Blankstare:
When I get angry, my voice siezes, my brain freeze, eyes get blurred and veins rise... anyone have fought at this point we rarely get talking again afterwards even yrs later. Though, am an expressive person, I don't talk much. Anger is bad, lost so many opportunities due to it in the past, now I know better...walk away from foolish people, they abound everywhere.

BabaIbo:
I don't agree with you, they only react when pushed against the wall and their reactions are always to push you off, if given opportunity they will work away...
Check the scenario below, if the man didn't slap me first or let's say if he didn't try to slap me the second time I may overlook it and work away but I know if I don't react at that moment this man fit use slap injure me and exam was very near then.

During my university days, my landlord son's wife had an issue with me. Actually I saw water inside my guy's bucket, I thought the water belongs to him so I used it normal hostel/lodge runs. Only for her to come shouting at me for using the water, I took the bucket to fetch the water back, but this woman won't stop talking. I told her that I have fetched her water back and I don't have time for wahala that morning, so I left for school.
Later in the evening her husband came knocking on my door, I opened the door, this man asked me what happened as I was about to say something, he shouted at me that never in my life should I even say kpim if her wife is talking. I was like allow me to explain na, next thing gboa for my ear.
Mehn, I was still amazed that what pushed him to slap me, next thing I saw his hand going up again for 2nd round. I was like abeg na so I go dey gentle them go take slap block my ear, immediately I used my left hand to return his hand back to his sides. I allowed him to stand very well, I returned the slap back to him, the slap moved the man at least two meters away (he is not a slim man), next I followed him, I didn't allow him to regain his stand I gave him good beating.
That night there was rumor that the community youths searched for me because he is an indigene, the following morning his dad told me to leave his house, for where? I locked my door and went to my friends house for few days until we settled the issue.
After everything, one day we were sitting under the tree and his little kid said omoina (i.e omo igbo) fun daddy mi ni igbaju(i.e igbaju oloyi) I smiled inside and his mom chased him away...

People came behind to tell me well done for what I did to him. Ever since then everyone started giving me maximum respect and we became cool....

samuelonyewueny:


I perfectly understand you.. what you described is not anger but rage..been there.. your body will also be hot..

Funmmyastic:
People that don't show that they are angry but keep on nursing ill feelings towards another individual inside are dangerous because you will not know that you have offended them and one will not be able make amends and correct one's mistake and better still;say sorry.

GrabHisBalls:
I think there are two set of personalities you lumped into one here.

1. There are those who are quiet and when offended don't react in the conventional manner expected of angry people and don't nurse evil in their heart towards their offenders. They just avoid you. That's their own way of handling misunderstandings.

2. There are those quiet and deadly ones that the second you offend, they're plotting the best revenge to get back at you. The former can't hurt a fly, the latter could kill.

The assumption that all quiet people are wicked is erroneous. Evil is personal. I've checked on 'the temperaments' before and though, dominant traits were outlined, didn't see where it's said 'evil' is dominant in a particular personality.

nairalandposter:



There's an evil nature which does not openly express anger but quietly plots destruction.

My question is some of them are fond of calling people names for showing anger, meanwhile they themselves are deadly.

Eg a nler who describes others as a raging bull when s/he is being critical over matters that are not his/her business, but on a different thread, advised putting needle in the penis of a lover or sex partner.

Is that not an evil much worse than open anger?

missjo:
People who do not let their anger out are dangerous ONLY to themselves in the long run.

GrabHisBalls:
I think there are two set of personalities you lumped into one here.

1. There are those who are quiet and when offended don't react in the conventional manner expected of angry people and don't nurse evil in their heart towards their offenders. They just avoid you. That's their own way of handling misunderstandings.

2. There are those quiet and deadly ones that the second you offend, they're plotting the best revenge to get back at you. The former can't hurt a fly, the latter could kill.

The assumption that all quiet people are wicked is erroneous. Evil is personal. I've checked on 'the temperaments' before and though, dominant traits were outlined, didn't see where it's said 'evil' is dominant in a particular personality.

Offpoint:
Yeah, I'm that kinda person.

Rarely get angry, but once I do I hate myself.

Once threw a married woman down a 2 storey building and beat up the husband.

What really happened?

lived in a 3 storey building then, this Monday morning I was late to work. Went to the only tap in the compound to get a bucket of water to take my bath, this woman who countless had stepped on my toe but I've always avoid her troubles cuz she's well known for that, trouble is her full time job and her husband the pay master.
She was the one I met fetching water, with a big rubber she stationed at the tap and was refilling other kegs. She takes up and returned to refilled while the big rubber is still on the tap.
Was running late, I begged her to let me fetch the little Bucket with me cuz I was running late to work....

her replied was: "No just disturb me, people dey fetch water here since morning na now you no sey you go fetch water? I must fetch my water finish before you fetch"

I was like: "madam nobi fight, if you no wan let me just say No, which one you dey talk story.... na public tap be this"

She's was like: "Ehn ehn? public tap bah? come fetch ma see, if I no fetch finish you no fetch..... Do your worst"

I keep shut without saying anything, when she left I removed her rubber and fetch my water.

Could you believe this woman came up and poured my water and threw my bucket down?

I was so angry and pissed, I came with full blown annoyance towards her, lift her and fammm... straight down, the same way you threw my rubber.

Hospital was her last bus stop, her husband heard the news and ran home without asking what transpired between us... he came to beat me straight....
I gave him serious knock out on his eyes and rush him with unlimited blow like Glo data....


na station we end am, she spend 2 weeks in hospital.
Las Las I pay bills, but was satisfied.

The news was shocking to everyone:
hey this boy wey no dey talk? quiet people too wicked and bla bla...

many congratulated me secretly.

missjo:
People who do not let their anger out are dangerous
ONLY to themselves in the long run.

1Sharon:


This story is so satisfying


The little kid tho

Offpoint:
Yeah, I'm that kinda person.

Rarely get angry, but once I do I hate myself.

Once threw a married woman down a 2 storey building and beat up the husband.

What really happened?

lived in a 3 storey building then, this Monday morning I was late to work. Went to the only tap in the compound to get a bucket of water to take my bath, this woman who countless had stepped on my toe but I've always avoid her troubles cuz she's well known for that, trouble is her full time job and her husband the pay master.
She was the one I met fetching water, with a big rubber she stationed at the tap and was refilling other kegs. She takes up and returned to refilled while the big rubber is still on the tap.
Was running late, I begged her to let me fetch the little Bucket with me cuz I was running late to work....

her replied was: "No just disturb me, people dey fetch water here since morning na now you no sey you go fetch water? I must fetch my water finish before you fetch"

I was like: "madam nobi fight, if you no wan let me just say No, which one you dey talk story.... na public tap be this"

She's was like: "Ehn ehn? public tap bah? come fetch ma see, if I no fetch finish you no fetch..... Do your worst"

I keep shut without saying anything, when she left I removed her rubber and fetch my water.

Could you believe this woman came up and poured my water and threw my bucket down?

I was so angry and pissed, I came with full blown annoyance towards her, lift her and fammm... straight down, the same way you threw my rubber.

Hospital was her last bus stop, her husband heard the news and ran home without asking what transpired between us... he came to beat me straight....
I gave him serious knock out on his eyes and rush him with unlimited blow like Glo data....


na station we end am, she spend 2 weeks in hospital.
Las Las I pay bills, but was satisfied.

The news was shocking to everyone:
hey this boy wey no dey talk? quiet people too wicked and bla bla...

many congratulated me secretly.

Offpoint:
Yeah, I'm that kinda person.

Rarely get angry, but once I do I hate myself.

Once threw a married woman down a 2 storey building and beat up the husband.

What really happened?

lived in a 3 storey building then, this Monday morning I was late to work. Went to the only tap in the compound to get a bucket of water to take my bath, this woman who countless had stepped on my toe but I've always avoid her troubles cuz she's well known for that, trouble is her full time job and her husband the pay master.
She was the one I met fetching water, with a big rubber she stationed at the tap and was refilling other kegs. She takes up and returned to refilled while the big rubber is still on the tap.
Was running late, I begged her to let me fetch the little Bucket with me cuz I was running late to work....

her replied was: "No just disturb me, people dey fetch water here since morning na now you no sey you go fetch water? I must fetch my water finish before you fetch"

I was like: "madam nobi fight, if you no wan let me just say No, which one you dey talk story.... na public tap be this"

She's was like: "Ehn ehn? public tap bah? come fetch ma see, if I no fetch finish you no fetch..... Do your worst"

I keep shut without saying anything, when she left I removed her rubber and fetch my water.

Could you believe this woman came up and poured my water and threw my bucket down?

I was so angry and pissed, I came with full blown annoyance towards her, lift her and fammm... straight down, the same way you threw my rubber.

Hospital was her last bus stop, her husband heard the news and ran home without asking what transpired between us... he came to beat me straight....
I gave him serious knock out on his eyes and rush him with unlimited blow like Glo data....


na station we end am, she spend 2 weeks in hospital.
Las Las I pay bills, but was satisfied.

The news was shocking to everyone:
hey this boy wey no dey talk? quiet people too wicked and bla bla...

many congratulated me secretly.

pocohantas:
Not dangerous, just unpredictable or less predictable.

If I am pissed, I will let you know.

What I hate is when people act like my concerns are not valid. Guys are fond of doing this in relationships- acting like you are being petty or a nag. That is when I become silent...

I just ignore you, you can't turn me into a mad woman. Maybe I will get dangerous, but not enough to hurt you...physically.

Burgcudi:


Most of the time it is better to quiet than to speak... don’t argue with a fool cos you just made your one once you do. Illiterate person are the cos of conflict most times.

GrabHisBalls:
This is why some guys think I am cold. Why should I keep a man that will knowingly/unknowing keep offending me and when I talk, he terms it petty? The second I stop talking, the feelings are dead. The second they realize you love them, they've become too full of themselves. Bros, no one is indispensable. Don't come and kill me before my time.

engrchykae:
mine is I won't talk or act,rather I will be watching to know the angle you are coming from.
whether you are intentionally being wicked,if I find outhing tjat re intentionally wicked.
its only God that will help you no matter who you are.
if I realise that you acted carelessly and unintentionally,I will simply forget it as if it never happened.
yes I have mastered how to let go.
I have matured to see the power of the creator in every living thing.
the creator created the scorpion to sting and the bird to sing.
but I was wicked as a kid and dealt with offenders ruthlessly.
I burnt some peoples farms,spoilt some cars.
I looked innocent that I at a time I will be pitying them because they don't know what am capable of.