Geminiman:
Good morning,

I have a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 3 years. I do the little I can to support her every now and then but the issue has in most instances always been the Physical aspect of the relationship.

Having sex is a far cry from the present situation. Sometimes after making out, she would tell me she feels guilty. If we making out, she'd tell me don't touch this, don't touch that. Sometimes during the making out sessions, when we are close to having sex she'd just turn her back to me, I'd ask if there's a problem, she would tell me there isn't. Many times she would tell me we have to stop the making out thing and all. In most instances, I suck it up.

You see the whole thing is pathetic. Pathetic in the sense that I have a girlfriend and still jack off. Although having a GF and jacking off are two mutually exclusive things, the former ought to reduce or even stop the former.

Some weeks ago we had a misunderstanding and she sent me a text message containing several things, but the most striking was "... can't you do something without always expecting something in return".

I was bewildered. To begin with it was her pouring salt on the already festering injury. Secondly, I can't particularly say we have done anything sexual per say. It was really humiliating for me.

These days, I don't even think about her in a sexual manner, in short I don't even get an erection because of her. And I told her this morning I want us to stop the making out and all.

I am not cheating on her or intending to, I jack off, it suffices. All in a bid to maintain sanity. I don't just want to get humiliated or insulted over such pettiness or her thinking she's doing me some sort of favour by making out with me. She's been giving me attitude because of that.

Was I wrong?

Cc Harddon, Ubunja

Geminiman:
Good morning,

I have a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 3 years. I do the little I can to support her every now and then but the issue has in most instances always been the Physical aspect of the relationship.

Having sex is a far cry from the present situation. Sometimes after making out, she would tell me she feels guilty. If we making out, she'd tell me don't touch this, don't touch that. Sometimes during the making out sessions, when we are close to having sex she'd just turn her back to me, I'd ask if there's a problem, she would tell me there isn't. Many times she would tell me we have to stop the making out thing and all. In most instances, I suck it up.

You see the whole thing is pathetic. Pathetic in the sense that I have a girlfriend and still jack off. Although having a GF and jacking off are two mutually exclusive things, the former ought to reduce or even stop the former.

Some weeks ago we had a misunderstanding and she sent me a text message containing several things, but the most striking was "... can't you do something without always expecting something in return".

I was bewildered. To begin with it was her pouring salt on the already festering injury. Secondly, I can't particularly say we have done anything sexual per say. It was really humiliating for me.

These days, I don't even think about her in a sexual manner, in short I don't even get an erection because of her. And I told her this morning I want us to stop the making out and all.

I am not cheating on her or intending to, I jack off, it suffices. All in a bid to maintain sanity. I don't just want to get humiliated or insulted over such pettiness or her thinking she's doing me some sort of favour by making out with me. She's been giving me attitude because of that.

Was I wrong?

Cc Harddon, Ubunja

Geminiman:
Good morning,

I have a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 3 years. I do the little I can to support her every now and then but the issue has in most instances always been the Physical aspect of the relationship.

Having sex is a far cry from the present situation. Sometimes after making out, she would tell me she feels guilty. If we making out, she'd tell me don't touch this, don't touch that. Sometimes during the making out sessions, when we are close to having sex she'd just turn her back to me, I'd ask if there's a problem, she would tell me there isn't. Many times she would tell me we have to stop the making out thing and all. In most instances, I suck it up.

You see the whole thing is pathetic. Pathetic in the sense that I have a girlfriend and still jack off. Although having a GF and jacking off are two mutually exclusive things, the former ought to reduce or even stop the latter.

Some weeks ago we had a misunderstanding and she sent me a text message containing several things, but the most striking was "... can't you do something without always expecting something in return".

I was bewildered. To begin with it was her pouring salt on the already festering injury. Secondly, I can't particularly say we have done anything sexual per say. It was really humiliating for me.

These days, I don't even think about her in a sexual manner, in short I don't even get an erection because of her. And I told her this morning I want us to stop the making out and all.

I am not cheating on her or intending to, I jack off, it suffices. All in a bid to maintain sanity. I don't just want to get humiliated or insulted over such pettiness or her thinking she's doing me some sort of favour by making out with me. She's been giving me attitude because of that.

Was I wrong?

Cc Harddon, Ubunja

ubunja:
she won't give you sex? Easy! Tell her you will have sex with or without her.

If she's not ready for sex tell her it's Okay. You will wait for her to be ready. But in the meantime you'll make plans to get it from somewhere.

If she asks what that means, Tell her "you know what that means".

Now, either she'll breakup with you or burst her legs open for you. Either way it's a win for you. If she drops you atleast you won't be spending without sexing.... Take that chance and see what happens. And update us.

DanDeeBoss:

ubunja:
that tactic works like clockwork.
But a guy has to be prepared to lose the girl. But like everything, it's when you're prepared to walk away that things start going your way.

Omar09:


Use that line only this time she asked me what I wanted from her, I knew deep down she wanted to date me, I just told her let's be fvck buddies. Long story short, she dumped me.

But guess who's sending text every now and then?

QueenSuccubus:


Holy SEX!

U better ask urself first.. What do u really want in a relationship? Is it bcoz of sex?

Or

Are you willing to be with her thru thick & thin no matter ..

Now, if you can't live without having sex & she's not ready.. U better talk to her & tell your feelings about it.. Communication is very important in a relationship.

Geminiman:
Good morning,

I have a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 3 years. I do the little I can to support her every now and then but the issue has in most instances always been the Physical aspect of the relationship.

Having sex is a far cry from the present situation. Sometimes after making out, she would tell me she feels guilty. If we making out, she'd tell me don't touch this, don't touch that. Sometimes during the making out sessions, when we are close to having sex she'd just turn her back to me, I'd ask if there's a problem, she would tell me there isn't. Many times she would tell me we have to stop the making out thing and all. In most instances, I suck it up.

You see the whole thing is pathetic. Pathetic in the sense that I have a girlfriend and still jack off. Although having a GF and jacking off are two mutually exclusive things, the former ought to reduce or even stop the latter.

Some weeks ago we had a misunderstanding and she sent me a text message containing several things, but the most striking was "... can't you do something without always expecting something in return".

I was bewildered. To begin with it was her pouring salt on the already festering injury. Secondly, I can't particularly say we have done anything sexual per say. It was really humiliating for me.

These days, I don't even think about her in a sexual manner, in short I don't even get an erection because of her. And I told her this morning I want us to stop the making out and all.

I am not cheating on her or intending to, I jack off, it suffices. All in a bid to maintain sanity. I don't just want to get humiliated or insulted over such pettiness or her thinking she's doing me some sort of favour by making out with me. She's been giving me attitude because of that.

Was I wrong?

Cc Hard.don, Ubu.nja

Preshy561:

Focus on other things rather than thinking about sex with someone you are yet to marry.
I don't why some of you are like this.

ubunja:
the guy has said already he's giving material things to the girl. If he's giving yet getting nothing back he may as well sign up for the Salvation Army and rather donate all the money to them. Atleast God pays back in blessings.

A305:
A girl hates the idea of sex by a nice guy but loves to feel wanted by them. Only the bad guys take sex from them before acting nice. Then go back to acting deceptive for more sex with her and before she realizes, she's no longer in control.

Op, Tell her, you short of cash and can't continuing making financial sacrifices if she continues to hoard sex and that you better off buying sex elsewhere. Don't even sugar coat it, Be real.

A305:
A girl hates the idea of sex by a nice guy but loves to feel wanted by them. Only the bad guys take sex from them before acting nice. Then go back to acting deceptive for more sex with her and before she realizes, she's no longer in control.

Op, Tell her, you short and tell her you get sex some where else.

Preshy561:

If he wishes then. But he shouldn't force the girl to fornicate.

ubunja:
lol but had she specifically turned down sex repeatedly?

Preshy561:

All these una bad guy, good guy nonsense no deh tire una?

ubunja:
agreed. He must not force her. But he needs to put his foot down and take charge of the situation.

A305:
You seem not to get it Madame, It's called power dynamics and the triat with the most will power.

A bad guy "willpower" easily infiltrates, confuses and influences the decision of a woman. It's interesting because she would know she's being manipulated but won't be able to call it quit unless the guy does. Now that's power dynamics.

Preshy561:

Bla bla bla shitty ass talk. Bad guy without money to show for it can't even influence the decision of a year2 student.

If you are forming bad guy without money, better go and carry your fellow olosho Cos, they are there to satisfy you and themselves.

A305:
Trust me a bad guy usually has something women want. Dress sense, Money, Intelligence, Body, Good look(face) or even his sense of humor and etc.

There would always be olosho when there are draught of women in some season but in some other season, the successfully conquered women might even start paying his bills.

Don't underestimate the conquest of women by a badboy.

Preshy561:

Ah!! If a bad guy has all these and the lady only gives him sex, who's actually the bad person?
Seems y'all don't know how women work. I will let you wallow in your ego.

A305:
A guy just needs to have just one of those with a style then, the rest they say will be history.

Remember, Women believes everything everything he says, when she's helplessly under the control of a bad boy. That's how women mind works.

Preshy561:

Relationship is about communication, if it's not working out for them; after they must have sorted for solution, they can decide to take the exit door. Everything isn't by force.

Jewessgratitude:
Oga, marry her! Three years of dating and all you still thinking of is jacking and making out with her.

Shes my kind of girl. If the only thing you do or talk about in a relationship is sex, sex sex, then let her pack you one corner.
That is how youll end up wasting her time and one day tell her shes not giving you what want and end the relationship.

I keep telling girls, wise up! No more premarital sex. It doesn't guarantee marriage. If he can't stay, let him get the hell outa the way for the real G.
Dont let them finish all the juice and plump body meant for that innocent man that will come and be sucking air. Biko.

She's giving you attitude cos three years of being with you is just a waste.
No meaningful plan or arrangements to do the right thing. So go and do the needful.

ubunja:
only losers pay for What they are not getting.