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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by ikemesit4477: 2:04pm On May 15, 2020
farady:
Congratulations. I was really intrigued by your story. Didn't know of a medical condition wherein the womb will be too small to carry a baby. Only knew of when a birth canal (i guess that's the cervix) can be too small for normal delivery, hence the need for CS.
please can a woman who gave birth through cs , during her first pregnancy give birth through normal (VG ) in her subsequent delivery! Any idea!
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by IfeomaRash(f): 2:08pm On May 15, 2020
If you have children for men problem, if you don't have problem. May God bless us with good men and good in-laws.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Purplegem: 2:08pm On May 15, 2020
this children you carry in your hands shall continue to be a source of joy to you and your family, God will do more and bigger miracle in your life. You are such a WONDERFUL WOMAN and you are rare.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Sweetcho: 2:10pm On May 15, 2020
Bbbwings:

How did you pass jamb?

What is jamb?

Anyway I know English comprehension may not be your strongest point. Twins is 2 (two) babies triplets (means three) the op states twins then triplets which is it. Do you understand now slow coach?
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by sugah: 2:12pm On May 15, 2020
@omojudy I remember your struggles from the TTC thread and I'm delighted at this news. Congratulations!!!! kiss May your daughters bring you inexplicable joy

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Liftedhands(f): 2:19pm On May 15, 2020
ikemesit4477:
please can a woman who gave birth through cs , during her first pregnancy give birth through normal (VG ) in her subsequent delivery! Any idea!
Very possible! It's called vbac (vagina birth after C-section). She has to be reviewed by her doctor and given the go ahead before attempting it incase the reason for the first cs presents itself again or it's medical related.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by ikemesit4477: 2:21pm On May 15, 2020
Liftedhands:
Very possible! It's called vbac (vagina birth after C-section). She has to be reviewed by her doctor and given the go ahead before attempting it incase the reason for the first cs presents itself again or it's medical related.
thank you so much!
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by mamatwiny(f): 2:23pm On May 15, 2020
Trayceey:
I saw this story on Facebook. Copy copy

She is the original owner. We have known her on TTC( trying to conceive) in thread/ health section on nairaland till she backed out after a while and later posted she was saving money for surrogacy. I knew all this gist before she went for surrogacy. The only info she hid from us was why she opted for surrogacy but she eventually opened up on her Instagram account after she put to bed that it was a congenital issue. I even followed her to Instagram the month she opened the account when the babies were one month.

You can check back her posts from 2017 on trying to conceive thread on health section ( if she hasn't deleted them) .
Cheers!

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by liveyourlife007(m): 2:23pm On May 15, 2020
From the write up one can tell she's happy. congratulations dear [quote author=Omojudy post=89548493]I think it's time I dropped my childbearing story.

Thirteen years ago, aged 22, I married right out of university without the wisdom to realise the importance of finding my feet first. My husband was 11 years older than me. He wasn't rich but I thought we loved each other. Youth service year I conceived but lost it right out of service.

Hubby was helped to get a good job, stable government job by my family. When I lost my first pregnancy, we were staying a few months with his parents due to our financial situation, my father in law said to me after that loss while my husband travelled "did your ladies in the water say to you that the day you give birth you would die?"

Finally one day almost 5 years later, hubby travels and his father calls my aun
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by PeacenLove2: 2:27pm On May 15, 2020
Omojudy:
I think it's time I dropped my childbearing story.

Thirteen years ago, aged 22, I married right out of university without the wisdom to realise the importance of finding my feet first. My husband was 11 years older than me. He wasn't rich but I thought we loved each other. Youth service year I conceived but lost it right out of service.

Hubby was helped to get a good job, stable government job by my family. When I lost my first pregnancy, we were staying a few months with his parents due to our financial situation, my father in law said to me after that loss while my husband travelled "did your ladies in the water say to you that the day you give birth you would die?"

With the new job right after the loss, we moved back home and continued our lives. Three more miscarriages came along with many drama ranging from deliverances to traditional midwives to in law's commanding the home.

Finally one day almost 5 years later, hubby travels and his father calls my aunty to tell her that "they don't want to marry their daughter again". I was at work when aunty broke the news to me. I travelled that night to the inlaws with my aunty and grand mother to beg, we were not given audience. They didn't even open their gate despite we could see my husband's car in the compound.

At 9pm my companions begged me to go home with them, I refused and chose to spend the night in a shed close by. The was no electricity in the neighbourhood, everywhere was dark. At midnight Power was restored, and from the shed I was hiding, I saw my father in law walking round the compound spraying incense, (he attended celestial church) I call out to him "daddy, daddy" obviously he hears me but does like I am a ghost.

At that point, I knew I was wasting my time, I started trekking. I trekked to the motor park which was very far, vigilantes stopped me numerous time and my tearful face made them not question me too much......a lot of drama in between, I traveled back and resume dwork while praying and fasting for his return. Mehn I lost weight without even trying. I met many scam pastors which are another story.........

One day, I suddenly realized I may have the password to hubby's Facebook, I tried it and it worked. What I saw pained me but it gave me strength knowing the break up wasn't because of anything he was accusing me of (like saying a pastor revealed to him that I was sent into his life by Kingdom of darkness to destroy him. To this I asked if Kingdom of darkness gave jobs, he said he has repaid me ie Kingdom of darkness back in connecting me to the job I had then which didn't last. Oh he wanted me to be paying my salary to him by the way).

So I got some courage to begin living again at this point and apply for a divorce. To this he also said "that good wives wait for their husbands no matter how long they go, but me I ran to apply because I want to remarry."

We got to court and he was accompanied by his father and them claiming that hubby didn't abscond but I did. Guess they were afraid I wanted to request compensation. Walking out of court, his father waves at me and I wonder why.
He was barely divorced then remarried and yes has kids now. Things went sour with my place of work and I relocated to a bigger city and that was my fresh start.

Met my husband two years after the divorce, I hid nothing from him especially my challenges with infertility. We got married same year. And got pregnant and miscarried. Second pregnancy for now hubby, I was put on cerclage, yet the pregnancy still ended and I almost ended with it as my body was going into shock due to its inability to dispel the dead foetus since a cerclage held the products in.

I had an history of pregnancy losses at 14 weeks. After 8 miscarriages and no living child, I visited more hospitals, met insensitive money alone conscious doctors, finally a correct diagnosis was made.

I had no demons worrying me, my womb was just too small to carry to term, it wasn't expanding with the pregnancies. An hysteroscopy was the procedure used to diagnose this.

Getting a diagnosis at last was some sort of relief, but what can we do doctor I asked? Doctor said "have you considered adoption?" I was shattered.

I went home and discussed it with my husband. We agreed to adopt and we applied two years ago. We only just got feed back few weeks ago from them self.

Then one day I was on social media and I saw someone advertise needing a surrogate and like a light bulb the idea stuck, I wrote to the woman and we started chatting. One day her Status said she needed someone to donate blood for a relative of hers and I say where to an online stranger I had never met. That was the first day I met my good friend Mrs R. I also put up an advert for a surrogate as I couldn't afford to the price agencies were charging. After two bad experiences, I finally got one good person that we could afford. And God just sent money mysteriously.

Then when God wants to turn your story around, you know it's just your time. I paid for one cycle at the hospital we used, already looking for money in case the first cycle did not work, guess what?

IT WORKED! MY TWIN DAUGHTERS ARE 3 MONTHS OLD NOW.

This is not your everyday testimony, I no get time to dey give testimony like some people wey go go church dey say "after waiting for 20 years, God blessed us with triplets, tell the journey when telling your testimony sisters, don't let the holy sister at the back waiting for a similar miracle be thinking God doesn't answer her prayers. Be real, stop pretending.

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Please someone take me to front page for the first time in my life na. ����

Now where is the love botton when you need it? OP, big congratulations to you! You are an icon, amazing and formidable.

You have been through so much yet come out this strong, courageous and bold. There isn't a lot of people like you and coming out of our extremely judgemental and hypocritical society, you are a pace setter. Our society will be much better for it.

Women in your shoes will have the courage to follow through and see how liberating it is to own their truth. For crying out loud, baby factories will die a natural death if we can be open like this. God bless you and the little ones and God bless other women who make the sacrifices to give a helping hand to other women to achieve their goals.

This is impressive. Congratulations again! cheesy

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by liveyourlife007(m): 2:32pm On May 15, 2020
Sweetcho:


What is jamb?

Anyway I know English comprehension may not be your strongest point. Twins is 2 (two) babies triplets (means three) the op states twins then triplets which is it. Do you understand now slow coach?
U kno English true true. Ode
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Sweetcho: 2:35pm On May 15, 2020
liveyourlife007:
U kno English true true. Ode

Ode? I think rather kwasia boolou
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by bigwig10(m): 2:35pm On May 15, 2020
Congratulations
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by coi: 2:36pm On May 15, 2020
Congratulations. Thank you for giving details. It will sure give someone direction.
May God protect you and your babies
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by PeacenLove2: 2:36pm On May 15, 2020
DontBullshitMe:
Adoption is better than surrogacy.

Less homeless children.

Adoption is pretty great but people should have a choice in that matter, don't you think?
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by kunletexs: 2:38pm On May 15, 2020
SweetCunt97:
That's d problem with Nigeria! Freaking unnecessary sentiments! Give a realistic comment and u a monster. If everyone took responsibility of their actions, this country would b better. Asslicking sycophants. Tell people the truth

I thought you could pass comments without insult but I didn't know you are so self righteous.

Come on. Tell yourself the truth for once. You are an asshole, dumb fool with no iota of reasonable thinking. You are the fools that make men keeps batches like you at arms lenght because you are so self centered and care less for someone else feeling.

I not sorry for you it the husband that would manage you or is presently managing your sorry ass
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Endlesspeace(f): 2:44pm On May 15, 2020
Congratulabia.
Congrats sis.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by PeacenLove2: 2:46pm On May 15, 2020
Bonapart:
madam you started well and ended very badly in trying to discredit the work of God. Life itself is a waste of time no matter your achievement. Heaven alone counts. Congratulations mrs surrogacy or whatever its called

Here we go again, soldiers of the Lord. She didn't discredit the work of God. You are just quick to find fault where there is none. Don't worry, God can fight His own battle. The one thing you could probably do right is to be kind. Mrs. Surrogacy? Really? Coming from a supposedly godly person. You, sir are in need of deliverance. Something motivates you and it's certainly not God!

Just so you understand better, she was just telling people to tell it like it is instead of misleading other people in their shoes. It's not the same to say for instance, " after 15 years, God finally made me have twins." Many will interprete the mother birthed the child naturally and keep waiting too. Not claiming some don't o. But the truth is many use various other options such as surrogacy even adoption but they never disclose these. The danger is that someone waiting will not consider these options because she thinks God that did it for family A and B will do it for her too. You gerrit? Look, man, kindness doesn't kill. Try a few times a day.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by okewumi: 2:48pm On May 15, 2020
joey150:
Well, since nobody will mention it, thanks to the brains behind the science that made your surrogacy possible and the surrogate lady too.

Maybe your story will inspire other couples facing a similar situation to explore this possibility too.

And of course, thanks to God, the giver of all wisdom and knowledge.

Congratulations Madam!




Nigerian needs to start exploring surrogacy.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by PeacenLove2: 2:49pm On May 15, 2020
Bonapart:
stupid conclusion for atheist to feed on


You're making atheists look pretty good right now. grin wink
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 2:49pm On May 15, 2020
mamatwiny:


She is the original owner. We have known her on TTC( trying to conceive) in thread/ health section on nairaland till she backed out after a while and later posted she was saving money for surrogacy. I knew all this gist before she went for surrogacy. The only info she hid from us was why she opted for surrogacy but she eventually opened up on her Instagram account after she put to bed that it was a congenital issue. I even followed her to Instagram the month she opened the account when the babies were one month.

You can check back her posts from 2017 on trying to conceive thread on health section ( if she hasn't deleted them) .
Cheers!
Thanks mama. I didn't really hide my reason, was just going through a lot that period. I think I opened that IG account when the pregnancy crossed the previous risky marker ie 14 weeks. I choose not to believe this pregnancy would end the same way despite people advising me against announcing them before their birth.
Surrogacy or no surrogacy, It has only been God!

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by opymx: 2:50pm On May 15, 2020
Congrats madam!!
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by PeacenLove2: 2:50pm On May 15, 2020
FryMosquito:
God's name will continue to be praised.. Congratulations and your happiness will continue to multiply..
Will be nice if you share the hospital that help you diagnosed the real problem, cos of many families that having Fertility issues.. It seems a good hospital, not all this money hungry centers

Op, please kindly share. It's hard to get correct diagnosis. This would be very helpful.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 2:51pm On May 15, 2020
okewumi:




Nigerian needs to start exploring surrogacy.
They do, they only pretend to carry the belle themselves by wearing fake pregnancies or travelling abroad.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 2:52pm On May 15, 2020
cherishyy:
Congratulations once again Omojudy I always go on Instagram just see your post. They always make my day. God bless and keep your los
Amen. Chat me there sometime.

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 2:55pm On May 15, 2020
Sweetcho:

Twins or triplets?


Twins or triplets?
Twins. Triplets was mentioned by way of trying to paint a picture in an analogy. I hope you understand?
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by recentelder(m): 3:00pm On May 15, 2020
Let me join millions of nairalanders to congratulate you.Stay strong

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Re: My Journey To Motherhood by SweetCunt97(f): 3:00pm On May 15, 2020
kunletexs:


I thought you could pass comments without insult but I didn't know you are so self righteous.

Come on. Tell yourself the truth for once. You are an asshole, dumb fool with no iota of reasonable thinking. You are the fools that make men keeps batches like you at arms lenght because you are so self centered and care less for someone else feeling.

I not sorry for you it the husband that would manage you or is presently managing your sorry ass
OH well, atleast you gave a direct insult which was lacking in mine grin. Hope with all these talk you atleast sent some token to d account
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Omojudy: 3:01pm On May 15, 2020
FryMosquito:
God's name will continue to be praised.. Congratulations and your happiness will continue to multiply..
Will be nice if you share the hospital that help you diagnosed the real problem, cos of many families that having Fertility issues.. It seems a good hospital, not all this money hungry centers
Oh I was recommended at LASUTH to run the hysteroscopy. Lasuth didn't have the facility then, so I did it outside. Most big fertility clinics have it. I brought back the result to LASUTH as expected to interprete.
Re: My Journey To Motherhood by Liftedhands(f): 3:04pm On May 15, 2020
ikemesit4477:
thank you so much!
You are welcome.

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