There was this girl i was madly in love with about 5 yrs ago when i was in Naija. And marriage was in the offing.  Though her dad was a Kano man, her mom was Edo and they actually fell in love and married when he was a youth corper in the Benin City. So i find her romantically exotic because of the mixed heritage. She told me she was a virgin and i never doubted her even for a second 'cos up north most girls never know a man until they are married. Though i told her that wasn't a problem with me since i wasn't a saint either. Nevertheless we do all stuff u can think of. I mean heavy smooching. I believed she only allows it because of her love for me. She would cry for days and reject food if we as little as quarrel. i spoilt her with expensive gifts to make her stand out from her friends. I could remember how she cried and cried when i gave her a camera phone then worth more than 40k which was something then in the early days of GSM telephony in Naija.
As our love blossomed so did our smooching become more adventurous until we decided one day to have sex.  when i tried to penetrate her she held my penis to guide me in while i was on top and all efforts to penetrate was unsuccessful as far as i could recall and i just decided to stop when it seemed to me as if she was in some sort of pain and i wasn't making any progress. Later i stood up and got out of the room. minutes later, she came out too and i saw some blood flowing down her thighs. She went straight to the bathroom to wash up and i was a bit alarmed but she kept her cool and told me not to worry that her virginity was the only invaluable gift she could offer me. i believed and loved her more.
But to my utmost surprise when next we tried to have sex (about a week later) i just found my manhood going in straight without any resistance. When i asked her how come 'cos the first time we did it i was convinced i never penetrated she became annoyed. I told her that i just find it a bit strange that on our first trial i believe that i never got in while on the second one it was as wide and and smooth as an express way. She alluded to the blood and i wondered why i never got any blood stain on my manhood. Any way, we soon forgot about the whole incidence and continued with our relationship.
But after some time the relationship kind of broke down when i started suspecting other guys being involved with her. For instance she wont pick her calls when i am around.  Moreover, when our love making became more rampant i just found that the way she responds and her increasing aggressiveness and adventurousness in love making kept me wondering if really she was the innocent girl that i thought her to be. But she continued telling pple that i disvirgined her and abandoned her which i still find a bit disputatious. But the question still on my conscience is was she really a virgin or was i taken for a ride?
I would appreciate candid responses from fellow Nairalanders. Thanks.

and yet people claim this is not important.

Na wah o.

At least 20 threads on this topic in one day.

A woman responsiveness to you comes natural especially if she is sexy and she loves.  That doesn't mean that she is a ho.

Your going in express the second time without going in the first time sounds ridiculous.  She either found somebody else that is familiar with that route to break it since you couldn't locate it or she was not a virgin.

I think the size of the manhood matters as well.  it should be easier for a smaller guy to go in than a Mandingo warrior.  

kokoye:

and yet people claim this is not important.

Na wah o.

At least 20 threads on this topic in one day.

Yep na wao. It is all about virginity today.

HTown . .are you in Houston . .what part?

I plead the fifth.

lol

It is your right.
   
                  _{really just tired of all these virginity threads. trying to derail it} 

R you in Houston?

Yup. at the moment.

Kul, I hope you R enjoying the weather.

Op What does it matter?abeg we don tire 4 all this una virgin rubbish.

HTown Eve:

Kul, I hope you R enjoying the weather.

yup. best place to be around this time.

Yes she Wasn't

^^
Do you mean she had one bottle of blood tonic by her side the first day they tried the adventure?

Can't stop laughing at Lagos - ibadan express way the second time.

Maybe she was hiding a guy under the bed before and when you left for bathroom the guy jumped back to bed and had it done for you in a quick time and hid back.Please go back and seach under the bed.Ooops!too late.

And the expess of a thing,you rather be grateful to the girl she didnt want you to travel through the rough road again so she called up for help to smothen the road for your ride now you are complaining.

Dont tell me u've had enough of her and trying to leave

My guy sorry you've been taken for a long ride.

wonders will never end! two people do something behind closed doors and now they want us to explain what happened when we no dey there! I dey laugh o

my guy why re disturbing ur self, is she ur wife? She is only ur girl friend nt ur wife, so she is free to do anything she likes. So free ur self. Is only can tell who disvirgin her either u or one guy like that. Hahahaha. Lol.

guy she waz n't a virgin, she fooled u.
But finally u re lucky u collected ur own share from her. (Bleep)

The only one who could answer that question is God and her, if she told the truth.  If she was a "virgin" then it puzzles me to as to why she has not gone to GYN for her yearly "physical".  That's neither here nor there.  But quite frankly what does it really matter if she was a virgin or not.  I don't know why some men makes such a big deal out of it. 

I would think the real issue would be why she was running around lying and making you look like the bad guy.  I would be more concern with my reputation to rather or not I was the "first".  It's possible you could've been her "first" .  Once you penetrate her and that "tissue" is broken, there maybe some bleeding then.  Then if she is not fully "excited" and well lubricated, that will cause friction and possible some small tears in her womanliness walls making it more tighter and painful.  Then too, she could've been nervous and tense causing the muscles  down there to tense up making it difficult to penetrate her.

Speaking from experience, my first "examine" broke my tissue. Therefore years later once I lost my virginity, I didn't bleed nor was it any problems for him to penetrate me. So I wouldn't rely on your theory.  It's always a possibility somebody else could've hit it before you two hooked up again, then it may not.

At this point, if you two don't plan on getting back together again.  I think you should just forget about her and move on with your life. Why stress yourself out thinking about something as petty and un-important as this.  Just a waste of brain cells if you ask me.  What's done is done.  At least you know NOW that she is NOT a virgin. So case closed.

some women out there are real pros, i tell you!!!!!
was that chicken blood or what?!

livedit:

The only one who could answer that question is God and her, if she told the truth.  If she was a "virgin" then it puzzles me to as to why she has not gone to GYN for her yearly "physical".  That's neither here nor there.  But quite frankly what does it really matter if she was a virgin or not.  I don't know why some men makes such a big deal out of it. 

why do women lie about it if it isn't such a big deal?

cou-gar:

why do women lie about it if it isn't such a big deal?

I've never lied about being a virgin. What's the point anyway? I mean, if you plan on getting down or whatever, then if you are one, you won't be anymore. But maybe some women lie about it to appear "innocent" and more appealing to men or think they would be a better catch. Maybe it's because of religious beliefs that one must be married before engaging in a sexual act, therefore if they did "slip" they are trying to cover up so that they don't look like a hypocrite, slut or a heathen. It could be many reasons. I think women who feel they have to "lie" about it are either immature, maybe ashamed and/or afraid to take responsibilities for their actions because of what people would think about them or of their image for their prior actions. I think it's silly! What you see is what you get. I mean, if a man can't accept me how I am, then he can keep it moving then. I don't care what he say or she say about me. Nobody is perfect. I've accepted what I did, forgave myself and moved on. Once "it's" gone there is no way for you to ever get it back. So why lie to people or stress yourself out about it. It's over with, end of the story.

livedit:

I've never lied about being a virgin. What's the point anyway? I mean, if you plan on getting down or whatever, then if you are one, you won't be anymore. But maybe some women lie about it to appear "innocent" and more appealing to men or think they would be a better catch. Maybe it's because of religious beliefs that one must be married before engaging in a sexual act, therefore if they did "slip" they are trying to cover up so that they don't look like a hypocrite, slut or a heathen. It could be many reasons. I think women who feel they have to "lie" about it are either immature, maybe ashamed and/or afraid to take responsibilities for their actions because of what people would think about them or of their image for their prior actions. I think it's silly! What you see is what you get. I mean, if a man can't accept me how I am, then he can keep it moving then. I don't care what he say or she say about me. Nobody is perfect. I've accepted what I did, forgave myself and moved on. Once "it's" gone there is no way for you to ever get it back. So why lie to people or stress yourself out about it. It's over with, end of the story.

but some other women actually lie about it and that is the main problem. i don't think any man actually expect women older than 18 to be virgins. but once a girl opens her mouth and claims she's one then the man expects her to be true to her words. anything otherwise is deception and this is why men get anal about it. if the chic in question have told this guy the truth from the onset, he wouldn't be expecting miracles, would he? when women stop lying about it, men will stop being judgmental.

cou-gar:

but some other women actually lie about it and that is the main problem. i don't think any man actually expect women older than 18 to be virgins. but once a girl opens her mouth and claims she's one then the man expects her to be true to her words. anything otherwise is deception and this is why men get anal about it. if the chic in question have told this guy the truth from the onset, he wouldn't be expecting miracles, would he? when women stop lying about it, men will stop being judgmental.

I agree and completely understand what you saying.  But like I said, that all date back to that particular woman.  You are right, women (those who do ) lie about being a "virgin" shouldn't be saying it because in the end, they will end up looking like a liar and no longer respected.  But it goes both ways.  You can't blame all that on women though.  Because there are men who do claim that all they want IS a virgin. (less the other qualities) Therefore, when they run across a woman and he asks her about her "sexual history" depending upon what kind of morals and values she has and her feelings for the guy in some cases, she will lie to win the guy over.  I'm not saying that is right.  I think ALL people need to be real to themselves and realistic.  People are going to hold you to word when you tell them something like that.  Then wonder why the guy loses interest and/or act "anal" about it.  Like I said, it's sad this society puts so much pressure on men AND women to be "perfect" to be that barbie doll and Ken doll.  A lie is a lie. There are immature women who will lie about their "virginity" but what is it to say about the men who put all their "manliness" in the size of their "hot dog"? What kind of car he drives? How much he makes? What's the point about lying about that? To get the lady? Sooner or later, she gonna find out the true size and what you really driving, make or have. The point is, until one has accepted yourself as is, I wouldn't expect anyone else to respect you either.

its so mechanical and i kind of agree with livedit
I d a similar experience but it took me 3 yrs to know the truth

but does it matter anymore?
it matters when i was a kid and with little knowledge about ladies

poster she don wazobia u. is either u broke her nd a big rod cum finish d job 4 u dats y ur prick bcame free n her hole

@OP 1.pls if i may ask where you seeing her frequently (within the 1 week) after the show down
2.Where dere some funny moves on the first day of the intimacy and was it at your place or hers?
It could be someheavy duty guy who was standing by took the Job from where you stopped but dont rule out the possiblity of her being extremely wet totally(even though slim).If you cant answer this questions now dont panic,Just still stick around, it wount take take too long to know if she is a LovePeddler(Trust your Instincts),