Smile4mee01:
I have got a maternal Aunt who is feminist inclined, she will be 41 in December and Some other aunts keep pulling her aside during family functions and tell her to just have kids any which way.... maybe Linda ikeji style .


So Ladies , Is a piece of a man better than no Man at all ? If you never find your dream man as husband, would you rather be alone by yourself.

Me I told them, if they keep rubbing it in her face they will not see her again @ family functions.

Tosinex:
Tell your Aunty to read the book of Ecclessiastes, maybe her brain will reset. All the work and career she built her life on will one day be driven away by the wind and her memory will so be forgotten, only her offspring will be use to remember her.

Rozz:
They are coming to disagree with you

Tosinex:
hahaha, no problem! I'm ready for them, I hope you will support me too sha.

Rozz:
i don't have strength but will support you with likes lol

Tosinex:
hahaha, that too is nice. Are you a blw member..?

Rozz:
yes yes

Tosinex:
hahaha, no problem! I'm ready for them, I hope you will support me too sha.

Eulalia:
which one is a piece of a man again? Well.. If I understand you perfectly, that is single parenthood you're advising her to go into and it's not the best.

Look, marriage is good, no doubt. but now making it sound like it a do or die affair to the point of putting unnecessary pressure on someone is pure witchcraft. For Pete's sakes, everyone has his or her own timing. Don't always use someones' elses' timing (in achieving certain things in life) as a yardstick for others. It doesn't work that way. The earlier society realizes this the better it would be for everyone. Like seriously, marriage is overhyped. And even those who are not enjoying their marriage will also want to pressure or shame you just to feel alright themselves.

Dont even try it cos theylll still be the ones to turn around and tag you "babymama" or tag your child bastard.
Let her be patient and prayerful about it. Her man will locate her. And in the meantime, let her be herself and be bubbling with life so she doesn't start aging due to worrying too much. Enjoy your single hood while it last cos marriage comes with a whole lot of responsibilities that will last a life time. Just chilax for Jesus abeg.

CAPSLOCKED:


YOU'RE ONLY DECEIVING YOURSELF BECAUSE MANY PEOPLE ARE LIVING HAPPY WITHOUT BEING MARRIED.

CAPSLOCKED:


I'M AFRAID YOU MAY JUST DIE FROM YOUR DELUSIONS.

THERE ARE MILLIONS OF UNMARRIED AND SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE WORLDWIDE, THIS EXCLUDES PRIESTS, MONKS AND NUNS.

ONLY YOU FROM WHERE EVER YOU'RE TYPING FROM IS CONCLUDING THAT THEIR LIVES ARE MESSED UP AND THEY'RE IN DEEPEST SORROW BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT MARRIED?

YOU'RE CLEARLY DELUSIONAL. WITHOUT MARRIAGE SOMEONE LIKE YOU MAY JUST KILL YOURSELF.

emmaodet:


Lol at the bolded.
Patient and Prayerful till when now? At 41 years old?
Ti a ba fi ogun odun pinle were, ojo wo gan lo fe wo oja - If a man takes 20 years to prepare for displaying madness, then when exactly will he fully enter the market naked.
All the way from 25-40 years of age, she hasn't been patient and prayerful enough, is it now that she has just 4 years to menopause that she will now get it right?
Never you say Marriage is overhyped abeg, because you failed in that area of your life doesn't make it a yard stick to rubbish others.
You also talked about timing, that people shouldn't rush others because there is time for everything.
Look, there is time for everything but it doesn't mean you can't do it other time.
The ideal time to be in Primary school is between 5 - 12 anything outside that will likely lead to mockery.
Can you still go to primary school at the age of 15 years? Ofcourse Yes but you will look Odd in the class and among your mates.
They will be calling you Bro and you may likely be seating at the back of the class.
Can you enter secondary school at the age of 30? Yes. Is it the ideal time? No. Your class mates will regularly be mocking you and give you different nicknames just because that is not the ideal time.
Can you plant crops in Dry season around December? Yes. Is it the ideal time? No. Because it will take extra energy, time, resources, irrigation etc to farm the same land you would have done easily at the ideal time of raining season not to talk of poor harvest and more prone to diseases attack and pest.
See, in life, there is ideal time for everything even though you can still do it outside this period But why not make the hay when the sun shines.
A stitch in time, saves nine.

emmaodet:


Well, we pray and hope so before she turns to ejo ori apata - a snake that passed through the rock without leaving any mark of traces of been there before. It is only a snake that passes through sand that you will recognise due to the mark.
What is the essence of coming to this world when you can't even give birth to atleast a kid, then you came to the world to do what actually?
Drink, party, fvck, work work and work for another man as a career woman just to keep enriching the man? No oooo nooo nooo

Acme45:
at what age?

Acme45:
it's a curse to die in Africa without a child

Acme45:
Even with all the achievement they are never fulfilled in life.find out for yourself

Tosinex:
Tell your Aunty to read the book of Ecclessiastes, maybe her brain will reset. All the work and career she built her life on will one day be driven away by the wind and her memory will so be forgotten, only her offspring will be use to remember her.

CAPSLOCKED:


WE REMEMBER HITLER, NAPOLEON, MANDELA, FOE, JESUS, AND MANY OTHERS THROUGH THEIR OFFSPRING NOT THEIR WORKS. YOU HAVE A POINT.

Smile4mee01:
I have got a maternal Aunt who is feminist inclined, she will be 41 in December and Some other aunts keep pulling her aside during family functions and tell her to just have kids any which way.... maybe Linda ikeji style .


So Ladies , Is a piece of a man better than no Man at all ? If you never find your dream man as husband, would you rather be alone by yourself.

Me I told them, if they keep rubbing it in her face they will not see her again @ family functions.

Rozz:
[s]piece of man,are men now meat? there's no lady that can be happy without marriage,dont be deceived [/s]

Eulalia:


The God of eleventh hour miracle is still working round the clock. He'll answer her.

emmaodet:

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What is the essence of coming to this world when you can't even give birth to atleast a kid, then you came to the world to do what actually?

Drink, party, fvck, work work and work for another man as a career woman just to keep enriching the man? No oooo nooo nooo

Tosinex:
All these people you mentioned causes a great revolution that shook the world, which the world history will never forget, moreso they bear offsprings or followers that continued to propagate it, so it is not just about their works but their offsprings that kept pushing their cause to the end of the world.

DonroxyII:
No body actually come into this world by their choice ... Some people make that decision for everyone without consultation ..... Whether I wanna come or not ........

if there is a choice , trust me ... Many people will prefer that peacefulness of Oblivion than gracing this harsh (fake) world whether you are rich or poor ....

Anyway, You posted beautifully until you decided to be the judge over determining the essence of people coming into this world which is birthing Kids ... Damn .... African Brain right there !

I personally love kids though but same can't be said of everyone!

emmaodet:


You are right though but look at it for a second, if not for capitalism and civilization, one of the best thing to happen to humans is procreation else the world will end.
That was why i said giving birth to atleast a kid is not bad. No matter your condition, you and your wife should be able to raise a kid even if you are riding bike and wife frying akara by the road side. You can still live a quite gentle life which is not bad.
We all can't be rich or live average you know?
With a good plan, a poor man with his productive wife can live normal life.

Think about it bro

DonroxyII:
I understood your perspective and really could aligned with your philosophy but Human as evolved and we are now more conscious that the time past ....

This is not about money or no money .... wealth nor poverty...... Some people don't just want kids nor marriage .... And yes, Capitalism has fvcked all of us .... It has enlightened the human brain more than necessary and if it is not checked and modified , I believe Capitalism will herald the beginning of Human extinction .... Atleast this Present Civilisation!!

Back to the bone of contention bro, You are thinking to the past .... The issue of Marriage, Kids and Happiness is now a matter of Choice not anymore a widely embraced view of Happiness !! ....

I know a dude that married at 35 ... He is now 37, He said he blamed himself for having a kid .... He said he should have gotten married and waited for 2years to have a kid .... You see .... That's another choice ....

I asked him, Why marriage when you know you ain't ready to Father , He said... The essence of his marriage is not kid but companionship..... So ....

He warned me not to have kids immediately after marriage .... I looked the guy one kain and told him, The only reason I wanna marry is to have kids in my own structured environment ... if not I will only be friends with girls and that's all.... My Choice.

We all need to respect everyone Choices as far as it doesn't hurt anyone nor the society!!

Eulalia:



It doesn't matter. So should she kill herself? And what about those who got married and never had a child till they died? Besides the way we view timing is quite different from the way God views it. Nothing is ever too late for God.
I have elder sisters of 37, 38, 40 and above that are still bearing children but their husbands had to take a break. And this Ladys case can change any moment from now. So, don't suggest such. Please.

Look, its here in Africa we take things so serious like its a matter of life and death. Abroad, the whites can decide to just keep a pet and not bother about having children and they are happy. Not saying its not good to have children but when certain things we are expecting in life have not clicked, its best to exercise patience than seeking drastic measures. We are always in a haste in this part of the world. In the end, all the children will leave you to start their own life and you'll Still end up lonely.

emmaodet:


Yea, i understand you but no matter the choices we make, it will definitely hurt some people even if we think it is our life and we have our life to live.
The reason why the parent and family of the op are hurt is because they believe they gave birth to the said lady and it is her turn to do same just the way they did for her.
She not doing that in turn is hurting some people. We can't live life as if we are the only one on earth, we are social animals and a lot of our decisions are even been influenced by people around us, the society etc.
But all in all, to each is own. If someone doesn't want to marry, so be it. E no consign me.

Pavore9:


Expectations are evolving. Let me give you an example, today in many igbo families that are Catholics, their daughters coming up with the intention to become a Reverend Sister which means no marriage nor children is very less likely to be met with opposition as they feel happy about it thus you see the family and the community show up in large numbers when she would be taking her religious vows in her religious order and the big reception that awaits her when she first visit home after her vows.

Families do feel proud that they have a Reverend Sister in the family, they feel privileged but in the 60s, 70s and up to the late 80s, many parents resisted it citing loss of bride price, son-in-law, grandchildren and loss of financial support but today it has changed.

emmaodet:


Yea, i understand you but no matter the choices we make, it will definitely hurt some people even if we think it is our life and we have our life to live.
The reason why the parent and family of the op are hurt is because they believe they gave birth to the said lady and it is her turn to do same just the way they did for her.
She not doing that in turn is hurting some people. We can't live life as if we are the only one on earth, we are social animals and a lot of our decisions are even been influenced by people around us, the society etc.
But all in all, to each is own. If someone doesn't want to marry, so be it. E no consign me.