Five signs you 'may' be dealing with an emotionally unavailable person

1. They have never really had a serious relationship, or their past relationships ended because they feared commitment - so they'd leave when things got 'real' or they'd sabotage when things did.

2. You rarely feel like you're pleasing them because they can always find a flaw in you or your relationship, even when things are going well. Once they find a 'flaw', they use it as a crutch or excuse - because they fear intimacy.

3. Early on they say things like "I don't want to hurt you" / "I'm not sure I ever want to be married" / "I suck at relationships" - even when things between you aren't that serious. This is a warning to you - because they know they're not emotionally prepared or available.

4. They rarely want to have 'deep' conversations, or discussions about their past. Things are generally very surface level with them and when you do ask questions they can be evasive or secretive.

5. Everything seems to revolve around them and they're unwilling to alter their schedule / change their plans / plan in advance to suit you. Their commitment-phobia makes them feel like they need to be in control of all situations and future planning in the relationship.

Bonus signs of emotional unavailability:

- They struggle to be content and always think there's something 'better'

- Even when they're faced with people who care for them, they like to stress that they don't need anyone

- They often say they fear losing their independence

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