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Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by GeorgeD1(m): 3:34pm On Jan 15, 2011
sms4health,
the issue here is not whether she's still fertile or not. it is about lying and if she could lie about such a thing like her age, then she could have lied about more terrible things!
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by plappville(f): 1:51am On Jan 17, 2011
This one said dis, that one said that positive advise or not my question is, Can any of us here boldly come out and say he/she hasn't lied befor? Be it @ work in order not to be sacked, in our business arena we add sugar and salt just to gain a client, in the school, we ve lied to friendS and lecturals.

Lie is lie be it for marriage or other purposes.
The woman in question has lied to keep the man she loves for reasons best known to her like every liar in the world.
What is important in this case is that she told the truth even if it was told late, at least her heart is troubleless than befor.
Some satanic hearted women will keep it for enternity. I know it hurts to discover that the one we love had lied to us but then.

@ Poster plz bear it in mind that, your woman is not over 45 yrs she is only 36 if there is any reason that could prevent a 35-43yrs old woman from been pregnant it should be is STRESS that is, If she has no health problem.
I have two friends that had thier kids at their 37 and 39, and just after the first pregnacy the second child comes easily.

U as a husband has alot of role to play don't don't pour the blame on your wife.
Now that she has confessed to u, if really u love her and has 4given her all u need do is make her happy.
Make love without season and remove the subject of baby from u. U will see how the thing willjust enter. If u and your woman are stressed over getting a baby u ve less chance to have it.
Above all , Take it to God and relax your mind, enjoy your relationship, and stop been sad and negetive. Be informed that there is no perfect home in this world.


Bien entendu, c'est à vous de reflechir avant de faire les choses.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by harakiri(m): 1:03pm On Jan 17, 2011
^^^

@plappville

The woman in question is no different from the "satanic" women you talked about. If not for her current situation and the medical report, she would have kept this secret for all eternity.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by plappville(f): 3:02pm On Jan 17, 2011
harakiri:

^^^

@plappville

The woman in question is no different from the "satanic" women you talked about. If not for her current situation and the medical report, she would have kept this secret for all eternity.

This is the POSTERS words, We are having problems conceiving that's why she confessed. Doctors say female fertility drops with age. Fertility even drops further after 35. I am really disgusted with her

there was no medical report yet , the doctor spoke in respect of her age, and the hubby said they only start trying since two months, two months is not enough to judge if they have problem or not. The doctor is right about what he told them but I think at her age she is have chances to get pregnant, I understood that she confessed befor the doctor spoke about the age thing. All thesame, she has to be forgiven, life goes on.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by dayokanu(m): 5:10pm On Jan 17, 2011
The woman in question has lied to keep the man she loves for reasons best known to her like every liar in the world.
What is important in this case is that she told the truth even if it was told late, at least her heart is troubleless than befor.
Some satanic hearted women will keep it for enternity. I know it hurts to discover that the one we love had lied to us but then.

What makes this woman different from those Satanic women? She intended on keeping it for life if not for the problem with conception
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by plappville(f): 6:42pm On Jan 17, 2011
But how can the poster say that they ve problem only 2 months trial
And if I may asked the poster, since u ve been dating hasn't there been a day she took in?? Abi una been dey play safe all through?? Because it's hard to date this long without any form of pregnancy. That could ve at least give u some sign of what the future could be with her abi?
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by GeorgeD1(m): 9:11am On Jan 19, 2011
plappville:

And if I may asked the poster, since u ve been dating hasn't there been a day she took in?? Abi una been dey play safe all through??

grin
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Nobody: 10:10am On Jan 19, 2011
faraday62:

A lame liar? I have nothing to lie about here. I read through some of the post here. I am still with my wife, though we are having a very bad Christmas. I feel very bad. The whole thing is bizarre. I told her it looks like drama to me. She actually forged her birth certificate and her baptism card( i am a catholic). We had to submit these cards to the priest  before we are allowed to get married. The funny thing is that her elder sisters always thought she had told me her real age and are screaming at her now for lying. You know, I may try to go on with the marriage , but my guts tell me it will never be the same. Infact I am wondering if there was a marriage at all because the court and church certificates are displaying the fake age she used. I never wanted my marriage to be this way. Based on fraud or deceit. 

This woman is dangerous, she can kill
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by GeorgeD1(m): 6:03pm On Jan 20, 2011
jenny,
lying is just a short step away from murder.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Genius100: 9:51pm On Jan 20, 2011
Faraday, relax. Go buy an ovulation meter. On the day she is ovulating as indicated by the meter, fire her like 5 to 6 rounds. You will be surprised how many people don't know that there is a timing aspect to pregnancy,
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by plappville(f): 10:25pm On Jan 20, 2011
Genius100:

Faraday, relax. Go buy an ovulation meter. On the day she is ovulating as indicated by the meter, fire her like 5 to 6 rounds. You will be surprised how many people don't know that there is a timing aspect to pregnancy,

True talk, with the new technology, there are very sure digital fertality monitor products.
Like I said befor in my previews post, both party has a role to play, do not put the stress on ur wife alone, u ve to help her things will be fine am so sure.
Poster should use this link, thought it's written in French but with google translation tool, u can translate the page good luck.

http://www.clearblue.com/fr/clearblue-fertility-monitor.php
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Nobody: 8:40pm On Jan 26, 2012
Amibo 101!!!! Update please! undecided undecided undecided
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by GeorgeD1(m): 11:59am On Jan 27, 2012
men! are we still on this?
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Nobody: 5:24am On Feb 03, 2012
To those saying the OP is shallow minded: that is his preference.

You like apple, someone else likes mango; are you trying to imply you are more mature or know better than that someone because you like apple and not mango?

undecided

Some men like older women, others want their age-mates while others prefer them younger, very younger.

I know a dude who always says he wants to get married to a lady 8-10 years younger than him. Not knowing that his love interest is actually 3 years older than she claims.

Do you think he'd be happy to find out her true age after everything has been done?
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by queensmith: 11:28am On Feb 03, 2012
^^ michelin, that makes absolutely no sense! the op didnt know the difference! her attitude did not change he just discovered her real age? surely thats not a preference thing?

if he truly liked younger women for whatever they had to offer- he wouldnt have liked the OP abi? he just has his ego attached to whatever is on the womans birth certificate which is shallow minded and senseless!
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Nobody: 2:38pm On Feb 03, 2012
If a man decides to trust his wife, then he is shallow minded.

If a man decides to investigate about his wife, then he is controlling and insecure.

cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy Nigerian men don suffer. There is nothing they do that impresses these days.

Some women look older than their real age, while others look their age, and a few lucky ones look younger than their age.

If a man sees a young looking woman who could pass for 20, while she is actually 25, and she says I'm 20; are you saying the man should hire a private investigator to verity the woman's version? Abeg. Trust is important so people won't go crazy over stressing themselves.

If to say trust nor dey, you know how many people for don collapse with HBP?

I don't think the OP is shallow minded. He likes younger women and was deceived by a wife who appeared younger than she really is. She even forged her birth certificate and whatever. That kind mind is diabolic. She might have even blackmailed her family or threatened their lives to keep it secret.

I fear her and I fear for the man life. lipsrsealed
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Attention(f): 12:19pm On Feb 07, 2012
well age is a thing of the mind in as much as she is submissive to you and respectful. her confessing to you shows she loves you and didnt want to loose you. all you can do now is see a fertility specialist as to reasons why you have the delay. there are so many medical helps you can get and once baby come am sure u'll forget her age. remember marriage is for better for worst and there are other people who have had this similar issue and handled it wisely and better.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by TheCharisma(f): 5:25pm On Jun 08, 2013
Wait a minute. How come you never asked to see her ID? Anyway, I know it was a few years ago. How did it end? Are you still with her?
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by ibiange: 2:49pm On Jul 18, 2014
Shebi you liked what you saw when you decided to marry her abi did you propose to her because she said she was a sweet sixteen? ......Oga settle down and love your wife....u no get problem.

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Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by MARKone(m): 9:34pm On Jul 18, 2014
^^^ since 2010 undecided I believe they must have settled.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by JEITO: 10:16pm On Jul 18, 2014
Shey dey said people do crazy things in love? Ehn na she lied for the sake of love na grin grin. But really @ OP I don't think you are mentally ready for marriage life. You rushed into it for reasons best known to you and now that u are faced with a challenge, you want to chicken out claiming the age difference is the reason.
I wonder what you guys have been discussing in three years of dating that you didn't in that time find out her true age.
She too didn't do right; a relationship born out of lie can be devastating but there shld be room for forgiveness. I'm sure she did it out of fear that she would lose u

If I must advise you, I will say you should act as if she isn't older and continue as u used to before u discovered she is older. Afterall, her looks and behaviour have not suddenly changed frm wat dey used to be simply because u hav discoverd she is older
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Nobody: 11:09pm On Jul 18, 2014
dayokanu: ANother man conned into marriage.

I trust some people would tell him to endure it


U called it conned, as if lying of age is a huge crime. Even men lie abt their age, shud their wives divorce them?? If everyone can screen pple true ages, most marriages wud be on d rock by now, if most pple av yur kind of mindset.
Op, if u like don't get past d issue of age and appreciate yur wife.. And if u like seek for divorce and marry under 20.. Na ya choice.. Life is all abt choices, choose and live by it.

Other pple are divorcing their wives due to infidelity, and.other stringent causes. But U r divorcing due to agesmhhh. Check out the dancer, who's 35 year old lady that married one of Psquare drummer guy of 25yr old.. She neva born 2 pikin , by now?... Siddon there, dey point finger, instead of checking yur sperm count if its up. 2.... Smmh

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Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by adaxxy: 9:56pm On Dec 06, 2014
I didn't support that fact that she lied to you about her age but what matters is if she is a good wife and does her duties has a wife you have notting to worry about ehat if you marry someone younger than you and later turns a monster so therefore you can visit clinic for ivf and you'll be surprised st what God has in stock for you stay blessed brother.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by adaxxy: 10:01pm On Dec 06, 2014
Na true talk you talk my dear infact I have a colleague who got married 8yrs ago and I joined the company 7yrs ago all her sets were them employed don born 2 to 3kids but she never get belle and guess her age now 33yrs and you van imagine what she will be going through her marriage
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by FineWine94(f): 7:44am On Nov 05, 2016
faraday62:
We have been married for a year. What I really meant by the 2 months is , we have been trying to conceive all the while and really started getting worried 2 months ago about why we have not been able to conceive. That was a mistake, my mind has really been trailing away because i am really sad about the development. i don't have any need to lie about this. I need help not condemnation. Thanks. if you had not pointed out the mistake I wouldn't have noticed



It's been 6years, I hope you got the help you needed.
Re: My Wife Lied To Me About Her Age by Mskrisx(f): 8:39am On Nov 05, 2016
Blazay:
Mu he he he he


@OP

God is in control.

Let us pray please. . .

Hes in kontro
Hes in kontro
Master jisus. . . Hes in kontro. . .

Amen.



Looks like you are a liar yourself. shocked

 

You do not need advice really.


U very wickedt grin grin

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