srclark:
no matter how you put it ,there is no way in this our country you wont have one person or the other coming to stay over for more than a week .The earlier they learn to accommodate people the better .God forbid any thing comes up and support is needed is it then you will start allowing people to come stay .Better open the door to your home to family members and friends (but limit it).Dont wait till you need them

Your opinion and its okay that you have exclusive right to it. People do not have to constitute nuisance in another person’s house before they show support if needed. If the people around you need to stay with you before they survive then I’m afraid u belong to the wrong circle. My last response coz this argument aint worth it. You will learn sooner or later.

You are not on the fence, It's stupid for Married couples to leave their room for mother inlaw and girl friend for over two weeks, I can se intrusion of privacy already without having to hear from the other party. It's just simi logic. How can a wife work all tday long just to sleep in the parlor for two weeks, is she the one sqauting?
I can't treat my daughter inlaws that way even if i was treated that way.

That's your friend's (wife) part of the story... She'll definitely tell you the story in a way that favours her (that won't make her guilty). There's more to it that she may have refused to tell you. By the way, if the wife is a banker... how much is FOAM that she can't buy in order to improvise and manage pending the time her in-laws will leave? Assuming it was her relatives that came visiting, I'm sure that this kind of topic will not originate from your friend. Ladies matter is a course of study on it's own.

Even a Court will hear from both parties before advising/making necessary judgement. Unless I hear from both parties... I rather remain on the fence.