I am a young girl, the only crime I committed was to be in love.my boyfriend doesn't care about any other thing apart from himself. during this lock down, he do invite me over when I refuse coming we get into a heated argument,due to I want my relationship to work, I'll lie to my parents about something and off I go. we stay in the same state but different city. Each time I get there, I don't feel happy because he doesn't treat me well.. he treats me like a maid. he expects me to do every single thing in the house, when water stops rushing in his apartment, he expects me to go downstairs and fetch water while he stays on bed and press phone. this has been going on for sometime. yet he claims he loves me. the worst of it all is he wakes me up in the middle of the night and ask for sex, when I refuse because I'm feeling sleepy and tell him in the morning. he will try to force himself on me, when he finds out I'm serious about the no.. that's how we will quarrel for the rest of the day and the next day.. he's so childish and self centered. Now, he invited Me again ,I came.. now I want to go back, he has refused.. my parents has been calling and I've told them I will be back tomorrow and he wants me to go against my parents wish. please advice me, what should I do?
is this love?
I forgot to add, he insults me and tells me awful words

You're not in love. You're in bondage.

Pack your legs. Don't forget to drop his love in the bin when going out. Put a smile on your face and slam the gate. Don't look back.

Let that smile radiate in you till you get home. Trust me, your happiness just began.

NB: send your location to a confidant just incase

Dump him

Stelz2000:
I am a young girl, the only crime I committed was to be in love.my boyfriend doesn't care about any other thing apart from himself. during this lock down, he do invite me over when I refuse coming we get into a heated argument,due to I want my relationship to work, I'll lie to my parents about something and off I go. we stay in the same state but different city. Each time I get there, I don't feel happy because he doesn't treat me well.. he treats me like a maid. he expects me to do every single thing in the house, when water stops rushing in his apartment, he expects me to go downstairs and fetch water while he stays on bed and press phone. this has been going on for sometime. yet he claims he loves me. the worst of it all is he wakes me up in the middle of the night and ask for sex, when I refuse because I'm feeling sleepy and tell him in the morning. he will try to force himself on me, when he finds out I'm serious about the no.. that's how we will quarrel for the rest of the day and the next day.. he's so childish and self centered. Now, he invited Me again ,I came.. now I want to go back, he has refused.. my parents has been calling and I've told them I will be back tomorrow and he wants me to go against my parents wish. please advice me, what should I do?
is this love?
I forgot to add, he insults me and tells me awful words

So you want us to confirm that something isn't right with ur head. U Neva marry and yet see suffer, see molestation, see entitlement syndrome from urnguy wetin go happen when him drop something for your head?? Let me borrow a word from the bible, "flee" my sister. When some thing is toxic to you, you dispose of it.

Run 4ur life

This isn't love. It's ABUSE.

What I find puzzling is you are sane enough to know he's abusing you, so why can't you quit??

Is it the sex, money, or promise of marriage??
Whatever it is, it'll end in premium tears.

Flee while your neurons are still working.

Op, you must be fugly, or have chronical low self-esteem for this to be happening to you. well, your fate is in your hand. Define what really matter to you (your happiness? ,your parent? or your boyfriend? ) then act in accordant

The fact that ur young should not tell same on how you think

What other Advice do you want from us other than what you think you should do

Until he will mistakenly get you pregnant and leave you to become a miserable single mother abi, you're a young girl indeed.
Stay far away from that man, he doesnt love you today, and will not love you tomorrow.

And you are still with him?
So you don't know how to walk away from a toxic relationship?
Or is your placenta tied to his destiny?
Or were you told that if you leave him, you will die or won't make it in life ever again?
What exactly is keeping you from moving forward and dumping the slave scheme that you are in all in the name of a relationship?
Borrow yourself small brain and get the hell outta that thing you called a relationship.

Living in bondage...it will end in tears

what did i just read. may God not give me stupid daughters amen

Think about your life first

... I believe there shld b even one good side of him.. But nevertheless, end d relationship ND dnt look back... If your ready to end it without looking back pm me, I will teach you how to forget him...

Alit of guyz hv this master servant attitude towards ladies in relationship.... For God sake a good t. V cost more than a washing machine..... Y hv guyz all refused to by the machine I stead preferring to enslave ladies who love them. In the name of testing their domestic house choirs resolve......

Y can't d guy fecth at least two buckets for the now till light comes ND water runs in house once more... Ladies cause this rubbish Sha.. They are too desperate.. Am very sure ur bf can't do such to a banker or a doctor gf.. Or one who holds her own.. It will b respect all round.....

My advice to ladies, try ND get urself a job ND dnt kip falling for stupid guyz in d name of sustainance

See me laughing seriously here So he is the only one or boy in this world? You lied to your parents? What of if he killed you when forcing himself to have sex with you Why are some girls senseless na It is well with your soul. You better go back to your parents. Oniranu omode

So this kind relationship still dey exists.
My sister is like you don't know you deserve better,may God open your eyes early to see your self worth

You are staying because you think he loves you and will marry you. You may even think you have some sort of control because he doesn’t beat you. My sister, run. He will only get worse. Try breaking up and see how he will handle it. That will tell you how the marriage will end. A man who wants you to disobey your parents wants to alienate you so he can take his time to suffer you. Run. Run.

Your mama sees you as a virgin but you sleeps outside your home.



are you making your parents proud so?


I don't support any single girl to sleep in a man's house

You're not in love; you're dickmatised. When you're tired of the toxicity no one will tell you to leave that sham of a relationship. Sense will come mysteriously

Mscheeeeeeeew

Op! Use your head, he is using you. He is a psychopath. Cut him off and move on.

Stelz2000:
I am a young girl, the only crime I committed was to be in love...
I forgot to add, he insults me and tells me awful words

Have some self-esteem.

This guy is just using you.

I know despite all these advices you've received here to leave that toxic relationship now that you still have your life and you've not lost much, you will still insist on staying and deceiving yourself that you're fighting for love that is not there until you lose every dignity you have in you as a woman and human to that toxic human being you called boyfriend. Someone who could be treating you like a slave now that you're just a girlfriend I wonder how he's going to treat you when he manages to pay your bride price thinking to himself that he has just bought a slave.
You girls don't learn anyways, until the it is dawn on you before y'all start screaming all guys are the same rubbish everywhere.
A word is enough for the wise they say.

Stelz2000:
I am a young girl, the only crime I committed was to be in love.my boyfriend doesn't care about any other thing apart from himself. during this lock down, he do invite me over when I refuse coming we get into a heated argument,due to I want my relationship to work, I'll lie to my parents about something and off I go. we stay in the same state but different city. Each time I get there, I don't feel happy because he doesn't treat me well.. he treats me like a maid. he expects me to do every single thing in the house, when water stops rushing in his apartment, he expects me to go downstairs and fetch water while he stays on bed and press phone. this has been going on for sometime. yet he claims he loves me. the worst of it all is he wakes me up in the middle of the night and ask for sex, when I refuse because I'm feeling sleepy and tell him in the morning. he will try to force himself on me, when he finds out I'm serious about the no.. that's how we will quarrel for the rest of the day and the next day.. he's so childish and self centered. Now, he invited Me again ,I came.. now I want to go back, he has refused.. my parents has been calling and I've told them I will be back tomorrow and he wants me to go against my parents wish. please advice me, what should I do?
is this love?
I forgot to add, he insults me and tells me awful words

Na gist you wan gist us or wetin
Even if we advice him go still use whining bring you back
But if your mama way carry you for 9 months send you message you go dey para...because of ordinary dick...don't stop ooo...house girl

If you walk away from that relationship, you aren’t helping the situation. So what must you do? Flee and never look back.

Small girls desperate for relationship at all cost. Failed parenting, your parent self no try.
Small girl passing night outside. Nawa o

All of the ladies typing leave him, leave him, this is the same kind of guys you all love, the bad guy.
No matter the advice you all give the OP she will not leave him because the guy treats her like a slave and this is the type of guys girls love.
We the bad guys will keep getting the girls while good guys will keep lamenting.

is this living in bondage part3

You typing this confirms you know this isn't right. So i don't really understand what other validation you're seeking.

You call this bondage love.
Someone that will want to make you disobey you parents, that's to show you he don't even value your parents.
Okay I believe this is not what you want for a husband, the earlier the better.
Toxic relationship is not good both for men and women