Now for fear of your finger being turned into a "key holder" as a lady, you refuse a ring from a guy but accept his marriage proposal, does that make the lady indecisive or Still open to other mens proposal?
Is it enough to make a guy pick offense and be suspicious of his lady?

You know, the moment you accept the ring, he'll expect you to start wearing it and if you start wearing it, people will tag you engaged but with what is happening these days where no one can be trusted ( even yourself) is it advisable to accept such ring? And if not, is the man justified to call you names or suspect you?

Your opinions are highly welcomed.

This is 2020, this play should stop abeg. The year is really dealing with us without mercy because we play too much in this war-field world. Haa! We need to be serious now o.

If he's serious, let him buy wedding rings and knot sharply. No time for play again biko!

Unconventional move. If prior to the proposal, she had mentioned that she doesn't feel comfortable with rings he can accept her excuses. Anything other than that is just corny and cocky.

GuestLog:
Unconventional move.

Hmm... Ok.
Thanks for your input.

Wolgrace:
This is 2020.

Meaning??

Wolgrace:
This is 2020, this play should stop abeg. The year is really dealing with us without mercy because we play too much in this war-field world. Haa! We need to be serious now o.

If he's serious, let him buy wedding rings and knot sharply. No time for play again biko!

Ok.
Nice one.

Thanks.

... when u sit back and take a look at this one more time, you realise there is no big deal in this topic, I will try not to be rude, so what's the difference? why are you stressing?!

GuestLog:
Unconventional move. If prior to the proposal, she had mentioned that she doesn't feel comfortable with rings he can accept her excuses. Anything other than that is just corny and cocky.

What if she wasn't expecting the proposal and so didn't have time to tell him that before he brought the ring ish?

DaInferno:
... when u sit back and take a look at this one more time, you realise there is no big deal in this topic, I will try not to be rude, so what's the difference? why are you stressing?!

Read it again.
The guy is being suspicious of her for not wanting to accept the ring and is angry. So ?? You still don't see any big deal in that?
Ok.

This is what happens when the (overhyped) destination is more important than the person you're with or want to be with.

Eulalia:
Now for fear of your finger being turned into a "key holder" as a lady, you refuse a ring from a guy but accept his marriage proposal, does that make the lady indecisive or Still open to other mens proposal?
Is it enough to make a guy pick offense and be suspicious of his lady?

You know, the moment you accept the ring, he'll expect you to start wearing it and if you start wearing it, people will tag you engaged but with what is happening these days where no one can be trusted ( even yourself) is it advisable to accept such ring? And if not, is the man justified to call you names or suspect you?

Your opinions are highly welcomed.

Some churches like MFM and Deeper Life do not wear rings. What's the big deal about rings sef? Us humans like complicating matters for ourselves.

Any man who picks offence because of ring is immature, carnal and does not know that marriage is not a playground.

Ishilove:

Some churches like MFM and Deeper Life do not wear rings. What's the big deal about rings sef? Us humans like complicating matters for ourselves.

Any man who picks offence because of ring is immature, carnal and does not know that marriage is not a playground.

Exactly my point.

You should tell him the true reason for refusing his ring. You can’t just gloss over it by saying you have personal reasons or something. Tell him you want to keep your options open (If that is your reason) and let him know the kind of woman he just proposed to.


A proposal is a sign of seriousness. It means wedding preparations have begun. If he offers a ring, he is offering a symbol. Respect that symbol. Or inform him immediately that you do not accept such symbols and give reasons.

If a woman says she’s keep options open after accepting a proposal then she is not trustworthy. She will likely keep options open after marriage.

If your reason for rejecting the ring is because of the quality, tell him. Let your fiancé know your reasons.


Besides, you cannot have 2 fiancés. Once you say yes, you have locked in your options. If you say yes to a proposal and you later entertain the attention of any other man, you are unfaithful. Simple. Be bold enough to tell him who you are. Be proud of your unfaithfulness.

Ishilove:

Some churches like MFM and Deeper Life do not wear rings. What's the big deal about rings sef? Us humans like complicating matters for ourselves.

Any man who picks offence because of ring is immature, carnal and does not know that marriage is not a playground.

It doesn’t get more narrow-minded than this.

AfroKnight:



It doesn’t get more narrow-minded than this.

Your opinion.

AfroKnight:
You should tell him the true reason for refusing his ring. You can’t just gloss over it by saying you have personal reasons or something. Tell him you want to keep your options open (If that is your reason) and let him know the kind of woman he just proposed to.


A proposal is a sign of seriousness. It means wedding preparations have begun. If he offers a ring, he is offering a symbol. Respect that symbol. Or inform him immediately that you do not accept such symbols and give reasons.

If a woman says she’s keep options open after accepting a proposal then she is not trustworthy. She will likely keep options open after marriage.

If your reason for rejecting the ring is because of the quality, tell him. Let your fiancé know your reasons.


Besides, you cannot have 2 fiancés. Once you say yes, you have locked in your options. If you say yes to a proposal and you later entertain the attention of any other man, you are unfaithful. Simple. Be bold enough to tell him who you are. Be proud of your unfaithfulness.

Huh?...

Now, no one is Keeping any options open here. The lady only simply refused the ring prolly for fear of the unknown. Mind you, not all proposals lead to marriage eventually. Dunno if I'm making sense here. So what if after the courtship they decide not to go ahead with it? Therefore I feel, they should leave out the ring and just go through the courtship. If it works out fine. If not, nobody gets to know if she had been engaged before. And it doesn't in any ways make her unfaithful.

Eulalia:


Huh?...

Now, no one is Keeping any options open here. The lady only simply refused the ring prolly for fear of the unknown. Mind you, not all proposals lead to marriage eventually. Dunno if I'm making sense here. So what if after the courtship they decide not to go ahead with it? Therefore I feel, they should leave out the ring and just go through the courtship. If it works out fine. If not, nobody gets to know if she had been engaged before. And it doesn't in any ways make her unfaithful.

Fine, as long as she explains her true reason to him.

Ignorance is what is eating we up in Nigeria. We all want it FAST

Braindealer:
Ignorance is what is eating we up in Nigeria. We all want it FAST

Every man knows that any woman who refuses to wear ring is cheating and has other several men outside. OP he knows this and that's why he's angry. I think your denying what he already knows is what is making him angry. Just be bold and tell him you'll like to keep your options open.

OP as for me any girl that rejects my ring, I will tell her immediately that she should know I reserve the rights to date other girls and propose and marry other girls without notifying her.

In fact what am I saying. That's the end of our ever getting married. I won't break up. But within me I now know I will now be knack in her until I find a wife and leave her or till such a time she realizes she's now a friend with benefit and leaves by herself.

elipheleh:
Every man knows that any woman who refuses to wear ring is cheating and has other several men outside. OP he knows this and that's why he's angry. I think your denying what he already knows is what is making him angry. Just be bold and tell him you'll like to keep your options open.

OP as for me any girl that rejects my ring, I will tell her immediately that she should know I reserve the rights to date other girls and propose and marry other girls without notifying her.

In fact what am I saying. That's the end of our ever getting married. I won't break up. But within me I now know I will now be knack in her until I find a wife and leave her or till such a time she realizes she's now a friend with benefit and leaves by herself.

Sorry to disappoint you but this is not the knacking type of relationship . It involves two mature peeps who understand better than to sexing each other.
The issue of ring is just only creating unnecessary Insecurity in the man. That's all. Which to me is not really a big deal cos.some girls will accept the ring and still keep seeing other men. I believe Its better to be sincere and straight forward in your dealings with people.

Thanks for your input.

I will accept the ring and only wear it when I'm going to see him. Unless he is coming to pay the brideprice immediately. Two can play the game.

Joycekkh:
I will accept the ring and only wear it when I'm going to see him. Unless he is coming to pay the brideprice immediately. Two can play the game.

Lol...you eh ?

no time 4 engagement ring madness...jus only wedding rings would do..gals wan wiseup, dm all wan kip the basket of eggs open for more bigger eggs and they select the serious bidder

paulolee:
no time 4 engagement ring madness...jus only wedding rings would do..gals wan wiseup, dm all wan kip the basket of eggs open for more bigger eggs and they select the serious bidder

You think so? Ok. Your opinion though.

Ishilove:

Some churches like MFM and Deeper Life do not wear rings. What's the big deal about rings sef? Us humans like complicating matters for ourselves.

Any man who picks offence because of ring is immature, carnal and does not know that marriage is not a playground.

We not "us" humans. An intelligent person knows that it is wrong to start a sentence with an object pronoun. In fact, I have observed that you do not even know the difference between a subject pronoun and an object pronoun.

Is it compulsory to wear engagement ring after accepting proposal? Please I need to know oooo

Drfernandez:


We not "us" humans. An intelligent person knows that it is wrong to start a sentence with an object pronoun. In fact, I have observed that you do not even know the difference between a subject pronoun and an object pronoun.

Why the attack? This is uncalled for.

If you must correct, do that politely. Must we always bicker at people for no reasons? Besides, I don't think its a case of not knowing how to use the object pronoun. Prolly a typo or pun. Ishi is not one to make such careless blunder.

Peace.

Eulalia:


Why the attack? This is uncalled for.

If you must correct, do that politely. Must we always bicker at people for no reasons? Besides, I don't think its a case of not knowing how to use the object pronoun. Prolly a typo or pun. Ishi is not one to make such careless blunder.

Peace.

Shut up and stop defending nonsense. You are trying so hard to appear like well mannered woman, which you are not in reality. It is very easy to see through your charade, so stop your hypocrisy.

Drfernandez:


Shut up and stop defending nonsense. You are trying so hard to appear like well mannered woman, which you are not in reality. It is very easy to see through your charade, so stop your hypocrisy.

After how many days you still have the energy to exert on this trivial matter? Hmm. Change. At least its better to appear well mannered than appear uncivil.

Suit yourself.

Good day.