It's called insurance. Full coverage guaranteed in the event that your current "ride" crash and burns!
Just kidding!

kokoye:


means you are expecting or working towards a break-up anyway.

yes ! you are on point  

@Violent
You name the time and place, i will ensure that i come with my wallet to guarantee that it won't be a one sided occasion.

I fink it shows insecurty in your part if u gat a plan B/back up or wateva u call it.

Why not put such energy into making the best out of the relationship. Like someone said if u ain't happy wif wat u gat then move on with your life & free the other person

You might as well let the other person know you're in an open relationship with them that way they know you can step anytime.What happened to good old fashioned monogamy??For keeps and not for back ups? Kai !!

Inked_Nerd:


There really is no such thing as human beings being monogamous since we're genetically inclined to drift from one person to another. We've just conditioned ourselves to believe that one must only be with one person at a time.

@ Inked

What? I've never heard this before - is this an academic teaching you quote? It sounds like a foreign language. Is it a scientific theory you speak of or a theological teaching?

I generally agree with alot that you post - However, I'm sorry but I beg to differ on that thought process.

Shy-One:

@ Inked

What? I've never heard this before - is this an academic teaching you quote? It sounds like a foreign language. Is it a scientific theory you speak of or a theological teaching?

I generally agree with alot that you post - However, I'm sorry but I beg to differ on that thought process.

Actually she's right on this---all animals, both lower ones and higher ones are polygamous in nature----that's what the hormones do!

If we weren't, then it will mean human bodies are programmed to respond to only one person or individual, which is quite far from being the truth. Sense of morality, sense of commitment and an inbuilt sense of fear of being "caught cheating" is what limits human ability to exploit its full sexuality.

1. Having a backup means you are not fully committed to either relationship. Why will you bother expending your energy making it work when you can just move on to the next one.
2. It is totally unfair on the backup option. How would you feel if you were a backup option?
3. If the original relationship fails, you go for the backup. That means you don't care for your backup option. Why would anyone want to be second choice.
4. Very likely, the backup option will not know he/she is a backup option. Dishonesty / Deceit  is never a good foundation for relationships.
5. It is cheating. If you are sleeping with both of them, just plain disgusting. If you are sleeping with only one, you have to keep one emotionally satisfied somehow. Emotional cheating right there.

violent:

Actually she's right on this---all animals, both lower ones and higher ones are polygamous in nature----that's what the hormones do!

If we weren't, then it will mean human bodies are programmed to respond to only one person or individual, which is quite far from being the truth.  Sense of morality, sense of commitment and an inbuilt sense of fear of being "caught cheating" is what limits human ability to exploit its full sexuality.

Hmmmmm.  So technically speaking from a biological point of view.  Ok, understandable - thank you for the expansion of my thought.

You know - our "higher level of intellect" that separates us from "the animals" is when we choose to be "monogamous" - when we have a backup, that in itself neither enforces nor encourages this.

Nope, insurance is better

@Lola, i trust u my sista, traditional insurance abi! no wonder 190 go forever dey mumu 4 u whereva he goes. Lol

swiftycool:

@Lola, i trust u my sista, traditional insurance abi! no wonder 190 go forever dey mumu 4 u whereva he goes. Lol

he he he he he! :-D

deniyor:

1. Having a backup means you are not fully committed to either relationship. Why will you bother expending your energy making it work when you can just move on to the next one.
2. It is totally unfair on the backup option. How would you feel if you were a backup option?
3. If the original relationship fails, you go for the backup. That means you don't care for your backup option. Why would anyone want to be second choice.
4. Very likely, the backup option will not know he/she is a backup option. Dishonesty / Deceit is never a good foundation for relationships.
5. It is cheating. If you are sleeping with both of them, just plain disgusting. If you are sleeping with only one, you have to keep one emotionally satisfied somehow. Emotional cheating right there.

Excellent! My thoughts exactly. I feel, if you need a "back-up", then WHY are YOU in a relationship? Another poster mentioned everyone is "hard wired" to go from person to person, that couldn't be more further from the truth. I'm VERY loyal to my partner even when my past relationships cheated on me. I'm just a one man woman. I give my man my full un-divided attention and get the same in return. I guess you can call me selfish, because I do NOT share my man with any other female. Ever!! (Romantically that is, Lol)

license to cheat, hehehehehehe

But most women do IMO

evolution of values and standards. Sadly, it has become stealth to our conscience. It's so sad.

livedit:



Excellent! My thoughts exactly. I feel, if you need a "back-up", then WHY are YOU in a relationship? Another poster mentioned everyone is "hard wired" to go from person to person, that couldn't be more further from the truth. I'm VERY loyal to my partner even when my past relationships cheated on me. I'm just a one man woman. I give my man my full un-divided attention and get the same in return. I guess you can call me selfish, because I do NOT share my man with any other female. Ever!! (Romantically that is, Lol)

I agree with you 100%. If you are not satisfied with your relationship, or you feel the need for a back up, walk away from your relationship and go start a fresh one with someone else (or your intending backup).
A man will never trust a woman he stole / borrowed from another man.

Of course Mr Cork in the house. Mr Cork, do you like being the backup option?

i guess so

deniyor:

Of course Mr Cork in the house. Mr Cork, do you like being the backup option?

Cat Daddy would be a better option actually!

hmmn

well its not advice able to keep back up, for me because if you happens to find out that a girl/boy your going out with is only having you as a backup you will not be happy with your self not to talk of the person who is doing that to you so why care about doing it to some one else.
a gain if naturally your a cheat then you know your self as a cheat but think ahead of time if your the one some one else is cheating how will you feel so i think being stirate forward in a relationship is far better than having backup then later get backrupt