Good day Nairaland, I was in a conversation with my neighbor's wife yesterday, she always likes to see herself as the mother I no longer have with motherly advice all the time, it's annoying sometimes but I always welcome every edition as I like to learn from older people. She's a mother of four, her first daughter is married in her early 20's... So we were talking and like always she will begin marriage counselling; she talked about how she and her husband cooperate and hustle together and how they managed together to build their house, as always she told me to take my time and find the right girl for me, that the girl I should be looking for is a girl that can take care of me like a mother would, she said a lot most of which I can't remember, but there was something she said that was different from every other time she has given counsel... She said before I plan to marry any girl I should check her background first, that the background of the girl I marry will determine how she'll be in marriage. she gave an example of a broken home, she said if the girl I marry mother is separated from her father that when any issue arises her mother will advice her according to her experience in marriage, that she'll tell her (for example);"na so ur papa do wey make I leave am" and something like that, but a girl from an unbroken home will get better advices from her mother and will always follow in her footsteps.

So nairalanders I ask... Should one consider a lover's family background before going into serious commitments will her/him.
The ladies are not excluded in this thread... Would u consider the background of the man u love before accepting his proposal?

hmm!

Family background matters as a far as Marriage is concerned.

Ezennwa:
hmm!

Family background matters as a far as Marriage is concerned.

That's even the first step. Don't jeopardize your future and life on love.

We learn from history so, don't be sentimental in checking your partners family history.

Again, its very important. Don't bring religion or be too religious oo. I warned.

Yes. Always do a background check on the family you wish to marry.
I know a guy that over looked it,he got married and it did not last because the mil wanted her daughter to be in control of the guy but him being a very stubborn guy refused.
It was during the feud that he gat to findout that its her mil that runs everything in their home. The father in-law na mumu.

meetme01:


That's even the first step. Don't jeopardize your future and life on love.

We learn from history so, don't be sentimental in checking your partners family history.

Again, its very important. Don't bring religion or be too religious oo. I warned.

Ok!

background, exposure and upbringing maters a lot, as for me it covers 50% of the yard.

To an extent.....it's a 50: 50 something

I am surprised some one is still asking this kind of questions in this our 21st century. Hell no, family background does not matter not until the day you will have a misunderstanding with your wife and you regret why you neglected her family background. Yourba people have a saying " it is better to marry a wrong woman than to have a wrong in law"

Yes, because history has a way of repeating itself.

Background matters alots to both male and female...Thank you

Very Importanter

I use to tell my babe... "Babe I love you, but I love the kind of home you're from more"...

Yorùbá adage says:

Aya burúkú ṣé ń fẹ́, ṣùgbọ́n àná burúkú ó ṣe ń ní.

Translation:
It's better to marry a bad wife than to have bad inlaws.

I modified it to this:
It is bad to have a bad wife, but it is worst to have bad inlaws.

Both male and female.

if everybody checks background and live the imperfect ones and marry the perfect ones, who will marry from those imperfect family background? see know this you can change a generation by the amount of light in you. don't underestimate the power of knowledge... love you all.

Yes of course family background matters a lot when choosing a marriage partner

Mhyketh:
if everybody checks background and live the imperfect ones and marry the perfect ones, who will marry from those imperfect family background? see know this you can change a generation by the amount of light in you. don't underestimate the power of knowledge... love you all.

It's also good to know people before marrying them, these days people especially ladies marry to show off but later realize they were not ready for it

Mhyketh:
if everybody checks background and live the imperfect ones and marry the perfect ones, who will marry from those imperfect family background? see know this you can change a generation by the amount of light in you. don't underestimate the power of knowledge... love you all.

Let people Carry their own cross

That’s true to some extent...but mostimes it doesn’t really work like that.Ive seen a lot of broken homes where their daughters also make make good homes regardless.Its really subjective thing to say the least.!