cococandy:
The only thing these posts make me think is that relationship with the children is not that important to you guys.

That’s probably the reason why some women dare to walk away with the children in the first place. If they know they have a fight coming their way, they wouldn’t dare.

You’re also giving them power to control the narrative.

Just thinking out aloud [b]With the kind of baby daddy I have[/b]them no born me well to think I can just take the kids and walk. Why do you give up your power so easily? Is it to avoid dealing with the responsibilities?
Who do you think loses in the long run?

Nelsooo stop waiting for time to pass and start loving on your kids now. I’ve said my piece and I wish you well.

Sorry Ma, I’m kind confuse at the bolded. Thought you are married and living with your husband, why using the word Baby Daddy or are you now divorced?
Because I know from your fatback post that you are married, now why referring your lovely hubby as baby daddy?

The best you could do is to fight for your kids, the family say you are blocking her way, it shows her kind of family. Bros move on with your life just be a father to your kids, and lookout 4 good woman, cos as it stands now she is banging another man already with full support of mother and sister

Please note that there's nothing on earth you can do to change the mentality of those around her (sisters and mother). She's obviously from a family of prosti.tutes. Do not allow your kids grow up in that family.

Mariangeles:


Why did you ask if she was from Imo state?
Imo state women can NEVER BETRAY OR LEAVE THEIR MEN!

everyone in a tribe cannot be the same

And in the other news a man is celebrating his wife who has being with him through thick are thing even staying with him in a friend's place.

Never impress a woman with money, they change when the funds is no longer coming.

ednut1:
everyone in a tribe cannot be the same

It is true but according to our tradition, if you leave your husband's house with his children to go stay at your father's house, unless it is for a brief visit, other than that, you're not allowed to stay.
Once you've overstayed your visit, the father will begin to enquire if there's any problem in your home.
The only reason the father will allow you stay is if you're being abused or you were sent packing, otherwise, he'll send for your husband to come get you.
In our place, it's a disgrace for a daughter to leave her husband to go stay at her father's house for as flimsy an excuse as financial setbacks.

Mariangeles:

It is true but according to our tradition, if you leave your husband's house with his children to go stay at your father's house, unless it is for a brief visit, other than that, you're not allowed to stay.
Once you've overstayed your visit, the father will begin to enquire if there's any problem in your home.
The only reason the father will allow you stay is if you're being abused or you were sent packing, otherwise, he'll send for your husband to come get you.
In our place, it's a disgrace for a daughter to leave her husband to go stay at her father's house for as flimsy an excuse as financial setbacks.

Ur rite its the same thing from where I come from , but its unfortunate that my father in-law is no more , that's why the family is not interested in what ppl will say .

nelsoooooo:

Ur rite its the same thing from where I come from , but its unfortunate that my father in-law is no more , that's why the family is not interested in what ppl will say .

How has your attitude being to your wife during the years preceding her leaving? Please answer truthfully

- Have you been physically abusive to her ie hit her with your hands or an object?
- Have you been verbally or emotionally abusive to her? Use negative words on her?
- Have you been cheating or has she caught you cheating?
- Prior to your "setbacks", do you provide monthly upkeeps to sustain the children and the home to her or do you expect the family is fed/sustained from the "business" you opened for her?
- Are there any of your relatives staying in your home, if yes, how long have they been around?

nelsoooooo:

Ur rite its the same thing from where I come from , but its unfortunate that my father in-law is no more , that's why the family is not interested in what ppl will say .

That explains it.
That aside, there should be elderly kinsmen that they (the mum and sisters) respect, who can stand in place of their late kinsman to condemn what is wrong. Go find those people and make a formal complaint to be clear.

keepingmum:


How has your attitude being to your wife during the years preceding her leaving? Please answer truthfully

- Have you been physically abusive to her ie hit her with your hands or an object?
- Have you been verbally or emotionally abusive to her? Use negative words on her?
- Have you been cheating or has she caught you cheating?
- Prior to your "setbacks", do you provide monthly upkeeps to sustain the children and the home to her or do you expect the family is fed/sustained from the "business" you opened for her?
- Are there any of your relatives staying in your home, if yes, how long have they been around?

Thank u for the questions
1. I have Neva lift a hand or object on her .
2. As for abusive words no , but as human beings we do have some misunderstanding and at the end we settle
3.cheating is something I detaste in as much as I have not slept with anybody in the last 7 months including my wife .
4. As u know when the source of income in the family shakes it affects everbody.everyone one has to down size his /her expenses and adjust to the new development, I make sure home front is covered , she does not work ,she enrolled into a fashion designer institute, which I was the one that paid for it because I asked what she wants to do immediately we moved into the new environment .
5 . No family member from both families leaving with us , she is the last child in there family of 6 . I just have two young boys that help out in my business and a little girl that helps in house work .
The problem started after she went visiting her elder sister that leaves in another state she came back started acting funny I called her sat her down asked her wat the problem was she said nothing and I asked on 2-3 occasions but she said nothing so anytime I give her money for upkeep she would say it's not enough I will still tell her to manage it that my biz is still not moving fine as soon as it improves I will revat to the amount I give her monthly for upkeep she actually will use it but will always be moody not until last year dec I gave her money she started saying all sorts of things that I was even scared that she could say such a thing ,the next thing was on Jan 1 she asconded with my kids to there family house

Lol...if this story is true @OP then it was bad of her to do such, except if you are being economical with the truth.

No woman in her right senses would just wake up one day and leave with her kids without an issue on ground.

Only you can help yourself, start by telling yourself the truth. Then schedule a meeting to discuss way forward.

Somzee:
Lol...if this story is true @OP then it was bad of her to do such, except if you are being economical with the truth.

No woman in her right senses would just wake up one day and leave with her kids without an issue on ground.

Only you can help yourself, start by telling yourself the truth. Then schedule a meeting to discuss way forward.

What I just told u is just the summary of the whole thing ,so my worries now is should I go ahead and call her ,or should I call the mother so that I could talk to my kids or should I just wait because most ppl are saying in as much as she left on her own I should just hold on she will call me , I should not be the one to call , but my kids are my worries

Forget them, even your kids?
Men and disloyalty.Another vagina don enter your head.
What happened?
She just woke up one very fine morning, without issues and moved out on a saint like you?

skoyos:
Mine left with my kids 3yrs ago, forget them, if they value u they will look 4 u, might b 10yrs 4rm now, get busy, get love elsewhere, fill urself with love...

nelsoooooo:
I got married as everyone , we lived a quite life , because I grew up in family that we had enough money but we hardly allow the money to get into us , I have a business that I was doing and I got my wife a shop where she sales groceries . In the neighborhood where we leave , it happens that I had to build our own house in a new settlement and my wife was not doing anything anymore and she said she wanted to go into fahion design and I paid for her to start ,and all of a sudden my own business begin to have problems because of the new place we parked to , my wife after visiting the elder sister that leaves in another state she changed her attitude she no longer wants me to touch her , she talks a.ny how to me , last year December I usually give her #150,000 to shop for her self and the childen but because of the way things I gave her ₦60,000 to manage . She started complaining that I am a poor man that she would leave me and go and stay with the mother , only for me to wake up on 1st Jan she had left the house with the kids and I called her she told me she was not coming back again and I called the mother the mother said it's better she stays with her , I called the elder sis she went visiting the last time , she said it's high time I allow her sister enjoy her self that I have been a blocking stone to her , ppl would want to help her when the find out that she is married they will not want to help her , as it is now I have not called her and she has not even called me it's getting to 2months now pls I need advice from u guys ,should I go ahead and call her or should I just wait .

Be a man, go to her family with other family members as witness

Make your complain known to her family and hear what they will sayif they insist on her staying with her mother tell them you want your children, they will refuse but if they do just leave

Go and cool yourself down

Next plan is how to stabilize your self, get another woman and be happy with yourself

She has chosen her own way and you too have to chose yours

If she requests for your children up keep , go to their new school and pay the school fees directly to the management account and keep the receipts

That's all

By the time she wants to come back, you are already happy with another woman

What happens in this kind of situation

She must remain with the mother and you remain with your new found woman

It's either she accepts it or not

No one should determine your happiness and don't give people the right to determine your happy mood and sad mood