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Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by yeyeosoronga: 2:27pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
mysticwarrior: A husband that impregnates your niece , is that one a husband or a colossal calamity? 4 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by amtheone(m): 3:56pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: Her own case also calls for a divorce. After all the two cases involve cheating. So, cheating na cheating. The op should divorce and move on. 3 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by mysticwarrior(m): 4:33pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:OP doesn't need anyone's advice, she knows the right thing to do and she only came here to gather sympathy and she is not going to get it from us. 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by mysticwarrior(m): 4:38pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:and what do you think is the best advice to be given to a woman who advice other married people to get divorced during marital crisis? 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by djon78(m): 4:58pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
The main issue is that in modern marriages balance has to be made. In running the home, a house help or nanny will be needed. Since most men don't do domestic duty, although some do. But on the other hand its wrong for a woman to neglect a man by giving all attention to the children. This pushes a lot of men into the arms of other women. Though I am not supporting your husband, but, the truth is that successful marriage is a work. Many couples stop working on there marriage, which is just between the two couples excluding children. When this is not done, the marriage is already developing crack. That's why many marriages are folding up, you began to question why getting married in the first place. But there are couples that are still getting it right, having fabulous and wonderful relationships between them, still good friends, and companion. And honestly I believe this should be the goal of every marriage, but if not, then na scam and deception then. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by elektra(f): 6:26pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
What is it with men neglecting their families then turn around and start playing the victim? Isn't it the man neglecting the family in the case? Should she ignore the triplets to appease a grown man? Doesn't it make more sense for the man, the supposed 'head of house', to join her in spending time with their kids? 8 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Miarose: 6:38pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
@djon78, I think u mean nigerian marriages not modern marriages. Why is childcare a taboo for our men? The benefits are so beneficial to every member of the family. Its a bonding activity for you and your wife and becomes less of a chore for her, you finish earlier with time for yourselves.your kids also bond with you and don't just see you as a provider, everyone is happy. love and marriage is soo easy if we all treat our partners the way we would like to be treated. These are really the end times.. 10 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by mysticwarrior(m): 8:05pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
What do you expect when a woman start denying her husband of his matrimonial right?. Some men don't joke with sex. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by djon78(m): 9:56pm On Oct 25, 2019 |
Miarose: Like I said, a lot of men don't do domestic duty. They feel that, it brings room for ridicule from there wife or next he turns to erand boy. What most do is they pay for the services of nannies or get one from village. I have sisters married and none of there husbands do that. And all of them are professionals, with good paying jobs. In fact our first daughter has 2 nannies, and oga pays for there services. Some men still help, but it depends on the wife's attitude also. Some women will start belittling the man. And moreover most men focus on making money. That's the way they were raised. But on the other hand, like I said women tend to overlook there husbands. And yes it's prevalent in many marriages. Couples should support each other, man in easing the home run for the woman through the best way either by hiring nanny or helping out. Woman should have time for the husband, that way the issues are addressed, but if not so, they are opening doors for marital problem. And this is a major problem in today's marriages. Its not something to hide. I said modern marriages concerning Nigeria. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Nobody: 2:27am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Shibaraba: check mate. 4 Likes
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Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by abimbola74(m): 9:03am On Oct 26, 2019 |
Shibaraba:Really shows how most people who gives stupid advice here on Nairaland also goes through same faith |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by deleson: 5:49pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
Hey Zainab, Sorry about your experience. You’ve done nothing to warrant this treatment and heart break. Don’t let your husband cow you into believing you’re responsible for his irresponsibility. Given that you acknowledge your little defiance in catering to his sexual needs, he should have been able to speak with you about his needs and also do the needful by supporting you with home chores. Discuss roles and responsibilities with him, tell him you can’t afford sharing him for too many reasons including his own well-being. But not without him first recognizing, acknowledging and truly apologizing about his infidelity to you. Best regards/wishes to the triplets and your family. Zainab20198: 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by mysticwarrior(m): 6:21pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
elektra:just listen to how you sound like a clown, "join her in spending time with the kids" so he should abandoned the time he uses to fetch money to take care of the family and sit at home with the wife and children abi? You try well well, clap for yourself. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by elektra(f): 6:38pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
mysticwarrior:Shut the fvck up, you piece of sh.it! He was fetching money at the time he was chasing and sleeping with someone else abi? Foolish Goat! Time that he could have used to build his family, he used it to woo and fvck pvssy. Then this monkey above is telling me he was chasing money. Chasing money kee you there! 5 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by mysticwarrior(m): 7:40pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
elektra:wow how did you escaped from a psychiatric home, you already concluding guilt without evidential analysis, did you see the man with your two eyes sleeping with someone els? Idiot. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by NoToPile: 8:07pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
Triplets without help You wont have time for anything else, and will be constantly stressed. It seems some men dont understand the effort it takes to take care of children. 3 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by elektra(f): 8:10pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
mysticwarrior: LMAO @ bolded, awon FBI. I will show my evidence when you present your own evidence of the man chasing money. Until then, SIT THE FVCK DOWN! 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by mysticwarrior(m): 8:23pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
elektra:make I speak pidgin for you because e clear say you no go school, because if you go school you would know that I gave my analysia based on reasonable evidence, but you already draw conclusions out of preconceived bigotry, na people like una dey give men wahala for house with una bad character, what a Jezebel gosh. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by elektra(f): 8:33pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
mysticwarrior: Where is the evidence? Like I said, provide evidence of the man chasing money or SIT THE FVCK DOWN! You quoted me first with insults yet it is ME that has bad character? I will show you bad character today. Provide your evidence oga FBI or SHUT UP! Monkey banana. 3 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by ImaIma1(f): 9:11pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
StPete: Not when she is taking care of triplets alone and also doing the housework. When she is not a superhero. The man needs to get involved with his family, get help for his wife instead of conveniently using it as an excuse and cheating. 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by cococandy(f): 9:58pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
Do you understand what triplets means? Can you even care for one child all by yourself let alone three children. Gosh you sound so insufferable talking crap about stuff you know absolutely nothing about. Oversabi Someone is stuck taking care of triplets by herself without help and all you can do is victim blame. You’re not even remotely qualified to comment on this thread. Just because you have data doesn’t mean you have to comment. Move along please. Nonsense StPete: 5 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Yinibixema: 10:40pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
elektra:Will you shut up my friend |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Yinibixema: 10:42pm On Oct 26, 2019 |
cococandy:Shut up. The husband is more important 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Omojudy: 7:42am On Oct 27, 2019 |
elektra:Thank you! If he helped around the house more them for see more quality time together. So truth is he wanted to taste other ladies and he saw a good opportunity to do it. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Chubhie: 8:25am On Oct 27, 2019 |
Zainab20198:You are trying too hard for someone that doesn't even notice. Is this the imbalance you guys agreed upon before saying I do in front of a priest? Your current model ain't sustainable. You could work yourself to death or he brings home some deadly diseases. You guys must sit down and discuss what works for you guys. 2 Likes
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Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by ednut1(m): 9:45am On Oct 27, 2019 |
Hypocrite op. Why can't you take your advise 2 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Destiblack(m): 10:28am On Oct 27, 2019 |
Madam most of the comments have seen are either blaming u for shifting ur attention to the kids,u doing all house works alone and u been not there for yourself either. The truth is every man cheats directly or indirectly. it is in our nature to do so but not what we are proud about cos its bad in every aspect. All u need to do, Get a house cleaner that works thrice in a week, know that ur husband is ur first child,love him adorably with ur kids, show them care and affection. never bother to check his phone anymore neither accusing him of cheating. In a nutshell "love urself" most. Enjoy ur family mrs. |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by Gerrard59(m): 11:14am On Oct 27, 2019 |
Shibaraba: Simple. She should follow her advice. It is why I don't recommend seeking marital advice online because most of these advisers are suffering from similar issues. Forming voltron online and being a sheep offline. Madam Zainab, divorce your husband. Don't change the goalpost in the middle of the game! 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by StPete: 11:14am On Oct 27, 2019 |
cococandy: I would not dignify you with a response because that’s what you’re craving. I know your type. If you are frustrated, take your frustrations to your family members. Now get the fvck out of my mentions and never you quote me again 1 Like |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by cococandy(f): 11:19am On Oct 27, 2019 |
StPete:yet you still mentioned me Go away and keep to things you understand |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by cococandy(f): 11:21am On Oct 27, 2019 |
Why don’t they dump the triplets in a dumpster so she can have time for the husband Or the stupid husband can help out and they both have time for each other. Senseless Yinibixema: 4 Likes |
Re: He Cheated And Blames Me by StPete: 11:24am On Oct 27, 2019 |
Sometimes people just use their phones to type out absolute nonsense to people they would never dare to if they were to meet in real life. Just because cyberspace has brought us to deliberate on a topic does not give any one the right to insult. Topics are meant to be discussed with divergent views, if my idea does not suit you, type yours and give the OP your own idea. It is not under compulsion that we must agree or think along the same line. But quoting someone and insulting the person just because u do not agree with their points is the lowest of lows. Give yourselves brain |
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