birdman:

You can have kids without getting married. Even have a single parent, or two moms, or two dads. The fact there there is no surviving society with such family models suggest the married family model is the most reasonable for any society that wants to survive.

faponfapon:

@inknerd, just a thought out of d box, and frm wat ppl has been sayin concerning marriage here and u, dunno if you are xtian or muslim, but if u are xtian, dnt u think u deciding nt 2 get married might be u commiting sin?cos there's a passage in d bible tht makes mariage compulsory as xtian.?just thinkin

eldav:

@nerd

Somethings in d Bible doesnt make sense u say?hmm,mind wat u say.God doesnt condole mockery.jst so u knw.

faponfapon:

anyways nerd, i guess d decision on wat u wanna do wit your life either marryin or not marryin is entirely up to u and and nt mine 2 pokenose, and i guess i'll just leave u alone and concentrate on d original post.
really house i guess we shuld just leave nerd alone and concentrate on d topic on ground since her decisio is nun our biz.

Orton1_0:

whatever gal its up to you and just like the other person said, its your life.
But don't be surprised if you wake up one day at 70 with no kids or 'personal person' to call your own.

omo_to_dun:

@Inkerd_Nerd & All the Other Ladies Who Had The "Balls" To Challenge The Status Quo

First, let me start by commending your stance, not because it is right or wrong, but because you possess the ability to critique a social tradition that does not make sense to you, instead of just blindly accepting the social norm. My mother's situation and the poster's are almost exactly the same, and it greatly pains me---till this day---and even occasionally bring tears to my eyes knowing that her children's happiness came only as a result of the sacrifice of her happiness. If possible, I would gladly choose to be unborn so that she could be happy. Instead, she stayed in a loveless union because of her tribal beliefs.

Marriage and children are a good thing, but, unfortunately they are not for everyone. Whenever I hear someone say that s/he will not have children or get married, it makes me really happy because I know they are not selfish but that they are trying to avoid being unhappy, or trying to avoid pleasing other people but themselves. Unfortunately, only rich people like Oprah Winfrey, George Clooney, Janet Jackson, and many others can make such decisions with minimum vilification.

Some of our African brothers and sisters always talk about how those of us in the West are quick to follow the white man's way of thinking. Hmm, who gave you Christianity? Who gave you education? Who taught you English? Who gave you democracy? If our way of thinking were superior, we would be amongst the top nations in the world; it hurts, but it is the truth. They are quick to tell you that you are mocking God whenever you point out that the Bible---that was given to them by the white man---contains errors. We don't analyze anything, we just accept them hook, line, and sinker. Some id.iots still think only God can change Nigeria. You know what, I have an exam in three days time, but I am not going to study, because the God that I serve is a living God and He will do a new thing in my life. So, I have been fasting and praying and I know that the Holy Ghost will take control of my exam in three days. God bless you all.