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Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 9:19am On Mar 31
Forgive and you will be forgiven, and no matter what a lady does, you are to forgive. You either forgive and stay or forgive and move on. But for marriage, you must forgive and stay no matter what...But here may be the reasons men find it uneasy to forgive Cheating.

(1) The remembrance of her gestures, pleasures, styles and the pounding of the evil man on their partner could cause trauma.

(2) Ego issue: some men love to brag when they sleep with a lady, and no man wants another man to brag about sleeping with his lady. This can bruise their ego.

(3) Trust issues: these days, people hardly change, and "past is usually present". When a lady cheats, she might do it again and again because of emotions, so some men find it hard to trust a lady who cheated, even if she admits repentance.

(4) Being termed weakling. To err is human, and to forgive is divine. But many or most men will term a man weakling who forgave his cheating partner. This could be a barrier in forgiveness

(5) Insult to Sexual Prowess: A man cheated upon may feel like the evil man who cheated with his partner is sexually strong or more sophisticated in things. This could lead to inferiority complex or one seeing himself as "Mr nice guy". In summary, it could cause bitterness.

Finally, no matter what, forgive. No matter how painful, forgive. If you are so pained, get another relationship to ease off the pain. If you are legally married, see a counselor and get healed.

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by dawnomike(m): 9:22am On Mar 31
A man's cheating with sex is an external process while a lady's cheating is an internal process... That is to say; the man gives while the woman receives. You can not have what you gave but you can keep what you received!

Think about it!!! grin
NB: Cheating in relationship is wrong no matter who is involved be it a man or woman

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by toluzealous: 9:29am On Mar 31
that number one is the most whether you are serious with her or not. remembering how she is shouting harder to the man or how she dey give him several style or how she dey give am Mouth Action with same mouth she dey kiss you or to worsen the matter make it be a neighbour

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 10:53am On Mar 31
toluzealous:
that number one is the most whether you are serious with her or not. remembering how she is shouting harder to the man or how she dey give him several style or how she dey give am Mouth Action with same mouth she dey kiss you or to worsen the matter make it be a neighbour
That pains
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Kingpinukecy(m): 12:01pm On Mar 31
dawnomike:
A man's cheating with sex is an external process while a lady's cheating is an internal process... That is to say; the man gives while the Roman receives. You can not have what you gave but you can keep what you received!

Think about it!!! grin
NB: Cheating in relationship is wrong no matter who is involved be it a man or woman

Geskiya na the fact be this... correct geeee �
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Kingpinukecy(m): 12:02pm On Mar 31
toluzealous:
that number one is the most whether you are serious with her or not. remembering how she is shouting harder to the man or how she dey give him several style or how she dey give am Mouth Action with same mouth she dey kiss you or to worsen the matter make it be a neighbour

OH LORD...U HAVE KILLED IT
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by NaijadrivaCars: 12:38pm On Mar 31
Bro code: sack a cheating ho.e
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 12:47pm On Mar 31
In number 1: if it is a married man, if he hears his wife screaming during sex, he may remember the person she cheated with. But if he has forgiven and healed, it won't pain him
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by lefulefu(m): 12:51pm On Mar 31
if u forgive and still stay in the relationship u are a foolish man.forgive her and break up and get ur respect intact instead of acting like a cuckhold dude.

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Hbabarb: 12:51pm On Mar 31
No one loves cheating whether man or woman. See my signature below if you have N10k and above and wish to make N60,000 upward monthly on LBTC.
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by ubunja(f): 12:54pm On Mar 31
Only one reason: BABIES FROM OTHER MEN YOU WILL RAISE THINKING THEY ARE YOUR OWN.

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 1:04pm On Mar 31
lefulefu:
if u forgive and still stay in the relationship u are a foolish man.forgive her and break up and get ur respect intact instead of acting like a cuckhold dude.
Forgive and staying together is hard for many guys.
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by lefulefu(m): 1:05pm On Mar 31
freedomest:
Forgive and staying together is hard for many guys.
if u stay the lady wont respect u anymore

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 1:07pm On Mar 31
lefulefu:
if u stay the lady wont respect u anymore
It makes a man look like weakling
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by RealMillennial(m): 1:19pm On Mar 31
The capacity for this kind of forgiveness (I mean genuine one) can only be granted by God. No carnal man can do it genuinely.

It also depends on the kind of "love" the relationship was built on;
There are basically four kinds. Unfortunately most marriages as we know, were built on the wrong kind of love. It can't survive such shocks.

The Marriage Kind of Love (excerpt from a Myles Monroe teaching)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tvNkpmekeec

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 1:27pm On Mar 31
RealMillennial:
The capacity for this kind of forgiveness (I mean genuine one) can only be granted by God. No carnal man can do it genuinely.

It also depends on the kind of "love" the relationship was built on;
There are basically four kinds. Unfortunately most marriages as we know, were built on the wrong kind of love. It can't survive such shocks.

The Marriage Kind of Love (excerpt from a Myles Monroe teaching)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tvNkpmekeec
You made much sense
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by lefulefu(m): 1:40pm On Mar 31
freedomest:
It makes a man look like weakling
exactly
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by CAPSLOCKED: 1:45pm On Mar 31
MANY MEN DO NOT FORGIVE CHEATING, BUT THEY GO AROUND CHEATING AND EVEN CONVINCING WOMEN TO CHEAT ON THEIR PARTNERS WITH THEM. BUT WHEN IT HAPPENS TO THEM? OH NO, ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE.

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by WORDWORLD: 1:54pm On Mar 31
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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Sixfeetbelle: 2:59pm On Mar 31
lefulefu:
if u forgive and still stay in the relationship u are a foolish man.forgive her and break up and get ur respect intact instead of acting like a cuckhold dude.

If the man cheats, what should the woman do?
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by lefulefu(m): 3:06pm On Mar 31
Sixfeetbelle:


If the man cheats, what should the woman do?
she can leave as well.

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Lamanii22(f): 3:07pm On Mar 31
toluzealous:
that number one is the most whether you are serious with her or not. remembering how she is shouting harder to the man or how she dey give him several style or how she dey give am Mouth Action with same mouth she dey kiss you or to worsen the matter make it be a neighbour


That kind of pain hits different....
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 3:07pm On Mar 31
Sixfeetbelle:

If the man cheats, what should the woman do?
Do the right thing
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Sixfeetbelle: 3:37pm On Mar 31
lefulefu:
she can leave as well.

I'm glad this is your response cause I was asking based on married couples. Hence, if your husnand cheats, leave him. That way, we should expect a significant rise in the number of divorce cases after. And I hope at the end, no women-hating idiot will blame the current divorce trend on feminism.
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Sixfeetbelle: 3:38pm On Mar 31
freedomest:
Do the right thing

What is the right thing? Please enlighten me

I've learnt that the world is never black and white and what is right to you is definitely wrong to another person.
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by lefulefu(m): 3:42pm On Mar 31
Sixfeetbelle:


I'm glad this is your response cause I was asking based on married couples. Hence, if your husnand cheats, leave him. That way, we should expect a significant rise in the number of divorce cases after. And I hope at the end, no women-hating idiot will blame the current divorce trend on feminism.
its better to be divorced than kill ur spouse in a rage of jelousy cheesy cheesy and if u dont want to be a divorcee then during courtship dats d time u should understand ur partner but then if divorce is the last option then biko do it and cut off from the problematic partner.

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by lefulefu(m): 3:45pm On Mar 31
Sixfeetbelle:


. And I hope at the end, no women-hating idiot will blame the current divorce trend on feminism.
thats why i like white women..u cheat and u get kicked to the curb.no time to waste
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Sixfeetbelle: 3:47pm On Mar 31
lefulefu:
its better to be divorced than kill ur spouse in a rage of jelousy cheesy cheesy

Let the divorce courts open wide then cause their case brochure is about to overfill. grin

All this cheating either for pleasure, to make money, to prove masculinity and to prove desirability (by women), we are all doing ourselves las las. cry

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Nobody: 3:48pm On Mar 31
Sixfeetbelle:


What is the right thing? Please enlighten me

I've learnt that the world is never black and white and what is right to you is definitely wrong to another person.
Let me give you this: (1) If a stubborn and "crazy" boy takes your money, will you be surprised? No..(2) If a gentle, quiet and trusted boy dupes you and runs away, will you be angry? Very angry....The way men cheat looks like (1), the way women cheat looks like (2)....

If a woman catches a cheating man, she may not be as shocked as a man catching a cheating wife, because one is more trusted.....But when a girl catches a cheating boyfriend, she should break up and forgive, then move on to a better relationship.

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by lefulefu(m): 3:51pm On Mar 31
Sixfeetbelle:


Let the divorce courts open wide then cause their case brochure is about to overfill. grin

All this cheating either for pleasure, to make money, to prove masculinity and to prove desirability (by women), we are all doing ourselves las las. cry
std and all cheesy
Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by Sixfeetbelle: 3:57pm On Mar 31
freedomest:
Let me give you this: (1) If a stubborn and "crazy" boy takes your money, will you be surprised? No..(2) If a gentle, quiet and trusted boy dupes you and runs away, will you be angry? Very angry....The way men cheat looks like (1), the way women cheat looks like (2)....

If a woman catches a cheating man, she may not be as shocked as a man catching a cheating wife, because one is more trusted.....But when a girl catches a cheating boyfriend, she should break up and forgive, then move on to a better relationship.

Finally, I can't say I'm surprised by your response. The examples you gave is what is known as double standards. Why should a man not expect his wife to cheat but yet, he wants his wife to expect his cheating?

Oga, no human being is perfect and it's about time men woke up from their slumber. If you have the tendency to cheat, sha know you're probably not married to holy Sister. And if a partner cheats, the marriage should either be patched through forgiveness from both parties or dissolution from both parties.

If a man cannot forgive his cheating wife, he should make sure he's not one himself. Damn hypocrites

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Re: Five Reasons Men Find It Hard To Forgive Sexual Cheating by tunize(m): 4:04pm On Mar 31
Chai true talk buh i feel the one that is most painful na that one the girl dey bad mouth or dey tell u for ur present sey " i just hate that guy bla bla" but dey collect dick from the same guy behind ur back.

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