Good morning forumites, I do not know whether this is the right section to post this ,pardon me if however I'm posting on the wrong place. The is an issue of huge pertinence to me.

I am a young family man in my late 20s, I married a beautiful wife whose her age is 2yrs lesser than mine, we married 4yrs ago and have 2 beautiful kids between us now.
Initially we didn't leave together,because, my work made me a frequent traveller but I make sure I visit home every 2weeks, during this time ,true to be told, I have many girlfriends and sexually I am a very active man, (even she do complained of been too strong on bed)but not long ago, I decided to stop womanizing ,to which I drastically reduced ,but It didn't just reduced but with a price, I do self service most times ,(something I do regeret each time it's done), to stop all these, I resolve to bring my family closer, now we leave together, I must confess my wife dont really like sex, but she cherished maximum satisfaction each time we engaged in the act, but in a recent time , I discovered my body system don't really get arose each time she make a move towards me, after all the fore-plays, my JT would not even move an inch, Initially ,I tot it's not that a problem, thinking it might be my mood at that particular time, I work on my mood and make sure am in good state of mind before attempting again, but the problem persist,even if my JT Rise before, it will go down upon moving towards her, then I realized it's a problem , recently , I met an ex-girlfriend and make a move towards her, infact ,my performance was nothing short of excellence , I tried this thing thrice, and I did as normal than expected, as wrong as this might be or appear, I did it to confirm if I have problem concerning my sex life, to which I discorverd not having any,back to my wife , the problem keep persisting, she herself has not been helping the matter ,it's as if she's looking for my flop, eachtime she made a little pre-intimacy and I dont get moved, she will just start complaning that have done something outside,even when I don't do anything at all, she don't put any extra effort, she might even not talk to me through out the whole day, forumite, please help, what can I do? What could be going through her mind? I love my wife and can not afford to loose her, constructive advice please

Hmmmmmm!

Wow! In my humble opinion I think you should discuss this with your wife and both of you work it out togather. Wish you resolve this soon

Tell your wife that your JT works perfectly outside and if she doubts you, Please give her the contact of your Ex you recently met. Wishing you goodluck

Discuss with your wife and let her know all the extra marital affairs you've been having outside is starting to have an effect on you psychologically and that's why your Jt is refusing to rise.......reason is,

1)She would know she is not to blame
2) she can find away of getting her own satisfaction .

It might be due to her change in appearance compared to when U̶̲̥̅̊ just met. Many women bcom slack once they get married and stqrt having children thus making them less attractive. Tell her to start dressing or making up in a way that'll be sexually attractive to U̶̲̥̅̊. Also U̶̲̥̅̊ can combine this with some drugs #Viagra and co. But bro U̶̲̥̅̊ sef gat remain loyal!!

Story that touches the heart.

It is about time to reignite the drowning passion, make time to go to romantic places together, cinema, gardens, bar and clubs.
And stop those outside runz

it is nothing short of familiarity! stay calm, communicate the problem wt her and also spend more time with her as much as possible both indoors n outdoors. Make sure she is taking care of her appearance.



BE FAITHFUL TO HER AND MINIMIZE UR SELF SERVICING

Don't

blame little John for it refusal to stand at attention before your
wife,it's a thing of the mind..Start all over again and bring your mind
back home because it has obviously been occupied with images of
"hip-swaying,butt-shaking moves" that you get from your ex's and that your wife isn't offering you..

Stop testing it potency outside and start teaching your wife how to rock you.

zeb04: Discuss with your wife and let her know all the extra marital affairs you've been having outside is starting to have an effect on you psychologically and that's why your Jt is refusing to rise.......reason is,

1)She would know she is not to blame
2) she can find away of getting her own satisfaction .

Thanks , but I am not sure she can handle this truth divulgence

Odilafta: Don't

blame little John for it refusal to stand at attention before your
wife,it's a thing of the mind..Start all over again and bring your mind
back home because it has obviously been occupied with images of
"hip-swaying,butt-shaking moves" that you get from your ex's and that your wife isn't offering you..

Stop testing it potency outside and start teaching your wife how to rock you.

Thanks, I will take a good measure of stopping the vice

Odilafta: Don't

blame little John for it refusal to stand at attention before your
wife,it's a thing of the mind..Start all over again and bring your mind
back home because it has obviously been occupied with images of
"hip-swaying,butt-shaking moves" that you get from your ex's and that your wife isn't offering you..

Stop testing it potency outside and start teaching your wife how to rock you.

Hmmmm! You are already a professor in 'bedmatics' and 'under the sheet rumbling'!

lecturerdabo: it is nothing short of familiarity! stay calm, communicate the problem wt her and also spend more time with her as much as possible both indoors n outdoors. Make sure she is taking care of her appearance.



BE FAITHFUL TO HER AND MINIMIZE UR SELF SERVICING

in fairness to my wife,In term of dressing, she's second to none, she have a very good sense of dressing,I don't think someone can do more

ITbomb: It is about time to reignite the drowning passion, make time to go to romantic places together, cinema, gardens, bar and clubs.
And stop those outside runz

Thanks, I will give this a trial

Danhumprey: Hmmmm! You are already a professor in 'bedmatics' and 'under the sheet rumbling'!

It's all for you

Kanwulia: Hmmmmmm!

This one wey u no get anything to tell op.

Hmmmm....

zeb04: Discuss with your wife and let her know all the extra marital affairs you've been having outside is starting to have an effect on you psychologically and that's why your Jt is refusing to rise.

This is not true. It has nothing to do with extra marital affairs.

My friend has this problem, he doesn't cheat at all but his wife does not arouse him sometimes.

If he travel or stay away from his wife for a week or two and come back, things would go back to normal and their sex-life would be awesome in the first few days.

TBH, one woman is not enough for some people.

Odilafta:


It's all for you

Why do i feel its a spiritual problem?

Btw...is ur wife still as beautiful as b4?does she take care of her self d way she used to?In ur own view,is she still appealing to u?...if yes

Have u tried ale,afato or viagra?or v u treated ur self herbally?

Man just relax..its normal for some men to have erections with there mistresses and then when it comes to there wife they don't have that erection..Its a mind thing..That can be resolved.

- If there is any tension btw u and ur wife I will advice u address it.

- Is u kind of work stressful mentally or physically or do u over work urself Find ways to manage stress and keep ur mind free from stress before every action.

- Does ur wife touch u or do those things ur mistresses do that turn u on? If not then tell ur wife and teach her how u like it done.

- Reduce ur self servicing

- Love ur wife MORE.

- Exercise and eat right.

It could be spiritual too probably one of ur mistresses jinxed her pu.na.ni..so that ur erections won't come on for ur wife..U know how desperate these mistresses can be..muahahahahha..Booh.

Reduce the number of mistresses and if possible stop having them because soon u will notice u won't be having erections for them just like ur not having for ur wife and then u will have to go for new mistresses..Its a thing with men when we get use to it we are likely to go looking for a new one..That's why I will emphasis u love ur Wife More, focus all ur attention on making ur wife happy.

-MenGoingThereWay

If u love ur wife like u love ur ex, u won't have any problem giving it to her like u give ur ex
Oniranu now wants to justify his reasons
Ashawo oloko kekere

cantona2014: Good morning forumites, I do not know whether this is the right section to post this ,pardon me if however I'm posting on the wrong place. The is an issue of huge pertinence to me.

I am a young family man in my late 20s, I married a beautiful wife whose her age is 2yrs lesser than mine, we married 4yrs ago and have 2 beautiful kids between us now.
Initially we didn't leave together,because, my work made me a frequent traveller but I make sure I visit home every 2weeks, during this time ,true to be told, I have many girlfriends and sexually I am a very active man, (even she do complained of been too strong on bed)but not long ago, I decided to stop womanizing ,to which I drastically reduced ,but It didn't just reduced but with a price, I do self service most times ,(something I do regeret each time it's done), to stop all these, I resolve to bring my family closer, now we leave together, I must confess my wife dont really like sex, but she cherished maximum satisfaction each time we engaged in the act, but in a recent time , I discovered my body system don't really get arose each time she make a move towards me, after all the fore-plays, my JT would not even move an inch, Initially ,I tot it's not that a problem, thinking it might be my mood at that particular time, I work on my mood and make sure am in good state of mind before attempting again, but the problem persist,even if my JT Rise before, it will go down upon moving towards her, then I realized it's a problem , recently , I met an ex-girlfriend and make a move towards her, infact ,my performance was nothing short of excellence , I tried this thing thrice, and I did as normal than expected, as wrong as this might be or appear, I did it to confirm if I have problem concerning my sex life, to which I discorverd not having any,back to my wife , the problem keep persisting, she herself has not been helping the matter ,it's as if she's looking for my flop, eachtime she made a little pre-intimacy and I dont get moved, she will just start complaning that have done something outside,even when I don't do anything at all, she don't put any extra effort, she might even not talk to me through out the whole day, forumite, please help, what can I do? What could be going through her mind? I love my wife and can not afford to loose her, constructive advice please

THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN 2 BABIES GET MARRIED

Dolcilicious: Why do i feel its a spiritual problem?

Btw...is ur wife still as beautiful as b4?does she take care of her self d way she used to?In ur own view,is she still appealing to u?...if yes

Have u tried ale,afato or viagra?or v u treated ur self herbally?

My wife is more beautiful than before, she is still her elegant and charming self, with a good and very tempting physique, if there is any changes at all,it's her slightly protruding belly which is normal after child birth, as our second child is just 4 month old, as for the herbal concortion, I do take it, I don't think I have problem at all cos I have check and observed my self so well, the problem now I do not know, so also I dnt want to believe it's spiritual,I will try and explore all likely solutions prescribed here, thanks so much

cantona2014:

My wife is more beautiful than before, she is still her elegant and charming self, with a good and very tempting physique, if there is any changes at all,it's her slightly protruding belly which is normal after child birth, as our second child is just 4 month old, as for the herbal concortion, I do take it, I don't think I have problem at all cos I have check and observed my self so well, the problem now I do not know, so also I dnt want to believe it's spiritual,I will try and explore all likely solutions prescribed here, thanks so much

Ur wlc

MenGoingThereWay: Man just relax..its normal for some men to have erections with there mistresses and then when it comes to there wife they don't have that erection..Its a mind thing..That can be resolved.

- If there is any tension btw u and ur wife I will advice u address it.

- Is u kind of work stressful mentally or physically or do u over work urself Find ways to manage stress and keep ur mind free from stress before every action.

- Does ur wife touch u or do those things ur mistresses do that turn u on? If not then tell ur wife and teach her how u like it done.

- Reduce ur self servicing

- Love ur wife MORE.

- Exercise and eat right.

It could be spiritual too probably one of ur mistresses jinxed her pu.na.ni..so that ur erections won't come on for ur wife..U know how desperate these mistresses can be..muahahahahha..Booh.

Reduce the number of mistresses and if possible stop having them because soon u will notice u won't be having erections for them just like ur not having for ur wife and then u will have to go for new mistresses..Its a thing with men when we get use to it we are likely to go looking for a new one..That's why I will emphasis u love ur Wife More, focus all ur attention on making ur wife happy.

-MenGoingThereWay

I so much appreciate this workable solution ,thanks so much

cantona2014: Good morning forumites, I do not know whether this is the right section to post this ,pardon me if however I'm posting on the wrong place. The is an issue of huge pertinence to me.

I am a young family man in my late 20s, I married a beautiful wife whose her age is 2yrs lesser than mine, we married 4yrs ago and have 2 beautiful kids between us now.
Initially we didn't leave together,because, my work made me a frequent traveller but I make sure I visit home every 2weeks, during this time ,true to be told, I have many girlfriends and sexually I am a very active man, (even she do complained of been too strong on bed)but not long ago, I decided to stop womanizing ,to which I drastically reduced ,but It didn't just reduced but with a price, I do self service most times ,(something I do regeret each time it's done), to stop all these, I resolve to bring my family closer, now we leave together, I must confess my wife dont really like sex, but she cherished maximum satisfaction each time we engaged in the act, but in a recent time , I discovered my body system don't really get arose each time she make a move towards me, after all the fore-plays, my JT would not even move an inch, Initially ,I tot it's not that a problem, thinking it might be my mood at that particular time, I work on my mood and make sure am in good state of mind before attempting again, but the problem persist,even if my JT Rise before, it will go down upon moving towards her, then I realized it's a problem , recently , I met an ex-girlfriend and make a move towards her, infact ,my performance was nothing short of excellence , I tried this thing thrice, and I did as normal than expected, as wrong as this might be or appear, I did it to confirm if I have problem concerning my sex life, to which I discorverd not having any,back to my wife , the problem keep persisting, she herself has not been helping the matter ,it's as if she's looking for my flop, eachtime she made a little pre-intimacy and I dont get moved, she will just start complaning that have done something outside,even when I don't do anything at all, she don't put any extra effort, she might even not talk to me through out the whole day, forumite, please help, what can I do? What could be going through her mind? I love my wife and can not afford to loose her, constructive advice please

Confess to your wife and two of u should knee down while holding ur hands and pray to God while naked in your room .the kids most be sleeping while u do it

Tundeiab: THIS IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN 2 BABIES GET MARRIED

You get it wrong here, who told you this issue is as a result of early marriage? As young as both of us are , we have fused together as one, we have never had rift from morning till night, I have never for once regret getting married this early, perharps I married an educated and very understanding wife, we couldnt have managed our affairs better if we are older than this, age is just a number my brother ,grow up!!!!

Maybe one of your girl friends has "kidnapped" your thing. Find out which of them and pay the ransom.

On a serious note, talk it over with your wife, it's obvious that there is no spark between you two anymore.

dytbabe: If u love ur wife like u love ur ex, u won't have any problem giving it to her like u give ur ex
Oniranu now wants to justify his reasons
Ashawo oloko kekere

Don't judge me, even if am bad , you might be worse , who knows? Pressing back buton will not do you any harm if you can't contribute constructively on the subject matter

Tallesty1: This is not true. It has nothing to do with extra marital affairs.

My friend has this problem, he doesn't cheat at all but his wife does not arouse him sometimes.

If he travel or stay away from his wife for a week or two and come back, things would go back to normal and their sex-life would be awesome in the first few days.

TBH, one woman is not enough for some people.

Just listen to yourself. Your sins are chasing you. I'm sorry for your wife.

cantona2014:

Don't judge me, even if am bad , you might be worse , who knows? Pressing back buton will not do you any harm if you can't contribute constructively on the subject matter

U are right I might be worse bt far. Better than u
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