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Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 9:59pm On Aug 01, 2019
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Are You An Alpha Male or Just An Insecure Dude?

Alpha Male is a popular "buzzword" these days, however, let’s be clear that alpha behavior has little in common with [s] overly-macho, aggressive or insecure attitudes. [/s]

Fake Alphas' are Alpha male wannabes who are deeply insecure and try to hide it with bravado. They are usually loud and egotistical to the point of being annoying to others. They will bully others around them, typically, only if they feel they can get away with it.

They will often criticise and put down others to make them feel better about themselves, because they have no internal confidence.

Here are some signs you’re not really alpha, but just another insecure dude:

You Are Afraid To Be Vulnerable

What is vulnerability? The definition changes per person. It could be fear to show you’re not an expert at something. Or, fear of showing that you’re visibly upset about something. It doesn’t make you stoic, it makes you seem afraid of yourself. Not alpha.

You Think You’re Superior To Other Men, Or To Women

Belief that you’re superior to somebody else is the quickest way to demonstrate that you’re not superior to anything. If you don’t have a strong sense of equality , then the impression people will get of you is that you’re over-compensating.

This could manifest as putting “weaker” men down, or a belief that women are inferior to you.

You Bypass Social Queues To Pickup Women

Sure, it’s good to approach women and to express your sexual intent. But, some men take this to the next level. As soon as they see a woman they’re even slightly attracted to, they feel the need to push past everybody else and go harass her while she’s having a quiet dinner with her boyfriend at a restaurant. You’re not being alpha, you’re being annoying.

You Place Your Value As A Man On Working Out

It’s good to work out and look good. As a man, it’s something you need to do. But many men get obsessed with it. They spend half their lives in the gym. They start to develop a complex of self-hatred when they see other men more ripped than them. Seriously?

You can be skinny and high-value as much as you can be ripped and high-value. Stop looking at other men with bicep envy. It’s not cool.

Your First Instinct Is To Antagonize A Fight, Not Diffuse It

Absolutely no martial artist in existence teaches the value of provoking a fight before diffusing it. Fight when you need to. Fight when you’re cornered or you or someone you know is threatened.

But if it’s a pointless, ego-based conflict–like some dude tools you at a bar, then you are NOT being some type of macho dude because you throw a chair at him. You’ll get kicked out of the bar and look like an unstable jackass in the process.

You Talk About Yourself A Lot

What confident person can you think of who constantly drones on about himself? None. No one cares. Trying to make yourself seem important makes you seem unimportant.

In Summary

Get over yourself. “Trying” to be an alpha could be a highway to some very insecure behavior. You may have the best intentions for yourself in mind, but be careful of what your thoughts are actually manifesting as.

EIC

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by catwalq(f): 10:19pm On Aug 01, 2019
I owe you a bottle of wine kiss kiss

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by lilmax(m): 10:37pm On Aug 01, 2019
okay


insecure males should take note

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by TimiRume(f): 10:45pm On Aug 01, 2019
lol thread for the alfa meils, dem go gree hear

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by LarryBee1k: 11:17pm On Aug 01, 2019
Just no

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 12:21am On Aug 02, 2019
Here to read comments.
Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by handsomebanana(m): 12:47am On Aug 02, 2019
Jesus Christ!

Enough with this Alfa/alpha nonsense.

E Don dey irritate person.
Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Magnoliaa(f): 12:58am On Aug 02, 2019
Another thread on alpha males again... grin
Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by ABCthings: 1:50am On Aug 02, 2019
Not only Alpha but Omega. Rubbish mindset! grin

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by BlackPantherxXx: 5:41am On Aug 02, 2019
LarryBee1k:
This is the dude that write this POS. shocked You've succumbed to women game.

LOL. The niggah is getting ass screwed with a Love Machine.

Lmfao grin

OP is probably the type that sucks up to ladies online, hoping to get pvssy cheesy

Yes i don't believe in the silly misogyny that i see here, but i dislike the feminism too.

Both cohorts are despicable and deserve to be match-made with each other.

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 7:41am On Aug 02, 2019
LarryBee1k:
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This your picture be like say u wan break d poster back grin

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by LarryBee1k: 7:43am On Aug 02, 2019
You

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by LarryBee1k: 7:47am On Aug 02, 2019
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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by KevinDein: 8:27am On Aug 02, 2019
A good number of guys these days are just red pilled (seeing through the lies and manipulations of women) not necessarily alpha males. Alpha males are usually just a tiny fraction of any male population. The remaining are usually betas and omegas, which is not necessarily a bad thing as far as I'm concerned, as long as you are red pilled.

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by pocohantas(f): 9:23am On Aug 02, 2019
All these NL alfah men will not swallow the pill that brings about innovation. Only the one on female manipulation.

That is why they will stay in Romance section from morning to night.

Create enlightening topic, you'll not see them
Create any thread and garnish it with toto matter, 5mins = 3pages

Don't worry, their PRO would soon arrive.
Toor!

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Martinez39(m): 10:07am On Aug 02, 2019
LarryBee1k:
This is the dude that write this POS. shocked You've succumbed to women game.
The OP is saying the truth. There are too many fake alphas. A real alpha knows his self worth, has self confidence, pursues his goals, won't be treated less or settle for less, and tries to improve himself. Real alphas don't need male or female validation and they don't let women(& men) control them like fools.

Fake alphas are pretenders that are slaves to their ego and insecurities. Fake alphas pride themselves on getting and pleasing any woman they want. They pretend that they are bad boys and aggressive because they think that they would get women since women like bad boys. Most times they end up being annoying. They try to best every man to make themselves feel better. Real alphas don't give a sh!t.

Real alphas will go to the gym to get healthy, fake alphas will go because they want to improve their looks to get women. Getting women's heart, pussy, attention and validation gives them(fake alphas) their sense of being.

Real alphas will be themselves and focus on being the best version of themselves but fake alphas will try to be the aggressive bad boy that gets his sense of being from having women orbiting him and throwing their validation.

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Martinez39(m): 10:09am On Aug 02, 2019
handsomebanana:
Jesus Christ!

Enough with this Alfa/alpha nonsense.

E Don dey irritate person.
What then are you doing here? Were you forced to comment?

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 10:09am On Aug 02, 2019
pocohantas:


All these NL alfah men will not swallow the pill that brings about INNOVATION. Only the one on female manipulation.




No be der fault. Na d "fvked up" childhood they had ni jare

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 10:14am On Aug 02, 2019
Martinez39:


Real alphas don't need male or female validation and they don't let women(& men) control them like fools.


Good one

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Martinez39(m): 10:26am On Aug 02, 2019
lordskid:


Good one
It seems, just like the females who commented here, you don't really understand your write up and the concept of an alpha male. You all are in support of the write up because you all think it implies that alpha males are insecure, miserable and annoying men. Your write up simply calls for the attention of men to reevaluate themselves to know whether they are real alphas or fake alphas (insure dudes that fit the description of my earlier post and your op). THE WRITE UP DOESN'T IMPLY OR ARGUE THAT ALPHA MALES ARE WEAK, INSECURE AND INFERIOR DUDES AS YOU AND THE GIRLS ARE GOING ABOUT IT. Comprehension of simple English shouldn't be hard, should it? Fake alphas also call themselves alpha males hence a reevaluation of self, as given by your write up, is necessary. I don't think you understand what you posted as your op.

Since you think alike with the girls, as given by you posts, I wouldn't expect rationality but obstinate irrationality.

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Funmmyastic: 10:28am On Aug 02, 2019
Nice one.
Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 10:40am On Aug 02, 2019
This irritating concept of alpha beta omega males and females...
Don't people have anything better to yak about? angry

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 10:43am On Aug 02, 2019
Perfect description of the the sad Zimbabwean fool ubunja. His whole life is dedicated to women and how to get pussy. No money, no business plans, no tutorials on how to profit from investments, no daily routines to success, no financial management secrets to his delusional followers. Nothing. Just women. The only thing he has to his name is a baby mama. God forbid.

Alpha males focus on their craft, their money, their health, their mental well being and they take care of their families. Through that women are naturally drawn to them, without even trying. They exude masculinity and confidence. They Walk into a room and women are already trying to make themselves visible for the man to notice them. Take note.
Martinez39:
The OP is saying the truth. There are too many fake alphas. A real alpha knows his self worth, has self confidence, pursues his goals, won't be treated less or settle for less, and tries to improve himself. Real alphas don't need male or female validation and they don't let women(& men) control them like fools.

Fake alphas are pretenders that are slaves to their ego and insecurities. Fake alphas pride themselves on getting and pleasing any woman they want. They pretend that they are bad boys and aggressive because they think that they would get women since women like bad boys. Most times they end up being annoying. They try to best every man to make themselves feel better. Real alphas don't give a sh!t.

Real alphas will go to the gym to get healthy, fake alphas will go because they want to improve their looks to get women. Getting women's heart, pussy, attention and validation gives them(fake alphas) their sense of being.

Real alphas will be themselves and focus on being the best version of themselves but fake alphas will try to be the aggressive bad boy that gets his sense of being from having women orbiting him and throwing their validation.

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Texman21: 10:52am On Aug 02, 2019
talk abt this shiit one more time amma blow us up alpha male my ass

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by carter009(m): 10:56am On Aug 02, 2019
Lol, please take it easy, do you really hate him this much.
Safitu:
Perfect description of the the sad Zimbabwean fool ubunja. His whole life is dedicated to women and how to get pussy. No money, no business plans, no tutorials on how to profit from investments, no daily routines to success, no financial management secrets to his delusional followers. Nothing. Just women. The only thing he has to his name is a baby mama. God forbid.

Alpha males focus on their craft, their money, their health, their mental well being and they take care of their families. Through that women are naturally drawn to them, without even trying. They exude masculinity and confidence. They Walk into a room and women are already trying to make themselves visible for the man to notice them. Take note.

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 11:02am On Aug 02, 2019
Safitu:


Alpha males focus on their craft, their money, their health, their mental well being and they take care of their families. Through that women are naturally drawn to them, without even trying. They exude masculinity and confidence. They Walk into a room and women are already trying to make themselves visible for the man to notice them. Take note.


Bless you

Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 11:21am On Aug 02, 2019
Martinez39:


[s] Since you think alike with the girls, as given by you posts, I wouldn't expect rationality but obstinate irrationality. [/s]


The irony. Take a break, bro! You clouding the message. Read the post AGAIN and compare it with your FIRST post.

BTW, learn how to express ya opinion in a logical & decent way.



This from your post:

"Fake alphas are pretenders that are slaves to their ego and insecurities."

Abeg what caused your confusion? That statement you wrote is what the TOPIC is all about. Are you sure you wrote that or copied it?

[s] THE WRITE UP DOESN'T IMPLY OR ARGUE THAT ALPHA MALES ARE WEAK, INSECURE AND INFERIOR DUDES AS YOU AND THE GIRLS ARE GOING ABOUT IT. [/s]

Lolz..... You confused, dude. The post clearly states: "FAKE alpha".

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Martinez39(m): 11:30am On Aug 02, 2019
lordskid:


The irony. Take a break, bro! You clouding the message. Read the post AGAIN and compare it with your FIRST post.

BTW, learn how to express ya opinion in a logical & decent way.



This from your post:

"Fake alphas are pretenders that are slaves to their ego and insecurities."

Abeg what caused your confusion? That statement you wrote is what the TOPIC is all about. Are you sure you wrote that or copied it?
Lol. Another taunting child who wants to play emotional instead of logical. You don't understand your write up. Read the post you mentioned again. I don't have your time. Good day. grin

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Nobody: 11:37am On Aug 02, 2019
Martinez39:
Lol. Another taunting child who wants to play emotional instead of logical. You don't understand your write up. Read the post you mentioned again. I don't have your time. Good day. grin

Come here, "NL alpha male" grin try to read with a logical mindset, and stop showing the world how FRAGILE your ego is. grin

Bunch of "wannabes" that only concerns themselves ONLY on how to "dominate" the so-called WEAKER SEX. grin

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Re: Are You An Alpha Male Or Just An Insecure Dude? (photo) by Martinez39(m): 11:39am On Aug 02, 2019
lordskid:


Come here, "NL alpha male" grin try to read with a logical mindset, and stop showing the world how FRAGILE your ego is. grin
Lol. More taunting. grin

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