funmisticqueen2:
did she beg to marry him.

It is not by force abeg

Bola146:


Good forbid I should be a burden to my husband in future, we are helpmates. We should be caring to one another. This Op might have borrowed more money from the wife that he never returned which might want to be a burden or debt to the woman. Some men will never say the truth when it's comes to this kind topic

Peterosky:
Anytime I read or hear stories like this, all I do is go on my knees to tell God thank you for giving me a wonderful wife. Even in my very difficult times,I still have my respect from my wife. Do I need to mention that my wife checks my wallet in my difficult times and drop money in it when she find's none? My God is indeed faithful.

Davash222:
Treat her the way she treats you! Don't be crossing express for someone that can't cross a gutter for you.

You know the risk of crossing express these days. Be careful.

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

edoairways:

Stories! Did they force her to marry him?. If as woman you can't support your husband then you are of no use.

lefulefu:
from the story it looks like she was forced

delkuf:
Thank bro. this is what I am thinking of doing

Ybaby:


Agree with all but last line

That woman is dying to submit to her man.... she wants him to take charge

Charge = money not slap

Graysons:
Your English is horrible. You finish secondary school?

No offense bro but you type like a village man.

hermesprogidy:

Lol.. You are welcome to disagree. It still doesn't change my opinion.

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

IamDavid:
if I was a mod I would ban you for this comment, because it's capable of destroying someone's family

ayodejisure:
Maybe he's more matured than you

Dollabiz:


when you are sexx starved your brain damages will be repaired. pray you dont fall victim,i have seen many men of God telling me that if not for religion they would have girlfriends outside coz of this same sexx starving issues, many homes are facing it many hide it

LegalOpinion:


You are 100% correct. The amount of money a man makes is directly proportional to the quality of love and attention he receives from his wife. Only pretentious people will argue against this position.

The wives of rich men who are happily married today and displaying that happiness, are more terrible except that money has eliminated their nonsense.

Ayo8:

Wow!... you are really a lucky man

sammchuck1:

Na you marry. The others.... I reserve my comment.

Ybaby:


Of Course!!

Would never to change your mind..... Greet mumsy for me ( I presume she is a woman)

AfroKnight:
You cannot tell me that you didn’t notice this rigid behaviour during courtship.

Better discuss with her to find a solution.

Also, hustle to get enough money. You’re a man. Even their so called Feminism will not make a naija woman spend her own money on a man. Better take care of yourself.

As for the sex, you must let her know in clear terms that she cannot use sex (Withholding it vindictively) as a weapon to punish you. Any woman who does that deserves to be cheated on.

delkuf:
That's what she is a professional pretender

delkuf:
Thank bro. this is what I am thinking of doing

delkuf:
Good Nairaland I don't normally do this, bringing my family issue here but this issue is pissing me off.

Here is the story. I got married last year, and I thought I have known her enough that was why I married her. But to my surprise I started discovering that she is too stiff. She is too hard. When she says she is not doing something, that is it, she won't do it.

Sometimes if am broke, and I ask for Small amount of money, most time I want to use that money to get means for bigger money, she won't give.

She gives me time for sex. Presently am down with fever and the only thing she has ever asked me is how is your body. No what will you take or something. Am starting to think of quitting the marriage. The only issue is that she is pregnant and this is my first child.

delkuf:
This is not the issue of Manning up, you don't know what I am experiencing. she gives me time table for sex. is not like I am demanding. the last time I slept with is over three weeks ago. I have talked with her. Her younger sister have talked with her, she is to adamant.

wildcatter23:
With the Advent of technology, internet and exposure, it has been become quite unfortunate that ladies these days have become less submissive in their role as wives and help mates.

Ideally, women should be submissive, humble and all that but realistically this is far from the truth. What is most troubling is that at the onset of the relationship, they wear the cloak of a wolf in sheep clothing. As the relationship enters the business ends of things such as a full fledged marriage, there are certain characters carefully hided will begin to manifest.

When a lady starts her motherly obligation of child bearing, other unknown characters are pushed to the forefront. In all fairness, the change women have to make as a lady to woman to a mother is terrific. There pressures unimaginable, that only mothers can relate to. Failed expectations on the part of the man. Financial pressures, the rigors of child bearing and raising them up can be a game changer in the emotional make up of women. Worth mentioning at this point, is the changes ladies undergo while pregnant. Her preferences and urges changes. Things she likes becomes things she hates and vice versa.


Sometimes, these changes take such a Hugh toll in the life of a woman that she can go into depression. It can get better or worse.


Communication should therefore be the pillar of every relationship. Communicate, communicate and communicate. Marriage is a university, you can never master. You keep learning