Ifyjos:
Yes it is not a big deal

Ifyjos:
Yes u are right , what we did was so bad , I regrets my actions and am trying to reunite them again. I will try to go to his office in the afternoon and hope he will accept to see me

Ifyjos:
He is 29

olajide8:
These are the so called marlians abi wetin una dey call am - u are a baby mama to a guy that doesn't even know what he wants - and the only adjective u can use to quantify him is he is a good guy - una weydon Ma*

Nsarug80:
Your sister wanted you to get married to a responsible & God-fearing man, not a serial smoker with a bleak future; hence her decision to vehemently oppose your relationship. Sadly, you conspired with that paedophile to inflict such an unquantifiable emotional torture on her.

You are indeed a terrible sister for allowing hate & bitterness get the better of you. If you were my sister (God forbid), I'll NEVER forgive you till eternity.

Fastestmanalive:

See you I feel bad for u sef Instead of you to beg for her forgiveness so God can forgive you you're keeping quiet

Well...

sedutrice:


I am saddened by this news

Ifyjos:
Please don’t be , I love him the way it is and am
Not ashamed of him

DexterousOne:


This is another thing...
The guy may be an adult who messed with her when she was 15

izzygoing:


My dear, what u did to your own blood elder sister was very very bad, but who am I to judge you, the only thing u need now is good counseling, and also try and open up on time before it is too late. with the backlash, you are getting here if you don't make things right before your sister finds out, u might even commit suicide.

izzygoing:


can you call me? let me help u since you are scared

In fact, check your inbox and get back to me.

Ifyjos:
He did not messed up with my life at all. We are together and our relationship is strong

Ifyjos:
Ok I will try and tell them the truth but suicide is far away from me.

izzygoing:




this is my number 09090449871 call me immediately

DexterousOne:


Okay then

If you don't mind
Can you pls indicate the age of this man who loves you so much ?


I'll give him one credit tho
Just one

He did not run away or deny his pregnancy
That's good of him
Many young men will jaa

Ifyjos:
He is 29

Ifyjos:
Pls r u a man or woman ?

Ifyjos:
Yes I will beg her because I want to be set free and be in peace

Ifyjos:
I did it out of anger and I regret my actions

2019elections:
No, from her post the boyfriend has been and the sister helps when the guy is broke. For that reason, she insults her and the guy. Come on, u can only force a horse to d river, u can't force it to drink from it. If the sister has vehemently refused to back off from him, then they should all respect her decision rather than making her a subject of redicle.

eyinjuege:
You would be surprised that the OP and her boyfriend could have killed the sister's fiance just to punish her sister, if the guy had refused to leave the relationship.
They won't touch the sister because of the already existing police case, as all eyes would be on them. Imagine, she said she felt like pouring acid on her own sister , that's after her and her yeye boyfriend already beat the sister blue and black o (hence the police involvement).
OP and her yeye boyfriend are dangerous beings ..

Ifyjos:
We lives with our parents and yes she provided foods and clothes for my daughter which is normal for her to do because my daughter is also her daughter. I have brought foods in the house , everything we ate for Xmas and new year was from the money that my guy gave to
Me to buy foodstuffs. Yes God will provide for us , he will be rich , marry me and we will happily

What about the guy's family? Why can't they step in to support you and the baby?

Gippeum:
Hi... Hello sorry... First of all people are not "sentimental fools" for not thinking the way you do..... Also you realize that the OP was 15 when she got pregnant... Apparently 14 when they started dating (eurgh).... The man was 24.... No sibling would enjoy seeing that at all...

At 15 her life just basically started and to have it distorted not because of an accident but because of something that was willfully caused by the OP themselves and, judging by the way she has been responding, feels no remorse for... Can be annoying... The sister most likely voiced her concerns about the guy from the get go....

And NO the guy gets no brownie points for "accepting the child", that is his responsibility you get no brownie points for doing your responsibility... And to keep seeing her sister continue the predatory relationship... Because yes it IS predatory... With the guyy is something that can push the sister to anger...

You're talking as if they we're just maintaining a co-parent relationship... They were more likely than not STILL sexually involved with each other... Wouldn't you be angry as a sister seeing this? Even in her disappointment and anger she never shirked from the responsibility of her niece...

Yes she insulted and that isn't right at all but her anger was not from a "vengeful or bitter" place... It was most likely from an angry and disappointed place... And you keep emphasizing on the fact that she locked them up... She was physically assaulted in her OWN home... Because you can't honestly tell me that it started and ended with a slap, seeing as the boyfriend, who hates the sister, was present... And the assault was initiated by her sister, so wys?..Biko please she DESERVED to be locked up.... Miss me with that unconditional love thing....

The op is a petulant, entitled and unrepentant child... Also you talk about cussing and raging.... Don't you watch movies? When you see the characters making silly mistakes do you just go "oh that's right my dear one go on... You can do it" or do you yell and insult?...

The sister is not a saint... She should have encouraged the sister and held her closer BUT her very vocal disapproval of the guy is extremely justified... He's not educated, without a steady job, not even living on his own... Lets push that aside... He smokes AND drinks ejo.... That is not someone I would want my sister to be with also...

He was a 23 year old man lusting after a 14!!! Year old girl... He ain't nothing special either.... The OP is keeping a man that isn't that great an influence not only around her but around her child... Who is an impressionable 5 year old... Not great as well...

Also the sister didn't squander it all on vengeance the OP squandered it in vengeance, don't get it mixed up
You said she got depressed when her fiancee broke up with her so she mustn't be a strong woman...

This was what made me want to reply... First of all how dare you? This is a woman whose marriage was 3-4 months away and for no apparent reason it was canceled, her fiancee is someone she must have been with for quite a while if she was comfortable to marry him...

And to have him end it FOR NO APPARENT REASON!! Is painful and she most likely loved her fiancee... That is enough emotional trauma and her depression is justified and has absolutely NOTHING to do with strength... Its a harrowing experience...

Second of all, the sister most likely has dreamed and planned and laughed and rejoiced about her upcoming nuptials and to have all that snatched is brutal.... As a psychologist I can tell you that depression is not a test of "strength" so please try not to make such statements in future as it might make people suffering from depression feel weak and that ain't helpful...

OP is not doing herself any favors by keeping her boyfriend around... I don't know about others but I'm not disapproving because he's presently not rich but I'm disapproving because he seemingly has no game plan... He's not someone to be trusted with her childs future...

Hard work is not it anymore its smart work now b... The OP should try and establish herself and make something of herself for her daughter and stop saying we will be rich in Jesus name... Because they have a child to consider...

Ifyjos:
Ok if he leaves me it won’t be the end of the world too , but what I know is that me and him will grow old together . Only death can separate us.

blujoi:
Do you realize they have a child together? It’s so easy to throw blames when it’s not us involved. The family as a whole did not handle the matter well. The elder sister has a duty to call the guy and have a heart to heart talk with him. If the elder sister was thinking right,she should have been concerned in taking that guy off the street because her sister and her child is involved. Actions have consequences

CeterisXVII:


The sister helps...why? Because the boyfriend has defaulted. The boyfriend does not feed the girl he impregnated. The sister is still the breadwinner, of the entire house.

The girl's situation has not improved in 5 years, yet she still hangs around the boy who messed up her life and education. And you are asking them to respect her decision?

If she wanted them to respect her decision, then she needs to be financially independent, and also be responsible enough to get accomodation elsewhere.

In Naija, your family cannot be feeding you, housing you and then supporting you financially, and then you start forming that "they should respect your decision", when everyone can see that the decision you have made till date, is not the best thing for you, as it hasn't worked well so far....

The sister is terrified that the guy could impregnate her a 2nd time around, and compound her problems!

1Sharon:
Clearly his relationship is easily controllable if he can dump his GF over a random phone call.

Maybe them coming apart was a blessing in disguise for the elder sister.

If this story is true

Ifyjos:
She was beating me so My guy beat her up for self defence. he beat her with respect so it wasn’t that bad. She arrested us to proof that she has the money and can do whatever she like

Ifyjos:
Actually she sat on me and was beating me so when the beating was too much , he just couldn’t stand them watching her beating me so he pulled her and throw her on the floor , so I had to holds her hands while he was giving her small slaps to calm her down

Ifyjos:
Please don’t be , I love him the way it is and am
Not ashamed of him