Is It Proper For Me As A Friend Attend This Engagement?

I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

Is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

What do you think? mature ones please

Show your support as his friend, go and let him know even through ffucck-ups you will be there for him.

You of all people,is expected to be there.

"A friend in need is a friend indeed"

Wetin concern you with their parents. Don't let this decision affect your relationship with your friends.

Be supportives of your friend irrespective of his parent refusal to be present. infact times like this are highly appreciated from a friend....

Whether you attend or not, they will successfully get engaged and married and breed kids and move on without you....


If you can't be a friend at this moment, then you were never a friend from the beginning.....

If you really are his "friend", as you call yourself, you wouldn't be deliberating this. Showing up to support him is what a friend would do.

Birdeyeview:
Be supportives of your friend irrespective of his parent refusal to be present. infact times like this are highly appreciated from a friend....

thanks

If you think it is wrong to be engaged without the consent of both parents, then advise your friend in your own little way and let him know your principle.

Your principle and view about life should be prioritize above any friendship.

Acidosis:

If you think it is wrong to be engaged without the consent of both parents, then advise your friend in your own little way and let him know your principle.

Your principle and view about life should be prioritize above any friendship.

you made a whole lot of sense. Thanks.

I am particular about his parents giving their blessings. I have told him. We have been telling ourselves as friends the truth no matter the situation.

Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong

A friend in need is a friend in deed. What type of friend are you? Are you a friend to the guy or to his parents?

mikezuruki:



you made a whole lot of sense. Thanks.

I am particular about his parents giving their blessings. I have told him. We have been telling ourselves as friends the truth no matter the situation.

Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong

You acted rightly. Emphasize your view of TRUTH. When that fails, support him and wish him well. His failure to see your view shouldn't authomatically affect your physical participation. A time will come he would stop inviting you to his family business, and that's the way it should be.

There's more to friendship than buying asoebi upandan like masquerades.

mikezuruki:


Going ahead without parents consent and blessings is wrong

The above shows that you clearly already know what to do. Why ask?

mikezuruki:
I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

what do you think? mature ones please

This is just an engagement party, not the wedding ceremony.
They may show up for the actual wedding, you just never know.

Meanwhile, go be a good friend.
You really don't need to see eye to eye to walk hand in hand with others.

czarina:
The above shows that you clearly already know what to do. Why ask?

what I want to do is different from what is right or wrong.

mikezuruki:


what I want to do is different from what is right or wrong.

But you're going by the principles of "right" and "wrong" (morals) innit?

mikezuruki:
I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

what do you think? mature ones please

he can settle with his parents at anytime and make you feel like an evil for not attending

You just want to be the typical amebo and judgemental person that most people are, otherwise you have no business asking this type of question.

I don't know.. But his parents decisions are not your business though.
Better still put yourself in his shoes.... Would you be happy if he didn't show up for ur engagement because of the circumstances



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Are you the groom’s friend or the parents’??

I don’t even understand the ‘dilemma’ lol

you should

If only I knew where my earpiece was...

I've been in the same situations some years ago.
The guy na my sure pal right from childhood
The ceremony was to be at Akure and I'm in Lagos State, in fact I didn't have more than 5k both in bank and cash that day, so I have enough reasons not to embarked on that journey that day.
The date has been fixed and my friends mother was still considering either to attend or not, but the mother succumbed to the pressure from my friend's family and she decided not to attend. Yeah they have good reasons but that beyond the scope of this write up.

She made her intention not to attend knew two (2) days to the event and the atmosphere was so tensed as the wife to be said no going back.

I tried to intervened to either persuaded my friend's mother to attend or appealed to the wife to be to postponed.
Neutrally postponement could have been my preferred option because I was having little cash with me but none of the options worked out.

I knew where my loyalty lies of course; so I summon my courage and get fully ready for the journey.

Early hour on the said date I moved to Akure along with another friend that shared the same opinion with me.
It was indeed a nice journey and memorable experience, apart from been my first time of going to Akure; it gives me joy to be with my pal and celebrate with him in such challenging and critical moment.

I can't take such risk for anybody anyhow but for my good friends.

If I says friend, I mean friend. So digest.

mikezuruki:
Is It Proper For Me As A Friend Attend This Engagement?

I will make this short as possible.

I will be attending a friend of mine engagement party today who happened to have impregnated the girl before marriage plan. That wasn't his plan. His parents didn't give their blessings hence they are not showing up for the engagement party.

Is it right for me as a friend to show up for something like this that was not blessed nor consented by the parents of the groom to be?

What do you think? mature ones please

Yes you should attend.
You aren't the parents' Holy Spirit.
Do not support or withdraw support against someone for the type of relationship the person has with someone else.

Are you his friend or his parents’ friend? If you are the latter then shun the event. I don’t need to tell you the form of action for the aforementioned.

I thought Nairaland’s creative writers took a break. It’s good to see they’re back in form.

the only time you will go against your friend, is when he commits crime.

Later in the future he would reconcile with his parents and forget about it but if you don't attend, he won't forget it.

Go and support him.