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. by Nobody: 3:44pm On Mar 11, 2020
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Re: . by Chuks9000: 3:55pm On Mar 11, 2020
Hnmm. Oga, if you are busy with God's relationship, adultery will not be your problem.
Think of it this way:
Do you think the Eze or Oba or emir wishes to learn Chinese in order to communicate with his people?
Fornicating is for those who think and believe it is part of their curriculum.
If you really know why you are married, then focus your energy on those reasons. You'll discover that you don't need those negative things to stay happy in your marriage.

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Re: . by Ladylite: 4:00pm On Mar 11, 2020
peepydelano:
Please for those of you that have not cheated on your spouse,how is it like?will your faithfulness last long?how did you cope with the same woman for this long without being bored and tired of her?do you feel the temptation to cheat sometimes and what do you do to quench such desire? .Strictly for those that have not cheated please.

Only men who married wrong with sex as a major keynote for choosing their spouse can ask such questions.


How did you marry?

Was it to fulfill God's purpose for you, or to fulfill societal and family pressures or sexual appetite.?

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Re: . by Nobody: 4:20pm On Mar 11, 2020
Ladylite:


Only men who married wrong with sex as a major keynote for choosing their spouse can ask such questions.


How did you marry?

Was it to fulfill God's purpose for you, or to fulfill societal and family pressures or sexual appetite.?
I'm not married,just thinking aloud.
Re: . by yvelchstores(f): 4:24pm On Mar 11, 2020
Walk in the Spirit and ye shall not fulfill the desires of the flesh. Gal 5:16.
When you want to urinate, you go to a well functioning toilet and ease yourself of the burden of urine.
It's a man that takes urinating as his life mission, that will start bothering about getting bored using same toilet.
Sex is legal in marriage because, just like that toilet, your wife has been legally given to only you to ease tension when you need to ease tension. She is also there as your chief PA, to help you achieve your life's goals and objectives,. It is a man who has no vision, no direction, no discipline that will make sex his 100% focus in life.

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Re: . by davidpeace99: 4:26pm On Mar 11, 2020
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Re: . by donbachi(m): 4:26pm On Mar 11, 2020
The decision not to cheat is the highest level of self discipline...no be speaking in tongues and also marry ur spec.

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Re: . by Nobody: 4:37pm On Mar 11, 2020
peepydelano:
Please for those of you that have not cheated on your spouse,how is it like?

That question is unclear.

peepydelano:

will your faithfulness last long?

Though I was something of a playboy in the University, have not had sex outside my marriage since I got married. I don't ever plan to engage in extra marital sex, but it is likely; or at least more than averagely possible; that I may marry more wives some time in the future.

peepydelano:

how did you cope with the same woman for this long without being bored and tired of her?

Do you mean sexually? Sometimes you get tired, but at least you are already familiar with what turns her on and vice versa. And when you are both turned on, the feeling is the same. One orgasm is pretty much like any other.

peepydelano:

do you feel the temptation to cheat sometimes and what do you do to quench such desire? .Strictly for those that have not cheated please.

Of course you feel the desire to engage in extra marital affairs sometimes. Some women are extremely attractive and come on to me strongly even when they know I'm married. But generally, sexual alliances require work to set up. I just don't act upon it or say anything to encourage it until the moment dies away. I tend to ignore any green lights and I'm all business when talking to women who I find attractive. My wife knows this and she can tell which of her friends I find attractive when I don't talk much around her. I do joke around with women who I know I could never sleep with...fat, overdressed women or women with too much make up for example. My personal principle is that extra marital sex comes with more issues and drama than the 30minute orgasm is worth, and I cannot logically justify the act so I don't do it. I have a phobia for behaving in a manner that I cannot explain logically to myself.

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Re: . by Nobody: 4:39pm On Mar 11, 2020
yvelchstores:
Walk in the Spirit and ye shall not fulfill the desires of the flesh. Gal 5:16.
When you want to urinate, you go to a well functioning toilet and ease yourself of the burden of urine.
It's a man that takes urinating as his life mission, that will start bothering about getting bored using same toilet.
Sex is legal in marriage because, just like that toilet, your wife has been legally given to only you to ease tension when you need to ease tension. She is also there as your chief PA, to help you achieve your life's goals and objectives,. It is a man who has no vision, no direction, no discipline that will make sex his 100% focus in life.
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak,you are a woman and as such you won't understand.Even our Men of God ain't left out,most have become victims of the flesh.You will hardly see comments here today from a faithful married man of 5years and above,na scarce commodity be that.Few years from now women will have no choice than to embrace polygamy.
Re: . by nlPoster: 4:54pm On Mar 11, 2020
https://www.nairaland.com/5606209/dont-date-guy-whose-mattress


Ariza:
Oh Lord! will all these foolishness ever come to an end?
Sigh...
Re: . by Ladylite: 4:57pm On Mar 11, 2020
peepydelano:
I'm not married,just thinking aloud.

Then go and reorder your priorities. So that it won't be your future

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Re: . by emmaodet: 7:19pm On Mar 11, 2020
This is my 7th year in marriage, tbh it has not been easy to stay faithful.
Though my wife is okay (atleast to my standard, she is pretty) but going to different seminars, workshops, church, office, mostly out of town (i stay atleast 6 months away from home every year), it's really not easy to be faithful and focused but with time and discipline, i thank God have been faithful.
My greatest motivation of staying faithful is because i believe your wife will really really appreciate 30% of what you do to outside chicks.
For example, if am to have a gf, cost of maintaining her for a month, hotel cost, pocket money, gifts, outings like restaurants, movies etc may likely be around 30-50k for a low-cost or low-budget nigerian gf but if i take half of that which is 25k and spend it on my wife and son, they will love me more, respect me more and are also more likely to stay behind me on rough days when maybe am broke unlike a gf that will just run away.
Taking my family for a weekend swimming at Abeokuta where i stay will cost us 2.5k, a cinema movie 2k at oopl, olumo rock 2k, zoo 1k, sweet sensation 4-5k, buy her a gift like maybe 5-8k wrist watch, lingeries etc will go far far far in the marriage than spending on one useless multipurpose nigerian gf.
Even a family weekend at iabdan or beach will go a long way.
Men are spending through their nose on gfs and am not ready for that.
A weekend at togo 5 years ago with my wife went a long way in our marriage.
She is not ready to lose me or mess around because most men out there spend more on gfs than wives

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Re: . by bukatyne(f): 7:30pm On Mar 11, 2020
Very Interesting thread.
Re: . by nlPoster: 7:31pm On Mar 11, 2020
Not interesting at all, actually.

Obsessive perhaps. Plus porn.

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Re: . by Nobody: 7:34pm On Mar 11, 2020
emmaodet:
This is my 7th year in marriage, tbh it has not been easy to stay faithful.
Though my wife is okay (atleast to my standard, she is pretty) but going to different seminars, workshops, church, office, mostly out of town (i stay atleast 6 months away from home every year), it's really not easy to be faithful and focused but with time and discipline, i thank God have been faithful.
My greatest motivation of staying faithful is because i believe your wife will really really appreciate 30% of what you do to outside chicks.
For example, if am to have a gf, cost of maintaining her for a month, hotel cost, pocket money, gifts, outings like restaurants, movies etc may likely be around 30-50k for a low-cost or low-budget nigerian gf but if i take half of that which is 25k and spend it on my wife and son, they will love me more, respect me more and are also more likely to stay behind me on rough days when maybe am broke unlike a gf that will just run away.
Taking my family for a weekend swimming at Abeokuta where i stay will cost us 2.5k, a cinema movie 2k at oopl, olumo rock 2k, zoo 1k, sweet sensation 4-5k, buy her a gift like maybe 5-8k wrist watch, lingeries etc will go far far far in the marriage than spending on one useless multipurpose nigerian gf.
Even a family weekend at iabdan or beach will go a long way.
Men are spending through their nose on gfs and am not ready for that.
A weekend at togo 5 years ago with my wife went a long way in our marriage.
She is not ready to lose me or mess around because most men out there spend more on gfs than wives
Good one,but what if there's enough money to throw around,would you still be the present you?

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Re: . by Acidosis(m): 7:55pm On Mar 11, 2020
You don't need married men to answer that question. Check yourself and your current or previous relationship. Have you ever cheated or attempted cheating in any of your commited relationship? If you answered yes, then you will cheat in marriage. Faithfulness doesn't come as a wedding gift. If you don't have it within, then you don't have it.

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Re: . by Nobody: 8:07pm On Mar 11, 2020
Acidosis:

You don't need married men to answer that question. Check yourself and your current or previous relationship. Have you ever cheated or attempted cheating in any of your commited relationship? If you answered yes, then you will cheat in marriage. Faithfulness doesn't come as a wedding gift. If you don't have it within, then you don't have it.
someone wrote above of being a playboy in his single days but have not had sex outside his marriage,so your assertion does not apply in all cases.
Re: . by Acidosis(m): 8:18pm On Mar 11, 2020
peepydelano:
someone wrote above of being a playboy in his single days but have not had sex outside his marriage,so your assertion does not apply in all cases.

Someone wrote? There's more to this thing than writing.

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Re: . by 24kmagic: 8:19pm On Mar 11, 2020
Going by the comments, most of the people that managed to stay faithful didn't stay faithful because it was the right thing to do or because they were disciplined.

They simply did that because they think one big guy is watching over them from above.

When can we as a people do the right thing without thinking somebody is watching us?

Nawa

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Re: . by Acidosis(m): 8:28pm On Mar 11, 2020
24kmagic:
Going by the comments, most of the people that managed to stay faithful didn't stay faithful because it was the right thing to do or because they were disciplined.

They simply did that because they think one big guy is watching over them from above.

When can we as a people do the right thing without thinking somebody is watching us?

Nawa

Actually, the one above instituted the idea of one man for one woman. Logically speaking, humans are meant to sleep around, same way dogs and other animals hop from one d+vk to another without worrying about adultery. Man coined the word "cheating" based on the idea of the one above.

A non-Christian has no reason whatsoever to stay with one partner. There are no rules binding who or how they should control their genitals.


A non-Christian that chooses to remain "faithful" or stay away from fornication is just punishing him/herself.

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Re: . by 24kmagic: 8:31pm On Mar 11, 2020
Acidosis:


Actually, the one above instituted the idea of one man for one woman. Logically speaking, humans are meant to sleep around, same way dogs and other animals hop from one d+vk to another without worrying about adultery. Man coined the word "cheating" based on the idea of the one above.

He instituted one man one wife, yet hundreds of those close to his heart married several women and concubines. And they're seated at his right hand side.

Please don't mention me again cos you just sound so ...... with this your comment. You for just lock up

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Re: . by Nobody: 8:33pm On Mar 11, 2020
24kmagic:
Going by the comments, most of the people that managed to stay faithful didn't stay faithful because it was the right thing to do or because they were disciplined.

They simply did that because they think one big guy is watching over them from above.

When can we as a people do the right thing without thinking somebody is watching us?

Nawa
There's no faithful man anywhere,the few ones that claims to are being faithful for reasons not associated with discipline,if everything set for them they will ignite the cheating tendencies,it is nature and I think women should accept that or accept polygamy as the case may be.
Re: . by Mizwisdom(f): 8:35pm On Mar 11, 2020
peepydelano:
Please for those of you that have not cheated on your spouse,how is it like?will your faithfulness last long?how did you cope with the same woman for this long without being bored and tired of her?do you feel the temptation to cheat sometimes and what do you do to quench such desire? .Strictly for those that have not cheated please.


Why worship your genitals? discard your desire for stolen waters, look only at your wife and desire her. Make a covenant with your eyes like Job did.

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Re: . by emmaodet: 8:36pm On Mar 11, 2020
peepydelano:
Good one,but what if there's enough money to throw around,would you still be the present you?

Hmmmmmmm, i think i may likely cheat but one thing is for sure - i will treat my wife far better than the outside chick.
It is very very very hard for a man to have more than enough, after having his dream house at a choice estate, nice cars, investments te te te and no fear for future, that is when a deep sleeping problem of formication will arise in him bro.
It's not easy, at that stage, the places you are going to, people you are mingling with are top guys too and you will be meeting Models, actresses, celebrities, Video vixens etc Bro, a large percentage of men for fall yakata ooo.
Just the way it will be extremely hard for a very beautiful woman to be faithful to her hubby due to heavy and serious distractions from rich and powerful guys, so also is it very hard for a rich and powerful man to stay faithful to his wife due to heavy distractions from celebrities, vixens, magazine and fashion models etc
The most important thing is a balance, not too rich and not too poor.
Even David in the bible said it, God pls don't make me to be too poor so that i will abuse you nor should you make me to be too rich so that i won't forget you.

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Re: . by Acidosis(m): 8:38pm On Mar 11, 2020
24kmagic:


He instituted one man one wife, yet hundreds of those close to his heart married several women and concubines. And they're seated at his right hand side.

Please don't mention me again cos you just sound so ...... with this your comment. You for just lock up

Hundreds? Like Isaac, Father Abraham, Jacob, Moses, Job, Prophet Isaiah, Ezekiel? Elijah, Elisha?

Of course, the so called hundred are Solomon, David and the "remaining 98". The Bible is not meant for non-Christians. It's like giving a Further Mathematics/Calculus textbook to a tolder.

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Re: . by Nobody: 8:39pm On Mar 11, 2020
Just looked though your threads, this's your second thread about cheating on your wife or wanting to. https://www.nairaland.com/5652991/married-women-come. Ain't nobody gonna validate adultery, op. When a Nigerian man has ojukokoro, this is what happens. It's your wife I pity
Re: . by Nobody: 8:40pm On Mar 11, 2020
Mizwisdom:



Why worship your genitals? discard your desire for stolen waters, look only at your wife and desire her. Make a covenant with your eyes like Job did.
Easier said than done, haven't you heard that the genitals you are talking about has it's own mind? Why do you think Men of God right from time immemorial have fallen short and became victims of the flesh
Re: . by Nobody: 8:41pm On Mar 11, 2020
OceanOfJoy:
Just looked though your threads, this's your second thread about cheating on your wife or wanting to. https://www.nairaland.com/5652991/married-women-come. Ain't nobody gonna validate adultery, op. When a Nigerian man has ojukokoro, this is what happens. It's your wife I pity
I'm not yet married
Re: . by Acidosis(m): 8:43pm On Mar 11, 2020
peepydelano:
There's no faithful man anywhere,the few ones that claims to are being faithful for reasons not associated with discipline,if everything set for them they will ignite the cheating tendencies,it is nature and I think women should accept that or accept polygamy as the case may be.

Women also got cheating in their nature. Don't deceive yourself. Have you ever seen a female dog?

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Re: . by SweetCunt97(f): 8:44pm On Mar 11, 2020
24kmagic:


He instituted one man one wife, yet hundreds of those close to his heart married several women and concubines. And they're seated at his right hand side.

Please don't mention me again cos you just sound so ...... with this your comment. You for just lock up
Nice one. Humans trying to be God's personal assistants to know what he likes and hates.

God never even had a problem with Marrying many wives as long as you treat them well and they don't turn your eyes away from him

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Re: . by Nobody: 8:47pm On Mar 11, 2020
emmaodet:


Hmmmmmmm, i think i may likely cheat but one thing is for sure - i will treat my wife far better than the outside chick.
It is very very very hard for a man to have more than enough, after having his dream house at a choice estate, nice cars, investments te te te and no fear for future, that is when a deep sleeping problem of formication will arise in him bro.
It's not easy, at that stage, the places you are going to, people you are mingling with are top guys too and you will be meeting Models, actresses, celebrities, Video vixens etc Bro, a large percentage of men for fall yakata ooo.
Just the way it will be extremely hard for a very beautiful woman to be faithful to her hubby due to heavy and serious distractions from rich and powerful guys, so also is it very hard for a rich and powerful man to stay faithful to his wife due to heavy distractions from celebrities, vixens, magazine and fashion models etc
The most important thing is a balance, not too rich and not too poor.
Even David in the bible said it, God pls don't make me to be too poor so that i will abuse you nor should you make me to be too rich so that i won't forget you.
I like how you came out very clean about the whole stuff.Good one,all in all women should try and tolerate their cheating husbands especially if he's treating her well and taking care of the home properly.Afterall the wives of David, Solomon and the rest didn't divorce their husbands when they cheated
Re: . by Nobody: 8:48pm On Mar 11, 2020
SweetCunt97:
Nice one. Humans trying to be God's personal assistants to know what he likes and hates.

God never even had a problem with Marrying many wives as long as you treat them well and they don't turn your eyes away from him
wao,coming from a lady

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