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Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by humblesifon(m): 3:09am On Jun 27, 2020
I just want to make an adjustment to a similar post, I think we have different reasonable reasons staying with our parent or in the family compound,I'm 27 and still in our family compound, because my place of work is close to our family house but I need privacy and independent life,should I continue staying there since I don't have to pay rent or am I stressing too much for privacy or independency?

Please what's your own reason staying at your family's residence and your take on my thoughts,thank you!
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Righteousness89(m): 3:30am On Jun 27, 2020
humblesifon:
I just want to make an adjustment to a similar post, I think we have different reasonable reasons staying with our parent or in the family compound,I'm 27 and still in our family compound, because my place of work is close to our family house but I need privacy and independent life,should I continue staying there since I don't have to pay rent or am I stressing too much for privacy or independency?

Please what's your own reason staying at your family's residence and your take on my thoughts,thank you!

My Brother, as long as your people are not pursuing or Frustrating you, stay there, save more, find a land and buy and gradually build your own home! It could just be a moderate cool Home!

Don't place yourself under any unnecessary competition with anyone!

This Life is a solo race!

No one will come for you if you go down!

Ask Ramoni Igbalode

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by humblesifon(m): 3:40am On Jun 27, 2020
Lol
Thanks @Righteousness 89
I want to say I admire your evangelistic and brotherly advice to youth in this world filled with egotistic tendencies and pursuit for mean and unrewarding pleasures of life,please I want to be your friend sir!

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Righteousness89(m): 3:42am On Jun 27, 2020
humblesifon:
Lol
Thanks @Righteousness 89
I want to say I admire your evangelistic and brotherly advice to youth in this world filled with egotistic tendencies and pursuit for mean and unrewarding pleasures of life,please I want to be your friend sir!

You are Welcome my brother....
Anyday ! Anytime feel free to chat me up

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by 004gist: 3:43am On Jun 27, 2020
angry how can I be paying 400k annually for rent?things are getting bad by the day.. So plan very well for a better tomorrow.

I will tell you my story. I stayed with my family I.e siblings and mom in just a shared flat with some other family. That is two families not related by blood or anything sharing a flat.
I was there till I bought my first land and started building and before I knew it i had finish 2 flat. That's where am staying now.

Once I have a place to lay my head l, that money I would use to rent 3 bedroom flats and pay for 2 years, agent fees, etc I will prefer using such to get a land off town where I can use my vehicle to get to town.

Where I stay I got it less than 500k but now is over 3 million now just for land in space of 5 years.


What work for me might not work for others. While others prefer luxury, to me i could adjust for the main time to get what I want.

Today I move from one room to another like say tomorrow nodey.. No landlord wahala. To cap it I recently got another land... Though times 4 the price I got the first one

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by humblesifon(m): 3:45am On Jun 27, 2020
Righteousness89:


You are Welcome my brother....
Anyday ! Anytime feel free to chat me up





I've sent a PM

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Nobody: 3:46am On Jun 27, 2020
Stay there and build your life. It should be a platform for easy start so why the rush.

I left my parent house in my twenties but 10 years later I came back there when I moved back to Nigeria. I lived there for another 2 years and moved to my personal house from there.

Please remain their and plan your life. My former colleague picked an apartment in his father's house, got married there, 7 years later he bought a terrace duplex around Abraham Adesanya estate.

Life is a solo race I concur.

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by humblesifon(m): 4:14am On Jun 27, 2020
004gist:
angry how can I be paying 400k annually for rent?things are getting bad by the day.. So plan very well for a better tomorrow.

I will tell you my story. I stayed with my family I.e siblings and mom in just a shared flat with some other family. That is two families not related by blood or anything sharing a flat.
I was there till I bought my first land and started building and before I knew it i had finish 2 flat. That's where am staying now.

Once I have a place to lay my head l, that money I would use to rent 3 bedroom flats and pay for 2 years, agent fees, etc I will prefer using such to get a land off town where I can use my vehicle to get to town.

Where I stay I got it less than 500k but now is over 3 million now just for land in space of 5 years.


What work for me might not work for others. While others prefer luxury, to me i could adjust for the main time to get what I want.

Today I move from one room to another like say tomorrow nodey.. No landlord wahala. To cap it I recently got another land... Though times 4 the price I got the first one



I'm enlightened the more
I'm grateful and I appreciate sir.
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by humblesifon(m): 4:16am On Jun 27, 2020
luxy44:
Stay there and build your life. It should be a platform for easy start so why the rush.

I left my parent house in my twenties but 10 years later I came back there when I moved back to Nigeria. I lived there for another 2 years and moved to my personal house from there.

Please remain their and plan your life. My former colleague picked an apartment in his father's house, got married there, 7 years later he bought a terrace duplex around Abraham Adesanya estate.

Life is a solo race I concur.


Thanks for contributing
I'm blessed!
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Freestainworld(m): 5:42am On Jun 27, 2020
was staying in our family house till the age of 30, they didn't deny me anything, and I didn't misuse the opportunity, now am doing better, never fit yourself in a tight situation just because you need freedom, some freedom is captivity in disguise, you just have to persevere, plan, execute your ideas and become better tomorrow.

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Papadoh(m): 6:19am On Jun 27, 2020
Righteousness89:


My Brother, as long as your people are not pursuing or Frustrating you, stay there, save more, find a land and buy and gradually build your own home! It could just be a moderate cool Home!

Don't place yourself under any unnecessary competition with anyone!

This Life is a solo race!

No one will come for you if you go down!

Ask Ramoni Igbalode
Lol Hushpuppi don cast o... chai!

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by fetrillion(m): 10:57am On Jun 27, 2020
humblesifon:
I just want to make an adjustment to a similar post, I think we have different reasonable reasons staying with our parent or in the family compound,I'm 27 and still in our family compound, because my place of work is close to our family house but I need privacy and independent life,should I continue staying there since I don't have to pay rent or am I stressing too much for privacy or independency?

Please what's your own reason staying at your family's residence and your take on my thoughts,thank you!
MY MISTAKES
I rented a room n parlour self contain after my service year, furnished it and I got a fairly used Toyota sienna for hustle.
I was able to achieve the above from the proceeds of my service year as a corper.Let me not forget to say that my family house wasnt far from my rented apartment,it was just a five minutes driving distance.I just needed to do that simply because I prioritize privacy over anything belse.I just wanted my privacy at 28 not even considering the fact that I was yet to have a stable income.
THE CHALLENGES
The bills was just too much for me,my car became problematic,had to fix it,light bill, security bill,fuel etc.To pay the subsequent house rent was difficult,I had to pay in installments.I was stagnant financially n I regretted leaving home.My family house is a 5 bedroom flat appartment.My siblings are all currently in school,my mother works in another state.We have three unoccupied vacant room but I was just driven with the mentality of being alone and independent after service.
SOLUTION;
Considering the problematic situation I was,I decided to go back home n re-stategize.I decided to eradicate those liability I mistook for investment;I sold my car, started a business n even married in my family house at age 30.
ACHIEVEMENT
Within the limited time I went back home,I started my house n now it's already roofed (All to God's glory ).Also I have another side business.All thanks to God n the woman God gave to me.If not for her,I wouldn't have achieved this because if she insists I rent a new apartment,I might have to oblige.But she saw the vision n she keyed into it.All to God's glory.
MY ADVICE:
Pls save,save n save.If your work place is not far from home,pls still stay in your family house n invest.House rent is what make people financially stagnant in life.I do advice,if God gives you the grace to build before marriage,please do.It will give one financial speed in life n make you achieve more.
Note:Some people would advice you to be a man,be independent n be on your own,they would always do that because they don't have the opportunity of working from home.Be wise n gain financial speed in life..Also pray for the right woman oooo
If your woman no gree with you,u fit not make am oooo..shallow!!!

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by fetrillion(m): 11:02am On Jun 27, 2020
Freestainworld:
was staying in our family house till the age of 30, they didn't deny me anything, and I didn't misuse the opportunity, now am doing better, never fit yourself in a tight situation just because you need freedom, some freedom is captivity in disguise, you just have to persevere, plan, execute your ideas and become better tomorrow.
Same here bro,read my story below.All that matters is you achieve the reason you stay there.Make sure you progress.

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by 004gist: 11:08am On Jun 27, 2020
fetrillion:

MY MISTAKES
I rented a room n parlour self contain after my service year, furnished it and I got a fairly used Toyota sienna for hustle.
I was able to achieve the above from the proceeds of my service year as a corper.Let me not forget to say that my family house wasnt far from my rented apartment,it was just a five minutes driving distance.I just needed to do that simply because I prioritize privacy over anything belse.I just wanted my privacy at 28 not even considering the fact that I was yet to have a stable income.
THE CHALLENGES
The bills was just too much for me,my car became problematic,had to fix it,light bill, security bill,fuel etc.To pay the subsequent house rent was difficult,I had to pay in installments.I was stagnant financially n I regretted leaving home.My family house is a 5 bedroom flat appartment.My siblings are all currently in school,my mother works in another state.We have three unoccupied vacant room but I was just driven with the mentality of being alone and independent after service.
SOLUTION;
Considering the problematic situation I was,I decided to go back home n re-stategize.I decided to eradicate those liability I mistook for investment;I sold my car, started a business n even married in my family house at age 30.
ACHIEVEMENT
Within the limited time I went back home,I started my house n now it's already roofed (All to God's glory ).Also I have another side business.All thanks to God n the woman God gave to me.If not for her,I wouldn't have achieved this because if she insists I rent a new apartment,I might have to oblige.But she saw the vision n she keyed into it.All to God's glory.
MY ADVICE:
Pls save,save n save.If your work place is not far from home,pls still stay in your family house n invest.House rent is what make people financially stagnant in life.I do advice,if God gives you the grace to build before marriage,please do.It will give one financial speed in life n make you achieve more.
Note:Some people would advice you to be a man,be independent n be on your own,they would always do that because they don't have the opportunity of working from home.Be wise n gain financial speed in life..Also pray for the right woman oooo
If your woman no gree with you,u fit not make am oooo..shallow!!!







Home is one of the basic necessity in a man's life. I keep saying this.
You don't necessarily have to buy a land in a place that is already open. There are places off town that if bought now in 5 years time it will be open.

Buy, build and speed up your progress in life

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Palema007: 11:32am On Jun 27, 2020
Hmmmmm this thread is opening my eyes. Perhaps it isn't too bad to consider a Man still living in his family house. Lol grin

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Nobody: 12:20pm On Jun 27, 2020
Palema007:
Hmmmmm this thread is opening my eyes. Perhaps it isn't too bad to consider a Man still living in his family house. Lol grin
nooo,never consider a man still living in his family house, you will regret it.
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by teemotee: 2:52pm On Jun 27, 2020
the ladies above thoughgrin
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Nobody: 3:16pm On Jun 27, 2020
Rozz:
nooo,never consider a man still living in his family house, you will regret it.

They'll regret it too because you'll be a liability to them. They're considering their life and planning to secure their future.

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by jeff1607(m): 4:37pm On Jun 27, 2020
Rozz:
nooo,never consider a man still living in his family house, you will regret it.

Not all men

The Koko is his vision, so long he doesn't plan in staying forever

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Elder0001(m): 5:43pm On Jun 27, 2020
Righteousness89:


My Brother, as long as your people are not pursuing or Frustrating you, stay there, save more, find a land and buy and gradually build your own home! It could just be a moderate cool Home!

Don't place yourself under any unnecessary competition with anyone!

This Life is a solo race!

No one will come for you if you go down!

Ask Ramoni Igbalode
So you can make sense like this . cheesy
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Mariangeles: 6:08pm On Jun 27, 2020
fetrillion:

MY MISTAKES
I rented a room n parlour self contain after my service year, furnished it and I got a fairly used Toyota sienna for hustle.
I was able to achieve the above from the proceeds of my service year as a corper.Let me not forget to say that my family house wasnt far from my rented apartment,it was just a five minutes driving distance.I just needed to do that simply because I prioritize privacy over anything belse.I just wanted my privacy at 28 not even considering the fact that I was yet to have a stable income.
THE CHALLENGES
The bills was just too much for me,my car became problematic,had to fix it,light bill, security bill,fuel etc.To pay the subsequent house rent was difficult,I had to pay in installments.I was stagnant financially n I regretted leaving home.My family house is a 5 bedroom flat appartment.My siblings are all currently in school,my mother works in another state.We have three unoccupied vacant room but I was just driven with the mentality of being alone and independent after service.
SOLUTION;
Considering the problematic situation I was,I decided to go back home n re-stategize.I decided to eradicate those liability I mistook for investment;I sold my car, started a business n even married in my family house at age 30.
ACHIEVEMENT
Within the limited time I went back home,I started my house n now it's already roofed (All to God's glory ).Also I have another side business.All thanks to God n the woman God gave to me.If not for her,I wouldn't have achieved this because if she insists I rent a new apartment,I might have to oblige.But she saw the vision n she keyed into it.All to God's glory.
MY ADVICE:
Pls save,save n save.If your work place is not far from home,pls still stay in your family house n invest.House rent is what make people financially stagnant in life.I do advice,if God gives you the grace to build before marriage,please do.It will give one financial speed in life n make you achieve more.
Note:Some people would advice you to be a man,be independent n be on your own,they would always do that because they don't have the opportunity of working from home.Be wise n gain financial speed in life..Also pray for the right woman oooo
If your woman no gree with you,u fit not make am oooo..shallow!!!







The wise learn from the experienced.
Good thing you humbled yourself and went back.
Although, I hope you contributed to the household expenses...

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Haywhymido(m): 6:09pm On Jun 27, 2020
One man's food is another man's poison
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by fetrillion(m): 6:43pm On Jun 27, 2020
Mariangeles:


The wise learn from the experienced.
Good thing you humbled yourself and went back.
Although, I hope you contributed to the household expenses...
Definitely

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by rukyboy(m): 7:42pm On Jun 27, 2020
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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by CsRockefeller(m): 9:06pm On Jun 27, 2020
I'm currently in my father's house/family house.

The other flat was given to my aunt when her husband couldn't meet up with d 800k rent in Lagos.

I will be stupid to go and rent a place inside Lagos considering how expensive rent is in Lagos.

My friend recently got a place at Itire in Surulere for 400k, when I went to see him I couldn't believe my eyes, the place looks like what you rent for 50k in Jos.

This Lagos is too expensive. Stay in your family house and plan yourself, any woman who can't settle down with me here should go and build her own house or perhaps find another guy.

Next thing on my mind is starting a big biz, maybe buying a car and saving for my unborn kids future, rent is out of it completely for now.

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by fetrillion(m): 9:59pm On Jun 27, 2020
CsRockefeller:
I'm currently in my father's house/family house.

The other flat was given to my aunt when her husband couldn't meet up with d 800k rent in Lagos.

I will be stupid to go and rent a place inside Lagos considering how expensive rent is in Lagos.

My friend recently got a place at Itire in Surulere for 400k, when I went to see him I couldn't believe my eyes, the place looks like what you rent for 50k in Jos.

This Lagos is too expensive. Stay in your family house and plan yourself, any woman who can't settle down with me here should go and build her own house or perhaps find another guy.

Next thing on my mind is starting a big biz, maybe buying a car and saving for my unborn kids future, rent is out of it completely for now.
Nice one bro.Dont let anyone talk you down .They would want to talk you down bcs they don't have the opportunity u have.If they had,they would do likewise.

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Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by merieam16(f): 10:03pm On Jun 27, 2020
I tink wen u er financially ready 2 face d expenses out der especially in a place like Lagos
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by ihec(m): 5:23am On Jun 28, 2020
If ur family house can contain you and your daily routine(work,business,church,etc) is within the city then no need paying rent to someone else when there is a room for you. I will rather use that money to start up a business and grow it till am ready to get married then I can begin to think of moving out for privacy and home building. No go put yourself into unnecessary pressure.
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by Nobody: 1:03pm On Jun 28, 2020
There is no big deal in wanting to live alone if it gives you sense of adulthood neither is it if you are still in family house. Na Nigerians just prioritize moving out as soon as you hit 20+ like it's easy.

Don't you ever leave your family house if you deeply know your financial strength isn't enough to start a full life. Save up to a point where you can easily rent a house for three years on a spot.

There is no shame in staying at your family house till everything settles well for you. It is you for you.

People often say your mind won't open until you leave your family house to stay alone. It's all an illusion. Infact having no responsibilities on your salary or business profits due to free family house shelter ND food is such a good platform for your financial growth.
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by zed7: 3:36pm On Jun 28, 2020
What of those who don't have family house where their work is located or whose family house isn't convenient? To each his own, but staying in family house as an adult has also limited some people and made them entitled.

I wouldn't blame a woman who doesn't want to live in a family house with a man. Some families will drive you crazy. Personally I wouldn't stay in my family house even if it is a gold mansion. I come from a small family who are easy going but I still wouldn't have stayed back after school.
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by nautybride: 4:04pm On Jun 28, 2020
Palema007:
Hmmmmm this thread is opening my eyes. Perhaps it isn't too bad to consider a Man still living in his family house. Lol grin

Never ever consider it.
You see I know of someone that married into the family house. They lived well together with the mother because the father is late.
Then the sister in law left her husband to stay together and boom! Fire for fire. No peace in the house again. The wife was considered an out cast they treated her anyhow. She ran away leaving their house for them.
You can consider it though, IF they are a very good family.
Re: Why Are You Still In Your Family's House? by nautybride: 4:07pm On Jun 28, 2020
Oh! Some men are lazy, they want all for free. Free apartment, no bills to pay, they even want free pussy. They better grow up by leaving their comfort zone where they are being fed and pampered.

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