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Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 11:52am On Feb 19
this is my first time attending a traditional wedding. i have this guy that invited me and also told me about some cloths i have to buy. i bought it and he said i will be with his band of friends. my issue here now is that i have never attended one before and i am not ok with the ideaof dancing in public and all those rowdy stuff. i watched a few youtube videos and noticed that a typical wedding here is more about dancing etc etc.
i need ideas on how to tell him that i don't want to join that train of his friends. i rather stay in the congregation or dont come. the weeding is next saturday and i am confused because he is really hopping to see me there
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Teaveapoet(f): 11:59am On Feb 19
i don't know how you see, this but it's really no big deal. just go and enjoy the fun. with that you can actually see the beauty of other people's culture and you can even make new female friends. just enjoy yourself.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by IamD18(f): 12:00pm On Feb 19
Any man who can't tell his friend his mind isn't a good friend.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Davash222(m): 12:06pm On Feb 19
You’re not under obligation to dance that day. Just say you’re looking for excuses to avoid the wedding.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 12:13pm On Feb 19
Davash222:
You’re not under obligation to dance that day. Just say you’re looking for excuses to avoid the wedding.
i swear i dont want to avoid it. what i saw on youtube just discouraged me. i am really not used to these kinda setting and i feel it will be awkward to wear what he gave me to buy and sit in the congregation. well , i will figure out what to do before then. just confused now
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 12:15pm On Feb 19
Teaveapoet:
i don't know how you see, this but it's really no big deal. just go and enjoy the fun. with that you can actually see the beauty of other people's culture and you can even make new female friends. just enjoy yourself.
i have a fiancee . i am even thinking that is why he is really pressuring me to come. i hope its not because of that though
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Davash222(m): 12:19pm On Feb 19
richPHAROAH:
i swear i dont want to avoid it. what i saw on youtube just discouraged me. i am really not used to these kinda setting and i feel it will be awkward to wear what he game me and sit in the congregation. well , i will figure out what to do before then. just confused now
Try and go with a friend or two. Go and have fun. If you can’t dance, you can watch people dancing and nod your head. It’s part of the fun. You’ll be fine.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by JamieLannister: 12:22pm On Feb 19
I used to be like you, very reserved in situations like that. But if it's for a friend I'll go all out for him. Just go there and have fun. You may have two left legs, but I'm sure you'll find your rhythm.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Nobody: 1:06pm On Feb 19
JamieLannister:
I used to be like you, very reserved in situations like that. But if it's for a friend I'll go all out for him. Just go there and have fun. You may have two left legs, but I'm sure you'll find your rhythm.
grin sorry what figure of speech is this? It’s hilarious.
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 1:23pm On Feb 19
Davash222:

Try and go with a friend or two. Go and have fun. If you can’t dance, you can watch people dancing and nod your head. It’s part of the fun. You’ll be fine.
the people going are all more or less friends. i am not just ok following the train or what ever its called instead of sitting in the congregation
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Foodqueen(f): 2:15pm On Feb 19
Go with your fiancee, lobatan.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 8:20am On Feb 21
Foodqueen:
Go with your fiancee, lobatan.
if i will be with the crew or train of friends wearing the uniform it means i will be on stage with him. tthat is what i am uncomfortable with lol. well, my plan is to iron and burn the outfit and then tell him i cant join the train because the outfit is burnt. that way i can just sit in the congregation grin
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Zombiekiller010: 9:56am On Feb 21
Op Why are you like this, whats the big deal of been part of the groomsmen of your friend, remember either now or later, it will soon be your turn, how will you feel if your friend turn you down with this same excuse of yours if you want to do your traditional marriage ...

You're a fake friend

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by olarwhumy6(f): 10:22am On Feb 21
richPHAROAH:
if i will be with the crew or train of friends wearing the uniform it means i will be on stage with him. tthat is what i am uncomfortable with lol. well, my play is to iron and burn the outfit and then tell him i cant join the train because the outfit is burnt. that way i can just sit in the congregation grin
Lol.. This is nt cool, just go nd have fun jur, Its no big deal.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 10:46am On Feb 21
Zombiekiller010:
Op Why are you like this, whats the big deal of been part of the groomsmen of your friend, remember either now or later, it will soon be your turn, how will you feel if your friend turn you down with this same excuse of yours if you want to do your traditional marriage ...

You're a fake friend
its not about being a fake friend, i am paying for their honey moon trip and he is not even that close to me, i dot think i will do that if i was a fake friend cheesy. . as regards when i will be doing mine, my plan is just to do a court wedding and end it there. i am serious about not ok with all these pubic display. i know it doesnt sound right but i cannot imagine myself dancing with all those grooms men in native attire or them in very hyper mood and i am just standing or not active. that will be rather embarassingcheesy

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 10:47am On Feb 21
olarwhumy6:
Lol.. This is nt cool, just go nd have fun jur, Its no big deal.
yeah i will go but not with the uniform that will make me stand out. i will be in the normal congregation. smiley
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Nobody: 10:49am On Feb 21
Try and man up OP, he is your friend, even if you don't know how to dance you can still put on the wear and watch rather than give unnecessary excuse for missing your friends marriage
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Richy4(m): 11:10am On Feb 21
Y did you buy the cloths then?.... There are times in life that one has to do certain things outside his or her comfort zone. Take it as a challenge if u will….

In my opinion, as long as you were not sitting on a wheelchair, u can at least move your body.. the groom was not expecting you to dance more than his wife or himself.. so what’s the big deal
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Bola146(f): 11:44am On Feb 21
Kindly go and enjoy yourself jare.. cool cool.
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Teaveapoet(f): 12:42pm On Feb 21
richPHAROAH:
i have a fiancee . i am even thinking that is why he is really pressuring me to come. i hope its not because of that though



Just go, don't feel pressure..... What if we attend a function together?
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 1:17pm On Feb 21
Richy4:
Y did you buy the cloths then?.... There are times in life that one has to do certain things outside his or her comfort zone. Take it as a challenge if u will….

In my opinion, as long as you were not sitting on a wheelchair, u can at least move your body.. the groom was not expecting you to dance more than his wife or himself.. so what’s the big deal
i bought the cloths out of excitement and also as a form to spport him. 2 days after i bought it was when i asked him if all of us with the uniform attire will be with him and he said yes, they will be the ones with him. immediately , i went to check YouTube and what i saw was not the type of thing i will easily fit it. the groom will not even notice me on that day because all his attention will be on his bride. the issue is that i am going to be the only one behaving awkward here lol
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 1:19pm On Feb 21
Teaveapoet sounds like a ice plan but if i am waering the attire i will be with him all through the occasion
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Nobody: 2:53pm On Feb 21
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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by sisisioge: 4:09pm On Feb 21
Dont sweat it...just go, join the band to move with them but not necessarily dancing.

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Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Teaveapoet(f): 9:26am On Feb 24
richPHAROAH:
Teaveapoet sounds like a ice plan but if i am waering the attire i will be with him all through the occasion




oh.okay, there is still a way out of these, just try and make your dress look a bit attractive. it might not really be the same but just colour and a bit of material.
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Babapyro: 8:33pm On Mar 22
richPHAROAH:
this is my first time attending a traditional wedding. i have this guy that invited me and also told me about some cloths i have to buy. i bought it and he said i will be with his band of friends. my issue here now is that i have never attended one before and i am not ok with the ideaof dancing in public and all those rowdy stuff. i watched a few youtube videos and noticed that a typical wedding here is more about dancing etc etc.
i need ideas on how to tell him that i don't want to join that train of his friends. i rather stay in the congregation or dont come. the weeding is next saturday and i am confused because he is really hopping to see me there
It's because of your body odour nau
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 10:06pm On Mar 22
Babapyro:

It's because of your body odour nau
lmao, omo this begger follow me enter here? aburo, i only told you that i will give you the 2k next week u begin dey para? na me cause ur poverty? shey na beg u dey beg
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by eyinjuege: 10:40pm On Mar 22
richPHAROAH:
i swear i dont want to avoid it. what i saw on youtube just discouraged me. i am really not used to these kinda setting and i feel it will be awkward to wear what he gave me to buy and sit in the congregation. well , i will figure out what to do before then. just confused now

Fob for the wedding and join his train. Stay at the back.
Go with the mindset of having fun, and fun you shall have.
Meanwhile, Corona no dey ya side ni?
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by eyinjuege: 10:44pm On Mar 22
Richy4:
Y did you buy the cloths then?.... There are times in life that one has to do certain things outside his or her comfort zone. Take it as a challenge if u will….

In my opinion, as long as you were not sitting on a wheelchair, u can at least move your body.. the groom was not expecting you to dance more than his wife or himself.. so what’s the big deal

Even those on wheelchair can move body.

You haven't seen Yinka Ayefele dancing?

They just can't gbese, but they can definitely move to the flow
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by richPHAROAH: 11:31pm On Mar 22
eyinjuege:


Fob for the wedding and join his train. Stay at the back.
Go with the mindset of having fun, and fun you shall have.
Meanwhile, Corona no dey ya side ni?
i ended up going for the wedding, it was the most embarrassing day of my life cheesy cheesy cheesy
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by eyinjuege: 11:49pm On Mar 22
richPHAROAH:
i ended up going for the wedding, it was the most embarrassing day of my life cheesy cheesy cheesy

cheesy cheesy cheesy

It couldn't have been so bad na?
Re: Got Invited For A Traditional Wedding And I Cant Say No by Babapyro: 10:53am On Mar 23
richPHAROAH:
lmao, omo this begger follow me enter here? aburo, i only told you that i will give you the 2k next week u begin dey para? na me cause ur poverty? shey na beg u dey beg
Give your mother the 2k so she can get a decent meal for once in her life

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