WeRblessed:
Your husband doesn't own you nor your salary.

However, your husband has the right to know how much you are bringing in on a monthly basis. This will help you guyz plan well based on both of your income.

I think it's a slap in the face of your husband to make your child your next of kin while your husband is still alive. How would you feel if he does the same to you?

I don't want to jump into conclusion, but I feel you don't love your husband, because if you do, disclosing how much you make will not be an issue, unless your husband is irresponsible and jobless.

Blackmann001:


Grow up..!

bigseank:
Your matter is not too hard, go and settle yourself. when he has done that something funny, then you can comeback we will settle it then.

But this is what we are saying, the typical Nigerian woman. Are you not married to the man?, ki ni big deal?, so that you can be chopping his money and your money together. "my money is my money and his money is our money" mentality, women and money ehn....because he is the husband he should die, its his own money that is public funds abi. see if you have told him Estelle Berglin “Swealife” – Julius Dein’s Girlfriend earlier it wont reach him saying he owns you and your salary, am quite sure you know how much he makes. and you are also not telling us what you yourself uttered or said during the confrontation. you refurbish the flat and so what is it your neighbor own you want to now refurbish, madam tell him how much you earn and no disturb us jare, the elders have other matters to settle.

SURElee:
What were you doing during courtship? This is what happens when alot are ignored during courtship?

Now a lady marries a man who sees her as his property and then an insecure man who sees his dominance over a woman as a means to control her and also control her finances.


Alot of people need to learn that when there is good and sincere love and trust, the partners you marry will willingly release every details without request or lording it over them by force.


I hope the singles can learn from this story, if dem like make dem focus on eating shawarma and pizza and no discuss real is sues bothering on finances, next of kin, love, security, family day to day activities, values, morals, family background and even after discussions shine your eyes for signs as some individuals will give the right answers but body language will be speaking another thing entirely.

MPESA:



No she does love her husband but there's no trust in the marriage.... Making her son next of kin is not a big deal as well of willing all her properties to her kids , her husband can do the same basically the whole properties is still under the control of both parents in case of death.... So it's not a big deal , just that they are having a trust issue and the foundation is not properly built.

UzorChinonso:
Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.

I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....

But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...

I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is?
He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment!
What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.

What do I do ?

Moneystopnonsen:
Truth to God ure a goat.. That's all

Ebenezer2O2O:
not just a goat but a very big and stupid one

Ebenezer2O2O:
you're a very heartless and worthless wife.
Tufia.
Spits

MPESA:



Your points are valid... I will suggests she told him about half of what she earn as her monthly income with fake evidence such documents to back it up for him to believe her.... Immediately open another account to transfer most of her saves to tally with the said amount she to him that she earn monthly.... While am advising her to do this is because the man true intentions of her income is unknown yet... There's nothing wrong about couples knowing each income it will make them to plan well about their family and limits unnecessary spending.... But at this case now there's no trust between them so let the woman hide some for the sake of tomorrow and the kids until she's well convinced that her husband will not misuse her funds if she entrust it all with him.

uniqueogo:


that's a very nice point as well do you know the reason why I even bothered giving her advice in the first place is this

last week when I went to buy trampoline and at the shop where I was a man who was there before I came was telling the sho owner that he's was just coming back from the police station that his sister's husband locked her up for close to 1 week in a room and give her a bucket to be defecating and urinating into she's not been able to bath for a week reason being that he the husband asked the lady to transfer the 1.5 million Naira he saw in her account into his own account meanwhile the lady works in a bank and has tried to explain to the husband that the money in her account is not hers as she works in a bank but she also has a side business where people transfer money to her she does waybill forthem then pay for the goods and then keep the profits but still the man insisted that she must transfer the money in her account into his own account I don't know how she was able to contact the brother and the brother went there and arrested the guy with SARZ officials
a lot of things are happening in marriages I will advise everybody to open their eyes especially women so that you will not go and labor for someone else to eat there is a possibility that this man could have killed his wife because of ordinary 1.5 million Naira I know I don't have the money but I also know it is a chicken change

UzorChinonso:
Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.

I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....

But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...

I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is?
He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment!
What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.

What do I do ?

UzorChinonso:
Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.

I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....

But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...

I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is?
He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment!
What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.

What do I do ?

Cityguy:
It is your money and you decide how you want to use it. He has no right to your pin or money. If he continues, that is bad and I would advise you let him be. Let him tell you what direction the marriage goes. It is his type that murders their spouse cos of what he stands to gain. Marriage no be by force.

tunjilana:


His money is his own money too and she has no right to his pin....how does that sound

Cityguy:

I didn't see it there that she requested for his pin. We all know that right from time immemorial, it is traditional for men to take care of their wives. NOTE: MEN I said and not boys.

tunjilana:



I love the traditional angle, it is also traditional for women to be under the control of their husband and seek his approval before doing things, including how,where,what and when she spends her money (I guess you will kick at tradition now)