So I came across this trend, about how sex before married is a scam

https://www.nairaland.com/5891121/no-sex-before-marriage-scam

So I decided to test my faith with my girlfriend i have been dating for 6month now, this girl have all the quality of what any good wife should posses, she do keep very little friends around her and she's not to exposed to worldly can of life maybe because her mom is a pastor her mom own her own church, am not saying my girlfriend is a church type of girl, she doesn't even go to her mom church. she has been into two other relationships before we started dating. she's spoilt to an extend and very beautiful girl. I would say the relationship is still at the early stage because of distance between us.

She stay in Abuja and also school there, while am schooling in owerri, she's 21 years old am 24.
we started dating prior to the coronia saga, I couldn't travel to Abuja because I wanted to, so all we do is to chart on social Media and call each other.

I sincerely love this girl and i have intention to marry her when am settled, I also want to marry early. am also not left out with the love she do show me very caring, sometimes I feel am been tripped, I have even intended breaking up twice with her not that she did something, I was just feeling maybe because of the distance it might not work, although it wasn't possible because she won't see reasons in any thing am saying, she would always come up with the talk of doing something to nasty to her self if I should break up with her, always calling and begging saying She's sick bla bla bla.. When ever she do stuffs like this I always see my self crewing back to her

Knowing fully well my intention is to marry her, but still haven't told her all my plains I have for her
She is a virgin with morals even though she came from a broken home her dad doesn't live with her mom, so its been the mom and her step dad training her and her siblings.

Now See where the problem is, after coming across this trend
https://www.nairaland.com/5891121/no-sex-before-marriage-scam

I Decided to bring up the topic with bae last night knowing fully well she's a virgin. i haven't had any decisions with her about our sex life before, yesterday night would be the first time for about six month we started dating, she wasn't comfortable with the question's I was throwing at her though, I was a different me yesterday night

ThankGod I got to know her stand which didn't go down well with me, this same girl doesn't hesitate to ask me for money when ever she's of need and I do give her and now see what she's saying..
You guys should help me settle this matter
Am already thinking of braking up again

Some girls doesn't deserve to be in any relationship

Just imaging

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nonsense




small pikin dey worry two of you. see chats like utme applicant in Whatsapp group

Shit. You guys are chatting like cretins.

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JasonScoolari:
Allow things flow naturally.... Don't torment her mind with sex talk.

If you continue like this, you might lose her and might not have the chance to bite the cherry.

Am not tormenting her, I just wonted to know her view concerning sex between us

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ON DIS PARTICULAR ISSUE ME NO GO FIT O....GUY U TRY

Heavensent01:
nonsense




small pikin dey worry two of you. see chats like utme applicant in Whatsapp group

Lol Na small girl she be na, she's not that exposed too, hv to bring my self down to her level, oga na sex i matter I won try discuss with her, She's a virgin

Ningen:
Shit. You guys are chatting like cretins.

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Lol, your opinion

All these under-age children. Let me come and be going ojare

This is not the way to go about this na all this small small boys. With this nonsense she can tell you're a baby and she will need to protect herself. if u get her pregannt now u will mix agbo and sanitiser for her to drink. these ladies are wisening up

Realist2:
All these under-age children. Let me come and be going ojare

Oga calm down

sarqwest:


Lol Na small girl she be na, she's not that exposed too, hv to bring my self down to her level, oga na sex i matter I won try discuss with her, She's a virgin

even you too na small pikin, you don't discuss sex matter to an inexperienced lady on phone, everything na body language when you see

Dem no dey talk this kind thing through WhatsApp na.. since you claim she is a virgin, your best bet is meeting and physically pass your message with body language... she go dey feel insecure like dat if you continue pestering her..



Well, to me,
1. long distance relationship is a no no..
2. No SEX relationship is a no no
3. Entitlement in relationship is a no no
4.cheating in relationship is a big no no..
@ op, you never dey relationship tbh

How will wan use settle una Matter now

Any girl that says no sex before marriage, I can only respect her decision, if she's a virgin...

If not, she can f**k off y life.

This should be private and no big deal about it.


By the way, you can get a car based on your budget, tell us your budget and we'll get you that dream car.

You guys chat like secondary school students...
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Anywhere give her time, since you said this is your first time of talking sex and romance to her. Some people don't actually open up on their first discussion on this kind of topics. You'll have to wait until she feels comfortable talking to you about it.
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But I don't see enough vibes from your chats. It just like question and answer interview... How are you?, fine!...
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This kind of of question is best discussed face to face. So that you can actually see the expression in your partner's face while talking... Whatsapp and it's emojis doesn't give that feeling...

McBrooklyn:
WTF did I just read??


Couldn't even read it finish cos I was starting to develop this mild migraine halfway reading this incoherent convos.. Smh

lol I wish I can 'unread' this

oh boy move on. this one na one chance. does she tax you

sarqwest:


Am not tormenting her, I just wonted to know her view concerning sex between us

Must you bring up sex matter, it's very high time WE stop applying all sorts of things we see or read online to our daily life. You say you want to marry early then quickly go see her parents to do the needful BTW why will she introduce a boyfriend of 6 months to her family knowing fully well that change is constant.
P.s
My advice for you to leave sex out of picture for now forget what everyone is saying that it's a one chance or scam , build yourself as well of building your relationship to have health and better understanding between each other. Allows things to play natural BTW I deflowered my woman in unplanned circumstances, it just happened on it's own because non of us has it in mind that fateful day despite we seeing each other virtually everyday. ... You own na 6 months ONLY and you done dey apply nonsense you dey read online for your relationship.

Are you a kid or a man You shall want to make front page abi Pele oo

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