Rogosa:
Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

my senior wife is even more better to me

Acme45:
my senior wife is even more better to me

I think I like this

McWordsworth:


Of course with all aplomb.

Thanks.

Rogosa:
Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

I call everyone in my husband's house aunty and uncle. Even the ones I'm at least 5yrs older than. It will not remove anything from my body plus It didn't make me grow shorter or thinner or them fatter and bigger. No one forced me to do that I choose to. Its has a way of keeping me conscious that these are people I need to handle delicately, I cant treat them anyhow like I'd do my own siblings because I don't know what will hurt their feelings or make them happy.


For national peace mbok.

Rogosa:


The feeling ni

It seems you're too proud o. Or all the money in your akant would disappear once you call her aunty or big sis. Besides you're youruba you should even be calling her mummy sef. My dear age na just number o.

Humanoid01:

If you call someone you're older than "aunty" or "sister" with all sense of seriousness, all in the name of respect because she's your wife's sister, then it's that worse lol.

Exactly o, Initially I thought the in law was older till he mentioned he is older. You can address someone by their name and still respect them.... Like someone said just be humble but then if calling her by her name is a job for you then call her my in law in yoruba.....

veave:



I call everyone in my husband's house aunty and uncle. Even the ones I'm at least 5yrs older than. It will not remove anything from my body plus It didn't make me grow shorter or thinner or them fatter and bigger. No one forced me to do that I choose to. Its has a way of keeping me conscious that these are people I need to handle delicately, I cant treat them anyhow like I'd do my own siblings because I don't know what will hurt their feelings or make them happy.


For national peace mbok.

it is easy to do that as a woman most especially, the norms and culture permit it from the woman view but can we say the same from the man's side? It is not about pride! On the contrary!

It depends on the relationship BTW both family. Since you are older and aren't comfortable calling her name. Give her pet name like olori, first lady etc.
My hubby called my elder brothers bother (they are older than him) but addresses my other siblings by their names (they are married). We didn't see anything bad in it.

I don't call anybody brother or sister in his family either(except his immediate younger sister). Its either a pet name or your name. We relate as a family.

My friend call her by her name. So far you are older there is no debate here.

You only have to call her aunty if she's older or if you are the wife.

Rogosa:


Do you think it is cool, even though I am much older than her?

if she's married with kids, call her by her kids name or you just call her" ana mi". Yorubas add meaning to respect a lot

If she is married and have children, call her by her children's names.

If she isn't, iya iyawo mi is fine or madam like my people say or sis soso and so, it doesn't change anything.

Lizzyangel:


if she's married with kids, call her by her kids name or you just call her" ana mi". Yorubas add meaning to respect a lot

Exactly

Rogosa:


Yoruba

Why are you calling a sister in law you're older than sista?
You need to start calling her by name or use her child's name to call her.

Call her sister whatever...I call my brother in-law, my-brother-inlaw.

Rogosa:
Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

1. You can use the exact same name and title ur wife's uses to address her since ur wife is the younger one I am guessing she already has a title or pet name she calls her or
2. you call her by her kids names..ie : mummy Mike.
3. Also If she's the first daughter there are pet names reserved for first daughters such as Adanne in igboland, Or
4. If she's working in a profession that gives her a title eg Dr. Prof. Engr. Rev. Etc, you can address her by such too.
5. You can even call her a traditional chieftaincy title that connotes love, reverence and/or respect as a pet name.

Rogosa:
Hi everyone,
I have been having issue with this for a while. I don't know if it is proper to call your wife's elder sister "Aunty" or "Sister so and so" even though you are much older than her.
Can one call such by her name without putting the respective adjective or suffix?

Mature mind pls.

Does she have a child? You can call her by her child’s name: Iya so-and-so

Luckymama:


Does she have a child? You can call her by her child’s name: Iya so-and-so

She just had a baby recently

eyinjuege:


Why are you calling a sister in law you're older than sista?
You need to start calling her by name or use her child's name to call her.

And u this is proper to call her by name according to the tradition? I will rather use the name of her baby to call her since she just had a baby recently

I relate better with she by telling she to sit well when her clothe is revealing.

Please restructure your topic jaree.

Rogosa:


She just had a baby recently

Problem solved.

Luckymama:


Problem solved.

Thanks