In English pls.

midnighter:


Masha Allah aleek

IyaTola:
What is your take on your in-laws vividly living in same house with you?

Its cool depending on the availability of resources and how large the house is.

Thatssobeyonce:
Yes i will treat them the best way i can
I lost my mom at a tender age so I'm dreaming of a motherly love from my mother inlaw

You are beautiful

Slawormir:

Damnnnnn
Always easy to say now
But when you get married it is a different thing.
Except you don't have young siblings


Sometimes it is easy for someone from the woman's family to stay with couples. There won't be trouble

But if any body from the man family come stay with couples ehnnnnn. Na so so quarrel

You’re saying this because you don’t know that woman you quoted.
A very bitter feminist .

Wait till your wife gives birth and you will need someone to care for your baby when she resumes work.

HawksDude:
No way. Even my own mother won't be allowed.

Aboks:
i will not allow that, they can only come for visit

usually start with a visit.....then it happen.

Couples need their privacy. 3rd parties get annoying after a while.

cococandy:
Temporarily? yes.
Permanently? No

I don’t even want to live with my siblings or parents in the same house. Just me, my husband and children.

I'm coming to get you.....you now have my full attention!

Mykel51:
You are beautiful

Thank you

That's wrong, if they will stay, it shouldn't exceed a month, that's if there is a new baby if not few days.

We are not Indians

midnighter:


Yes!

Spoiled brat haha �

babythug:
As could be expected it could and would likely swing both ways!

There would be peaceful times and surely there would be turbulent times!

If they are older in-laws ie parents in law or older siblings in law the wife would be expected to be quite accepting and tolerant of their excesses. With some younger siblings in law some bull shit may be meted out that the wife May or may not accept.

The family dynamics also play a big role. Depending on how firm or assertive the husband is the in-laws may know where to draw the lines on nonsense behaviour and so on.

The space and size of the house matters! The smaller the space the more likely wires will cross and cause chaos. Resources too could cause issues- wife may wanna serve two meals daily for eg and in-laws feel entitled to three meals .

If a couple have to move in with parents in-law the wife again has to bear the brunt of behaviour modification and adaptation to the processes and procedures of her in-laws

In summary where african/ Nigerian families age involved it’s best avoided as much as is within one’s power.

I have my brother in law here and most times I feel like slapping him. His latest misdemeanour is literally taking over my son’s slippers this is a 35year old( or thereabouts) man and my son is 9 years old .....

35 year old
Na wa o
Time don reach to send him packing.

Ndipe:
Wait till your wife gives birth and you will need someone to care for your baby when she resumes work.

We will look for a good creche around.

Never..not gonna happen.even my relations sef.. .i will help dem from afar..i decide what obtains in my house

Wow

cococandy:
Temporarily? yes.
Permanently? No

I don’t even want to live with my siblings or parents in the same house. Just me, my husband and children.

your head dey there, but me i can't marry in my father's house. Never.

MajorWarren:
That can’t run. So they can come and add their input in my marriage whenever they please

My mum can live with us tho

Hmn Mummy's pet

Third party I won't allow it

Its a very good scam.

Khalidase83:
In English pls.

Excuse me, i noticed "Khalid" in your monicker and I thought you were a Muslim or at least had some understanding of Arabic language.

It means "God bless you"

Charmingpet:
We are not Indians

Lol underrated hahaha dem dey carry in-law like spare change smh

Isoduwa:
Spoiled brat haha �

I like my privacy too damn much, I will not tolerate a permanent stay. A few days (not more than 3days, after that na quarell).

I get really unwelcoming easily... First day am super sweet, second day wow.... Third day Ok but 4th day my face Don dey change oh.

This is only possible if all parties, both spouses and parents are WISE and PEACEFUL.
And the one who has the parents knows how to prioritize and bluntly tell their family members when they are over-stepping.

Some in laws cannot control themselves and need to be reminded of their limits within a home, so they should be the type who you can speak to openly about something without them getting their ego involved.

I believe this doesn't just happen naturally.
This is something you will need to have been training your parents/siblings on from a very long time ago.
They will need to have known from before that you do not entertain certain things. It is not after you have married and they have moved in that you will now be trying to teach them basic courtesy and respect.

I have lived with several uncle's and aunties in my parents house. It was beneficial for everyone, especially my parents.

I will pick a trusted family member over a creche. But you are free to do whatever rocks your boat

HawksDude:


We will look for a good creche around.

marvin906:
heaven forbids..
visit and get out abeg

therajah:

Hmn Mummy's pet

Mama's boys the most horrible husbands to have lok

IyaTola:
What is your take on your in-laws vividly living in same house with you?

Not on a permanent basis...... The wife tends to feel the heat more............

Your parents or spouse's parents are supposed to live with you. They're there to offer guidance/support in your marriage and raising children. In old age, you and the children care for them and your kids soak up all their wisdom.

This is one of the things wrong with society today. People have been fooled by propaganda into separating the family. That mostly benefits corporations, not people.

If there's clear dysfunction, obviously they shouldn't be there, but generally "it takes a village."

I'll allow my mum, I love to see dramatico dramatician dramas


I could remember a film I watched title "Lagos husbands" ohh!! That trouble mother in-law, lol.....


Person like me go just dey laugh them





Seriously I can't leave any of my parents because of any girl......

So if there's need they can stay parmanently.

Isoduwa:

So when you crying for prick your people won't hear anything from the bedroom to the bathroom �

it’s like you know my life story