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Bia nwokem... Don't dare hurt your wife, she's obviously not deserved such.

You are not in this world alone, why choose to live and operate alone?

C'mon bro.. Why not just sit your wife down, and have a reasonable conversation with her, you should know that you cannot just "wish away" problems, so.. Man up and communicate with her.

P. S - from your last paragraph, I hope you are not contemplating suicide ?

Abeg who dey sell charger here

Do not eat her food for just one month. She go calm down.

Give her the silent treatment. She go mellow.

Beosten:
I'm not an introvert, and I crack jokes a lot. But my wife's temper is not satisfactory. Many people think I can't hurt a fly, and wish every husband would be like me.

My principle is that I don't engage in a shouting match with people no matter how outraged I am. But anytime my wife pisses me off, the only thing that comes to my mind is divorce. Within minutes, I would see myself as a bachelor that would shortly be free of marital headaches. But many people believe in me, and I know I will never be able to act on divorce because I see it as another shame. Note that marrying my wife is not a wrong choice, because she's the best available for her age and exposure.

Once I'm pissed off, I would need at least 3 days to be out of sight for me to recover emotionally. So, I took a step. I took up a second job in another city. I can run my first job from anywhere. The second job is like an agric extension in which I may choose to return home like 3 times in a week. But once wife pisses me off, I would stay back for a week.

With the first job, I pay family bills easily. After adding the second job, wife now gets pocket money every month. But she has started complaining that she can't afford not seeing me at home for days or a week and that I should leave the second job.

Note that one of the reasons I took the second job is for me to be able to cope with her stvpid temperament. At this juncture, my wish is to hurt her so severe that once my name is mentioned, she won't hesitate to release 21-gun salutes. All the demons in hell know that I can't try having a side chick. If it's possible for me to disappear from this planet without a trace, I won't hesitate to do that. That means you won't see my corpse in a coffin and I would be out of sight forever.

hurt her by LOVING HER despite her behavior.... THEN SHE WILL WORSHIP YOU AS HER KING

It takes me days or week too to recover when I am annoyed and another not too good thing about it is that I do not find it easy to talk about my annoyance.

My lady usually get the message once I give her the silent treatment, makes sincere apology and we are cool.

What I have discovered is that there is no one that is perfect and no two individuals are the same. We are bound to offend one another - no one is a perfect being.

Do not think of hurting her severely as you stated, just know her weakness (what pains her the most) and strike from that angle.

She is your wife, you should not be tired of coaching or grooming her.
I am happy you said "she is the best available of her age and exposure"

Erase the idea of divorce if she listens to you when you correct and your life isn't in danger being with her, you won't get a woman that is perfect out there.

Invite GOD....and the devil will disappear.

Hurting her will eventually mean hurting yourself. In those days not eating her food would have worked but women of these days are hardened o, dem nor send. Na you go hungry.
Try talking to her and if no changes, continue getting away for a while. That's the only way to keep your sanity.

don't make your wife cheat on you ooo. a word is enough for the wise.

Olami90:
It takes me days or week too to recover when I am annoyed and another not too good thing about it is that I do not find it easy to talk about my annoyance.

My lady usually get the message once I give her the silent treatment, makes sincere apology and we are cool.

What I have discovered is that there is no one that is perfect and no two individuals are the same. We are bound to offend one another - no one is a perfect being.

Do not think of hurting her severely as you stated, just know her weakness (what pains her the most) and strike from that angle.

She is your wife, you should not be tired of coaching or grooming her.
I am happy you said "she is the best available of her age and exposure"

Erase the idea of divorce if she listens to you when you correct and your life isn't in danger being with her, you won't get a woman that is perfect out there.

Thanks, bro

Bruno3000:
Do not eat her food for just one month. She go calm down.

Give her the silent treatment. She go mellow.

you are the real guy.

Silent treatment is the best to reset a woman's brain to a factory setting

You're playing with fire

Beosten:
I'm not an introvert, and I crack jokes a lot. But my wife's temper is not satisfactory. Many people think I can't hurt a fly, and wish every husband would be like me.

My principle is that I don't engage in a shouting match with people no matter how outraged I am. But anytime my wife pisses me off, the only thing that comes to my mind is divorce. Within minutes, I would see myself as a bachelor that would shortly be free of marital headaches. But many people believe in me, and I know I will never be able to act on divorce because I see it as another shame. Note that marrying my wife is not a wrong choice, because she's the best available for her age and exposure.

Once I'm pissed off, I would need at least 3 days to be out of sight for me to recover emotionally. So, I took a step. I took up a second job in another city. I can run my first job from anywhere. The second job is like an agric extension in which I may choose to return home like 3 times in a week. But once wife pisses me off, I would stay back for a week.

With the first job, I pay family bills easily. After adding the second job, wife now gets pocket money every month. But she has started complaining that she can't afford not seeing me at home for days or a week and that I should leave the second job.

Note that one of the reasons I took the second job is for me to be able to cope with her stvpid temperament. At this juncture, my wish is to hurt her so severe that once my name is mentioned, she won't hesitate to release 21-gun salutes. All the demons in hell know that I can't try having a side chick. If it's possible for me to disappear from this planet without a trace, I won't hesitate to do that. That means you won't see my corpse in a coffin and I would be out of sight forever.

There is nothing to hurt.

You don't talk,
You keep it too yourself ,
You don't tell her the things that gets you mad,
You don't set ground rules,
In effect she keeps breaking those rules,
She is not all knowing,
She maybe unaware what's normal to her is what gets you mad,


Make your self/stance crystal clear to her, state what drives you crazy, and give her a THOROUGH warning not to repeat such again, it's how you make your bed that you will lie on in, instead of running from making the bed, take the bed and work on it.
This is marriage we are talking here not a relationship, you should be very firm in getting your messages across to your wife.

Instead of running from her, divorce her, you will only be giving her a VALID excuse to find another diick, which will only make you look stupid.

Prince4945:
Abeg who dey sell charger here

I dey sell ooo... different shapes and sizes.....

Na wa oooo.
Stories like this scares the life out of me.

I know I will marry at some point in my life, but once I have the number of kids I want, I can't guarantee that marriage will last. I think having kids will be the only reason why I will even get married cos I don't want my kids to be called certain names.

I hate troubles. And living with a woman under the same roof is excessive troubles.

I don't know if I will divorce (even though I'm a very strong advocate of it), but I know we won't be staying together.
I wish to have a lasting marriage, but somehow I think I won't.

I no just like wahala abeg.

Im a lady, keeping quiet isnt always the way to go. Sit her down and talk sense into her head. For christ sake, you're a man! Act it.
Dont tolerate sh!t that would see you 6ft under the ground.

If you have to hurt someone, let the hurt be so deep that you will need not fear their revenge -- Machiavelli

This is TERRIBLE advice.

greatnaija01:
hurt her by LOVING HER despite her behavior.... THEN SHE WILL WORSHIP YOU AS HER KING

Yo, give us some background.

Why did you marry her? It seems to me like you don't love her.

It seems to me like a divorce would make you happier and free you for a more loving wife.

Do you guys have kids?

I don't see the point in staying in an unhappy marriage. If it's not working, leave. Leave before you hurt her. Leave before you hurt yourself. Leave.

Beosten:
I'm not an introvert, and I crack jokes a lot. But my wife's temper is not satisfactory. Many people think I can't hurt a fly, and wish every husband would be like me.

My principle is that I don't engage in a shouting match with people no matter how outraged I am. But anytime my wife pisses me off, the only thing that comes to my mind is divorce. Within minutes, I would see myself as a bachelor that would shortly be free of marital headaches. But many people believe in me, and I know I will never be able to act on divorce because I see it as another shame. Note that marrying my wife is not a wrong choice, because she's the best available for her age and exposure.

Once I'm pissed off, I would need at least 3 days to be out of sight for me to recover emotionally. So, I took a step. I took up a second job in another city. I can run my first job from anywhere. The second job is like an agric extension in which I may choose to return home like 3 times in a week. But once wife pisses me off, I would stay back for a week.

With the first job, I pay family bills easily. After adding the second job, wife now gets pocket money every month. But she has started complaining that she can't afford not seeing me at home for days or a week and that I should leave the second job.

Note that one of the reasons I took the second job is for me to be able to cope with her stvpid temperament. At this juncture, my wish is to hurt her so severe that once my name is mentioned, she won't hesitate to release 21-gun salutes. All the demons in hell know that I can't try having a side chick. If it's possible for me to disappear from this planet without a trace, I won't hesitate to do that. That means you won't see my corpse in a coffin and I would be out of sight forever.

Pray to God.

There's a way to do it
Give her a silent treatment
Not ignoring her totally
Place it on a Hello hi level
Don't engage in any serious conversation
With her
Just on a yes or no convo
She will calm down