What is something that your parents did that you swore never to repeat to your own kids?

Gone are the days when parents acted and perhaps think it's in the best interest of their children; perhaps they were right, perhaps not but I've received quite a number of responses:

1. "My mom was totally like this. “I can’t believe you’re taking an arts degree, it’s absolutely useless. You should have gone to college like me and get a good job.”

Now my sister is going for an arts degree and majoring in the exact same thing I was and she gets no backlash. In fact my mother is proud apparently.

I’ve realized over the years that my mother is a narcissist and my sister is the “golden child.” I am the scapegoat." Having a favorite child!

2. Being unapproachable. Come talk to me any time about anything. Everything can be fixed.

3. Teaching them by comparing them to their own better behaved/smarter siblings. (in a very condescending manner ofc). Never compare your child

And lots more...add yours if you can

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Mine was dat my dad never allowed us to touch or operate any of his entertainment gadget even down to record player
Was very painful going to my friends house and see der children having access to everything in der house

Sending me out to get drugs for myself even when am seriously ill all in the name of am the one person that can explain better.

Not allowing us learn how to drive early enough!!my dad Can be paranoid for no reason..when we asked him why didn’t he allow us learn how to drive before age 20.his response was “may my enemies not catch me through my kids” smh. ..nonsense and corona!!
I’ve promised myself it won’t be same with my kids.#by God’s grace#

name calling and insensitivity from my mum. also lack of sex education.
my dad was a great father to me.
that's all

About 10-15 years ago, there are things some of us sworn never to do, but later did and still doing.

What am I trying to say? Y'all should keep calm until you have your kids, you'll understand what your parents went through and might end up following their footsteps and doing the things you thought you wouldn't.

wilcox:
Sending me out to get drugs for myself even when am seriously ill all in the name of am the one person that can explain better.

are u for real?

neonly:
Mine was dat my dad never allowed us to touch or operate any of his entertainment gadget even down to record player
Was very painful going to my friends house and see der children having access to everything in der house

i know that feeling!!especially when you see your mates operating theirs like it’s no big deal and you DARE not try it in your house!!

Arguing and fighting in front of kids

Berating each other to the kids

Involving the kids in their stupid marriage wahala and problems.

Lack of sex education or even what marriage is all about.. Daughters need to know.

Quarreling with neighbors.... All these are a no no. Kids need to be kids and not involve in adult matters.

waking up and frowning all day, I DNT know if na like that them the take strict... nothing pleases my dad, he always seems the disadvantages b4 the advantages in something,
I know how to draw atleast , I'd been a star if he allowed but NO, what are you going to do with art?
always angry that even his younger brothers kids whom by the way are older than my own siblings are through with the university and we are not


in short ehn, e plenty. dad's just one of those people that dont appreciate anything and complain about everything!..mumcy sef dn Taya for him matter, I believe she's just used to it and considering she had no choice. 35yesrs marriage no b beans

mind you, it's by God's grave that I behave myself well, no smoking, drinking or womanizing . but it ain't just enough

goldbim:
i know that feeling!!especially when you see your mates operating theirs like it’s no big deal and you DARE not try it in your house!!

Bro's it really a terrible experience oooo
I swear my children will never go tru dat kind live as long has am alive I swear

Hey, we all appreciate our parents!

NextD18:
About 10-15 years ago, there are things some of us sworn never to do, but later did and still doing.

What am I trying to say? Y'all should keep calm until you have your kids, you'll understand what your parents went through and might end up following their footsteps and doing the things you thought you wouldn't.

I'm never gonna have a favourite child.. I'm gonna love 'em equally.


I would allow them go out more at the right age... My mom never made me go out. She's overly strict...



Lest I forget, sex education! It's very important. The only thing my mom said was that "be careful with guys" "if a guy touches you, you'll get pregnant" blah blah blah....


I'd treat them like an adult when they become one... Gosh! My mom still treats me like a baby.



This is front page worthy anyway.

My dad were overly strict and religious but looking back now I am happy they were with us but Unapproachableness, High-handedness. Are what I won't allow my children to experience.

Having a irresponsible dad who drinks and stinks that we can't bring our friends home because he reeks and talks gibberish. Now he seems to have graduated from drinking to smoking.
A dad that is paranoid of other people. Even his own wife and children.
Hitting his wife(my dad did this but later he stopped it) with anything (lantern,Knife,machete)
His wife(my mom) has been advised to stay away from him. Even her Family advised her too. My mom would not leave. She said that it was ungodly for a married woman to leave her husband's house.

I can't be Strict and paranoid like my dad and over religious conservative like my mom.

Arguing in front of kids with wife is something a bad man would do.
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SweetCunt97:
Arguing and fighting in front of kids

Berating each other to the kids

Involving the kids in their stupid marriage wahala and problems.

Lack of sex education or even what marriage is all about.. Daughters need to know.

Quarreling with neighbors.... All these are a no no. Kids need to be kids and not involve in adult matters.

my dad is guilty of point 1 2 and 3
While mom is guilty of what marriage is all about. She thinks she sins if she's not comfortable with suffering. As a result we don't greet our dad and sometimes mum. So at least, they don't wanna apologize.

From the comments I've read so far, I'm really really really really really really thankful for the way mum and dad brought us up.
Not that they were perfect, but then perfect is relative ...so I'd say they were a perfect combination.
They gave us the right amount of everything as they could.
God bless my dad and mum.

Unless your plan is to never discipline your children in any way, to always pet them even when they err, to let them do/get whatever they want/ask... then TRUST ME, your children will still find something to improve on or do differently from you when the time comes to raise their own kids.

Not creating a peaceful environment .
It was always Shouts ,fights between my parents until we grew up.

I want and working through my kids growing up in a calm , peaceful home for their Sanity and mental Strength .
Got to a point ,I didn't go home for years because the house was always boiling .
Peace was a luxury.

Wouldn't want that for my kids.Not at all!

Not allowing us display and use our God given gift or skills.
I loved football then but all my parents knew then was school/book/education.
They discouraged me and beat me to the extent that my dad will come to the school field i do play and take all the guys playing with me home to give them several strokes of cane for allowing me play.
After that event, everybody started avoiding playing with me.
Parents should encourage and nurture the gifts of their children. I promised myself i won't do that to my kids, i will encourage and nurture their skills.
Who knows, maybe they will be the future messi or davido or Raphael Nadal or Broke Lesnar hahahaha

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Until we all become parents to kids out ages

Tribal marks.
Giving a child to another familiar.
Favouritism.
Managing food.
Lack of toys or educational materials.
Comparisms.

Mariangeles:
From the comments I've read so far, I'm really really really really really really thankful for the way mum and dad brought us up.
Not that they were perfect, but then perfect is relative ...so I'd say they were a perfect combination.
They gave us the right amount of everything as they could.
God bless my dad and mum.

Hmmm
Yinmu...
In Nigeria home training has little or no effect on the child's adulthood.
Ask our politicians.... They are all thieves.

Funny enough my parents tried to be as free minded as possible.

Allowed us to choose our church when we were teenagers
Allowed us socialize and go out for all night programmes/shows.
My dad relaxed on the ladies talking to guys when we told him he sent us to mixed boarding schools...what did he expect.
The freedom made up make good decisions later on.

Though I didn't like the fact that my dad wasn't that approachable and the use of koboko on us.