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Watching Pornography Could Be Putting Your Relationship At Stake by Nobody: 8:11pm On Apr 09, 2020
Pornography has been shown to weaken commitment in marriages because it creates an utterly false impression of what a normal body looks like and what sexual behavior is really about. The sexual relationship is meant to be mutually satisfying expression of each partner’s love for the other. In contrast, porn is about self-gratification and often involves dominating or mistreating the other person, creating unrealistic expressions; sing porn to spice up marital sex is self-defeating

Could Cause Mistrust
According to numerous studies, prolonged exposure to pornography leads to a diminished trust between intimate couples. Pornography and secrecy go hand in hand. Most people who view pornography go to great lengths to keep it hidden. It’s most often watched late at night when their spouse is asleep or when they are home alone. Users are careful to lock doors, erase their internet history, and keep files and videos hidden with passwords.
Spouses are shocked and feel betrayed when they find out because they were so easily kept in the dark. They wonder what else is going on that they don’t know about. Even users who were upfront with their spouse about watching pornography admit that they hide how much and when from them. Deception is a common theme of pornography. In contrast, transparency is a common theme of strong relationships.

Could Hinder Emotional Intimacy
Pornography leads to objectification rather than a meaningful interaction with another person...there’s a big difference between having sex and making love. Sex is about pleasure. Making love is about connection. Sex is about the body, making love is about the person. Because a bonding hormone is released during sexual intimacy, it can be a wonderful and powerful way to feel closer to and connect with your spouse. However, if that hormone is released when your spouse is not present, that aspect of marital intimacy is lost.

Could Affect Self-Esteem
When men and women were exposed to porn, they were less likely to be pleased with their partner’s physical appearance, affection, and sexual performance. Not only does porn affect how users view others but it also affects how they view themselves. Porn users may find that not only do they see their partners in a less than “satisfying” way, but they start to think that they themselves are less attractive as well.
Men who viewed a lot of porn were likely to say that they became more critical of their partner’s appearance and lost interest in sex with their partner as a result. Interestingly enough, twice as many women reported that their porn-watching spouses became more critical and that this criticism made the women less interested in sex.
Researches have found that porn consumers eventually compare their spouse or partner and themselves to images of porn models. Is it any wonder then that it destroys self-esteem? How can anyone live up to to the unrealistic expectations of porn’s perfectly airbrushed, surgically enhanced, and carefully photoshopped bodies?

Could Cause Selfishness
Pornography, at its core, is all about selfishness and immediate gratification. The user focuses solely on getting and taking when he wants. In contrast, true marital intimacy is a giving of oneself. A relationship where one spouse is only interested in taking usually does not last very long. People who use porn regularly often have a hard time being gentle during lovemaking. Sex tends to be impersonal, rushed, and “forced.” There’s no pre-intimacy. There’s no waiting to arouse someone. It’s just taking what you want.

Could Make You Feel Women Enjoy Being Dominated In Bed

Could Impair Your Sex Life
Porn can lead to decreased sexual performance. So many people say that they use porn in an effort to “spice up” their sex life. However, research shows that it actually wrecks your libido. Not only is porn leading to bad sex, but some studies show that it’s taking away men’s ability to have sex at all

Could Cause Marital Dissatisfaction & Infidelity
Here’s the thing: not only is porn a fantasy, but it also makes it harder for users to have real loving relationships.
Pornography warps views about sex and relationships. It distorts views of men and women and changes sexual attitudes and behaviors. The fantasy alternative leads to real-world cheating.

Could Result To Anxiety And Depression
Not saying that pornography is the primary cause of depression or anxiety. The truth is, there isn’t enough research on the subject yet to draw clear conclusions. However, there is a very clear correlation and link being discovered between porn usage and depression, stress and anxiety. These are three issues that can have a big impact on, not just yourself, but your relationship as well.

Could Alter The Brain Of An Addict
Porn physically alters your brain; the more porn a person looks at, the more severe the damage to their brain becomes and the more difficult it is to break free. Scientists at Cambridge University recently studied the brain scans of porn addicts and found that they looked exactly like those of drug addicts. Just like other addictive substances, porn fills the brain with dopamine. And the more you view pornography, the more desensitized you become.

However, pornography is a little different than some addictions. Most alcoholics want more and more alcohol. But porn addicts don’t just want more porn – they want different porn. What was once exciting and arousing no longer satisfies them, and they look for harder and harder core porn. That’s why porn can become so addictive and that’s why porn never satisfies.

Often pornography users venture into progressively perverse content, which is why pornography is linked to violence and crime. Not saying that every porn user will become a criminal, but we do think it’s important to understand the nature and danger of pornography.
Source: https://www.thedatingdivas.com/pornography-affects-marriage/

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Re: Watching Pornography Could Be Putting Your Relationship At Stake by Nobody: 8:12pm On Apr 09, 2020
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Re: Watching Pornography Could Be Putting Your Relationship At Stake by Nobody: 8:31pm On Apr 09, 2020
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Re: Watching Pornography Could Be Putting Your Relationship At Stake by Nobody: 10:28pm On Apr 11, 2020
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Re: Watching Pornography Could Be Putting Your Relationship At Stake by Chinnems(m): 10:41pm On Apr 11, 2020
Is it possible for one to beat the habit considering that he's been exposed since he was a child? What steps would you advise him to take?

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