cococandy:
Why don’t they dump the triplets in a dumpster so she can have time for the husband

Or the stupid husband can help out and they both have time for each other. Senseless

ImaIma1:


Not when she is taking care of triplets alone and also doing the housework. When she is not a superhero. The man needs to get involved with his family, get help for his wife instead of conveniently using it as an excuse and cheating.

Yinibixema:

Shut up. Husband comes before kids. So the husband no go Bleep well because of kids abi?

Zainab20198:
I recently found out my husband of 5 years has been cheating on me , he accidentally left his Facebook account open on my laptop and I read everything. He told this girl he loves her and want to spend the rest of his life with her, I confronted him and his side of things is I have been pushing him away to care for our very high needs 2 years old triplets sons and my sons needs constant attention , it’s very tiring working , caring for the kids and keeping the house clean with no house help. I know I have my faults , and all my energy goes into the kids and trying to keep the households running , so there isn’t much left at the end of day. I’m always tired and once the kids are sleeping I’m far to tired to do anything ... like sex. He knows all this yet I’m at fault. I feel heart broken , I try to talk to him and he just blames me , even if I’m in wrong , how is cheating justified by what I have done ? I don’t know what to do ?

Octopusssy:

Someone posted screenshots of you advising women to divorce cheating partners. Oya you sef follow the advice you have been giving people. If you don't divorce your husband then you are a very big hypocrite and one of the society's problems.

Oya, we are awaiting feedback. Divorce your husband!

Yinibixema:

Shut up. Husband comes before kids. So the husband no go Bleep well because of kids abi?

bukatyne:


Hahahahahahaha

Leave her na.

StPete:
One thing most women don’t know is that the moment your attention totally shifts to the kids and place them on high priority, you’re gradually losing your husband. The neglect we feel even though society does not expect us to lament is much more than mere words can describe. Always consider your husband first as you both are living your lives while the kids will grow up and live theirs with their own family.

crackhaus:



They should drag her very well oo.
These women here need to understand that the divorce solution they so easily administer is not that easy to follow through if they were in similar situations.

I remember typing something to you sometime last week or so about how majority of the females on NL forgive/have forgiven/will forgive their cheating husbands. Most of them are also the ones doing all the chores in their homes despite working.
The internet just provides a platform to share an idealized version of how marriages should be, not how it really is for them.

Shibaraba:
Three posts on this screen shot. On all of them you gave one advice...... Divorce. Follow your advice. Bye

bukatyne:


True people project their fantasies alot online.

Some others can see clearly until it is their turn.

Others realize that people bring half baked stories here to look like saints.

But the OP nor try sha.

Three divorce advises back to back with calling the husbands names.

I try to internalize situations and analyze critically before I advise.

I also search to see if I have real life references of the end point for further guidance.

I believe we would all give account of our words and actions to God. Whether typed, said or written.

With that in mind, I don't dish what I can't follow.

crackhaus:

This is certainly obvious from your comments a lot of times.
No let your head swell

bukatyne:


The head that haff burst.

Gracias.

generationz:


Oga police weldone o.

I hope you will remain with your wife if she was sleeping with your nephew or you found out she has HIV

Zainab20198:
I recently found out my husband of 5 years has been cheating on me , he accidentally left his Facebook account open on my laptop and I read everything. He told this girl he loves her and want to spend the rest of his life with her, I confronted him and his side of things is I have been pushing him away to care for our very high needs 2 years old triplets sons and my sons needs constant attention , it’s very tiring working , caring for the kids and keeping the house clean with no house help. I know I have my faults , and all my energy goes into the kids and trying to keep the households running , so there isn’t much left at the end of day. I’m always tired and once the kids are sleeping I’m far to tired to do anything ... like sex. He knows all this yet I’m at fault. I feel heart broken , I try to talk to him and he just blames me , even if I’m in wrong , how is cheating justified by what I have done ? I don’t know what to do ?

bukatyne:


Hahahahahahaha

Leave her na.

UjuJoan2:


This is heartbreaking. Your husband is supposed to worship you and thank you everyday for all you do for him and the family. . . I wonder what is wrong with men of nowadays.

Please never ever blame yourself for his indiscretion.

Focus on your kids and try to ignore him. It is well.

24kmagic:
Your moniker sounds like you're a muslim.

If you are, then I don't think there's much you can do cos polygamy is allowed in Islam.

You're lucky it's still at the wooing stage, so you can still convince him to let her go, but it might be a little bit difficult.

But if you're a non Muslim, just sit down and have some talks with him and you're back to normal.

But you sef, try de give am even if na one round.

Octopusssy:

That's the thing. People come here to dish out all sorts of advice that they can't apply to their own situations. That's why we should be very careful the kind of counsel to follow

ornicus:


uju, while what the guy did is effed up abeg take it easy. if i[b] say you should worship your husband and thank him everyday for everything he does for the family, you go [/b]gree?

UjuJoan2:


I already do that, just as he does for me.

Appreciation, respect and acceptance is what keeps a marriage.

Nobody is perfect, and accepting each other's weaknesses and helping them overcome it is the true definition of love.

ornicus:


uju has accepted hubby is not a billionaire

ornicus:


tell that to ned nwoko

plenty of christian polygamists out there. so you can try some other argument

ImaIma1:


No doubt, husband before kids. I totally agree. But the husband needs to find a way to relieve her of the plenty work. If not she will always be fagged our Try taking care of twins and doing the housework all alone and come and testify. Kids wear you out and they don't know or care that you are tired.

They want to eat, they poo, the litter the place. One can make you go crazy, not to talk of three BOYS. Her husband needs to face his responsibility and help his wife and not conveniently going out to cheat and blaming her.

cococandy:
He can get a vasectomy so he will never impregnate anyone ever. That way he won’t have to worry about the children he made with his own peniss getting in the way of his fvck.

Solved.

Yinibixema:

Vasectomy kor autonomy ni

yeyeosoronga:


What's wrong with a vasectomy? It's one of the best forms of contraception.
It has more advantages than disadvantages especially if you've completed having children.

Yinibixema:

Then the woman should remove her own womb instead

yeyeosoronga:


A vasectomy is safer to do. Removing the womb is a major surgery with all the possible complications of surgery you can imagine such as bleeding to death, infections, blood clots to block the lungs, problems of anesthesia and even problem of village witches.
It is a majorrrr and risky operation.
Nobody does a womb removal for contraception. Perhaps you meant tying the woman's tubes? A vasectomy is still more effective than tying the tubes from research. The difference is 7up. Failure rate of tying the tubes is about 1 in 200, while that of a vasectomy is like 1 in a thousand.
Vasectomy on the other hand is a minor procedure, where you're out within 15minutes and only mildly sedated. All those major risks of surgery are avoided.
Tying the tubes has about 20x more MAJOR complications than a vasectomy, 10 - 37 times more likely to fail, costs 3 times as much as a vasectomy and mortality from the procedure (though rare) is 12 times higher than a vasectomy... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/10596397/

Pls kindly read this article. It's quite enlightening if you could be patient enough to read it. Also well researched, and can be corroborated by many other research articles

Yinibixema:

Sorry i meant the tube instead. You’re a woman right