She's a friend more than a friend. I believe in her because she's intelligent, smart, hardworking and God fearing with personal achievable dreams and goals. And she's got everything needed physically and mental to influence and make that happen.

We all know personal development is key but her SHELL is holding her back. I want to help her come out, help her improve better, help develop her the way I know she can become. She got it(sense).
I will appreciate every NLanders opinion.

LIKE she needs to come out of her shell, her emotional intelligence isn't strong but she's trying to break out; I mean I feel she is afraid of what I don't know. And she has this "marriage is an achievement" mindset which is another reason why she's finding it hard to push harder out of her SHELL.
I know she can do a lot when she breaks out of her shell! I just know.

Please advise a friend on how to help my friend develop and grow better. I have tried but not enough.

Biko I want to help her in every possible way I can.

Fratello:
She's a friend more than a friend. I believe in her because she's intelligent, smart, hardworking and God fearing with personal achievable dreams and goals. And she's got everything needed physically and mental to influence and make that happen.

Just Shurrup

Fratello:

We all know personal development is key buther SHELL is holding her back. I want to help her come out, help her improve better, help develop her the way I know she can become.

And help yourself first.

donstan18:
Just Shurrup


And help yourself first.

Which state of existence is this? Donstart

LEAD.BY.EXAMPLE.

Fratello:


Which state of existence is this? Donstart

Sense you no been get, you never get and you no ever get.

Did your family raise you up to develop and help any non-virgin lady you see?

Don't you have common sense?
Are you developed, yourself?
Don't you have sisters who'll be needing your acclaimed helps and developing skills?

Next thing after una don mumu for girl finish na to create thread with topics like..


- OH! She left me after I developed her
- Mad oooo! I'm heartbroken as my girlfriend dumped me

Make una dey get sense!!

justnock:
LEAD.BY.EXAMPLE.

I'm open to learning.
Could you break it down? Thanks.

donstan18:

Sense you no been get, you never get and you no ever get.

Did your family raise you up to develop and help any non-virgin lady you see?

Don't you have common sense?
Are you developed, yourself?
Don't you have sisters who'll be needing your acclaimed helps and developing skills?

Next thing after una don mumu for girl finish na to create thread with topics like..


- OH! She left me after I developed her
- Mad oooo! I'm heartbroken as my girlfriend dumped me

Make una dey get sense!!

Thanks jare. Mr Don Start. I appreciate your ogbonge sense.

you keep saying she needs to get out from the shell ,but you only gave little clue on the shell

donstan18:

Sense you no been get, you never get and you no ever get.

Did your family raise you up to develop and help any non-virgin lady you see?

Don't you have common sense?
Are you developed, yourself?
Don't you have sisters who'll be needing your acclaimed helps and developing skills?

Next thing after una don mumu for girl finish na to create thread with topics like..


- OH! She left me after I developed her
- Mad oooo! I'm heartbroken as my girlfriend dumped me

Make una dey get sense!!

emotional devolopment as a friend. Your twisted sense of reasoning. Must you fvck every lady you help? Your bitterness is oozing.
Typical nigerian who would see another suffer because he has nothing to gain.
Pathetic.

Fratello:


Thanks jare. Mr Don Start. I appreciate your ogbonge sense.

Ignore the slowpoke. I hate using harsh words but most often they deserve it.
His kind doesnt understand the meaning of 'platonic relationship'. And every thing regarding a man and a woman borders around mgtow.
He couldnt even offer an advice ralating to the topic at hand..

Cc. Fratello
Explaing more about her reserved peronality.

ePoster:
emotional devolopment as a friend. Your twisted sense of reasoning. Must you fvck every lady you help? Your bitterness is oozing.
Typical nigerian who would see another suffer because he has nothing to gain.
Pathetic.

Always remember that I'm not the reasonable guy that broke your virginity, treated you like a sperm-bin and dumped you that almost made you wanna take your life.[Picture attached]





Pure product of fvck boiz!!

If she is not ready, she is not ready.

Just tell her what you think her potentials are and leave the seed to grow or die. If you notice any growth, then you can become a supporter by helping her find engagements and supporting her brand/art.

Your op is vague so I cannot offer more than this.

daviddelly:
you keep saying she needs to get out from the shell ,but you only gave little clue on the shell

She is timid. Basically, "timid" sums it up. Lack courage, shy, always worried about tomorrow. Not believing in herself.

AfroKnight:
If she is not ready, she is not ready.

Just tell her what you think her potentials are and leave the seed to grow or die. If you notice any growth, then you can become a supporter by helping her find engagements and supporting her brand/art.

Your op is vague so I cannot offer more than this.

Thank you. I can use this too.

donstan18:

Always remember that I'm not the reasonable guy that broke your virginity, treated you like a sperm-bin and dumped you that almost made you wanna take your life.[Picture attached]





Pure product of fvck boiz!!

and you concluded that im a female? If it massages your ego, then i'm a lady.
While i dont give a damn about your gender, i'm concerned about the level of your intelligence.
Your initial comment;
Did your parents raise you to help a non virgin?
Did you feel no shame while writing that trash? Its safe to assume that you ask every lady about that piece of flesh before you offer her the slightest of help.
You attach too much importance to fvcking and for an obvious mgtow or even an average MAN, its pathetic.

ePoster:
Ignore the slowpoke. I hate using harsh words but most often the deserve it.
His kind doesnt understand the meaning of 'platonic relationship'. And every thing regarding a man and a woman borders around mgtow.
He couldnt even offer an advice ralating to the topic at hand..

Cc. Fratello
Explaing more about her reserved peronality.

Thank you.
I'm glad you understand where I am coming from and going to, Mate.

She's extremely reserved: no friends. She has a business going too (mini importation) but I'm concerned on how she will get customer or sales because she barely gives her fone number out or save numbers.

She wants to change, but I dunno what is holding her. She will try today, and then run back tomorrow.
Whenever we sit to talk, she improves for some time with efforts and then like snail runs back into her shell.

She find it hard to talk to ppl or mingle with new faces. A lot man. A lot!

Fratello:


She is timid. Basically, "timid" sums it up. Lack courage, shy, always worried about tomorrow. Not believing in herself.

Most likely she's an introvert, there's hardly anything you can really do.
About her timidity, the best way you can help her is to just be there for her. Boosting her self esteem is a game changer but dont do it in a cheesy/suffocating manner.
Do stuff with her that would appeal to her interest, eg send her nice novels, create a quiet time for you both etc.
But all in all just be there. If she's introverted she would appreciate just your friendship than a million fake others.
Plus if she learns to be comfortable with you, she'll gradually break loose. Give it time

ePoster:

Most likely she's an introvert, there's hardly anything you can really do.
About her timidity, the best way you can help her is to just be there for her. Boosting her self esteem is a game changer but dont do it in a cheesy/suffocating manner.
Do stuff with her that would appeal to her interest, eg send her nice novels, create a quiet time for you both etc.
But all in all just be there. If she's introverted she would appreciate just your friendship than a million fake others.
Plus if she learns to be comfortable with you, she'll gradually break loose. Give it time

TRUE.
Guess it is just more time. Thank you very much.