produce instant victory. There is no such shortcut that I’m aware of. Lustful thoughts are overcome one by one, thought by thought.


I realize that doesn’t have much appeal to the pop-Christianity crowd. But that’s the way it is. It’s not a glamorous walk down the fashion-model runway; it’s hand-to-hand combat in the trenches. Such battles are the proving ground of your proclamation of faith. Are you willing to fend off those pesky lustful thoughts and fill your mind with Jesus?
If you are really serious about this battle, there are several things you must do to assure victory.

1. Break the Trance
The first is what I refer to as “breaking the trance.” When lustful thoughts start to arise in your minds and fantasies begin to swirl around, you need to do something outwardly to break that momentum toward sin. The situation you’re in is likely too conducive to lustful thoughts, and something needs to immediately change. If you’re watching television or using the computer, turn it off. I find it helpful to get up and take a short walk, even just a walk around the house is often enough to help me get my thoughts redirected.
Colossians 3:5 says, “Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.” What does this mean? It means to stop feeding that thing. Any living thing that is not fed will eventually die, or at least lose its power.

2. Pray Continuously
Secondly, PRAY! We neglect the weapon of prayer far too often. The truth is, you and I don’t have what it takes to win the battle against lustful thoughts and the sin they will lead us into. You need help from outside yourself; you need the Lord’s help. The Word of God instructs us to take our thoughts captive (II Corinthians 10:5), and the best way I know to do that is to pray. It is impossible to pray and think lustful thoughts at the same time. Prayer is also the means by which we appropriate the power to overcome sin.
If you lack the discipline to pray, then call a family member, a friend, or a spiritual mentor who can pray with you. Humble yourself and confess your need for prayer to overcome these lustful thoughts. Such humility opens the door for God’s favor. Remember, God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. (I Peter 5:5)

3. Clean House
Third, get serious about applying the admonition given by the apostle Paul: “Do not be conformed to this world.” (Romans 12:2a) Too often our homes are filled with the very things that stimulate lustful thoughts because we’ve conformed to the world’s standard in what we allow into our homes. Need I even mention television as the obvious source of much that makes provision for our flesh while crushing our spiritual life? But don’t stop there. Take a closer look at those catalogs and magazines filled with glossy advertising based on sensual appeals. Could they be one of the reasons your battle with lustful thoughts seems so unwinnable? A good housecleaning could go a long way toward making your home the sanctuary you need it to be to escape the onslaught of sensual propaganda the world hurls at you.
But ultimately, these three steps will not produce lasting victory over lustful thoughts. They will help in the short term, but they need to go hand-in-hand with a long-term transformation of your mind.

A Great Reversal
Romans 12:2b goes on to say “…but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Be transformed? What does it mean to have to have a renewed and transformed mind?

A transformed mind is one that draws its thoughts and motives from an increasingly vibrant relationship with God. Any time you “put off the old,” you must also “put on the new” (Ephesians 4:22, 24). Hollow and deceptive fantasies need to be replaced by something more wonderful. If you do, the Scriptures promise that you will “be renewed in the spirit of your mind.” (Ephesians 4:23)