SocialJustice:
Lol, Chief Egberimama 1 of Bayelsa. It's called invasion of privacy. There should be boundaries. We all can't be on one side, the beauty of life-variety.

My brother, I respect your view but any relationship that has 'privacy' is not a relationship.

sexylassie2:


That is none of his business, they are not even dating.

Why then is she calling, begging and sending series of text messages?? Is she that cheap or handicapped?

sotherefore:
Just four days you start invading into her privacy to the point of checking her what up ....you are joking abeg no make me laugh.

You should have asked....how close we were, if she handles my own mobile or not. Check out the word stumble..i never said i went into her inbox but rather fliping through her whatsapp. ..!

sexylassie2:


That is none of his business, they are not even dating.

It is not allowed even for married couples. People should learn to respect boundaries. I hate people who say give me your phone let me call a number, 2 minutes later, they are commenting on pictures in my phone gallery. Invasion of privacy is what it is and there's no justification.

People who see nothing wrong in privacy invasion are the same people who do not understand how it is a crime to rape their wives.

TonyeBarcanista:

My brother, I respect your view but any relationship that has 'privacy' is not a relationship.

For real.

So you mean, you will be checking your partner phone every minute

That is just sign of unstable people, any man that has this behavior can kill a woman.

TonyeBarcanista:

My brother, I respect your view but any relationship that has 'privacy' is not a relationship.

That's your view and I respect it too but for me, privacy must not be invaded.

Davash222:

Why then is she calling, begging and sending series of text messages?? Is she that cheap or handicapped?

Already we are into each other. She goes through my phones too. Besides i dont go about checking every dam thing on her phone. Just the porn group caught my attention..!

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sexylassie2:


For real.

So you mean, you will be checking your partner phone every minute

That is just sign of unstable people, any man that has this behavior can kill a woman.

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2chukwu:

Already we are into each other. She goes through my phones too. Besides i dont go about checking every dam thing on her phone. Just the porn group caught my attention..!

sexylassie2

Davash222:

Why then is she calling, begging and sending series of text messages?? Is she that cheap or handicapped?

She is naive. Simple.

SocialJustice:
That's your view and I respect it too but for me, privacy must not be invaded.

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sexylassie2:


Go and follow her with your chair to where she works and shop.

You're now confused.. You're quoting the wrong person. Take a chill, babe.

TonyeBarcanista:

My brother, I respect your view but any relationship that has 'privacy' is not a relationship.

I'm with you on that one, however, whatever this is between OP & his hospital friend doesn't really qualify as a relationship. They're virtually strangers. I personally find it quite disturbing that he's this flustered, this early...the girl too. Whatever landed him in hospital must have been contagious Imagine all this drama between a girl & boy who've not even spent that much time (if any) together, outside of the ward. It has a bunny boiler ring to it. Too much, too soon imo. He can always choose not to date her at this stage, so the rest is completely unnecessary.

Be careful with that girl sha .make she no give you std

Davash222:

You're now confused.. You're quoting the wrong person. Take a chill, babe.

My mistake

sexylassie2:


My mistake

Exactly why I suggested you take a chill.

SocialJustice:
You dey crase, who you be to check her phone. Na you better. Useless somebody, come take advise when go make you purge your intestine.

All these small boys, where do they learn this rubbish from.

I swear to God am not the cause of your fraustration biko...

2chukwu:

I swear to God am not the cause of your fraustration biko...

Small boy with your small head. Dey check babe phone, for your mind you dey check mate her. Mumu.

dingbang:
Be careful with that girl sha .make she no give you std

Thanks

Imagine marrying a girl that already does this..

Very good God fearing girls are hard to find nowadays.

I think I have found one and I'm slowly falling in love with her at the moment, she's a very nice God fearing girl but my brain and long time desires keep fighting with my heart and mind. I'm just so divided.

But I'd advice you leave this girl. A girl that already does this is a very big red flag. Run away. Move closer to God and you'd attract the God fearing wowen. Also commune with God more to strengthen your spiritual life and you'd be much more happy.

Bless

XhosaNostra:



I'm with you on that one, however, whatever this is between OP & his hospital friend doesn't really qualify as a relationship. They're virtually strangers. I personally find it quite disturbing that he's this flustered, this early...the girl too. Whatever landed him in hospital must have been contagious Imagine all this drama between a girl & boy who've not even spent that much time (if any) together, outside of the ward. It has a bunny boiler ring to it. Too much, too soon imo. He can always choose not to date her at this stage, so the rest is completely unnecessary.

For him to have access to her phone shows that they probably have some 'understanding'

2chukwu:
Never been so confused....
Last week i fell very sick and was rushed to the hospital. The next day while i was struggling to wake up i noticed a beautiful young teen beside my bed, asking me how i was faring. I asked her who she was, she told me she that her elder siser gave birth few days ago...

To cut the story short we became real close within the space of four days. But i noticed she was never comfortable each time am checking her phone.

Just 2days before i was discharged while touring her phone i decided to check her whatsapp messages, i saw an adult group which she was an active member. I became really curious but i found out from her chatswith one of the group admin who always pay them the sum of 1000 for sharing their masturbating videos and nude pix.

I was so suprise cos i earlier thought she was a typical innocent church girl. She noticed my mood and sat beside me when she saw what i was checking out, she became a bit furious with shame and guilt written all over her.

I didnt speak to her again till i left the hospital but she kept coming around me moody and always kissing me in tears even though i never said nothing to her.

She has been sending me series of messages cos i refused picking her calls. So today i decided to go see her and we got talking she told me everything and promised to change.

Pls what should i do cos am already feeling something for her...

I no wan nairaland insult abeg...just keen brotherly advice..thanks

Beautiful young teen u said, Is she not too small for u?

changedinchrist:
Imagine marrying a girl that already does this..

Very good God fearing girls are hard to find nowadays.

I think I have found one and I'm slowly falling in love with her at the moment, she's a very nice God fearing girl but my brain and long time desires keep fighting with my heart and mind. I'm just so divided.

But I'd advice you leave this girl. A girl that already does this is a very big red flag. Run away. Move closer to God and you'd attract the God fearing wowen. Also commune with God more to strengthen your spiritual life and you'd be much more happy.

Bless

Sorry I created a marriage scenario lol. Just realized your case is still an early young case and you should probably not have gone through her phone since you barely knew her. I was talking from a perspective of a guy trying to find marriage worthy girl and then discovering she sends guys videos of her masturbation for money (a kind of prostitution),

Despite you being wrong going through her phone, for future purposes, in the event that you discover this anyways, leave this girl if you have any marriage/long term goals with her unless something drastic changes which I doubt.

2chukwu:
Never been so confused....
Last week i fell very sick and was rushed to the hospital. The next day while i was struggling to wake up i noticed a beautiful young teen beside my bed, asking me how i was faring. I asked her who she was, she told me she that her elder siser gave birth few days ago...

To cut the story short we became real close within the space of four days. But i noticed she was never comfortable each time am checking her phone.

Just 2days before i was discharged while touring her phone i decided to check her whatsapp messages, i saw an adult group which she was an active member. I became really curious but i found out from her chatswith one of the group admin who always pay them the sum of 1000 for sharing their masturbating videos and nude pix.

I was so suprise cos i earlier thought she was a typical innocent church girl. She noticed my mood and sat beside me when she saw what i was checking out, she became a bit furious with shame and guilt written all over her.

I didnt speak to her again till i left the hospital but she kept coming around me moody and always kissing me in tears even though i never said nothing to her.

She has been sending me series of messages cos i refused picking her calls. So today i decided to go see her and we got talking she told me everything and promised to change.

Pls what should i do cos am already feeling something for her...

I no wan nairaland insult abeg...just keen brotherly advice..thanks

She will change because of you?

Okay o.

HarunaWest:
Uncle leave the lady alone oooh.....I don't know why people feel you shud just meet someone and you want to change them sharperly, she will start pretending for you. You shud have let her be,then later on use what you discovered to tease her.If she then discovers that your don't genuinely like her negative traits, she will grow out of it and delete the group. But you wan form Mr Loverman Shaaba dey even quarrel am cos she is living her life, start expecting Lies and pretence from her henceforth. Women grow to like a lover, and when they do, they stop their negative vibes to a large extent...Meanwhile Maintain Physical Distancing

For you to use Shabaaman, you are not indomie generation.

sexylassie2:
You look like someone that does not understand boundaries, she is not your gf and you are already on her whatsapp and phone.

What sort of man is this?

If I know her, I will advice her to run from you.

You should take #1000 to do same.

Davash222:

There's nothing wrong in checking her whatsapp and phone. It's just whatsapp, he wasn't checking the colour of her pant or the size of her kpekus.

That's WhatsApp. It's like snooping her text messages. It's private.

It's wrong.

sexylassie2:
You look like someone that does not understand boundaries, she is not your gf and you are already on her whatsapp and phone.

What sort of man is this?

If I know her, I will advice her to run from you.

checking her phone less than 1 week , can u imagine

She will change because u will start funding her or what ? Change my foot,, less than a week and u are checking her phone ? Like seriously? That’s her privacy

i dont get it
she kissin u and begging u to answer her calls bcause u saw her nude?
she dont owe u anything if u saw her nude or porn so why is she crying and begging?
do u know her personally?

TonyeBarcanista:

My brother, I respect your view but any relationship that has 'privacy' is not a relationship.

1 week of meeting and u call that a relationship? U r talking of a commited relationship, not this!

Davash222:

Why then is she calling, begging and sending series of text messages?? Is she that cheap or handicapped?

ofcourse she might like you but that doesn’t mean u are at liberty to check her phone , n she’s bound to feel bad ? Plus She’s only a teen n hvnt develop enough resistance to know she should be the one mad at you !!!