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. by Beosten(op): 9:25am On Jan 01, 2020*

Re: . by dawnomike(m): 9:30am On Jan 01, 2020

I really understand what you're going through...You don't need to force your opinion, you guys need to sit down and talk it out this new year!
NB: Speak to her from your heart and not your head

Re: . by Nobody: 9:35am On Jan 01, 2020

Take charge, no matter how educated and intelligent a woman is, they need our guidance. Not that they are dumb, they let emotions sometimes override logic.

Never leave life changing decisions to a woman. Leave the interior decor and such less important decisions to them. You've been warned.

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Re: . by faithfull18(f): 9:42am On Jan 01, 2020

Gaggi:
Take charge, no matter how educated and intelligent a woman is, they need our guidance. Not that they are dumb, they let emotions sometimes override logic.

Never leave life changing decisions to a woman. Leave the interior decor and such less important decisions to them. You've been warned.

Now, I see where you are coming from, smh.

Re: . by GuestLog: 9:43am On Jan 01, 2020

Gaggi:
Take charge, no matter how educated and intelligent a woman is, they need our guidance. Not that they are dumb, they let emotions sometimes override logic.

Never leave life changing decisions to a woman. Leave the interior decor and such less important decisions to them. You've been warned.

This is a fact I learnt after marriage! It is the ULTIMATE truth on so many levels.

Think about it. Women have a hard time deciding what to wear, how much more life changing decisions? It's the reason women love decisive men.

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Re: . by Nobody: 9:44am On Jan 01, 2020

faithfull18:
Now, I see where you are coming from, smh.

Facts of life. We left the decision to Eve and see where we are now.

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Re: . by Beosten(op): 9:47am On Jan 01, 2020

faithfull18:
Now, I see where you are coming from, smh.

Lol. Don't take it personal. He is being satirical with that comment.

Re: . by internationalman(m): 9:57am On Jan 01, 2020

alpha males everywhere online but omega males everywhere offline..

respect to the women folks for giving these self acclaimed online alpha males tough time.

most of these peeps are also the go and make money crew

it's funny that despite their surplus money, women keep teaching them hard lessons.

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Re: . by Beosten(op): 10:08am On Jan 01, 2020

internationalman:
alpha males everywhere online but omega males everywhere offline..

respect to the women folks for giving these self acclaimed online alpha males tough time.

most of these peeps are also the go and make money crew

it's funny that despite their surplus money, women keep teaching them hard lessons.

You have been noticed.

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Re: . by mysticwarrior(m): 10:16am On Jan 01, 2020*

Beosten:
I married a very mature, educated woman. But as a person who grew up fighting many battles -- financial, spiritual, physical threats from land grabbers etc -- there is almost no sphere of life I have no adequate knowledge of.

I'm a very libral person and will never force my opinion on anyone. So, my wife always gets away with taking decisions that will affect both of us--affect both of us in the sense that they were life threatening decisions; I will only get hurt for losing a loved one. In all the cases where she went against my advice, she regretted, wept profusely and I spent a fortune because of her folishness.

I love this woman more than anything on this planet. But it seems she is not ready to learn her lessons anytime soon. There are some decisions that even if you consult Socrates and Plato about, they would ask you to go ahead; but I have this gift of astral premonition and presaging dreams, and can tell, from miles away, the decisions that will backfire.

So, should I start forcing my will on her to avert dangers?

oga tell us exactly Wetin your wife do and how her foolishness take backfire.

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Re: . by Amanee(f): 10:31am On Jan 01, 2020

Both of you are partners

It's not anything about men making better decisions than women

You are both supposed to consult each other and air your opinions respectfully then agree on a decision. In cases where you both cannot agree, compromise.

Nobody's opinion is better than the other, nobody has more sense than the other. You're just two individuals with different ways of looking at things

Op stop resenting your wife secretly and broadcasting her failures. There are times your own decision backfires too, nobody is perfect.

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Re: . by Goodgod213: 11:34am On Jan 01, 2020

The only thing women in Nigeria knows are makeups and wigs with eyelashes.

Even to get dressed takes them 3 days. And you are talking of life changing decisions. Her own life never change na she wan make the life Chan hit decision for you.

Women are writeoffs honestly

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Re: . by Pavore9: 12:52pm On Jan 01, 2020

"but I have this gift of astral premonition and presaging dreams, and can tell, from miles away, the decisions that will backfire"....You had all these gifts and you were foolish enough to marry a foolish woman? shocked

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Re: . by Ishilove: 12:58pm On Jan 01, 2020

mysticwarrior:
oga tell us exactly Wetin your wife do and how how foolishness take backfire.

Abi. After all the grammar no solid example

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Re: . by Pavore9: 1:07pm On Jan 01, 2020

Goodgod213:
The only thing women in Nigeria knows are makeups and wigs with eyelashes.

Even to get dressed takes them 3 days. And you are talking of life changing decisions. Her own life never change na she wan make the life Chan hit decision for you.

Women are writeoffs honestly

I believe you are referring to the females in your family who you grew up observing.

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Re: . by Beosten(op): 1:31pm On Jan 01, 2020

Pavore9:
"but I have this gift of astral premonition and presaging dreams, and can tell, from miles away, the decisions that will backfire"....You had all these gifts and you were foolish enough to marry a foolish woman?

I'm Godsent to her. Deal with that. Only decisions she had power to take backfired. Other decisions she had no power over but taken on her behalf by me are what she will be eternally grateful for.

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Re: . by Nobody: 1:35pm On Jan 01, 2020*

Women do not reason logically when a topic has emotional potential so you should not permit her to make strategic decisions. It is best practise to ask for, and take, as much of her input as you wish; but ALWAYS; the final decision must be yours as the head of the family.

Most wives do not appreciate being the decision makers anyway, and odds are that on those occasions where her decisions backfired, she must have blamed you for not rejecting her advice.

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Re: . by olril17(m): 1:36pm On Jan 01, 2020

Beosten:
I married a very mature, educated woman. But as a person who grew up fighting many battles -- financial, spiritual, physical threats from land grabbers etc -- there is almost no sphere of life I have no adequate knowledge of.

I'm a very libral person and will never force my opinion on anyone. So, my wife always gets away with taking decisions that will affect both of us--affect both of us in the sense that they were life threatening decisions; I will only get hurt for losing a loved one. In all the cases where she went against my advice, she regretted, wept profusely and I spent a fortune because of her folishness.

I love this woman more than anything on this planet. But it seems she is not ready to learn her lessons anytime soon. There are some decisions that even if you consult Socrates and Plato about, they would ask you to go ahead; but I have this gift of astral premonition and presaging dreams, and can tell, from miles away, the decisions that will backfire.

So, should I start forcing my will on her to avert dangers?

Another Half man. o ga ooo

Re: . by Pavore9: 1:40pm On Jan 01, 2020

Beosten:
I'm Godsent to her. Deal with that. Only decisions she had power to take backfired. Other decisions she had no power over but taken on her behalf by me are what she will be eternally grateful for.

Signs that someone has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

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Re: . by pocohantas(f): 1:49pm On Jan 01, 2020

e-alpha males.

Women do not take strategic, logical and important decisions, but a woman took a decision not to abort y'all.

Maybe it was not so strategic after all.

grin

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Re: . by Nobody: 1:54pm On Jan 01, 2020

pocohantas:
e-alpha males.

Women do not take strategic, logical and important decisions, but a woman took a decision not to abort y'all.

Maybe it was not so strategic after all.

It would not have been to her advantage to do so. A woman needs children for future financial support when her husband becomes unproductive.

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Re: . by pocohantas(f): 1:56pm On Jan 01, 2020

Pavore9:
"but I have this gift of astral premonition and presaging dreams, and can tell, from miles away, the decisions that will backfire"....You had all these gifts and you were foolish enough to marry a foolish woman?

Audio gifts everywhere.

We dey hear am, we no dey see am grin

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Re: . by Beosten(op): 2:14pm On Jan 01, 2020

pocohantas:
Audio gifts everywhere.

We dey hear am, we no dey see am

This one will tey for Shiloh in search of a man

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Re: . by Nobody: 2:21pm On Jan 01, 2020

Beosten:
I'm Godsent to her. Deal with that. Only decisions she had power to take backfired. Other decisions she had no power over but taken on her behalf by me are what she will be eternally grateful for.

This is how it starts.
Tomorrow u will start sulking like your brother in the other thread. Although u have already started without knowing it cheesy

U guys never learn cheesy

Godsend indeed grin

Meanwhile, u didn't say what she did that backfired. Even one.

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Re: . by pocohantas(f): 2:28pm On Jan 01, 2020*

Beosten:
This one will tey for Shiloh in search of a man

Where is Shiloh? Quit the Shiloh threats jare. Is it difficult to get Nigerian horseband?

1. Just (pretend to) be submissive.
2. Be a good cook, be HOMELY and DOMESTICATED.
3. If he is into premarital sex, knack am well. Don't overdo o, lest he wonders how many times you have done a split in the middle.
4. If you have worldly friends, hide them from him.
5. Never speak ill of his family.
6. Follow him to his village and wash his mother's clothes. She'll endorse you.
7. Massage his ego and that of his friends.
8. Be very pro-men, deny feminism with every thing in you. All feminists are unfortunate.
9. Never question any expense he wants to make for his family.
10. Always ask after his family's wellbeing.
11. Tell him how you can forgive a cheating man. You believe in fighting for your home.
12. Always remind him a man is the head of the home.
13. Always try to take some blame for his wrongdoings (e.g) if/when he cheats or slaps you, acknowledge you must have pushed him to do it. Now ask how you can help him be a better horseband.
14. Always consult him for decision making. Men like to be in charge.
15. Don't saddle him with your responsibilities or family responsibilities. Just respect him while being very independent. When he does things for you, appreciate them.

After marriage, you can decide to change. No campaign after election. Don't worry, he will most likely not divorce you. Women initiate most divorce.

Did I miss anything? If I do all the above, while retaining my innate evil tendencies, you think I will still visit Shiloh? grin

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Re: . by MajorWarren: 2:33pm On Jan 01, 2020

Gaggi:
Take charge, no matter how educated and intelligent a woman is, they need our guidance. Not that they are dumb, they let emotions sometimes override logic.

Never leave life changing decisions to a woman. Leave the interior decor and such less important decisions to them. You've been warned.

They don’t need guidance. You both need it cos it’s a marriage. You talk to each other before making any decisions.
Man said never leave life changing decisions to a woman huh

, what a twàt.

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Re: . by Beosten(op): 2:34pm On Jan 01, 2020

sassysure:
This is how it starts.
Tomorrow u will start sulking like your brother in the other thread. Although u have already started without knowing it
U guys never learn

Godsend indeed

Meanwhile, u didn't say what she did that backfired. Even one.

They are beyond what you can understand. All stories of supernatural incidents you read on nairaland, which one did you ever believe? I don't want some kids to start recommending a psychologist for me.

Re: . by itsme01: 2:36pm On Jan 01, 2020

make decissions always thats why you are the head you only need to consult her for advise and to inform her of your decission

Re: . by Froshloaded: 2:42pm On Jan 01, 2020

pocohantas:
Where is Shiloh? Quit the Shiloh threats jare. Is it difficult to get Nigerian horseband?

1. Just (pretend to) be submissive.
2. Be a good cook, be HOMELY and DOMESTICATED.
3. If he is into premarital sex, knack am well. Don't overdo o, lest he wonders how many times you have done a split in the middle.
4. If you have worldly friends, hide them from him.
5. Never speak ill of his family.
6. Follow him to his village and wash his mother's clothes. She'll endorse you.
7. Massage his ego and that of his friends.
8. Be very pro-men, deny feminism with every thing in you. All feminists are unfortunate.
9. Never question any expense he wants to make for his family.
10. Always ask after his family's wellbeing.
11. Tell him how you can forgive a cheating man. You believe in fighting for your home.
12. Always remind him a man is the head of the home.
13. Always try to take some blame for his wrongdoings (e.g) if/when he cheats or slaps you, acknowledge you must have pushed him to do it. Now ask how you can help him be a better horseband.
14. Always consult him for decision making. Men like to be in charge.
15. Don't saddle him with your responsibilities or family responsibilities. But respect him while being very independent.

After marriage, you can decide to change. No campaign after election. Don't worry, he will most likely not divorce you. Women initiate most divorce.

Did I miss anything? If I do all the above, while retaining my innate evil tendencies, you think I will still visit Shiloh?

mad oo

Re: . by itsme01: 2:44pm On Jan 01, 2020

pocohantas:
e-alpha males.

Women do not take strategic, logical and important decisions, but a woman took a decision not to abort y'all.

Maybe it was not so strategic after all.

aunty this is 2020 abeg show us your "horseband" and stop throwing tantrums online... E-Feminist without an Horseband is that one a Feminist

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