Girl846:

Its plain selfishness

beejaei:

^^
@Inked Nerd

What do your parents feel about this? I cannot tell my mum. I will break her heart and take away her happiness.

lagbaja21:

I assume that you live in the western world, right? This is usually the case with our women who live there, They tend to want to emulate the white people, some take it too far like you.

Onchedu:

your mum is a womderful woman. As much as I don't know her I have uncommon respect for her. She, in love, sacrificed herself for the better of other people. She could have chosen to opt out of her suffereings but she did the better thing and now U and your siblings have a good life.
She has shown Christlikeness in her choices and that is very highly commendable.
She isn't only a good mother but a wonderful wife. Tell her a stranger said so.

Now the only reason I'm not married yet is cos I'm not as financially stable as I feel I would be comfortable being, considering the responsibilities of being a good husband and father. If U no fit provide the basics comfortably e dey hard make love survive well o.

Marriage is a bed of roses. The thorns give it character without which it would be boring.

birdman:

To be honest, this is a western way of thinking. To the African or Asian mind, this is a self-centered way of looking at things. The community's needs are bigger than your needs, and you are supposed to play your part by having a stable family that produces a responsible next generation. After all, a previous generation brought you into being and spent energy nuturing you. So you have to give back, otherwise you are being selfish.

I'm not saying its right, or wrong, but that's the general idea for non-western societies.

orbaxy:

@Inked nerd,
I adore you but fault that orientation of yours. Its very probable you've been through a turbulent relationship or you just don't mix with the right people.
You need a man who's gonna love you more and prove to you that eternal happiness can be found in just "one guy". give it a shot.

alisigwe:

@inknerd,are u 4 real?u sound lik u running away 4rm sth or u tryn to find yourself in a foreign land.whatever

porasog:

hmm this thread is tempting oh, I'd rather let it pass.

orbaxy:

lol. I aint trying to play psychology on you but i'll rather view your position as "subnormal". By the way,  at your leisure, you can fly down to dubai lemme treat you to a glass of pineapple juice blended on gin  

tine:

Its intresting the way most people think a lady must want to get married or something is wrong.

alisigwe:

Ladies,ya'll confusing me,am i missing sth?i mean why would u nt want to get married,are you dat ugly?or fat?what on earth can u compare to raising a family together?

tine:

@alisigwe, there is nothing wrong with raising a family if that's what you want, but why do u assume every woman wants to raise a family?