Richy4:


U are using your parent to define what love is or looks like right? I guess u are not ready for a debate. U have zeroed your mind on what you wanted to hear. So explaining further would be a waste of time.. just stick to what you believe.

Magnoliaa:


Abi.

They'll say it's because we're 'small' kids now and we fantasize a lot. We have nur seen life and cannot understand, not realizing that experiencing something do not make a thing right. You have experience but it's not a qualification for being the best teacher.

It's not a feeling love (because that word is bound to be taken out of context), it's an action love. Feelings are fickle. So when people claim to ''love" someone (according to their feelings), they'll still hurt the person and fight over and over a particular issue - because what do feels make right? Nothing. Your mindful thoughts will make you improve yourself, so less tension btw you and your partner.

An 'untainted/inexperienced' view of love can be an awesome thing also. Then it's a lot easier to work on other things in oneself (which translates to picking up vibes in people who are working on themselves, too.)

worworbabe:


What's your deal? You want to insist by all means that bickering couples are in love and have chosen not to accept evey other person's opinion.

It's not hard. If you choose to love that way, go ahead. and choose a partner to constantly quarrel with and call it love. Leave others who choose to see love differently.

Some people are just negative in thoughts and that's why they don't get positivity out of life. Just continuu

worworbabe:


Continue to fantasize. I rarely talk about my personal life on this public forum but I will because of your posts.

I used to fantasize about true love as well. It was a determining factor in my relationships. Like you said, it has to be supportted by action and not by words of mouth alone.If a man met 8/10 of my physical attributes but did not profess undying love to me or treat me right, I would let him go. Today, I am married to the LOML and have no regrets whatsoever.

Good Marriage takes two lovers who willingly make it work.

I don't understand the bolded, of all you said.

Are you saying it like it's a good or bad thing?

Modified: Okay, I get you now. I read how our comments went.

Happy you found the best person to fall in love with.

smiliyB:
Modify- I decided to adjust the headline, that's my own opinion. My aim of creating this thread is for us to discuss and leave meaningful comments for our own good. Not to start debating on the story's headline.

I have this experience with two married couple on two different occasions on my way back to East. So, I'm just wondering is it that they fell out of love or they never loved each other from the onset. What really happen? What can be done to keep the fire burning (I mean the fire of love oo ) between couples even till old age.

I know you're desperate to know what happened, let me share with you. But it's really big sha, so try and be patient. I'll try my best and limit it too.

Before I start, let me talk about my parents a little. I never experience this with my parents, my dad left this world 2007, at the age 63years but I haven't seen where my parents talked back at each other in a disrespectful manner inside the house talk more of doing such outside our home. I was a teenager when my dad left, so it's not that I was a child during those times and I couldn't notice a hot argument. If there's any argument, they do settle it in peace. Okay, Back to the story!

On my way back to East from Lagos State, I came across one couple let say they may be in their late 50's or early 60's. We met on the same place I came to board a vehicle to travel back to my home. I immediately noticed how this couple talks back at each other, at first I thought may it's normal but it was consistent and I was really bordered on how their lives will be inside their house. I sat next to the woman and the husband was on a different row entirely.

The first case, the husband asked the wife if she needs anything, like if she'll eat food and the wife snapped back at him to leave her alone. She said, you have been dragging me up and down since morning and my legs are just paining. I told you let's come straight to this place but you refused and we have moved from ikorodu garage to ojota and finally we are back to that same place you refused to come at first. The husband shouted back at her and left because our bus was still loading. While the wife kept on complaining to herself, even though the husband wasn't there anymore.

I'm very happy she didn't turn to me to complain, I don't really have strength for such, it always drain my energy...Lol... I kukuma mind my business, I didn't even ask anything. This is just one of plenty nags inside the vehicle till we got to East. They were just like cat and rat living together from my little experience with them.

The second couple is just the exact case like the first couple and almost the same age bracket. Let me not drop excess write up on it. So, after my second experience with this couple, I remembered the first couple and I'm just wondering what is happening Please marry your friends, marry someone you can leave the rest of your life with. Don't just marry because you want to marry and age is no longer on your side. Back to the question I asked earlier, please drop meaningful comments on how couples can sustain their love for each other even till old age. Thanks everyone!

Wolgrace:
The topic itself speaks volume of the "fear of the unknown." Fear is a breeder of present presumption and destroyer of the future.

My observation:


Each generation has its own vision, purpose, destiny, script, accomplishment, and history which must be actualised. The present generation seems to be most carnal, woeful, dreadful, sodomy, abominable, reprobate, abounding iniquities, and prophetic times of last days. Reason this generation is waxing cold in love, wisdom, understanding, knowledge, spirituality, prayer, fasting, mentality, counselling and guidance, discipline, manners, conduct, morality, law, commandments, principle, and carefulness which results to all round wreckages such as separation, divorce, uncontrollable temper and anger, hatred, abuse, intolerance, conspiracy, & disunity in many homes.
I concur!


The fire against this generation is so huge and disastrous that it takes the strong to conquer, not by riches but double efforts of sustainance e.g WISDOM, ENDURANCE, SELFCONTROL, TOLERANCE, PRAYER, ETC.

Wolgrace:
The topic itself speaks volume of the "fear of1 the unknown." Fear is a breeder of present presumption and destroyer of the future.

My observation:


Each generation has its own vision, purpose, destiny, script, accomplishment, and history which must be actualised. The present generation seems to be most carnal, woeful, dreadful, sodomy, abominable, reprobate,
abounding iniquities, and prophetic times of last days. Reason this generation is waxing cold in love, wisdom, understanding, knowledge, spirituality, prayer, fasting, mentality, counselling and guidance, discipline, manners, conduct, morality, law, commandments, principle, and carefulness which results to all round wreckages such as separation, divorce, uncontrollable temper and anger, hatred, abuse, intolerance, conspiracy, & disunity in many homes.


The fire against this generation is so huge and disastrous that it takes the strong to conquer, not by riches but double efforts of sustainance e.g WISDOM, ENDURANCE, SELFCONTROL, TOLERANCE, PRAYER, ETC.

Tozic:
Dear MarryAnn, I know you can't see this post
When the time comes I won't propose. Ring will fly from nowhere to your finger. Because u know how we started. We've known ourselves in primary school, we've known ourselves in secondary school, we are in the same UNI.

Richy4:
U are still young. That's why u don't understand. Have you ever heard a saying like "why are u quarrelling like old couple. It's love that no one but them understand

smiliyB:
Modify- I decided to adjust the headline, that's my own opinion. My aim of creating this thread is for us to discuss and leave meaningful comments for our own good. Not to start debating on the story's headline.

I have this experience with two married couple on two different occasions on my way back to East. So, I'm just wondering is it that they fell out of love or they never loved each other from the onset. What really happen? What can be done to keep the fire burning (I mean the fire of love oo ) between couples even till old age.

I know you're desperate to know what happened, let me share with you. But it's really big sha, so try and be patient. I'll try my best and limit it too.

Before I start, let me talk about my parents a little. I never experience this with my parents, my dad left this world 2007, at the age 63years but I haven't seen where my parents talked back at each other in a disrespectful manner inside the house talk more of doing such outside our home. I was a teenager when my dad left, so it's not that I was a child during those times and I couldn't notice a hot argument. If there's any argument, they do settle it in peace. Okay, Back to the story!

On my way back to East from Lagos State, I came across one couple let say they may be in their late 50's or early 60's. We met on the same place I came to board a vehicle to travel back to my home. I immediately noticed how this couple talks back at each other, at first I thought may it's normal but it was consistent and I was really bordered on how their lives will be inside their house. I sat next to the woman and the husband was on a different row entirely.

The first case, the husband asked the wife if she needs anything, like if she'll eat food and the wife snapped back at him to leave her alone. She said, you have been dragging me up and down since morning and my legs are just paining. I told you let's come straight to this place but you refused and we have moved from ikorodu garage to ojota and finally we are back to that same place you refused to come at first. The husband shouted back at her and left because our bus was still loading. While the wife kept on complaining to herself, even though the husband wasn't there anymore.

I'm very happy she didn't turn to me to complain, I don't really have strength for such, it always drain my energy...Lol... I kukuma mind my business, I didn't even ask anything. This is just one of plenty nags inside the vehicle till we got to East. They were just like cat and rat living together from my little experience with them.

The second couple is just the exact case like the first couple and almost the same age bracket. Let me not drop excess write up on it. So, after my second experience with this couple, I remembered the first couple and I'm just wondering what is happening Please marry your friends, marry someone you can leave the rest of your life with. Don't just marry because you want to marry and age is no longer on your side. Back to the question I asked earlier, please drop meaningful comments on how couples can sustain their love for each other even till old age. Thanks everyone!

ayobarmy:
@Op, My mind tells me you're still single, Biko take this little advise with you as you Journey trough life ......

1...Marriage Is way beyond marrying your friend or not, because that your friend can turn out to be your worst Enemy within a day.....

2... Once your are ready for marriage, Just make sure you increase your level of tolerance from like 100% to 10000%.....

..... PEACE....

Tozic:
Dear MarryAnn, I know you can't see this post
When the time comes I won't propose. Ring will fly from nowhere to your finger. Because u know how we started. We've known ourselves in primary school, we've known ourselves in secondary school, we are in the same UNI.

gracevile:
one better man will enter better shop buy better ring propose to that ur girlfriend and trust me she will forget how u guys started. Be acting Nigerian film u go see American action film before ur eyes