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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by ajepako(f): 9:25pm On May 15, 2020
VickyRotex:


Anyone that sees this will think you have something reasonable to say. angry angry

Ajepako, kiss kiss how how you dey? I dey shock to see sey after almost 2yrs wey I no come NL, this yeyenatu still never change. embarassed

That Werey Ajah?

We will soon dash him to Yemoja as mai ruwa.

Plus today is my 46th , so as l no invite him for jollof and ewedu, he dey vex cheesy cheesy

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by kunletexs: 9:26pm On May 15, 2020
SweetCunt97:
It's obvious you really enjoying seeing my mentions bro. What even gave you the impression that it's a lady behind this moniker? I could b a dude with hairy dangling balls like you.. So bera chill

Still go sit down. If that the case, you are then worst than boosky
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by SweetCunt97(f): 9:28pm On May 15, 2020
kunletexs:


Still go sit down. If that the case, you are then worst than boosky
You simply a very backward human being. Any small thing na to mention husband this husband that.. Pls swerve lemme see better view. Ajayi
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by VickyRotex(f): 9:29pm On May 15, 2020
ajepako:


That Werey Ajah?

We will soon dash him to Yemoja as mai ruwa.


cheesy cheesy make we dash am quick quick before he open 1000 account on top our head grin

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by VickyRotex(f): 9:30pm On May 15, 2020
ajepako:


Plus today is my 46th , so as l no invite him for jollof and ewedu, he dey vex cheesy cheesy


cheesy cheesy cheesy na that kind one you want invite. grin

Happy Birthday jere aunty ajepako. I wish you all the beautiful things of life. chop virtual hug ((())) kiss kiss

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by kunletexs: 9:31pm On May 15, 2020
SweetCunt97:
You simply a very backward human being. Any small thing na to mention husband this husband that.. Pls swerve lemme see better view. Ajayi

Who's blocking this one. Which view you get sef? Learn compassion is my take on you. You lack one and it doesn't do u any good.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by idaniel: 9:36pm On May 15, 2020
Glory to God Almighty....he alone can plant and course the increase.hallelujah
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by sonofthunder: 9:56pm On May 15, 2020
Omojudy:
I think it's time I dropped my childbearing story.

Thirteen years ago, aged 22, I married right out of university without the wisdom to realise the importance of finding my feet first. My husband was 11 years older than me. He wasn't rich but I thought we loved each other. Youth service year I conceived but lost it right out of service.

Hubby was helped to get a good job, stable government job by my family. When I lost my first pregnancy, we were staying a few months with his parents due to our financial situation, my father in law said to me after that loss while my husband travelled "did your ladies in the water say to you that the day you give birth you would die?"

With the new job right after the loss, we moved back home and continued our lives. Three more miscarriages came along with many drama ranging from deliverances to traditional midwives to in law's commanding the home.

Finally one day almost 5 years later, hubby travels and his father calls my aunty to tell her that "they don't want to marry their daughter again". I was at work when aunty broke the news to me. I travelled that night to the inlaws with my aunty and grand mother to beg, we were not given audience. They didn't even open their gate despite we could see my husband's car in the compound.

At 9pm my companions begged me to go home with them, I refused and chose to spend the night in a shed close by. The was no electricity in the neighbourhood, everywhere was dark. At midnight Power was restored, and from the shed I was hiding, I saw my father in law walking round the compound spraying incense, (he attended celestial church) I call out to him "daddy, daddy" obviously he hears me but does like I am a ghost.

At that point, I knew I was wasting my time, I started trekking. I trekked to the motor park which was very far, vigilantes stopped me numerous time and my tearful face made them not question me too much......a lot of drama in between, I traveled back and resume dwork while praying and fasting for his return. Mehn I lost weight without even trying. I met many scam pastors which are another story.........

One day, I suddenly realized I may have the password to hubby's Facebook, I tried it and it worked. What I saw pained me but it gave me strength knowing the break up wasn't because of anything he was accusing me of (like saying a pastor revealed to him that I was sent into his life by Kingdom of darkness to destroy him. To this I asked if Kingdom of darkness gave jobs, he said he has repaid me ie Kingdom of darkness back in connecting me to the job I had then which didn't last. Oh he wanted me to be paying my salary to him by the way).

So I got some courage to begin living again at this point and apply for a divorce. To this he also said "that good wives wait for their husbands no matter how long they go, but me I ran to apply because I want to remarry."

We got to court and he was accompanied by his father and them claiming that hubby didn't abscond but I did. Guess they were afraid I wanted to request compensation. Walking out of court, his father waves at me and I wonder why.
He was barely divorced then remarried and yes has kids now. Things went sour with my place of work and I relocated to a bigger city and that was my fresh start.

Met my husband two years after the divorce, I hid nothing from him especially my challenges with infertility. We got married same year. And got pregnant and miscarried. Second pregnancy for now hubby, I was put on cerclage, yet the pregnancy still ended and I almost ended with it as my body was going into shock due to its inability to dispel the dead foetus since a cerclage held the products in.

I had an history of pregnancy losses at 14 weeks. After 8 miscarriages and no living child, I visited more hospitals, met insensitive money alone conscious doctors, finally a correct diagnosis was made.

I had no demons worrying me, my womb was just too small to carry to term, it wasn't expanding with the pregnancies. An hysteroscopy was the procedure used to diagnose this.

Getting a diagnosis at last was some sort of relief, but what can we do doctor I asked? Doctor said "have you considered adoption?" I was shattered.

I went home and discussed it with my husband. We agreed to adopt and we applied two years ago. We only just got feed back few weeks ago from them self.

Then one day I was on social media and I saw someone advertise needing a surrogate and like a light bulb the idea stuck, I wrote to the woman and we started chatting. One day her Status said she needed someone to donate blood for a relative of hers and I say where to an online stranger I had never met. That was the first day I met my good friend Mrs R. I also put up an advert for a surrogate as I couldn't afford to the price agencies were charging. After two bad experiences, I finally got one good person that we could afford. And God just sent money mysteriously.

Then when God wants to turn your story around, you know it's just your time. I paid for one cycle at the hospital we used, already looking for money in case the first cycle did not work, guess what?

IT WORKED! MY TWIN DAUGHTERS ARE 3 MONTHS OLD NOW.

This is not your everyday testimony, I no get time to dey give testimony like some people wey go go church dey say "after waiting for 20 years, God blessed us with triplets, tell the journey when telling your testimony sisters, don't let the holy sister at the back waiting for a similar miracle be thinking God doesn't answer her prayers. Be real, stop pretending.

Edited:
Please someone take me to front page for the first time in my life na. ����


God bless you dear, God bless you plenty.

Congratulations!!!

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Confusedgirlie: 11:34pm On May 15, 2020
Mcslize:


Thanks to the surrogate mother no doubt, but she was paid . She only carried the babies for 9 months. The eggs were op's eggs fertilized by op husband's sperm. So the only role the surrogate mother played was helping them to carry the babies for 9 months as op womb couldn't expand enough to carry the babies.

Genetically, the babies will look like op and her husband, DNA wise.

I believe surrogate mother was paid handsomely. So no special thanks to that. It is trade by barter.
Haba! It's still special thanks to her. Even though she was paid handsomely, do you think the money outweighs the physical and mental pain she went through. I don't think you should trivialize her efforts. Yes, of course, it's OP's eggs and that's all good.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Mcslize: 11:36pm On May 15, 2020
Confusedgirlie:

Haba! It's still special thanks to her. Even though she was paid handsomely, do you think the money outweighs the physical and mental pain she went through. I don't think you should trivialize her efforts. Yes, of course, it's OP's eggs and that's all good.

No doubt. You're right. She tried.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by eROCK247(m): 12:01am On May 16, 2020
Congratulations ma'am. Your struggles have made you stronger. As for testimonies, God works in mysterious ways.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by enemyofprogress: 12:07am On May 16, 2020
VickyRotex:


Anyone that sees this will think you have something reasonable to say. angry angry

Ajepako, kiss kiss how how you dey? I dey shock to see sey after almost 2yrs wey I no come NL, this yeyenatu still never change. embarassed
oiiiiiin
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by shegzydave(m): 12:17am On May 16, 2020
a very big congratulations to you sis, am happy God gave victory over your enemies, No power of evil ones will be fall those girls in Jesus name....am happy for you
I use your case as appointment of contact that God should put an end to still birth (abiku) in my family too...Amen

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by emabe: 1:54am On May 16, 2020
Madam u went thru shit. Nobody should go thru this just cos of husband or wife. This life is too short. Just imagine what it would have been had u started late?
Congratulations on Ur twins
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 4:36am On May 16, 2020
shegzydave:
a very big congratulations to you sis, am happy God gave victory over your enemies, No power of evil ones will be fall those girls in Jesus name....am happy for you
I use your case as appointment of contact that God should put an end to still birth (abiku) in my family too...Amen
Amen for your family.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by MrDebonair: 9:38am On May 16, 2020
For those who find it hard to read long text.
Summary:

Cervical incompetence > Failed Cervical Cerclage> Surrogacy >Twins.

Congrats Op.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by baybie3(f): 10:16am On May 16, 2020
Congratulations Omojudy, God bless you and yours and grant you unlimited joy. May the birth of your twins bring more blessings and open doors for you and your family in Jesus name. So happy for you sister, thank God it ended in praises.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 12:40pm On May 16, 2020
MrDebonair:
For those who find it hard to read long text.
Summary:

Cervical incompetence > Failed Cervical Cerclage> Surrogacy >Twins.

Congrats Op.
Oh well, even you no get the summary correct, the first two are definitely wrong. And is that long? If I tried writing all that I wish I could write from those experiences, it would have been three times as long.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by hapiness44(f): 1:02pm On May 16, 2020
Omojudy:
I think it's time I dropped my childbearing story.

Thirteen years ago, aged 22, I married right out of university without the wisdom to realise the importance of finding my feet first. My husband was 11 years older than me. He wasn't rich but I thought we loved each other. Youth service year I conceived but lost it right out of service.

Hubby was helped to get a good job, stable government job by my family. When I lost my first pregnancy, we were staying a few months with his parents due to our financial situation, my father in law said to me after that loss while my husband travelled "did your ladies in the water say to you that the day you give birth you would die?"

With the new job right after the loss, we moved back home and continued our lives. Three more miscarriages came along with many drama ranging from deliverances to traditional midwives to in law's commanding the home.

Finally one day almost 5 years later, hubby travels and his father calls my aunty to tell her that "they don't want to marry their daughter again". I was at work when aunty broke the news to me. I travelled that night to the inlaws with my aunty and grand mother to beg, we were not given audience. They didn't even open their gate despite we could see my husband's car in the compound.

At 9pm my companions begged me to go home with them, I refused and chose to spend the night in a shed close by. The was no electricity in the neighbourhood, everywhere was dark. At midnight Power was restored, and from the shed I was hiding, I saw my father in law walking round the compound spraying incense, (he attended celestial church) I call out to him "daddy, daddy" obviously he hears me but does like I am a ghost.

At that point, I knew I was wasting my time, I started trekking. I trekked to the motor park which was very far, vigilantes stopped me numerous time and my tearful face made them not question me too much......a lot of drama in between, I traveled back and resume dwork while praying and fasting for his return. Mehn I lost weight without even trying. I met many scam pastors which are another story.........

One day, I suddenly realized I may have the password to hubby's Facebook, I tried it and it worked. What I saw pained me but it gave me strength knowing the break up wasn't because of anything he was accusing me of (like saying a pastor revealed to him that I was sent into his life by Kingdom of darkness to destroy him. To this I asked if Kingdom of darkness gave jobs, he said he has repaid me ie Kingdom of darkness back in connecting me to the job I had then which didn't last. Oh he wanted me to be paying my salary to him by the way).

So I got some courage to begin living again at this point and apply for a divorce. To this he also said "that good wives wait for their husbands no matter how long they go, but me I ran to apply because I want to remarry."

We got to court and he was accompanied by his father and them claiming that hubby didn't abscond but I did. Guess they were afraid I wanted to request compensation. Walking out of court, his father waves at me and I wonder why.
He was barely divorced then remarried and yes has kids now. Things went sour with my place of work and I relocated to a bigger city and that was my fresh start.

Met my husband two years after the divorce, I hid nothing from him especially my challenges with infertility. We got married same year. And got pregnant and miscarried. Second pregnancy for now hubby, I was put on cerclage, yet the pregnancy still ended and I almost ended with it as my body was going into shock due to its inability to dispel the dead foetus since a cerclage held the products in.

I had an history of pregnancy losses at 14 weeks. After 8 miscarriages and no living child, I visited more hospitals, met insensitive money alone conscious doctors, finally a correct diagnosis was made.

I had no demons worrying me, my womb was just too small to carry to term, it wasn't expanding with the pregnancies. An hysteroscopy was the procedure used to diagnose this.

Getting a diagnosis at last was some sort of relief, but what can we do doctor I asked? Doctor said "have you considered adoption?" I was shattered.

I went home and discussed it with my husband. We agreed to adopt and we applied two years ago. We only just got feed back few weeks ago from them self.

Then one day I was on social media and I saw someone advertise needing a surrogate and like a light bulb the idea stuck, I wrote to the woman and we started chatting. One day her Status said she needed someone to donate blood for a relative of hers and I say where to an online stranger I had never met. That was the first day I met my good friend Mrs R. I also put up an advert for a surrogate as I couldn't afford to the price agencies were charging. After two bad experiences, I finally got one good person that we could afford. And God just sent money mysteriously.

Then when God wants to turn your story around, you know it's just your time. I paid for one cycle at the hospital we used, already looking for money in case the first cycle did not work, guess what?

IT WORKED! MY TWIN DAUGHTERS ARE 3 MONTHS OLD NOW.

This is not your everyday testimony, I no get time to dey give testimony like some people wey go go church dey say "after waiting for 20 years, God blessed us with triplets, tell the journey when telling your testimony sisters, don't let the holy sister at the back waiting for a similar miracle be thinking God doesn't answer her prayers. Be real, stop pretending.

Edited:
Please someone take me to front page for the first time in my life na. ����

Congrats Mama Beji. God bless your children. Amen
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by StephenJoseph(m): 4:06pm On May 16, 2020
Alero3Arubi:

Can i get a copy of your research if you will?

I do not think it's possible because of distance
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Gamboh55(m): 6:53pm On May 16, 2020
You went through hell to get to heaven. May joy never cease. Amen
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by MrDebonair: 7:00pm On May 16, 2020
Omojudy. You mentioned doing a cerclage. Indication for Cervical cerclage is Cervical incompetence or insufficiency. Which could be as a result of malformation. Reason women lose pregnancy at early stage. Failed because it didn't solve the problem.

Hope you get the summary now. cool
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 8:52pm On May 16, 2020
MrDebonair:
Omojudy. You mentioned doing a cerclage. Indication for Cervical cerclage is Cervical incompetence or insufficiency. Which could be as a result of malformation. Reason women lose pregnancy at early stage. Failed because it didn't solve the problem.

Hope you get the summary now. cool
Well, failed may have been that the cerclage broke. The cervix wasn't incompetent. Cerclage was just tried without a diagnosis saying we needed it. Since there wasn't any confirmed diagnosis then.
Why are you even summarising? People should get used to reading.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Justice009(m): 2:28am On May 17, 2020
Omojudy:
I think it's time I dropped my childbearing story.

Thirteen years ago, aged 22, I married right out of university without the wisdom to realise the importance of finding my feet first. My husband was 11 years older than me. He wasn't rich but I thought we loved each other. Youth service year I conceived but lost it right out of service.

Hubby was helped to get a good job, stable government job by my family. When I lost my first pregnancy, we were staying a few months with his parents due to our financial situation, my father in law said to me after that loss while my husband travelled "did your ladies in the water say to you that the day you give birth you would die?"

With the new job right after the loss, we moved back home and continued our lives. Three more miscarriages came along with many drama ranging from deliverances to traditional midwives to in law's commanding the home.

Finally one day almost 5 years later, hubby travels and his father calls my aunty to tell her that "they don't want to marry their daughter again". I was at work when aunty broke the news to me. I travelled that night to the inlaws with my aunty and grand mother to beg, we were not given audience. They didn't even open their gate despite we could see my husband's car in the compound.

At 9pm my companions begged me to go home with them, I refused and chose to spend the night in a shed close by. The was no electricity in the neighbourhood, everywhere was dark. At midnight Power was restored, and from the shed I was hiding, I saw my father in law walking round the compound spraying incense, (he attended celestial church) I call out to him "daddy, daddy" obviously he hears me but does like I am a ghost.

At that point, I knew I was wasting my time, I started trekking. I trekked to the motor park which was very far, vigilantes stopped me numerous time and my tearful face made them not question me too much......a lot of drama in between, I traveled back and resume dwork while praying and fasting for his return. Mehn I lost weight without even trying. I met many scam pastors which are another story.........

One day, I suddenly realized I may have the password to hubby's Facebook, I tried it and it worked. What I saw pained me but it gave me strength knowing the break up wasn't because of anything he was accusing me of (like saying a pastor revealed to him that I was sent into his life by Kingdom of darkness to destroy him. To this I asked if Kingdom of darkness gave jobs, he said he has repaid me ie Kingdom of darkness back in connecting me to the job I had then which didn't last. Oh he wanted me to be paying my salary to him by the way).

So I got some courage to begin living again at this point and apply for a divorce. To this he also said "that good wives wait for their husbands no matter how long they go, but me I ran to apply because I want to remarry."

We got to court and he was accompanied by his father and them claiming that hubby didn't abscond but I did. Guess they were afraid I wanted to request compensation. Walking out of court, his father waves at me and I wonder why.
He was barely divorced then remarried and yes has kids now. Things went sour with my place of work and I relocated to a bigger city and that was my fresh start.

Met my husband two years after the divorce, I hid nothing from him especially my challenges with infertility. We got married same year. And got pregnant and miscarried. Second pregnancy for now hubby, I was put on cerclage, yet the pregnancy still ended and I almost ended with it as my body was going into shock due to its inability to dispel the dead foetus since a cerclage held the products in.

I had an history of pregnancy losses at 14 weeks. After 8 miscarriages and no living child, I visited more hospitals, met insensitive money alone conscious doctors, finally a correct diagnosis was made.

I had no demons worrying me, my womb was just too small to carry to term, it wasn't expanding with the pregnancies. An hysteroscopy was the procedure used to diagnose this.

Getting a diagnosis at last was some sort of relief, but what can we do doctor I asked? Doctor said "have you considered adoption?" I was shattered.

I went home and discussed it with my husband. We agreed to adopt and we applied two years ago. We only just got feed back few weeks ago from them self.

Then one day I was on social media and I saw someone advertise needing a surrogate and like a light bulb the idea stuck, I wrote to the woman and we started chatting. One day her Status said she needed someone to donate blood for a relative of hers and I say where to an online stranger I had never met. That was the first day I met my good friend Mrs R. I also put up an advert for a surrogate as I couldn't afford to the price agencies were charging. After two bad experiences, I finally got one good person that we could afford. And God just sent money mysteriously.

Then when God wants to turn your story around, you know it's just your time. I paid for one cycle at the hospital we used, already looking for money in case the first cycle did not work, guess what?

IT WORKED! MY TWIN DAUGHTERS ARE 3 MONTHS OLD NOW.

This is not your everyday testimony, I no get time to dey give testimony like some people wey go go church dey say "after waiting for 20 years, God blessed us with triplets, tell the journey when telling your testimony sisters, don't let the holy sister at the back waiting for a similar miracle be thinking God doesn't answer her prayers. Be real, stop pretending.

Edited:
Please someone take me to front page for the first time in my life na. ����

This is the greatest news to ever come from this year even in this pandemic period. God is really a working God
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Nobody: 6:04pm On May 18, 2020
StephenJoseph:


I do not think it's possible because of distance
No e copy?
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Ebenezer2O2O(m): 4:12am On May 24, 2020
SweetCunt97:
It's obvious you really enjoying seeing my mentions bro. What even gave you the impression that it's a lady behind this moniker? I could b a dude with hairy dangling balls like you.. So bera chill
you've been spotted.
I knew the person behind this account is a male
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Ebenezer2O2O(m): 4:14am On May 24, 2020
ajepako:


That Werey Ajah?

We will soon dash him to Yemoja as mai ruwa.

Plus today is my 46th , so as l no invite him for jollof and ewedu, he dey vex cheesy cheesy

hmm old cargoes plenty for nairaland sha
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Ebenezer2O2O(m): 4:16am On May 24, 2020
VickyRotex:


Anyone that sees this will think you have something reasonable to say. angry angry

Ajepako, kiss kiss how how you dey? I dey shock to see sey after almost 2yrs wey I no come NL, this yeyenatu still never change. embarassed
two years u never log in NL?
who this one wan deceive with plenty alternates wet she get
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by SweetCunt97(f): 7:46am On May 24, 2020
Ebenezer2O2O:
you've been spotted.
I knew the person behind this account is a male
Lolzzz. How much will u credit my account if I'm a lady? This one u interested in my gender
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by ajepako(f): 9:14am On May 24, 2020
Ebenezer2O2O:
hmm old cargoes plenty for nairaland sha

You should pray for old age too, son

It is a blessing not a joke.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by VickyRotex(f): 10:35am On May 24, 2020
Ebenezer2O2O:
two years u never log in NL?
who this one wan deceive with plenty alternates wet she get

Please please please don't troll me this morning.

Do I look like Iyangbali or all his/her other troll accounts? Is it my fault that you can't do without Nairaland?

Please don't quote me again abeg!

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