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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 10:00am On Dec 13, 2019 |
IceColdVeins: See, women can be ery emotional that they will turn you against anyone. My mom did same but I got wise after a few months when looked at things from another angle. Don't let anyone make you turn your back now that you've reached out. Get closer to him, see things from his perspective and try to make him apologize to your mom, who knows if that may bring them together, but if otherwise, it will help both of them heal. 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Belafonte(m): 10:00am On Dec 13, 2019 |
A woman on this thread is saying today's men are foolish, another said they are spineless, and they are saying this with disdain and contempt. What they have failed to remember is that today's men were chiefly raised by here mothers, at least, going by this thread. If today's men are foolish and spineless, the blame should go to the mothers, the same ones who have had the most influence on their lives 5 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 10:02am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BLEMOSEDU:The feminist demons are all over these thread subtly implying that op's father is a cruel beast and the discord in op's family must continue. According to them, the father must be put away permanently even if forgiven. Lol. These women are cold. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by iammiracle1(m): 10:02am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Lol, OP I know you are only seeking for a part in your fathers wealth, its OK to want a share in his inheritance, because why work hard and hustle when you can get some quick cheese BUT never ever ever you bad mouth your mum OR allow her hear that all of a sudden because of lust for your fathers money you now see her as a villain, you may think that upon all her ranting your fathers still did well but I bet you if you break your mums heart even the heavens would curse you and that inheritance you won't see, personal success nko no way, make up with your dad and let go of the hurt, NEVER try to justify his actions and throw your mum under the bus, any man that can forget his kids despite whatever the mother has done has terrible evil diabolical issues, it may take more years but your dads true color would still show and the truth would be revealed. Heaven is watching you, forgive your dad, cherish your mum, don't be unfortunate. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by 99tayee: 10:03am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: And what if his mum was cause of the problem, what will he do his mum? I just don't know why some women think with their anus..thinking the world revolves around them. Men due suffer mental and emotional breakdown just like women. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by DMerciful(m): 10:03am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Why are you crying more than the bereaved? Are you trying to make him feel guilty for reconciling with his dad? Is he supposed to keep enmity with his dad forever because two adults had misunderstanding? Was he there during their courtship? Allow him take his decision without you pressuring him! BRATISLAVA: 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 10:04am On Dec 13, 2019 |
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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by DMerciful(m): 10:08am On Dec 13, 2019 |
What if it's the other way round that the mum has been exaggerating and pushed him away? Fountainofyouth: |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 10:08am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Lesson to be learned ... Never pick sides between ur dad and Mom We are Africans wat we have is tough love Ur dad won't apologize to u simply because he's wrong Women always seem to be victims in marriage Not mitigating their real pain here because they are trying to redefine the meaning of masculinity for their men Children should not be seen as weapons or properties in a marriage gone sour |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:09am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:.. I don't think the people that ve contrary opinion with yours are supporting the said father. The truth about it is that is a wonderful development that he is reconciling with his dad no matter the wrong he has committed. But what I will not be a party to is if by him doing so,brings pain to his mother.We cannot erase the fact that most women/men try to manipulate their children in believing that one of them is bad and the reason for a breakup.Like in that thread,I followed it up and even had to comment about how one of my friend burst into tears after realising whole truth of what the father passed through after the breakup he had with his mother.I think it's a good thing he wants to hear the father's own side.Afterall,he is still the father. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ryan03(f): 10:10am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:maybe not because they are doing same thing but because he just want to bridge the gap. I am not condemning him for that but nobody should force it on anybody or make it seem as if you wont progress if you reconcile with a deadbeat dad. Its a choice, a big one at that and to be truthful, some dont even deserve it 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:10am On Dec 13, 2019 |
kallmemrB:they don't even seem to understand what we are saying. Anyone who neglects their children should neglect them forever. Why would anyone punish children because of spouse? Too many wicked fathers everywhere. Unfortunately this OP seems to be after his father's houses and cars and is now calling his mother's sufferings wailing. He's scared he is under a curse until he reconciles. Well, his life. 4 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 10:10am On Dec 13, 2019 |
IceColdVeins: Hope you too are not like that. Just asking o. I mean no sacarsm. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BrutusOj(m): 10:10am On Dec 13, 2019 |
kallmemrB:Calm down joor. Blood is thicker than water. Even drunk men who drinks away their lives, abandoning their families still get loved by their children. You can not run away from your shadow, you wil understand better why the Op made a U-turn when you become a man. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 10:12am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Belafonte:They are just pained that a son has reconciled with his father. During parental alienation, women will, without fail, condition the kids to think that their fathers are bad and they will even exaggerate. Am I saying that there are no bad fathers? Of course not but majority of children in divided homes who are staying with the mother have been conditioned to erroneously see their father in bad light. Children, both male and female, must give their fathers the benefit of doubt. The females here are angry because they are the type that will engage in such subtle brainwashing of their kids and parental alienation all for the cheap game of power dynamics or to avenge their hurt during a disagreement with their spouse. To see themselves losing a pawn in such game and the fact that people are beginning to wake up and give their fathers the benefit of doubt does not go down well with them. 6 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:12am On Dec 13, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE:so this justifies the abuse, negligence and everything that happened in the past? This is the problem with the thread. Treat your wife right and your children will respect you. Homes were built for mutual respect and love. Not I'm the father, I do what I want. 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by DissTroy(m): 10:13am On Dec 13, 2019 |
blank: Psychological warfare. "Hey, Dad, I made it without you, your meanness regardless. Oh, and to top it all, I'd buy you things you never bought for me even though you could afford them." It's his way of closure. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by sdavirus: 10:14am On Dec 13, 2019 |
LadySarah: You call taking care of your child slaving? Does it matter what happens in the future? Your child remains your child, whether the other is useless or not. Are you doing it for yourself or another? Humans are amazing. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:14am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:..So what you expect him to do?. Forget about him totally for life? |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 10:14am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ryan03: If you can at least try and put emotions aside for once & learn about the events that led to the said abandonment, maybe there's something to learn - just maybe. 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Angelfrost(m): 10:15am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: ...And the men are clearly wrong!!! Societally and Religiously!!! It's one of our many failings as a society. In saner climes, you pay in cash for your absenteeism as a father. 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:16am On Dec 13, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE:didn't the man forget him totally for life? |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 10:16am On Dec 13, 2019 |
JONNYSPUTE: Lol , don't mind BRATISLAVA he/she needs a good treat. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by IceColdVeins(m): 10:17am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Dont be quick to judge. I am the only one at loggerheads with my dad, my other siblings are not. And I neevr demonised my mom, I love her and I have showered my care on her. I'm just trying to make peace within myself and make the family balanced. MY mom and dad are still together and happier than before. But the wounds dont ever heal. dominique: 5 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BrutusOj(m): 10:17am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:It doesn't, but two wrongs do not make a right. How long do you want the Op to abandon his father cos of issues that happened while he was a young boy? He must have seen life from a different angle and has decided to let go the past. Why are some of you so pained he chooses the path of reconciliation rather than an everlasting beef with his own father? He is on the verge of bringing peace to his family. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by IceColdVeins(m): 10:18am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Never. I learnt a lot of lessons and its working for me. I cherish every loyal woman Jewessgratitude: |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Belafonte(m): 10:19am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Martinez39: Spot on. For them it's always about some Machiavellian scheme and competition with nobody competing with them. They are neurotic. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:19am On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:what kind of treat? |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by IceColdVeins(m): 10:20am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Bro I just want peace of mind. I wasnt there when I needed him most, So how could he be there when I need him nomore? iammiracle1: |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ryan03(f): 10:21am On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:lol, something to learn? I was a child but suffered because of it. They had their quarrels and the next thing he won't drop feeding money for us, there was never a time we go to dad for anything when he won't direct us back to our mum, what was our crime? Were we there when they got married? Are we the cause of the problem? Why take it out on us? And you say something to learn? I am not saying both parties dont have their flaws but taking it out on us was a very stupid thing. He even blocked us from using the hospital we were registered on after my mum left with us, really? Abeg eh, everyone have their issues, nobody should force forgiveness down my throat 8 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by DMerciful(m): 10:21am On Dec 13, 2019 |
You're overreacting! Enmity is not inheritance! Your kids are not supposed to fight your war. Do you know how it feels to be fatherless when your father is alive? Perhaps he can reconcile the dad and the mum...who knows! dominique: |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 10:21am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:Op only mentioned his mother suffered. He did not specify anything. What abuse are you talking about? You don't know the full story yet you have implied, in your posts, that his father is a ravenous and remorseless beast and you speak like you are sure and you were present when some virtually unforgivable and egregious treatment was meted to the mother by the father. Of course, it is expected of you to think this way after all, the feminist koolaid is a toxic and potent one. |
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