Good day nairalanders. I need your advice and in doing this I need to open another account.

I once had such close relationship with a lady for 7yrs, and with the singular characteristics of being stingy with money ....i mean trying not to be of help in any little way financially, I had to terminate the relationship gradually. Because, I felt if your girlfriend claims she likes you, then she should be ready and able to assist in any little way she can where it is obvious that you are in dire need of such financial assistance and she has the means to help.

Fast forward to 2020, I have this girlfriend of wife material, better than my ex, in terms of character and much younger in age, but again, she is some how stingy with her money. she is into business of buying and selling and claims she counts money everyday.
We have known for more than 5weeks now and we are really doing well even though it is a distant relationship, she's well aware of my sincere plans for her as per marriage levels.

But, I noticed she is not too free with any financial assistance of any kind to me even when i have express my need for such money. This has given me cause for concern.

My ex and this present one, are both church people, but I have had others that are not church people and are very free when it comes to helping financially.

Just to test her level of response, I had to make up of a story that I have contacted a former girlfriend of mine just to loan me the money.
While discussing my intention with her, I noticed she was acting nonchalant, asking me what i ate when i visited my ex. She jokingly, went as far asking me to borrow more for her own need too from this my ex.

But, here is the reality, today she started acting so hostile to me, raining insults on me, even after I have sent her my usual morning greetings.
After all these verbal assault on my person, calling me unprintable names, I knew she was reacting to the prank I sold to her yesterday, but I wasn't really disturbed, I was enjoying her indignation towards me, all in a bid to make her react.

Now, she has refused my phone calls and she's just sent me a WhatsApp message to tell me it is over between us and even blocked me.

But, mature men and women in the house, what do you advise I should do?
Tell her it is a prank or I have stopped the initial intention of borrowing money from my ex? or I should give her sometime to get over it.

Boys and girls, pls stay away and go and do your house chores.

Mylife21:
Good day nairalanders. I need your advice and in doing this I need to open another account.

I once had such close relationship with a lady for 7yrs, and with the singular characteristics of being stingy with money ....i mean trying not to be of help in any little way financially, I had to terminate the relationship gradually. Because, I felt if your girlfriend claims she likes you, then she should be ready and able to assist in any little way she can where it is obvious that you are in dire need of such financial assistance and she has the means to help.

Fast forward to 2020, I have this girlfriend of wife material, better than my ex, in terms of character and much younger in age, but again, she is some how stingy with her money. she is into business of buying and selling and claims she counts money everyday.
We have known for more than 5weeks now and we are really doing well even though it is a distant relationship, she's well aware of my sincere plans for her as per marriage levels.

But, I noticed she is not too free with any financial assistance of any kind to me even when i have express my need for such money. This has given me cause for concern.

My ex and this present one, are both church people, but I have had others that are not church people and are very free when it comes to helping financially.

Just to test her level of response, I had to make up of a story that I have contacted a former girlfriend of mine just to loan me the money.
While discussing my intention with her, I noticed she was acting nonchalant, asking me what i ate when i visited my ex. She jokingly, went as far asking me to borrow more for her own need too from this my ex.

But, here is the reality, today she started acting so hostile to me, raining insults on me, even after I have sent her my usual morning greetings.
After all these verbal assault on my person, calling me unprintable names, I knew she was reacting to the prank I sold to her yesterday, but I wasn't really disturbed, I was enjoying her indignation towards me, all in a bid to make her react.

Now, she has refused my phone calls and she's just sent me a WhatsApp message to tell me it is over between us and even blocked me.

But, mature men and women in the house, what do you advise I should do?
Tell her it is a prank or I have stopped the initial intention of borrowing money from my ex? or I should give her sometime to get over it.

Boys and girls, pls stay away and go and do your house chores.

5 weeks dating and your borrowing money..Who told you relationships are for broke people..You are MAD

This is hilarious! Just five weeks and you are making financial demands! Are you really a man?

dont worry help is on the way...stop solely depending on their financial assistance...GOD will make a way 4 u.

A girlfriend of approximately 5 weeks, and you've concluded she's stingy? My guy, I will advise you to stop looking for faults in the girls in your life. She's not even been in your life for up to the traditional 3 months courtship duration and you expect her to carter for your bills? That's a nasty feeling of entitlement. How are you even show you'll eventually marry her if she gives you unlimited access to her purse? After all, you didn't marry your ex girlfriends who, you said, were generous. My guy, if you real think this your present girlfriend is a wife material, as you noted, and you really love her, then go ahead and marry her. Stop looking for a perfect woman. Instead, make good plans for future financial breakthrough so that you won't need to look up to someone for unmerited assistance.

HarunaWest:

5 weeks dating and your borrowing money..Who told you relationships are for broke people..You are MAD

hmmmm....guy take am easy oooo...5 weeks is not 5days...you can know somebody who is ready to be with you through thick and thin with such duration.

And this person will say he's a man too? Chaiiii, smh.

Sir,

Firstly, you are a greedy human being with entitlement mentality. As a man, you are meant to financially care for your woman not the other way round. Haba!

Secondly, you need to grow up.

Thirdly, people who notice stingy people too much are leeches.

Finally, she did well by breaking up with you as you aren't matured yet. You expect her to be happy with you after visiting your ex? Bro, it is just 5 weeks relationship and she has time to discard her "Yeye Boyfriend"

5 weeks? Bro, before playing that kind of games with agirl, make sure you confirmed her level of interest in you.

5 weeks is too small to start questioning all these. Focus on yourself oga, free her, if she sees any good in you she'll call back.

That's how I started dating this church gal who's exactly the same thing you described. This one had very rude attitude and the moment she started displaying them (started with insults to my personality), I simply told her about the disrespect and gave her an ultimatum to apologize. After which I deleted her number and everything about her in case she never called back. (You need to understand that you're the prize, not these expiring b1tches with age against them).

Guess what, after a week she called and I laid the law firmly, which she's still taking my d1ck with so much respect. But me don comot anything woman from my mind already.

Nigerian women with their useless entitlement mentality and mental laziness don't deserve all these stress abeg.

Improve yourself mentally, physically and financially, detach yourself from pvssy and focus on your goals/passion. Na dem go dey rush you.

That way you can weed out the useless one's.

Free her and maintain your self respect.

You already fvcked up on this one.

Kids calling themselves "men" them plenty for nairaland wella You better go find a better work to do. Ole ole

So because she "counts money everyday" now, she should be responsible for you?

@OP, I think you should be the one to go wash plates... No woman wants a liability!

The people above me have said it all.

Op you need to grow up gosh! 5 weeks into the relationship, you're already putting your eyes in her business.
Bye bye to yeye boyfriend.

Bros you dey fall my hand. Just 5weeks and you don dey tax your babe?! I perceive you to be a male gold digger. If it were to be a lady, everyone would rain insults on her, right here. No "real man" has time for pranks in a relationship. How can a dude be acting materialistic?

I want to correct a negative notion here. Whatever is my action was born out of the need to really know if this lady will be the stingy type, even when the metal meets the meat.

And moreover, 7years and 5 weeks of courtship is different, but what is the outcome? both are still stingy.
My last relationship before this current one was just 9months and this lady, an European-born Nigerian, paid for my trip, to and fro, from Nigeria to one of this Arabian country just for us to meet for this first time.
The only issue or I will call it misunderstanding is that she want to have a way. And that's a redline for me.

I am not a gold digger, neither am I, a gigolo. I have this mantra, a man is simply doing a woman a favor by marrying her.
And no matter how wealthy or influential a woman should be, she still needs to be submissive to her husband or spouse.

Nigerian relationships are peculiar. Instead of loving each other the partners act like they are in a competition, trying to find faults or trying to out do one another. It's almost like looking for a bad label to hang on their partners. That's not how love is practiced in other climes.

As for borrowing money from women, I'm quite ashamed that you can even come on a public forum to say it proudly. You are not different from the many women people keep complaining of as having entitlement mentality. Better change your ways son. Real men don't make themselves valueless and cheap.

Mylife21:
I want to correct a negative notion here. Whatever is my action was born out of the need to really know if this lady will be the stingy type, even when the metal meets the meat.

And moreover, 7years and 5 weeks of courtship is different, but what is the outcome? both are still stingy.
My last relationship before this current one was just 9months and this lady, an European-born Nigerian, paid for my trip, to and fro, from Nigeria to one of this Arabian country just for us to meet for this first time.
The only issue or I will call it misunderstanding is that she want to have a way. And that's a redline for me.

I am not a gold digger, neither am I, a gigolo. I have this mantra, a man is simply doing a woman a favor by marrying her.
And no matter how wealthy or influential a woman should be, she still needs to be submissive to her husband or spouse.

Y'all... he's one of them

As much as the statement in bold annoyed me, I had to laugh out loud... Jeeeeeez! How backward can you be??

I can assure you 1000000% that no self-sufficient woman would ever ever ever marry a man who thinks "he is doing her a favor by marrying her".

Haven't you heard? The narrative changed a long long time ago baby!

Good luck with your search bro

You look unserious. You seem to have never been taught lessons by the ladies. You are still meeting good girls now and you are blowing away the chances. It may not continue like that o. No girl is perfect; and no girl even really likes giving money to guys. It is not natural, it should be the other way round. That is, you are the one that should be giving them money.

5 weeks? That's way early to start borrowing... I personally would think you wanna scam me... Maybe you should send a text saying it is a prank or you can as well move on..

U have traces of a gold-digger.

Why do u always go into a relationship with the mindset of collecting money from your partner.

Op you fall my hand.

This your entitlement mentality will only get u a sugar mum not certain u want a serious relationship but a cash cow

Broke men and their entitlement
Just 5weeks and you are already asking taxing her!!!
May I not jam your type!
Gold digging, broke, selfish and lazy men everywhere!!
I will never take a man that ask a lady for money serious
Tomorrow, they will be screaming head of the house
Your shame just dey shame me

Lol, it's not one thing that kills attraction. Most ladies don't like a guy that seems broke or one that seems itchy to get into her purse...it gives off gigolo/loser vibe. Plus, it comes across like you don't have your shìt together, which will make any lady dry up like toast. It's really not attractive.

I remember a guy I was talking to, many years ago. We were still getting to know each other & I was beginning to like him until he asked me to buy him a loose draw (cigarette). If my attraction levels were at 50% before that request, they quickly plummeted to below zero after he said it. IDK why, but it changes everything. Makes a guy look less than a man imo.

Lamanii22:
5 weeks? That's way early to start borrowing... I personally would think you wanna scam me... Maybe you should send a text saying it is a prank or you can as well move on..

Foodqueen:
U have traces of a gold-digger.

Why do u always go into a relationship with the mindset of collecting money from your partner.

make una take am easy with the gold digger. We are all ashamed on his behalf.

Hello everyone, I just called her and she picked my call and we are back together.
I think she is made for me. �

Mylife21:
Hello everyone, I just called her and she picked my call and we are back together.
I think she is made for me. �

Hoe!! You will never get that money.
Lazy leech.

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HarunaWest:

5 weeks dating and your borrowing money..Who told you relationships are for broke people..You are MAD

Borrow borrow man , first relationship for 7 years till 2020, things never better for you, hummmm. Instead of you to go hustle, you still continue borrowing

That your gf deserves a chilled bottle of wine , You have a peaceful relationship, but you are looking for war, what advice are you looking for again? You think you are the only available man in the world to date her? Nonsscence.

I think we all have to identify the primary aim of relationship for both male and female. This very post shows that many people(male/female) goes into relationship primarily for assistance which is majorly monetary, i am aware it is more from female but some male do too. The primary aim of relationship as per my understanding is to know each other; to know ur partners behaviors and see our it flows with urs before deciding on the next face of life. I am not disputing the place of assistance of whatever form, but i think that should be secondary. may God help us