Riele:
You notice all these but went ahead to propose ? .

If a new lady hadn't stepped in , you wouldn't have noticed her flaws .

You are your problem .

BTW

I too don't like calling people neither do I visit people so I don't think there's anything wrong with your fiancee .

lecturer50:
Hello there everyone.

I have a problem which i want to share so that i can be advised accordingly.

There is a lady which i proposed marriage to and she accepted the proposal.

But the problem is this:

She has not called me for once.I have been the only one calling her always.

She does not want to stay close to me when people are around.

She does not want to come to see where i am living.

I feel that she is not that interested in me because of this.

I want to be desired/loved by a lady.

I want her to feel that she needs me in her life.

I like to feel important to a lady.

I want a lady to feel that she is lucky to marry me just as i am lucky to marry her.

That is the kind of lady i want to marry.

I want our desire(including sexual desire) for each other to be mutual.

But this lady(whom i proposed marriage to) seems to be the exact opposite.

She is behaving as if i am the only one that should be desiring her.

My friend says that maybe she does not want to look cheap.

But she had agreed to marry me,so the issue of being cheap should not arise.

If she had wanted to play hard to get,it could have been before she said 'yes' to my proposal.

But there is another woman from southern Kaduna.

That woman is all over me.

She desires me.

She makes me feel loved and important(The feeling is mutual).

She makes me feel loved/respect as a man.

She believes that she would be lucky if she marries me, since GOD has blessed me with a federal government job.

She even calls me 'My husband'

She calls me as often as i call her.

The problem is that i met this second woman after i had proposed to the first woman.

So i don't know what to do now.

Should i cancel my marriage proposal to the first lady?

Is it advisable?

Please i need advice.

Billyonaire369:
hey,you rarely reply on WhatsApp

Riele:
You notice all these but went ahead to propose ? .

If a new lady hadn't stepped in , you wouldn't have noticed her flaws .

You are your problem .

BTW

[s]I too don't like calling people neither do I visit people so I don't think there's anything wrong with your fiancee[/s] .

murphyibiam15:

The rest of your comment made sense except the cancelled part...op said fiancee and not people..if you don't like calling people that's different and not a fiancée...op talk to her, if no change abeg quit

Riele:

Riele:


I only sighted that example to let him know that there are people who don't like calls .

Riele:
You notice all these but went ahead to propose ? .

If a new lady hadn't stepped in , you wouldn't have noticed her flaws .

You are your problem .

BTW

I too don't like calling people neither do I visit people so I don't think there's anything wrong with your fiancee .

Riele:
You notice all these but went ahead to propose ? .

If a new lady hadn't stepped in , you wouldn't have noticed her flaws .

You are your problem .

BTW

I too don't like calling people neither do I visit people so I don't think there's anything wrong with your fiancee .

johnkey:
Marry the second lady or regret for the rest of your life. Never ever beg for love or attention.

lilwetdick:
she is not lucky to marry you that is why she isnt calling

you are not special, so stop hyping yourself

you better go with someone who feels you

SillyeRabbit:
Stop asking stupiddd advice. You know what to do yourself. If you want people to tell you what to do here, then you are not mentally fit for marriage.

olumide3367:
Leave am na. Is it by force? You better go and unpropose

Shibaraba:
Go and marry a piece of wood. At least e go useful take do firewood when you tire for am.

For The lady you described has zero feelings. Zero

Erediauwa:
I totally understand how you feel.... I have been in similar situation before, but as a smart dude, I quickly stepped out of the "one sided" relationship.

I will advise you to do same. Do not tolerate bullshit, it should be 50-50.

Erediauwa:
I totally understand how you feel.... I have been in similar situation before, but as a smart dude, I quickly stepped out of the "one sided" relationship.

I will advise you to do same. Do not tolerate bullshit, it should be 50-50.

rtdCivilservant:

Marry the two and observe which is better then after a year or two u divorce the evil one after all na muslim man u be.

murphyibiam15:

The rest of your comment made sense except the cancelled part...op said fiancee and not people..if you don't like calling people that's different and not a fiancée...op talk to her, if no change abeg quit

CopyJoe:
You noticed these traits in her before you proposed to her. That's the mistake people make in a relationship. There are things you don't overlook.

A failed relationship is better than a failed marriage. Don't marry her if you know you can't cope with all the things you've mentioned above.

Marry someone that cherishes and appreciates you.

Your love language is likely words of affirmation and/or quality time.

Riele:


I only sighted that example to let him know that there are people who don't like calls .

MJBOLT:

the op wants to look for a silly reason to cheat on his babe,the lady lacks what you desire in a woman yet you proposed to her abeg carry your cross

Prec1ous:
Sorry my guy, you are about to commit a blunder that is only less serious than going to hell (that is if it exist).

What exactly are you doing with a women who makes no effort? Sex, I can understand but marriage, that is a grevious violation of your sanity.

You better call it off. So imagine, I f you do not call for one month, you guys will not talk?

The lady is not digging you so bounce. It will hurt you a lot but bounce, delete everything that connects to her and BOUNCE NOW.

About your new miss, I have nothing to say but please, DELETE THAT LADY YOU PROPOSED TOO AS SOON AS YOU FINISH READING THIS COMMENT!

murphyibiam15:

Then you chat.. definitely communication is a means people use to show interest naturally irrespective of the means...no communication= no care or fvck given

CopyJoe:
You noticed these traits in her before you proposed to her. That's the mistake people make in a relationship. There are things you don't overlook.

A failed relationship is better than a failed marriage. Don't marry her if you know you can't cope with all the things you've mentioned above.

Marry someone that cherishes and appreciates you.

Your love language is likely words of affirmation and/or quality time.

Riele:


Did the OP mention that she doesn't chat ?

Billyonaire369:
did I said anything funny?are you interested in talking privately or not,lemme know now........,don't waste my expensive time

Prec1ous:
Sorry my guy, you are about to commit a blunder that is only less serious than going to hell (that is if it exist).

What exactly are you doing with a women who makes no effort? Sex, I can understand but marriage, that is a grevious violation of your sanity.

You better call it off. So imagine, I f you do not call for one month, you guys will not talk?

The lady is not digging you so bounce. It will hurt you a lot but bounce, delete everything that connects to her and BOUNCE NOW.

About your new miss, I have nothing to say but please, DELETE THAT LADY YOU PROPOSED TOO AS SOON AS YOU FINISH READING THIS COMMENT!

murphyibiam15:

He didn't mention that, so she can chat up if calling is stressful to initiate

Riele:


He didn't mention that .

It could mean she chats which is still communication .

Riele:


You shouldn't waste your precious time .

Riele:
You notice all these but went ahead to propose ? .

If a new lady hadn't stepped in , you wouldn't have noticed her flaws .

You are your problem .

BTW

I too don't like calling people neither do I visit people so I don't think there's anything wrong with your fiancee .