Hi all, I came across this comment online and I must agree, the comment is true.

’When are we going to accept that the era of marriage have passed? 2 cannot become 1, do not deceive yourself. Women have constantly evolved over the years. Men are not ready to evolve. It can’t work’

How true is this? Opinions needed please

Lalasticlala what do u have to say?

No

money121:
No

No what?

Overrated

You thought Devil was joking with God when he planned to lead Gods creation to destruction?

see marriage and wedding na two different things.
most of u prepare for weddings not marriage,marriage takes alot to work.
u need to be ready mentally and emotionally but these days na weak ass Men dey everywhere and whining Women.

Couples should learn how to start seeing marriage as a contract. Draw out a plan, state your likes and dislikes, discuss about raising kids and how they will be raised. Learn how to reach a compromise, split roles and responsibilities. Every year, learn to review the contract and if it is worth renewing, then go ahead and do it.

The problem most couples have is that, they just jump right into marriage without having any form of major discussions. Then they begin to live by assumptions. While the wife assumes that the husband should be responsible for the financial upkeep of the home, the husband assumes that all the wife needs is to be a stay at home mom and raise kids.

Then the disagreement sets in and before you know, everything hits rock bottom. And the Lamentations begins: "Oh! Had I know".

What's with the red blood stains on the pic? What are u hiding.

Marriage can never go extinct. A union instituted by God can never. Just say the devil is working tirelessly to bring problems in a union.

We4all:
Couples should learn how to start seeing marriage as a contract. Draw out a plan, state your likes and dislikes, discuss about raising kids and how they will be raised. Learn how to reach a compromise, split roles and responsibilities. Every year, learn to review the contract and if it is worth renewing, then go ahead and do it.

The problem most couples have is that, they just jump right into marriage without having any form of major discussions. Then they begin to live by assumptions. While the wife assumes that the husband should be responsible for the financial upkeep of the home, the husband assumes that all the wife needs is to be a stay at home mom and raise kids.

Then the disagreement sets in and before you know, everything hits rock bottom. And the Lamentations begins: "Oh! Had I know".

I agree with you. I will slightly bend. These signs of incompatibility are always there. But we do make mistake of believing ‘PEOPLE CHANGE’ and with time, they will change. It’s very wrong, PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE

LadySwitz:
What's with the red blood stains on the pic? What are u hiding.

Marriage can never go extinct. A union instituted by God can never. Just say the devil is working tirelessly to bring problems in a union.

Are you not bothered by the rate at which marriages crash these days?

ExBachelor:
Are you not bothered by the rate at which marriages crash these days?

A bit bothered...but we still have marriages standing the test of time. You won't know cos they don't put their shit on the internet for the whole world to delve into.

You are using celebrity marriages as a yardstick to ascertain dwindling marriages.

LadySwitz:


A bit bothered...but we still have marriages standing the test of time. You won't know cos they don't put their shit on the internet for the whole world to delve into.

You are using celebrity marriages as a yardstick to ascertain dwindling marriages.

Celebrities are part of the society.

Yes she’s 100 percent right. Women are evolving constantly and bettering themselves meanwhile men prefer to be stuck in the stone ages.

We’ve seen threads on nairaland, heck I just left one now where the posters agree that men can cheat but women cant, in other words women are the only ones that can feel the emotional pains of being cheated on but the ones causing the pains should be pampered.

Marriage is not business a usual because more and more women are getting exposed,educated and financially stable which is pretty much the only thing men really can offer that’s why you see them always talking about which woman ate their money and who didn’t.


Over 70% of divorce are filed by women what does that tell you?!

What's with the idea that "men don't want to change".

See, people have to decide to be married. After that, they have to individually not take their partner for granted.

It's very easy to do so. They have to consciously refuse to do so. No be beans.

That's your comment OP
Don't say you came across it

Back to topic

What is the meaning of men don't want to change

She's a feminist

I think baby mamarism has taken over, in the US you get to see alot of women giving birth without getting married.

I agree that most men have refused to evolve.

Women have evolved so much... they are now educated, have ambitions, have now realised that they are deserving of respect, that they can and should be heard...

But some of the ways in which women have evolved are not all positive ways. There's a growing faction of feminists that is simply misandry in disguise... there's a category of women who have become so full of pride and can no longer be submissive to a husband's authority...another category who are "woke" in a strange way... they want to compete with men in promiscuity... they say they are sexually expressive...

But you see men have remained the same way. And for some men, they've become a problem because they've refused to make the necessary adjustments... to realise that women in this century can not be as women in the last century were.

Be that as it may... marriage can never go into extinction. Just find a person who's right for you... someone you can accomodate happily without losing yourself in the process.

JeffreyD1:
That's your comment OP
Don't say you came across it

Back to topic

What is the meaning of men don't want to change

She's a feminist

Men don’t want to change because we still believe in the old ways of women being 100% submissive to their husbands and responsible for holding the house/family while the men just goes out and does whatever they want

ExBachelor:
Men don’t want to change because we still believe in the old ways of women being 100% submissive to their husbands and responsible for holding the house/family while the men just goes out and does whatever they want

They don't go out and do whatever they want
They go out and work and bring money home
They work to feed the woman

LadySwitz:


A bit bothered...but we still have marriages standing the test of time. You won't know cos they don't put their shit on the internet for the whole world to delve into.

You are using celebrity marriages as a yardstick to ascertain dwindling marriages.

God bless you real good! You took the words straight out from my heart.. The gate of hell shall not prevail over marriages in Nigeria in Jesus name amen!

No, it is not. The views of and attitudes toward marriage are evolving.

Dr Sid's account balance has depleted over the years as a result of draught of good songs in his career. Could this be a reason why the marriage is heading for the rock?
I noticed that Artists who are married before fame always pull through any challenges,but those who got married after making millions from their one hit always crash. They probably married the wrong person who married them for their money and fame. Ladies who wouldn't look at them twice not to talk of dating them if they were still struggling.

If you use shame and fear to hold a marriage together, by the time the ashamed and frightened party learns to not be afraid or ashamed anymore, there’s nothing left to hold it together. Many marriages are holding because one partner or the other is afraid of speaking up. One person will be shamed and blamed for everything that goes wrong in the marriage.

So in order not to bring all negativity to themselves, they stay and bear it. But being together doesn’t always means being happy. so, for those of you worried about the number of divorces happening now, have you considered that maybe they are happier now?

What we should have been working on as a society is to promote love. Funny thing though. People don’t even want to see others have love in their lives. They mock and belittle it. Yet they are somehow “shocked” when two people can’t live together forever.

Y’alls gotta choose your battles. Are you the proverbial village people? Don’t want to see folks happy together. Don’t want to see them breakup.

We4all:
Couples should learn how to start seeing marriage as a contract. Draw out a plan, state your likes and dislikes, discuss about raising kids and how they will be raised. Learn how to reach a compromise, split roles and responsibilities. Every year, learn to review the contract and if it is worth renewing, then go ahead and do it.

The problem most couples have is that, they just jump right into marriage without having any form of major discussions. Then they begin to live by assumptions. While the wife assumes that the husband should be responsible for the financial upkeep of the home, the husband assumes that all the wife needs is to be a stay at home mom and raise kids.

Then the disagreement sets in and before you know, everything hits rock bottom. And the Lamentations begins: "Oh! Had I know".

@bold: Your head is there.

Marriage is not a contract: it is a covenant that needs constant evaluation.

Humans are dynamic so both parties need to keep up with constant, honest communication and acting on feedbacks.

ouzo1:
see marriage and wedding na two different things.
most of u prepare for weddings not marriage,marriage takes alot to work.
u need to be ready mentally and emotionally but these days na weak ass Men dey everywhere and whining Women.

@bold:

Very true.

While I agree that women are evolving, the onus lies on the woman to pick a man who suits her evolution.

Hmmmm

The marriages of today has left their original blue print. Marriage built on the wrong foundation can’t stand.

Marriage lasted in the past because women depended on men in the family unit. If you want a long lasting marriage, marry a dependent woman period.

Women like to claim evolvement, but not all evolution are positive. In the past people killed people with spears, today there are chemical weapons that can wipe out a whole country with the push of a button. That’s evolution but is such evolution positive?

You can’t change a working formulae and expect things to work the same. It’s Eves evolution that got us to where we are today. The lust to change what is, to change the status quo is the biggest problem of a woman not a blessing.

ouzo1:
see marriage and wedding na two different things.
most of u prepare for weddings not marriage,marriage takes alot to work.
u need to be ready mentally and emotionally but these days na weak ass Men dey everywhere and whining Women.

You can never be prepared enough for marriage. Are you going to prepare for the loss of a child? Loss of income? Are you going to prepare for your wife’s family issues? Prepare for a wayward child? Anything can change the course of a marriage.

I honestly don't care if it goes extinct or not.

Of course at some point I will marry, but that's just because I don't want to give birth to bastards.

I can't guarantee anything once I have my required number of children.

I personally have a problem sharing a room with another human being, not to talk of a woman.

No guarantees after having kids