Godlovesyou28:
I live a very quite life and mind my business, but since the lockdown I have seen all three of my neighbors struggling and constantly complaining aloud of hunger so I decided to step in.
I took time to stockpile food even before "coro" entered Nigeria because I hate to be caught unawares.
Fast forward, I give the married ones money secretly and give the other two single one cooked food everyday. I was gifted some food items I don't need so I decided to give it to one(married) of them, so I opened my burglary proof and stepped to give him, after which his wife who stammers started beating their child for nothing and I dropped my phone and started holding her, after the situation was calm I entered my house and remembered I had left my phone.
When I went outside they had gone in, so I knocked on their door and asked the man to help me call my number; It was not ringing anywhere outside so I got confused. Then he said that someone came into the compound; then the next thing he said was that the person had sent a text, I read it (It read- "It is safe, don't worry", I discovered that it was sent with my number so I asked to call my phone with his line; next thing his brother picked and said "I will give you the phone tomorrow just find something for me, Promise me you will"; next my neighbor took the phone and started saying "we will give you anything you want just keep the phone please" etc (before he took the phone I heard his wife stammering in the background telling the boy in a low voice what to say).
Today, he asked for money so I asked him to ask the person to come to the compound for a small reward ( he brought a toutlike guy and I just took my phone and ran into my house, I heard them abusing me and saying am stingy and ungrateful... Many hurtful things.).
Am so afraid to come out of my house because am scared of touts and I don't think I'll come out of my shell after this to be nice again to people who aren't family. I have decided to stop helping any of my neighbours ever again since I also heard the rest laughing and saying "she for give the guy even if na 2k, she is very wicked etc...
The present condition has changed people, be careful a lot of people don't think anymore before they act. Am still in shock.

Rozz:
never stop helping people whenever you can,dont let this experience stops you from being nice. God shall reward you

Godlovesyou28:


I don't think its even possible to stop, my friends and family say that Its a problem I need to work on.
Once I accommodated a pregnant friend with her husband and two kids; providing everything (school fees and school bus fees to help ease stress)only for them to turn me to second class in my house; even moved into my room when I traveled. When I came back and met my things in the guest room, they claimed they needed more space since the baby was already due. I had to move in with my parents after the baby came for them to host guests for several months... My elder brother couldn't understand my weakness and had to rent a self contain for them to move out (paid for 2years). They never said thank you but kept complaining that am so insensitive to have moved them to a self-contained without considering the fact that they are five in number

Freddykrueger:

What city do you reside?

Naija4love:


Sorry that's how people is. Just try to give the guy 1k if you can.. Can I know you more because we have things in common

andyanders:
Op listen, as I advised you through my earlier input herein to handle this situation with wisdom. Involving police or any law officers is good but might turn out to expose you to more danger than you expected. These guys are not only ur neighbors as they've other of their gang members outside ur vicinity.

0nce u get them arrested u expose yourself to danger. Giving out a token to the guy will do u good since u have gotten ur phone than getting them reported.

Remember u are a lady and stay alone and people advising u to go to the police or get army involved doesn't stay with u and will not be there with u if anything happens.

if u can remember a case of a young lady senator, at Abuja that was murdered at her home she stays alone. She saw some bad guys within her hood and secretly went to inform the police. They were arrested by the police and later released, but the same system told the guys that it was the lady that reported them. The same guys went to the senator's house, raped and murdered her.

Godlovesyou28:


Do you want to send me help?

Godlovesyou28:
I planned to confront them but that tout looked bad ass I was really scared. Now I realize I should not have runaway; you're right, I should have given the tout some money even though I was so terrified. I was just hurt and angry. I guess That's how we women first react in the face of danger

Godlovesyou28:


I don't think its even possible to stop, my friends and family say that Its a problem I need to work on.
Once I accommodated a pregnant friend with her husband and two kids; providing everything (school fees and school bus fees to help ease stress)only for them to turn me to second class in my house; even moved into my room when I traveled. When I came back and met my things in the guest room, they claimed they needed more space since the baby was already due. I had to move in with my parents after the baby came for them to host guests for several months... My elder brother couldn't understand my weakness and had to rent a self contain for them to move out (paid for 2years). They never said thank you but kept complaining that am so insensitive to have moved them to a self-contained without considering the fact that they are five in number

Godlovesyou28:
I have been looking for them to give them the money but they have not been home. I can't wait for this to pass

Exmilitant:
My god, couldn't stop laughing. Op, you just made my day!! Call a meeting and table the matter before your neighbours and then express your fears and possible threat to your life.... Its nothing personal neighbours wants money. Still laughing, the story is hilarious..

Godlovesyou28:


Sure, but If I must ask- what do we share in common? I just hope it not "extreme softness "

Naija4love:
just good heart

andyanders:
It's a pity u encouantered real thieves who are your neighbor/s and ungrateful animals.

Having seen your phone, you should have pretended by pleading to them that you don't have money with you, but next day you will look for 1k to give. Behave as if nothing happened as you have known the kind of people they are. 1k will not kill u. As u have done good to them, God will fight 4 you.

I'll advise you never to make trouble with them 'cus they can plan to harm you since u stay the same compound.

Take this step by tomorrow. Take 1k and meet the couple by tommorow. Ask them to help u plead with the guy to manage the 1k, that u went in and couldn't see any money hence u couldn't come out. You've to use wisdom and act as a fool to them since u are a lady.

Henceforth, you have to be carefull with them. If u can, start planning to relocate cus they can plan evil against u. Stop giving any of them anything. Just act as if nothing happened and watch ur back.

Godlovesyou28:


I gave them the 1k as advised but they rejected it. Should I be worried?

Godlovesyou28:


I gave them the 1k as advised but they rejected it. Should I be worried?

Add am 2k make I take am drink beer and nkwobi .

andyanders:


you've done noble. Was it ur neighbor or the guy that rejected ur offer? Did they state any reason 4 the rejection? If u feel threathened with that, report the case to the police to have it incedeted and to have them sign an undertaking that if anything happens 2 u, they shld held responsible. Try nd relocate to another area ASAP. Nothing will happen 2 u. God will see u try 2ru. Wait 2 hear from u.

Godlovesyou28:


I met the tout on my way back (along my street) and really apologized and also thanked him for his help before offering the money to him.
I can't afford to relocate now, I moved in early February and did a lot of upgrades on the house.

andyanders:


his rejection, were u able to dictate/decode from his expression on his face, if it was on good faith or not? What of ur neighbor, did you tell them about the offer u gave nd rejection by the guy? If u feel threathened, report to the police since u cannot afford 2 relocate for now.

Ndeoma:
Look you have to pack out of that place and you have to do that fast. The world we live in is evil and even more deadly been surrounded with hungry, poor and ungrateful neighbors who will stop at nothing to destroy you. And when you want to pack out... Do it quietly at night before the even know what's up... You are far gone from their reach so they can't hurt you.

As for depression, you definitely need to talk to someone and thanks to your neighbors who gave you the cold shoulder you've got no one around you to speak with. You are lonely and that's one of the major catalysts for depression. Seriously you need to distract yourself a bit so you can cool off from the stress you feel within you. I am a life coach and I can help you with your current challenge as I've help several of my clients with this same issue. I tried sending you a pm with my LinkedIn handle and phone but I don't know if it went through. Feel free to buzz me via email at scaleup34@gmail.com

Most importantly pray... I repeat pray! God is always there when we seem to be alone to protect and guide us. Be strong!