Edojoma:


The way u defending dis lady, n u no everything abt d issue.....Are u sure DAT u r not d lady

How possible is that? How will I be married and still be asking such questions?

fieryy:



Whatever you want to tell me can surely be discussed here too... Right?

Would you add me up on whatsapp? Or rather I add u up. This is public space.

nextstep:


I suspect the confusion is in the word celibate: what the doctors are encouraging is intimacy during pregnancy.

"Does abstaining from sex during pregnancy reduce complications?"
appears to be different from
"Does abstaining from sex for years before pregnancy reduce complications"?

In the first, the conclusion appears to be all over the place ranging from "Sexual intercourse at term is not associated with ripening of the cervix and does not hasten labor.", to "Reported sexual intercourse at term was associated with earlier onset of labor and reduced requirement for labor induction at 41 weeks."
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4341500/#A16465R5

In the second, I am unaware of documented evidence that connects abstinence with complications at childbirth.


So in conclusion: in most articles about childbirth complications, rarely does sexual activity feature in the top ten reasons for why there are, or why there are no complications.

The highest factors appear to be:
- infections and diseases (including cancer)
- high blood pressure, epilepsy, anemia, diabetes
- being pregnant at age 35 or older, and at a young age
- eating disorder like anorexia
- smoking cigarettes, using illegal drugs, drinking alcohol

However my advice is: relax, reduce your stress levels, eat healthy, take your vitamins, make love with your partner during pregnancy.

Ok.
Thank you.

shadeyinka:

Water is NOT a good lubricant. Buy KY jelly from the pharmacist. Oldies will also recommend Shea butter (Ori in Yoruba) excellent antibacterial oil based lubricant.

Ok.
Thanks.

professore:

Would you add me up on whatsapp? Or rather I add u up. This is public space.

Exactly, this is a public forum and I don't give away my number like that. Cheers

Gforce2015:
If op is a celibate, I will give her a special gift. You can hardly find a celibate lady in this kind of environment expect the so-called artificial celibacy.

Hardly can you find a celibate lady on this forum. I dare any lady to speak up that she is a celibate.

Oyaaaaa my gift oooo... ha!

Eulalia:



Nope the Lady that fainted didn't have any STDs. She was not sexually active for a Long time and so on her wedding night she fainted from excruciating pains and injury sustained as her hubby was trying to ..... Break her again.

Thanks for the heads up though.

How many times dem de break person naw

tomdon:



How many times dem de break person naw

I heard there is secondary virginity.

Eulalia:


She wasn't raped. It was with her husband on her wedding night.
Yeah, she's an SU.
No genital mutilation.

I think its a case of secondary virginity.

SU, not raped, secondary virginity.
Abeg all these waec questions sef

funmisticqueen2:
SU couples always have 'challenges' on their wedding night. I am tired of counselling many cases.

Pls give her some mills and boon, or harlequin romance novel to read. When it gets to the sexual scenes, let her imagine herself and her husband acting out the scene. This will build chemistry and enable her enjoy sex.


The secret to painless sex is to be mentally prepared for it.

•She should relax and come from the place of her husband loves her and doesn't want to harm her.

•She should tell herself that sex is enjoyable, with the man she chose. After being celibate, she better enjoy the sweet fruit of the her efforts.

•She should start to see her husband in a sexual light, as a sexually attractive man. Like in the romance novels.

She should communicate with him to be gentle with her and take things slowly.

I wish the couple good luck.

You're talking off point
The said lady tho an said to be an SU was not a virgin, wasn't raped before, and is now claiming SU.
A different advise is needed not this your own

Eulalia:


Ok. Thank you. I think the couple have gone past this stage now cos they now have kids. So I guess this tips will be more useful to us the up and coming SUs .

Thanks.

Are lubricants safe and advisable?
I really appreciate.

Is that how SU has been bastardised??
SU wey de Bleep prick! No be say dem rape am

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fieryy:


Exactly, this is a public forum and I don't give away my number like that. Cheers

Would u add me if drop mine?

tomdon:




You're talking off point
The said lady tho an said to be an SU was not a virgin, wasn't raped before, and is now claiming SU.
A different advise is needed not this your own

old man, carry your verbal diarrhoea and kindly waka pass.

funmisticqueen2:
SU couples always have 'challenges' on their wedding night. I am tired of counselling many cases.

Pls give her some mills and boon, or harlequin romance novel to read. When it gets to the sexual scenes, let her imagine herself and her husband acting out the scene. This will build chemistry and enable her enjoy sex.


The secret to painless sex is to be mentally prepared for it.

•She should relax and come from the place of her husband loves her and doesn't want to harm her.

•She should tell herself that sex is enjoyable, with the man she chose. After being celibate, she better enjoy the sweet fruit of the her efforts.

•She should start to see her husband in a sexual light, as a sexually attractive man. Like in the romance novels.

She should communicate with him to be gentle with her and take things slowly.

I wish the couple good luck.

You no get bro. She may have been hard wired to see enjoying sex as sin. To some sex is just for procreation and nothing more. Asking for BJ and the likes is likened to murder

Celibacy does not cause child birth complications because even as the lady z pregnant, servicing of the kpekus normally goes on which will equally be smoothening the cervix and fallopian tube for easy delivery. I heard from elders.

Halo22:
Celibacy does not cause child birth complications because even as the lady z pregnant, servicing of the kpekus normally goes on which will equally be smoothening the cervix and fallopian tube for easy delivery. I heard from elders.

Lol...@fallopian tube

ejimatic:
. A path that is walked always is smother than a path that is not walked regularly or a path that has been abandoned. When a lady is still a virgin till about 34 or 35 the deflowering process may be painful as well as their childbirth .It is because of the contraction of the cervix as a result of irregular or non sexual activity..This however does not apply to everybody.... The solution is if there is a late marriage there must an ample time for pre-intimacy which helps lubricating the female genital for copulation. This will reduce the pain if it comes.When the lady is pregnant she must have sex on a regular basis with her husband so that her delivery will be easy..Abstinence from sex before marriage is not a problem as every sexual crisis can be controlled and managed depending on the understanding and orientation of the spouses .

Am lost here. Please what is celibate?

Braindealer:
Am lost here. Please what is celibate?

. Celibacy is a condition when a person decides not to marry or have sex with an opposite sex for a particular period of time.Somebody who makes that decision is a celibate.

[quote author=Gforce2015 post=89774517]If op is a celibate, I will give her a special gift. You can hardly find a celibate lady in this kind of environment expect the so-called artificial celibacy.

Hardly can you find a celibate lady on this forum. I dare any lady to speak up that she is a celibate. [/quote

ejimatic:
. Celibacy is a condition when a person decides not to marry or have sex with an opposite sex for a particular period of time.Somebody who makes that decision is a celibate.

okay. Thanks alot.

Eulalia:
Please pardon me for posting this here. I would have posted it in health section but the last one I posted there didn't get much satifisfactory response. I wanna believe we have some specialist here who can be of help.

Just to be double sure, I've heard it over and again that if a girl is celibate for a long time say 5 to 6 years before getting pregnant that she'll have some birth complications because the cervix has contrasted so much due to lack of sexual activities. How true is this?

Does celibacy tighen the cervix?

I also read somewhere that a lady fainted due to severe pains from sex on her wedding cos she was celibate for a long time after. And a doctor said its because she was sexually active before going celibate, that if she was a virgin it wouldn't have tightened so much.

Now, How true is this too? Like after being sexually active briefly then you go into celibacy for a very long time? And if its true, how or what can one do to prevent such scenario ( fainting) and the pains. Any dilating drugs or remedy.

Please a kind hearted doc should give suggestions or help clear the above.
Thanks.

False.

Heavily False.

Baseless.

mhizv:



Been active after been celibate for a while shouldn't hurt as much as the first time of ever getting intimate.

Probably something else. My opinion though

Naruto lover

No @Eulalia.

That's misinformation at its peak.

Things devil put in our heads to hold us ransom forever.

Eulalia:


She wasn't raped. It was with her husband on her wedding night.
Yeah, she's an SU.
No genital mutilation.

I think its a case of secondary virginity.

What us the meaning of SU?

funmisticqueen2:
that's like secondary virginity. She'll be fine. For sex to be painful for her. Was she raped?

Didn't her husband use pre-intimacy, was she aroused before penetratioN? Is she a spiri koko christian sister? Is she a victim of female genital cutting?

Which one come be spirit koko christian sister

Eulalia:


Ok. Thank you. I think the couple have gone past this stage now cos they now have kids. So I guess this tips will be more useful to us the up and coming SUs .

Thanks.

Are lubricants safe and advisable?
I really appreciate.

lubricants are save and advisable
try KY JELLY

Eulalia:


Wow really? Oils are not good? Hm. Ok. I guess water is the way to go then since its natural.

Thanks a bunch dear.

water still causes friction

tillaman:
I seriously doubt it! Fvck no
But 5-6 years
Who condemned her to celibacy? If I stay 3 months without smashing I go just kpai
Because semen go don dey comot from my nostrils

Una nor go kee person!

fartkay:




lubricants are save and advisable
try KY JELLY

Ok. Thanks.

Themaths:

Don't just use ordinary water. It can get heated up easily due to friction from thrusting. What I think he meant was water based lubricants, not oil based like vaseline.

Cheers!!!

can Vaseline be used as a lubricant?

funmisticqueen2:
SU couples always have 'challenges' on their wedding night. I am tired of counselling many cases.

Pls give her some mills and boon, or harlequin romance novel to read. When it gets to the sexual scenes, let her imagine herself and her husband acting out the scene. This will build chemistry and enable her enjoy sex.


The secret to painless sex is to be mentally prepared for it.

•She should relax and come from the place of her husband loves her and doesn't want to harm her.

•She should tell herself that sex is enjoyable, with the man she chose. After being celibate, she better enjoy the sweet fruit of the her efforts.

•She should start to see her husband in a sexual light, as a sexually attractive man. Like in the romance novels.

She should communicate with him to be gentle with her and take things slowly.

I wish the couple good luck.

Pls what is the meaning of SU